Core Beliefs

In today's episode we talk about belief systems. What is a belief, what makes a belief, and how to change limiting beliefs.

Transcript

Welcome to Life,

Lessons,

And Laughter with your host Glenn Ambrose.

Hello everyone.

Welcome to the podcast.

Today we are discussing core beliefs,

Right Ben?

Yeah.

Yeah.

Yeah.

It's been a while.

It hasn't.

I mean,

It's been a while for us,

But we haven't missed a single podcast.

This is true.

No one else will know that it's been six weeks.

Well,

They will now.

Since we saw each other.

Because you just said so.

Oh crap.

Yeah.

He gave it away,

Folks.

This is coming out this Sunday though,

I think.

Yes.

No?

Sure.

Nice.

We're going to go with yes.

Awesome.

So yeah,

While we were apart,

I was.

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.

You needed to get your spiritual medicine elsewhere.

I needed to do some stuff.

So I listened to a lot of other podcasts.

Phonies.

They're all phonies you listen to.

Yep.

Yep.

And some books.

And you know,

That was great.

But one of the things that I want to talk to you about,

I listened to a podcast with Deepak Chopra and they were talking about beliefs.

And there was a lot of stuff that I was listening to that was about beliefs and core beliefs and beliefs that we have from childhood and how strong believing is a part of our lives and what we believe in and what we choose to believe in.

And it reminded me of a practice that you do,

That you talk about,

Something that you deal with that you call spiritual encoding.

Right.

Which is,

What would you say that that is?

Well,

Spiritual encoding encompasses several things that I do,

Like the intuition and the guidance that I've developed and steering conversations,

Some of those skills.

And that's what helps us really get to the core belief system or core issue or possibly a block that's holding somebody back.

And then we do some energy work kind of like Reiki to help remove it.

But you know,

Just bringing it up to the surface,

Bringing up those core beliefs really is helpful to help release us from the lock of those beliefs.

The first thing that I did that sparked this interest was while I was listening to a podcast,

There was an advertisement for the new documentary on Netflix,

Tony Robbins,

I Am Not Your Guru,

Which is a documentary that takes you inside the day with destiny.

The tour there.

Whatever it is,

The one like week long thing that he does.

So I watched that with my mom and as he's talking to people,

I'm like,

Oh,

It's literally just the core belief thing.

That's what he's going,

He's talking to these people and trying to figure out what they're core beliefs are,

What the thing is that's causing the problems.

He's not looking at the symptom of the problem because those are very different depending on the person.

But if you get down underneath it to the core where it started,

Then you can shift it better instead of just putting a bandaid on a surface aspect or a surface manifestation of it and then having it pop up elsewhere,

You can actually get to the core of it,

Deal with that and then transcend whatever issue that you're working with.

It just made me start thinking about how powerful beliefs are.

I do a lot of that with just my regular life coaching too because I'm just that guy that.

.

.

It's my nature to want to get to the core of stuff.

I don't want a dilly dally around.

I don't want to sit and discuss things for years on end or even months on end.

It's like,

Let's just get to the core and transcend it.

Like many people can get caught up in the story and the details of what's going on in their life and they think that it's important and it really isn't.

It's at the core.

They'll be telling a story of,

Let me tell you what happened and how I cheated on my wife and they'll go on.

Well,

I met this girl in a bar and then she smiled at me first and then we had this and they'll go on all these details and it's like it doesn't matter.

Well,

Yeah,

But you just have to.

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.

So you'll understand why.

No,

You cheated on your wife.

Let's deal with that.

That's the issue.

The issue isn't how pretty she was or if you had six drinks or four or if she smiled first or.

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Or if your relationship with your wife was recently those details.

Or I got into an argument right before I left the house or.

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None of that stuff matters.

It's.

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There's a core to the issue and that's what needs to be dealt with.

I couldn't help but smile during that because it just.

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There was a montage in my head of four years of me telling you stories and you cutting me off because I'm getting into way too much detail.

Yeah,

And I do that with a lot of people because we do.

We get caught up in the stories of what's going on and they have nothing to do with the reality of the situation.

As a matter of fact,

If generally if I let people go on,

It actually confuses the issue because you're throwing in 30 pieces of information that have nothing to do with the core issue and then.

