Adjustments For A Happy Life- Life, Lessons, & Laughter LIVE

In this live episode I discuss how to make practical adjustments to enhance your life on a daily basis. This is a simple process that anyone can do which will result in a more satisfying and enjoyable life experience.
Recorded LIVE on 8-15-22.

Transcript

Welcome to Life,

Lessons,

And Laughter with your host,

Glenn Ambrose.

Welcome to Life,

Lessons,

And Laughter with your host,

Glenn Ambrose.

Comment and concern.

Yeah,

Yeah.

So I just kind of went,

You know,

I mean,

I guess living in the Dominican Republic,

It's probably a little bit more common or maybe a lot more common,

I don't know,

Than living in some of the more developed countries.

But I know that it's completely possible living in developed countries as well,

Especially from what I've researched.

But I ended up with a parasite,

Which I didn't know was parasite,

You know,

But I just wasn't feeling well.

And then I felt better,

You know,

In a couple days,

Which is kind of,

You know,

If I do get sick,

It's usually very short lived and not a big deal.

So,

But then I kept,

Then I get sick again,

And I feel a little better,

And then I get sick again.

And I'm like,

What the heck is going on?

So,

But I got it some wonderful treatment program from Apothecary here in Cabaret called the Herbalista.

And,

You know,

So I could take this natural,

Natural cure.

And after about a week,

It started kicking in.

So I've been feeling better for about four days now.

So I'm psyched.

So it's nice to be back.

Nice to be back with you guys.

So,

So,

Yeah,

Hop on,

Say hello.

I'm going to,

I'm going to start talking about our topic,

Which is,

You know,

There's multiple ways of phrasing it,

Of course.

But it's basically making adjustments for a happy life.

And,

You know,

I've done this for years.

And quite honestly,

A lot of it was just kind of how my brain works,

I guess.

So I was,

You know,

I just kind of became a habit that I got into and it was kind of subconscious.

So,

You know,

It comes up in conversation here and there and I started coming up in conversation again several times.

And I was like,

You know what,

I think I think this could be a podcast.

I think if I fine tune on this piece,

Because it's it's about making adjustments for a happier life,

Which,

You know,

When you say it generally like that,

It's like,

Yeah.

You know,

Everybody does that to some degree,

You know,

And sometimes we even do it too much.

So but there's two ways to look at this.

So I'm going to explain the difference now.

Like one way is external and one way is internal.

OK,

So when you're making adjustments for a happy life,

Like we're so conditioned that everything is external,

That this is what everybody does.

They make external adjustments.

And sometimes that's necessary,

You know,

So it's not that making external adjustments is a bad thing.

That can be a good thing.

So,

You know,

Sometimes sometimes you need to end a relationship or sometimes you need to end a job.

Sometimes you you know,

If if you go to a restaurant,

You have a bad experience,

You just don't go back to that restaurant.

Like,

That's OK.

You know,

Unless it's really convenient,

Then you might give it another try.

And that's OK,

Too.

But this is all external.

And I think people are fairly aware of that.

Some people can do a much better job at that.

And could use some work on that,

You know,

To be honest.

You know,

There are I see a lot of people that don't make the external adjustments when they should.

You know,

I like to learn everything that I can before,

Especially if it's a big one,

Like changing a job.

Like if I'm unhappy about a job,

I try to dive in and see what's going on with me and what I need to learn first.

And then work through that.

And then once I'm comfortable that I've learned everything I'm supposed to learn,

Then I start and if because sometimes,

You know,

I would be like,

Oh,

OK,

Well,

The job's not that bad.

Once I adjust my perspectives and then I'd stay longer.

But then after a while,

I'm like,

No,

No,

It's this.

You know,

I mean,

For me,

I was supposed to be a life coach.

So so I wasn't going to find contentment in any external job.

So eventually I would get to the point where I'm like,

OK,

I learned my lessons,

But this still feels like it's not for me.

So I need to make an external adjustment,

You know,

Because I did the internal.

So so I think we can be a little bit more thoughtful about the external adjustments we make,

Not make them so quickly.

Maybe make them better.

Like,

You know,

Some people just don't do that.

They'll go to the same restaurant over and over and complain all the time.

It's like,

Well,

Don't go to that restaurant.

Like,

You know,

Find other ways if something bothers you,

Find other ways.

But again,

That's all external.

And who knows,

Maybe I'll touch on that a little bit more.

But the main subject of this that I want to talk about was the internal adjustments.