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So it gets lost in there.

So it's like.

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Plus it's just a waste of time and the better I get at getting to the core of things,

I just don't feel like wasting my time listening to it.

And it's a waste of their time talking about it and it doesn't help anything.

So it's like,

Why do we do that?

So and I think Tony Robbins,

It's no surprise that he's looking for core beliefs because I mean,

He's been in this business for what,

30 years?

So I mean,

If you're going to stay in a business for 30 years and be successful and good at it,

You're probably going to learn a lot along the way and learn a lot as far as what's effective and what's not.

So I mean,

If you're doing this stuff and you're dealing with surface issues,

If your eyes are open,

You're going to see that that really doesn't shift much.

So that you need to go deeper and you really need to get to these cores to really make a big difference in people's lives.

So that led me to a book that then at the end of the book said,

Write down your 10 most empowering beliefs and then your 10 most limiting beliefs.

And I sent them to you.

I was like,

Okay,

I'm going to do this.

And I sent them to you and you said,

Ben,

This is great.

But your 10,

Your 10 empowering beliefs are great,

But they're not beliefs because your 10 limiting beliefs are just that the other 10 aren't true.

Which was like,

Oh,

Right,

Yeah.

What does that mean?

And that's even kind of getting to the core of it because I could have went on each 10 and get,

Oh,

Well,

How do you really feel about this one?

And what do you mean by this?

And we could have spent a lot of time ripping those 20 things apart and really dissecting them.

And I was like,

Well,

Why?

Why spend all that time and energy doing that if they weren't really beliefs in the first place?

That was the core of the thing.

So I do,

I love doing that and I love seeing other people that are doing that because from my experience,

From what I've seen is that's what really shifts stuff.

So it's really no surprise to me that Tony Robbins is doing it and Deepak Chopra is doing it.

Well,

The Deepak Chopra podcast that he was a guest on that I was talking about was,

I don't know if we've talked about it at all so far in the podcast,

But we were talking about it earlier,

Was he was talking a lot about the placebo effect and what causes the placebo effect.

And I have a little bit,

Like I have not even nearly enough pulled up on my phone to read it but he went into detail about how placebo is Latin for I shall please,

Which is a good way of describing how the placebo effect works.

A doctor offers a patient a powerful drug with the assurance that it will resolve the patient's symptoms.

The effect isn't limited to drugs,

However,

Which is important to remember.

Anything you believe in can act as a placebo.

And the patient as promised gets relief because you believe that it's going to,

Your body creates the chemicals inside of it,

So to relieve that,

Whatever that is,

Pain relief or whatever.

That's one of the biggest benefits in my opinion of Deepak Chopra having such a strong medical background.

I love that he brings that type of scientific knowledge into the spiritual world and explains things in that way.

And it's true,

It is beliefs and that's one of the reasons,

In my opinion,

That's one of the reasons why people who use religion in the way that it was intended to,

To connect to their spirituality,

That religion can work so well for people.

Because it's,

You know,

If you have somebody that says,

You know,

I don't know how to connect to God.

And there is somebody there in front of them that is able to connect to God.

So when you have somebody like that in front of you and they,

You believe in them and you believe that they can connect to God,

And you say,

So can you help me connect to God?

And they go,

Well,

Yes,

So get on your knees,

Put your hands like this and just sincerely feel in your heart and that you want to connect to God and then start talking to them.

And they go,

Oh,

Okay.

So they go over,

They do that and then they connect to God.

And they're like,

Oh my God,

This is wonderful.

Well,

Why did that work?

You know,

Getting on your knees and putting your hands in a certain way is no magical formula to get you to God.

You know,

But somebody that you believed in told you that that would work.

So you believed in it and it worked.

You know,

So that's,

You know,

And then that's why I feel we can pray anywhere at any time and we can connect to God in many different ways.

But that's one of the reasons that religion can be so effective because,

You know,

There's a lot of people out there that are craving direction they don't know.

So they need somebody to tell them,

You know,

This is how you do it.

And then they believe it.

I mean,

Even just the starting belief being raised as a,

Even just the starting belief being raised as a kid believing in God,

Growing up with religion,

It lets you grow up to be more spiritual.

You know what I mean?

Because you already have that belief that there's something more.

Yeah,

You can,

It can lay a foundation for you,

You know,

And one of my favorite,

Favorite aspects of that or stories of that is Oprah Winfrey.

She talks about how she's,

When she was a little girl,

Her father wasn't in the picture and she used to think that God was her father because that's what she heard at church.

She was,

She really literally walked around thinking that God was her literal on earth here father,

You know?

And when she was little,

People would laugh at her,

But it's,

She truly believed that.

Now that was embedded in her as a core belief system early on.

She found out that it wasn't,

In a way it wasn't true,

You know,

In this realm,

But that was deeply embedded in her.

And I believe that that was probably a catalyst for her living her spiritual life.

You know,

I think that that was an important building block of her having a faith and being able to turn her life over to this power,

You know,

That she calls God because when she was a little girl,

She had such a strong connection,

You know,

Because of that belief system that she had set up early on.

So even if we don't believe,

You know,

Even if we let go of the real core belief system or the core belief,

There can be residual effects from that,

You know,

Because you can kind of,

You can still,

Okay,

Well yeah,

He's not my father,

But I already feel that closeness with him.

And I think that that is what she never lost.

You know?

Or,

I mean,

Even just like I grew up,

You know,

I didn't think that God was my literal father.

I don't have a father in my life,

But,

You know,

Growing up with that religion definitely always instilled in me that there was,

That it was ludicrous to think that there was nothing after this.

You know what I mean?

Yeah.

And I,

You know,

I was raised Catholic and then got away from the church for many years.

But then when I woke up again,

Or actually it was right towards the end when I was struggling a lot,

There was a part of me that went,

Yeah,

But is there?

I don't know if there's a God or if there isn't a God,

But boy,

There's something deep within me that says that there probably is,

And I don't think I want to risk going to hell.

Right.

You know?

So that did play into my decision making a little bit.

And,

You know,

And I mean,

I guess I don't completely know if that was because of my Catholic upbringing or if that was just me knowing the truth on a very deep level.

But yeah,

You know,

Some of that stuff can be very good foundational work for us to build off of as we get older.

Now,

These are big core beliefs that we're talking about right now,

Spiritual beliefs.

What about the ones that we're more likely to see people deal with,

Like in those seminars that we were talking about?

Just the limiting beliefs of a child,

Like not feeling enough love when you were a child from your family.

So you grow up thinking that you're not worth that or something.

That's more of the common type stuff.

It's kind of ironic that we got going on more of the positive core belief systems because those don't come up that often.

You know,

More often it's the negative belief systems that we developed.

And you know,

We need to deal with those because they're holding us back.

You know,

And those you can have somebody that has a negative core belief system about not being good enough and it can manifest in so many different ways.

I mean,

Sometimes it'll manifest in not being able to move ahead in a career.

But sometimes they can also have another core belief.

They could feel like they're not good enough,

But also have experienced some situations where they made a conscious decision that they were never going to be poor.

That was even stronger than the,

I'm not good enough.

And you'll see those people really excel in their careers and make lots of money.

And then they go,

Well,

It can't be that I don't feel good enough because I'm very successful in business.

And it's like,

Yeah,

But that's because you had a different core belief that pushed through that aspect of it.

But it might manifest for them in ways that they can't be in a healthy relationship.

So the way it manifests can come up in different ways with different people.

But that's a very common one.

I'm not good enough.

And I think it goes back to when we're born and we come in here into this world,

We don't have any concept of our society.

We just know that we're love and everything is wonderful and we're in a present moment.

We have no concept of time.

And if we're getting some sort of sensation that we don't really feel,

Well,

We express that sensation by crying.

And when we're happy,

We laugh.

And it's very natural.

Babies don't struggle.

It's very natural.

They don't resist what they're feeling.

They just feel it.

But what happens is we get domesticated into what everybody else believes on this planet,

That there is a time schedule that you need to follow and that there's a time to eat and you eat then whether you're hungry or whether you're not hungry.

And if you take all these belief systems and they're impressed upon you day in,

Day out,

Over and over and over and you're a little kid going,

No,

There is no time.

I'm happy and I'm blissful and I don't need to eat right now because my body isn't hungry and everything's fine.