This is what I don't see people doing a lot.

So basically how it how it works for me is if I'm feeling in a way that I don't enjoy,

I don't like feeling that way.

Then I try to make an adjustment to how I'm perceiving the situation.

Because I'm not going to feel in a crappy way.

Oh,

Hey,

Linda.

Yeah,

You found me.

Here we are.

So welcome.

So,

Yeah,

A lot of times people don't make the the internal adjustments.

So if I feel something and I don't like the way I feel,

Then I understand that my perspective is triggering the way that I feel.

So I need to adjust my perspective because there's nothing wrong with life.

Let me see if I can turn this light down a little bit.

There we go.

Yeah,

So there's nothing wrong with life.

You know,

Life's been flowing for billions of years and and there's nothing wrong with it.

It's it's got a flow.

So everything that happens,

It's just it is it's just happening.

Right.

So our judgment makes it good or bad.

You know,

So a lot of people will look at covid and they'll be like,

Oh,

Covid's bad.

Why?

Because people died.

Well,

Yeah,

From that perspective,

It's bad.

You know,

I mean,

We're all supposed to die.

But but like,

You know,

We don't want people to die.

You know,

So if something comes along,

Why wipes out a bunch of people?

Most people are going to label that as bad and understandably so.

Right.

But for me,

You know,

I could feel that covid was this big.

It was something big that was happening and everything's energy.

And to me,

Nothing is good or bad.

So it's it's either an opportunity or a problem.

It just depends on how you look at it.

And this is how I think this is like this is touched on in many success manuals because they,

You know,

They found that successful people have a different perspective than people who are not successful.

So what happens is most successful people,

When when something happens,

They see it as an opportunity.

They don't see it as a problem,

You know,

And then other people,

Most other people see it as a problem.

So.

You know,

So of course,

They experience it as a problem,

But it determines on how your brain goes about things.

So like,

Let's say there's a recession right in the economy.

So if there's a recession in the economy,

Everybody's running around going,

Oh,

My God,

This is horrible.

There's a recession.

You can't start a business now.

All the businesses are struggling.

This is bad.

It's a bad time for business.

The real intelligent people that are really highly successful see that as an opportunity.

Like,

You know,

So they might start a business that caters to people in a recession,

Like,

For example,

A dollar store,

You know.

So maybe they open up a string of dollar stores and they use and they make a million dollars during a recession.

Why?

Because everybody's shopping at a dollar store instead of shopping on the bigger ticket items.

Right.

So this is what I mean.

It's just nothing is good or bad.

Our thinking makes it so.

So from that basis,

I make adjustments on how I'm looking at things.

So if I'm experiencing something,

I don't like the way it feels.

OK,

Well,

I need to adjust this.

I need to change it.

Like sometimes I need to take physical action and make an external change.

Sometimes I just need to accept that this is the way it is and I might not particularly like it.

But sometimes life happens this way and there's nothing I can do to change it.

So it's just a matter of acceptance and not resisting reality.

You know,

That's all suffering is resistance to what is.

I've said that a billion times.

Right.

All suffering is resistance to what is.

So if we just accept what is.

Then the suffering is minimized dramatically.

I mean,

I'd say 90 percent of suffering is mindmade.

It's the way we're looking at it.

Of course,

There's certain levels of suffering that that are not.

I mean,

Sometimes if you're in physical pain or.

Maybe even emotional pain,

You know,

Like if somebody passes away,

My good friend Ed,

This is his anniversary of when he passed five years ago.

And,

You know,

Like if I think about him,

I can feel a level of sadness where,

You know,

Like I miss him.

And that's fine.

It's OK.

It's OK to feel sad if you miss somebody,

You know,

As long as you don't resist it and you think there's something wrong with it.

Oh,

He shouldn't have passed.

It's not right.

He's supposed to be here.

That's resistance to the reality.

He's not here anymore.

So I can't resist that reality because it causes immense emotional suffering.

So I have to accept that.

So sometimes it's a matter of acceptance.

Sometimes it's a matter of an external adjustment.

Sometimes it's a matter of tweaking my my perspective or my mindset.

You know.

So so if I'm struggling with something,

I mean,

I'm trying to think of a of an example and,

You know,

You guys can throw throw out some examples,

Too,

If.

If you'd like.

Just try to keep them a little short so I can kind of read and address.

Since I got to try to stay in a flow here.

You know,

That's how my information flows.

It's just me kind of staying in that flow.