And you're all in this joy.

And then your parents are like,

No,

You have to eat now.

And then all of a sudden you start getting yelled at,

Reprimanded,

You're made to sit at a table and do things that you don't want to do.

And it's hard to make sense of that when you're just living in the moment.

It goes against your truth.

And it's very confusing.

So you understand that your parents are there to take care of you and they've been here longer so they're supposed to be teaching you things.

And when you're most parent through discipline and teaching you what's right and what's wrong in the dream of the planet.

So when you're told like over and over,

No,

You're bad because you didn't do this,

But it was against how you were feeling,

You learn not to follow your heart.

And you start thinking,

Well,

I must be bad.

There must be something bad about me because whenever I follow my heart and do what I want to do,

I'm told that that's wrong and I'm bad.

And after year after year after year,

Usually between four,

Six,

Eight years old,

Right in that range,

We've experienced enough pain and discipline for us to start developing these core belief systems.

And we go,

Okay,

Well,

I just keep banging my head into this wall.

I think it's time for me to learn here.

So when I follow my heart,

It's not right.

I have to do what goes against what I think is right.

So I must be wrong.

And that's bad.

And every time I do that,

I get disciplined.

And then so we build up a wall.

We build up a core belief system is kind of like a defense wall.

So we don't keep getting hurt over the same thing over and over.

And we go,

Oh,

Okay.

So the reality of the situation must be that I'm not good enough as I am.

What is the way in what way is it possible to change?

Like once a belief is set,

How do we change it?

A core belief,

A just a general belief,

A belief that is something.

Another thing that Deepak Chopra said in that interview is that,

You know,

Cancer,

Like certain types of cancer,

Lung cancer,

For example,

I guess,

Doctors have said,

Like,

You go in and it's you tell the person,

You know,

Nine out of 10 patients with this,

It's fatal.

Right.

Right.

They might be that 10th person.

Right.

But now you've set up the belief system that this is terminal.

Yeah,

That's one of my pet peeves.

It's I just it just it irks me.

And I have to bring myself back down with with anybody who who says,

You know,

Who sets somebody's future up for them,

You know,

And it's like,

Unfortunately,

In our society right now,

The way it's set up is,

Is everybody so scared of of being sued or everybody's looking to blame other people.

So you know,

So these doctors feel like they have to cover their butt because if they go,

Hey,

You know what,

I'm rooting for you,

You can beat this.

It has been done before.

And then they send them out on their way.

And let's say that person doesn't really believe it or,

You know,

It turns downhill and that person dies.

Then the family is running after the doctor like the doctor gave them false hope.

Like,

You know,

So,

Oh,

That's bad,

Because they want somebody to blame because they're angry that their loved one died.

And it's you know,

That that's what gets us going in the wrong direction.

But it's you know,

I've seen I mean,

Everybody just Google it.

Somebody has beaten everything.

Right.

Somebody has.

And that person had hope that they could.

Nobody beat something while they were sitting around going,

I'm never going to beat this.

I'm never going to beat this.

I'm going to die.

If somebody is walking around saying that,

Guess what?

They're not going to be that one in 10 guaranteed.

You know,

But but the people who do have that spark of hope and and and that you know,

That belief system that something can be different.

They're the ones who achieve.

They're the ones that we've,

You know,

And it's always been like that in every situation.

Those are the ones we read about in history books.

Those are the ones who have done great things.

Those are the ones that transcended our belief systems.

You know,

It's it's just yeah,

It's just pulling that that hope away from people is.

Oh,

It's I hate that aspect of it.

You know,

Yeah.

But I think with the with the core beliefs,

You know,

The biggest thing that we need to do is one,

Identify,

You know,

What they are.

And yeah,

That's that's what we have to start with.

And you know,

One thing that a lot of people have done really well with that I've noticed in this area is when they go back to their childhood and they start looking at core beliefs or or things that they experienced in their childhood that were traumatic or impacted them in a negative way,

They do the people are doing better at forgiving their parents.

People kind of understand nowadays that their parents didn't know any better.

They were doing the best they could.

So that's a really good part.

And they're doing that.