So when I stop too often,

It gets a little choppy.

So so,

Yeah.

So like,

You know.

Let's well,

Let's just take let's just take the.

This parasite I had,

You know,

That's an unpleasant experience.

I didn't like it.

So,

You know,

What happens is,

You know,

You're feeling like crap.

One,

I was exhausted,

Like my energy levels were were horrible.

There were days where I would literally sit stand up from the couch and walk three steps and have to hold the wall just to try to try to catch my breath and have enough energy to take a few more steps.

Like,

You know,

I wasn't like that a lot,

But there was some days when I was like that.

So,

You know,

When when you're drained physically and and you don't feel good and your stomach's upset and all this stuff,

Like you can kind of get down.

And I had some days where I kind of got down and my brain wanted to go.

You know,

This is horrible.

What if you know,

Then I find out a parasite and I know that I'm going to be on treatment for eight weeks and it's extensive.

And my brain wants to go,

Oh,

My God,

This is ridiculous.

Why did I have to get a parasite?

And then I didn't know for,

You know,

Getting sick and then feeling better and then getting sick and then feeling better.

So I didn't know for like a private battling this for three or four weeks and I didn't even know.

And then now I start my treatment,

Which is going to be another eight weeks.

Like,

This is ridiculous and this sucks and this is horrible.

And I don't like the way that I feel when I think like that.

And that's what captures my attention.

If I don't like the way I feel,

That's a red flag that I need to make an adjustment.

Because there's nothing wrong with reality.

There's something wrong with my perspective.

So my perspective is disempowering.

My perspective is that of a victim.

I am a victim of this sickness.

That's what my brain started creating.

It's not true.

I mean,

I'm not a victim of anything.

You know,

So I mean,

It's not any more true.

It's not false either.

I mean,

You know,

I got sick.

So I mean,

Some people could say,

Well,

You are a victim of getting sick.

Yeah,

Technically,

Technically,

I guess there's some truth to that.

I just it's just not my truth.

Why is it not my truth?

Because I choose for it not to be my truth.

I get to choose what my truth is.

And I do this never by lying to myself.

You know,

This is so now we're diving into the meat of this.

Like,

It's not about lying to yourself.

It's not about,

You know,

Some people call it toxic positivity or,

You know,

What's that Pollyanna mentality that you just you know,

People say that you just dismiss reality and just blow sunshine up your own ass all day.

And that's what that is.

It's not what I'm talking about.

That's not what I do at all.

And I'll prove it to you,

Because,

You know,

If you want to say that,

Like I'm a victim of getting sick and you say,

No,

That's the truth.

It's not any more true than what I'm about to say.

So what I'm about to say is that.

Instead of looking at it like I'm a victim of getting sick and it sucks and it's horrible,

I look at it and I go,

OK,

Well,

There's many things that I could get sick with.

You know,

We never know what life's going to throw at us.

It could,

You know,

Environmental stuff and toxic living for the first 35 years of my life.

Like,

You know,

There could be all kinds of things.

And,

You know,

I ended up with something.

That I was able to function the first three or four weeks that I had it,

So much so that I even climbed Pico Duarte in the middle of it,

Because I happen to have a couple of days where I felt good right in the middle.

And those happen to be the days that I was climbing that tallest peak in the Caribbean.

Right now,

How wonderful is that,

That I wasn't sick during those two days?

So like,

How lucky am I now?

Is that a lie?

Is that toxic positivity?

Am I blowing sunshine up my ass?

Is that not true?

No,

It is true.

I am lucky.

I very well could have been sick during those two days or halfway up.

I could have been halfway through the first day because,

I mean,

I've gotten hit with days where I felt good in the morning and then halfway through,

I was laid out on a couch for two days.

That's happened.

So it could have happened then,

But it didn't.

So this is a good thing.

That's true.

I didn't,

It's not a lie.

I didn't make it up.

It's not blowing sunshine up my ass.

Right?

So it's just choosing which truth you're going to look at.

Do you want to be a victim of things?

Because that makes you feel bad.

Like,

Why choose something that makes you feel bad?

It's because,

You know,

We do it because we don't know we have a choice.

So I'm here to tell you,

You do have a choice.

You get to choose your perspective.

But it's very important that you have to select things that are true.

You can't blow sunshine up your ass.

That doesn't work.

You can't be like,

Oh,

Well,

I'm so glad that I got sick because I wanted to lay on the couch and feel crappy for five days.

And so it's just a good thing.

That's a good thing.

That's just good.

No,

It's not.

That's a lie.

It makes no logical sense.

It has no substance to it.

It doesn't hold water.

It's not true.

So my unconscious isn't going to believe that.

I can't adopt that as my truth because it's not true.

Right?

So we have to adopt something that is true when we reframe things.

And,

You know,

I did another podcast on reframing.

This is it's basically the same thing.

It's just coming at it from a different perspective.

So when we experience something that makes us feel bad,

We have to slow down and go,

OK,

Wait a minute.

Like the way I'm looking at this is disempowering.

It's not uplifting.

You know,

I need to find a different way of looking at this that's just as true.

That makes me feel good.

That makes me feel blessed.

That makes me feel lucky.

But it has to be true.

You know,

So it's you know,

I'm thankful that I was able to.

I was able to pay for my medicine online,

So I and have one of my friends pick it up for me.

From Apothecary down in well,

I just mentioned that down in Cabarete.

And bring it up to me.

And I'm grateful that there was a an all natural way of treating this.

You know,

And I didn't have to put in a bunch of pills and manmade frickin things that I don't know what's in,

You know?

I mean,

I would have taken that stuff if I needed to,

But I found an all natural cure.

So,

Hey,

Thumbs up.

And I'm feeling a lot better.

And yeah,

I got to take this treatment for another six or seven weeks or something.

Well,

You know,

It could be worse.

At least I can I can still be here working.

I can take this treatment at my house.

I figured out a routine.

So it's not that invasive into my day,

Even though it's four times a day that I got to take something,

You know?

So,

So it's cool.

So it's it's shifting my perspective now.

All of a sudden I feel like,

OK,

Cool.

You know,

This is,

You know,

Now does that make me like.

Be like,

Oh,

Thank God I got sick.

No,

That's not my goal.

My goal is to not be a victim.

My goal is to not feel crappy.

You know,

My goal is to find a place of acceptance,

Peace.

Contentment.

So let's see,

Let's.

Linda,

I'm going to dinner with family and feel like they judge me for going through a dark time,

I'm telling myself I'm going to have fun.

That is.

You got to tweak that because it's,

You know.

Oh,

I'm going to have fun.

That's that's more like denial.

Like,

You don't know if you're going to have fun.

You know,

Maybe you won't.

And that's not what's bothering you.

It's you're not.

The problem isn't that you're worried you're not going to have fun.

I'm going to dinner with my family and I feel like they judge me for going through a dark time.

OK,

Judge me for going through a dark time.

That's what needs to be tweaked.

Not whether you're going to have a good time or whether you're not,

You know,

Whether you are or not going to have a good time,

It's it's going to your family and feeling like they need that they're going to judge you.

OK,

So what if they do?

Let them.

You know,

I feel like they're going to,

You know,

Let's be honest here.

I mean,

People judge us all the time.

Maybe they are going to judge you.

OK,

So it's you know,

It's about us not putting like we can't give our power away.

So,

You know,

Like I said,

This has to be realistic.

So if so,

I'm going to put it into you know,

I'm not going to I'm going to put it into my life,

Like how I would reframe this.

OK,

So if I'm if I'm going to go out to dinner and I'm like,

Oh,

Geez,

You know,

What if people judge me?

And it doesn't matter what they judge you for going through a dark time.

Maybe people would judge me because,

You know,

I believe in the spiritual stuff.

And if they don't understand that,

They might think it's woo woo,

Freaking pie in the sky stuff or something.

Of course,

If they understood it,

Then they wouldn't be saying that because everything I say is very down to earth,

Very practical.

But let's just say,

You know,

So I can give an example that that I'm going to be judged for,

You know,

Being woo woo out there or something.

And like,

I can't maybe they are.

You know,

Anything other than me going,

Maybe they are would basically be lying to myself because literally maybe they are.

And it's outside of my control.

What I need to do is not be a victim of what they're doing.

OK,

It always comes back to victim.

If you feel like crap inside,

You feel like a victim.

You're a victim of whatever is happening.

You're a victim of getting sick.

You're a victim of other people judging you.

You're a victim of whatever is upsetting you.

The reason you're upset is usually aversion,

Possibly always aversion of being a victim.

So if I don't want to be a version,

A victim of people judging me,

Well,

Then I need to find a healthier way to look at that.

So what I would do in my perspective is just go like,

All right,

So somebody is going to judge me.

I can't control what they do.