But they're stopping there because most of the time when I start talking with somebody about this and I say,

OK,

Well,

You didn't get the love you needed as a child,

You know,

Once once we get to that core,

They go,

Well,

My parents were doing the best they can,

Could.

And I'm thinking like,

Yeah,

Well,

I,

You know,

I had no intention of blaming your parents.

People very often want to protect their parents and and be like,

You know,

Don't don't blame them.

They were because they've already done that work.

And it's like,

Yeah,

Great.

I'm not blaming them.

So you did half of the work.

Half of the work was forgiving your parents through the understanding that they were doing the best they could.

The other half of the work is the fact that there was a four year old kid that didn't get what he needed.

That's just a fact.

It's nobody's fault.

So we need to,

You know,

Look at that and let that four year old kid know,

Let the adult that is that four year old kid know that that wasn't a real belief and they don't need to walk in that truth anymore.

You know,

They don't need a four year old made that belief system because they couldn't process.

They didn't have the ability to process what was going on in this world.

And it was painful for them.

So they set up a core belief and they lived their lives through that.

Now that we're older,

We can look back on that and go,

Okay,

Well,

I understand why the four year old felt that he wasn't good enough,

But I know better.

So now I'll start living from a different space.

I am good enough.

You know,

I am worthy of love and really working on that aspect of it.

Once you work on that aspect of your core belief and create a new one,

Erase the old and create a new core belief system that you can function from,

That's where you transcend it.

And you know,

When you,

This is why I love life coaching as opposed to therapy and counseling because therapy and counseling tends to talk about stuff for long periods of time.

And I just want to transcend it.

I mean,

I've had people transcend a core belief system in one session.

You know,

Let's just sit down and get to the truth of it and transcend it and then start living from a different space.

You know,

That's what we're all after is to reach that contentment and happiness and the peace that we want to live from.

So really working,

You know,

Doing this work,

It's very powerful and it can affect every single area of your surface life.

It can affect your personal life,

Your professional life,

All your relationships,

Intimacy levels.

It can affect absolutely everything.

So if there's something that's on the surface that you don't like in your life,

You can trace it back to a core belief.

And then when you shift that core belief,

Not only do you fix that problem,

But you're probably going to fix about five others that you're not even aware of.

So that's the good stuff about doing the deep work.

And if somebody wants to contact you.

Well,

They better go to my website,

Which is life-enhancement-services.

Com and check out thegreatloveproject.

Com also.

We're still keeping that up and going and looking for,

With that project,

We're looking at some different things to really use as a catalyst to get that out there.

So I'm exploring different avenues and different projects to do within the Great Love Project to kind of show people,

Take some action and show people what it's all about.

So that's exciting stuff too.

Awesome.

Awesome.

Well,

Thanks for helping out Ben.

Thanks for listening,

Everybody.

Thanks for recording,

Dave.

Thumbs up.

And we will talk at you later.

Reviews

Loved. Do you offer guided meditations to address core beliefs?

I really enjoying listening to you guys, this session was great and really made sense on that deeper level . Thank you so much Glenn ! Sending you love and light 🙏🙏🙏💕

Really interesting, quite like to talk further on this subject at some point... Thanks Glenn and Ben 💜 x

Glenn is one of my favorite speakers. 🙂

Great Talk! Perfect timing for me. Truly insightful!! Thank you! ✨✨✨

Good one! I’m working on what my core beliefs are and getting a bit stuck in the quagmire of stories. Good reminder to stay focused to get to the core. I recently started listening to your podcasts and I am finding them very helpful. Life coaching vs traditional counseling - sheds new light on methods for moving forward! Forward is the direction I AM going! Thank you so much.

The only thing I would suggest is trying to work on the Ums while speaking. The reason I mention it is to be constructive with my feedback. However, I felt the discussion was spot on and the focus on beliefs should resonate with anyone who is struggling for extended or even intermittent periods of time throughout life.
I find the format of the discussion authentic and refreshing. Please continue sharing your talks!!! So many of us appreciate your thought provoking and life changing insight to improving the quality of our lives!!!

Great talk
Come on, give Ben some billing :). Love him

The last half was most beneficial. Offers good ideas to get you started in the right direction for discovery.

Great one! 👍🏻❤️🙏🏻