What I have to do is take care of myself.

So I have to look at this and I have to go,

OK,

What if what if they do think this?

Does that have to affect me?

Do I have to let that affect me?

No,

I don't.

Like it's like if somebody walks up to me and says,

Hey,

Glenn,

You're a jerk.

Like,

Am I supposed to be like,

Am I am I suppose?

Oh,

No.

Why did you say that?

Like,

I'm not going to get all upset if somebody walks up and says,

Glenn,

You're a jerk because I don't believe it.

That's why I'm not going to get upset.

You see,

It's we give our power away.

I'm going to do a podcast on that,

Too,

But but like what happens is,

Is we we give people the power to disrupt our internal state and then we blame it on them.

But we're the ones that are actually doing it.

Because,

You know,

If if a.

Excuse me.

Thirsty tonight.

So,

You know,

If if a four year old comes up and says,

I'm going to kick your ass,

Do you get all upset?

No.

Why?

Because you don't believe that the four year old can kick your ass.

That's why.

Now,

If an adult comes up.

And says,

Hey,

I'm going to kick your ass.

Whoa.

Why?

Because there's a chance that you might get hurt.

Right.

So it's the same thing with emotional blows.

If somebody takes an emotional blow at you.

Like if if you can if you're if they have the ability to hurt you.

Then you get defensive and protective and scared.

Or you try to defend.

But if they can't hurt you,

What does it matter?

One of the most freeing things you can do is give other people the right to have their own opinions of you.

It's just it's they have the right.

They have the right to judge you.

Give it to them.

Only you can give them that right.

And you should should be like,

Yeah,

If you want to judge me,

You can judge me.

You have the right to judge me.

You have the right to think I'm a jerk for going through a difficult time.

You have that right.

And they do.

They do have the right to think that.

They're their own person.

You can't go into their life and tell them how to think.

Would you like them coming into your house?

And this is how I this is how I learned this lesson so deeply.

It's,

You know,

After 10 years of living spiritually,

Trying to take the high road,

Trying to be a good father,

Trying to be a good person,

Trying to rise above the constant attacks and the family court and all this crap.

I couldn't understand why it would still bother me when my ex would attack me every once in a while.

You know,

Most of the time I handled it pretty well.

But every once in a while it would get me.

And one day I'm sitting there after 10 years going,

My God,

Why does this get me?

And I realized that I was still holding out hope that she was going to see me for a good person.

I was like,

Oh,

My God.

So I didn't even know I was holding up that hope.

I was holding out hope that she was going to change her opinion of me.

I thought her opinion of me mattered.

And it was killing me.

It wasn't killing me.

It was bothering me and upsetting me.

So what I did is,

You know,

This is I play the hypothetical game,

So I flip it.

And,

You know,

I flip things all the time to see the other perspective,

And that gives me clarity on my perspective.

So I was like,

OK,

So I want her to think I'm a good person.

Is that fair?

Should I be able to go into her life and be like,

You should think I'm a good person?

I'm like,

Well,

What's the opposite of that?

The opposite would be for her to come into my house and say,

Glenn,

You know,

All this spirituality,

You know,

Loving outlook that you have is a bunch of BS.

And you shouldn't be thinking like that anymore.

You need to start.

You need to stop thinking this way about all this love and stuff.

And you need to start thinking the way that I think.

And I'm going to explain to you exactly what that is.

And I want you to start thinking the way that I think.

Like,

Would that be fair?

No,

That wouldn't be fair.

Why should she walk into my house and tell me how I'm supposed to think and how I'm supposed to look at things?

That's not fair.

It's like,

Oh,

OK,

Then why do you think you get to then why do you think you should be able to do that to her?

Why do I think that I should be able to go into her house and say,

Hey,

You know,

You need to see me as a good person because I've done a lot of good things.

And I want you to recognize me for that.

And you need to you need to start treating me with respect because I'm a respectful person.

And you need to do that.

Why?

Why do I have the right?

Because I'm based in love.

That gives me the right to dictate how other people.

Think and experience their reality.

No,

It doesn't.

Just because we're based in love,

Does it does.

And our outlook is trying to be positive and helpful.

That does not mean we have the right to tell other people how to live their lives.

That's different.

We try.

That's not love.

You know,

That's control,

That's manipulation.

I'm love,

So I get to control all you people that aren't love because I'm better than you.

That's ego.

That's separation.

That's control.

There's nothing loving about that.

So just because myself or you or anybody else is out there coming from a place of love,

That does not give you the right to tell other people what to think and how to live their lives.

They have the right to think whatever they want to think.

They have the right to live their lives.

They have the right to judge you.

They have the right to,

They don't.

Now,

They have the right to put you down as long as you let them.

It's about us being in control of our experience.

You know,

Somebody,

Somebody,

I mean,

I've seen this post many times.

But there's this post,

Or there's several posts actually,

There's several posts that allude to this.

It says something about nice people get treated the worst.

And big-hearted people get walked on and all this stuff.

And honestly,

I don't like seeing that because it's not my experience whatsoever.

It's,

This is our learning curve.

We have to understand what being a good person,

What being loving is.

Being loving is strong.

You know,

At times,

And it looks like being kind at times,

And it looks like being compassionate at times,

And it looks like listening at times,

And it looks like speaking truth at times.

So,

Love has many different looks.

One energy,

Many different looks.

So,

Oh,

I just lost my train there for a second.

So,

Yeah,

So love has many different looks.

So,

What we need to do,

Oh man,

I think I lost it again.

Well,

This doesn't happen too often.

This might have to be a short one because the throat is acting up.

Well,

I guess I had a lot of clients today and I haven't had clients,

I haven't worked that much.

So,

So maybe that's what's happening.

But whatever,

This is live,

So we're gonna go.

So,

So yeah,

Okay,

I just remembered where I was going.

So,

Those little memes and stuff.

So,

Like love has different looks,

But it never looks like a doormat.

Like if you are getting walked on and treated like crap,

You are not acting out of love.

Because love does not get stomped on.

It doesn't.

Love is the strongest energy in the world.

How can love lose?

It can't.

How can love get stomped on?

It can't.

It's literally impossible.

So,

Love is like setting boundaries.

So,

If somebody wants to judge me,

Yeah,

Go ahead,

Judge me.

I don't care.

You have the right.

Now,

I'm probably not going to spend a bunch of time with you because I don't like spending time with a bunch of judgmental people.

It's not because they judged me.

It's because those are the type of people that don't enhance my life.

I don't like being around them.

They don't,

They don't,

They're not of benefit to me.

And quite frankly,

I can't be of benefit to them.

So,

There's no,

There's no real reason for me to spend time with.

Like if I can help somebody,

Well,

Then maybe I'll spend some time with them.

If they can help me,

Well,

Then maybe I'll spend some time with them.

If we can help each other or just,

And sometimes that's just enjoying each other's company.

If we could just enjoy each other's company,

Well,

Then I'll spend some time with them.

But if they're a negative influence on my life,

Why would I have them in my life on a regular basis?

Right?

And I mean,

You know,

Thankfully,

You know,

I'm in a good place with my family and everything.

But if that was my family,

It'd be the same thing.

I mean,

I don't care what blood you have going through your veins.

If it's the same as mine or not,

You are not going to crap on me.

Like I used to tell that to my son.

I mean,

Anybody that knows me or listens to this podcast knows how much I love my son.

I mean,

Like I can't even put into words how much I love my son.

But even when he was little,

Like if he started disrespecting me,

I told him on a few different occasions because kids test you.

And I loved him so much that he's the most difficult one to set boundaries with for me.

The more you love somebody,

The harder it is to set boundaries because you just want to be nice and you want to get along with them so bad.

So it's hard to set boundaries,

But that doesn't mean you don't have to do it.

It just means it's more difficult.

Right.

So I wouldn't I it was harder for me to set boundaries with him.

I can set him with anybody.

Him?

It's the hardest.

So when he was younger growing up,

Sometimes I wouldn't set boundaries and he would start disrespecting me.

And I looked at him a few times and I'm like,

Dude,

Do you think that I would allow a stranger on the street to talk to me the way that you just talked to me?

Do you think that that would happen for one second?

You're like,

No.

Yeah.

And guess what?

I'm not putting it up putting up with it from you either.

It's not happening.

You're not disrespecting me because I love myself too much.

And I refuse to allow you or anybody else on this planet to disrespect me and to talk to me like that.

It's not happening.

Period.

Not happening.

And also,

You know,

Like that's love,

Man.

That's frickin strong.

That's not egoic.

That's I love me.

You are not walking on me.

Period.

Nobody walks on me.

That's love.

That's not ego.

Because it's about me.

See,

When it's about me,

I love me.

You're not doing this to me because I won't allow it.

That's all about me,

Me,

Me.

Ego is when you're projecting onto other people,

Creating separation.

So when you go,

You shouldn't talk to me like that.

Like it,

You know,

Maybe this is actually good.

I didn't know I was going to go here.

But like if you pay attention to the energy,

They're completely different.

The words might be somewhat similar,

But the energy is completely different.

So like if I would have been gone to my Mateo and gone.

Mateo,

You can't talk to me like that.

You're you're a bad kid because,

You know,

You're you're disrespecting your father and you're not supposed to disrespect your father.

That's not right.

And you're going to get punished because you disrespected your father.

And that's wrong.

That's all about him,

Him,

Him,

Him,

Him.

And it's all ego.

Me.

That's my ego trying to protect my ego.

It's completely different energy.

It's weak.

Like if you if you guys can read energy,

Pay attention to the energy for a moment.

You can't.

You're not supposed to talk to me like that.

My God.

Oh,

See,

I don't I don't usually talk like this and I don't even like the way it feels.

Oh,

I can feel the energy in my chest and it feels so weak and powerless.

And you can't do this to me.

You,

You.

It's it's coming from a victim mentality.

I hope some of you took some of you people listening can feel that.

Do you feel how weak that is and how projecting and egoic driven that is,

As opposed to I won't allow you to talk to me like that.

I don't allow anybody to disrespect me.

That's strong,

Completely different energy.

This is what I'm talking about.

We are responsible for our own.

Experiences.

We've got to stop handing it away to other people and then wondering why we're unhappy.

We give our power away to everybody else and then they don't do what we think that they should.

And then we're unhappy and we are unhappy.

Well,

That's because you gave your power away to every Tom,

Dick and Harry that had a mouth and they didn't say exactly what you wanted them to say.

So now your your feelings are all hurt.

Don't hand your power away.

Don't put your happiness in their hands.

This way,

If somebody wants to judge me like I remember years ago,

Somebody.

I went hung out with somebody that I don't I didn't know very well.

That was a friend of a friend and.

And I offered them to spend the night because they on the drive,

They were driving,

I think.

Yeah,

They were driving.

Well,

They left the car in my house,

One or two because of where we're going.

And when we're coming back,

They're like,

Oh,

My God,

It's going to be such a long night and day.

I have to drive all the way back,

You know,

Whatever half hour,

45 minutes this way.

Then I have to drive all the way back this way.

Another 45 minutes.

And it's already late and blah,

Blah,

Blah.

And I said,

Well,

If you want,

You know,

You can crash at my place.

I mean,

Nobody is there.

You know,

It's just my place.

My son's out for the night.

So,

I mean,

You can just crash at my place and then you don't have to do that drive there tonight and then back a few hours from now.

And I was trying to be nice.

Well,

It was a female and she took it as me trying to get her in the sack.

So,

So she started telling people or,

You know,

At least a friend of mine,

Oh,

I can't believe Glenn was trying to get me in the sack.

And my friend was explaining this and they were like,

Oh,

Did that get you upset?

And I said,

No.

And they're like,

Why?

I said,

Because it because it's not true.

And I know that.

So I wasn't trying to get her in the sack.

And so I'm fine.

They're like,

Well,

Yeah,

But if she's telling me,

Then she's probably telling other people.

So,

So what if people start thinking that you that's what you were doing?

Well,

Then they have the right to their opinion.

If people want to take somebody else's word without asking me for my perspective and then judging me as a bad person because of that.

That's OK.

They can judge me as a bad person.

And then they kind of,

You know,

They probably won't want to hang out with me because they think I'm a bad person.

So that's cool.

So they won't hang out with me.

So,

So a judgmental person just exited my life without me even having to know about it or do anything.

This is wonderful.

That's a good thing.

You know,

So like I don't I allow people to judge me because their judgment of me doesn't matter.

I know who I am.

I know my intentions.

I know,

Like,

Whether I'm a good person or whether I'm not a good person,

I just stand in that.

And people who can't see that I'm a good person,

Well,

They can go or they can spend less time with me.

That's all right.

Fine.

You know,

There's eight billion people on the planet.

I don't need to be friends with all of them.

It's fine.

If we don't enhance each other's life or enjoy each other,

Why?

Why would I want you in my life?

Why would I try to save you?

You know,

Oh,

I have to make sure they don't think something bad of me.

Why?

So I have more judgmental people in my life.

Why am I trying to have judgmental people in my life?

Why am I trying to hold on to judgmental people like they're of value?

They're not of value.

They're judgmental.

So and I don't want judgmental people.

So you may go and wait.

I don't even have to tell them.

They just do it on their own.

That's even better.

Ah.

That's it,

Cindy.

Love never fails.

So let's see,

I'll try to wrap it up here.

So it's monitoring how you're feeling.

You know,

We have to have I find it very beneficial to have red flags when I feel.

Pardon the technical terms.

When I feel in a way that I don't enjoy,

I shift,

I stop for a moment and look at it and find out why I'm not liking the way that I feel inside.

Why do I not like the way that I feel inside?

You know,

Anything can happen.

Like I do this.

A lot of times I can do it.

In three seconds in my head.

About stuff all the time.

You know,

I was explaining this to somebody and like sometimes when my clients.

I'll go over.

That's my responsibility.

Sometimes my clients apologize to me and I tell them I'm responsible for my own time and my own life.

So you don't have to apologize.

If I go over,

It's because I choose to go over everything that I do is a conscious choice.

And this is another way to set to make these adjustments.

It's another it's the same thing.

It's just another doorway to come in and a different perspective to look at it from conscious choices instead of unconscious choices.

So like I go over on my session sometimes and if I do,

That's a conscious choice.

I'm aware of my schedule and sometimes I look at my phone just to double check to see if I have a client right after them or something to see if I can go over.

So I'm not,

You know,

Stepping on somebody else's appointment time,

Of course,

Because if you check with my clients,

I'm always on time.

I might go over sometimes,

But I'm always on time.

And over the years,

I've thought,

Glenn,

You really got to tighten that up.

You really got to tighten that up.

And sometimes I have and sometimes I don't.

But I will run a check.

If it's starting to impede on my life,

I just run a little check,

Like because things are impeding in my life.

Right.

So like,

Let's say I'm with a client and I go over and then I go roll right into another client and I didn't have time to eat because I went over.

So now I'm hungry.

So what my brain wants to do is go,

You know,

Maybe I'm hungry and I'm still towards the end of the session and my brain wants doesn't like the feeling of being hungry.

So it wants to try projecting that onto my client or something like it's their fault.

You know,

Like,

Like,

Oh,

My goodness,

Like,

Geez,

I wish we could just get off the phone.

Like,

I mean,

I'm hungry.

I got to eat.

I haven't eaten in five hours.

Like,

Don't they know this?

You know,

That's irrational thinking.

But if I don't like the way,

You know,

And I don't like the way that feels so I can pause even in the middle of a phone call and in three seconds go through this process where it goes,

OK,

Wait a minute,

Glenn.

Now,

Why are you upset?

Because you're hungry.

OK,

Why are you hungry?

Oh,

Because you went over on your sessions.

OK,

Whose fault is that?

Oh,

Well,

They were taught.

No.

Whose fault is that?

Who's in control of your life?

Oh,

I am.

Right.

So it was your choice to go over.

You knew you.

You knew you were going over.

You know,

Sometimes you go over and you chose not to take action on that and limit it and you went right over your lunchtime.

That's your fault.

So if so,

Just accept it.

It just is what it is.

It's not a big deal.

Maybe you can make a mental note not to do it again.

If you don't like missing your lunchtime,

Then you should make an external adjustment,

You know,

And make sure this doesn't happen again.

And stay.

It's your decision.

So stay to your the allotted time for your sessions.

Otherwise,

You might get hungry sometimes.

OK,

So then and I have a choice.

I either make that adjustment externally and stop following my times and have lunch or I say it's not that important.

Whatever.

And then I just miss my lunch again and I'm hungry and I go,

My brain wants to complain about it and act like a victim.

And I go,

No,

It's your choice,

Dude.

It's your life you decided to go over.

If you don't want to if you want to eat,

Don't go over.

Very simple.

Right.

So I never drop into that victim mentality of it.

I take responsibility for my own choices.

So it's a it's a conscious choice.

And if I want to,

You know,

Sometimes I'll fall on the.

Jenny,

You might be like Joe Pesci when he needs a Snickers.

Yeah.

You know,

Get a little psycho on there.

But but,

You know,

Actually,

That's that's a good point.

So,

You know,

You know,

We talk about this hangry thing,

Right?

You get angry when you're hungry.

So like.

Like we that happens when we're unconscious.

When we're not aware and we're not taking responsibility,

This actually prevents that.

Because how can you be angry if like like nobody did anything to you?

Right.

You get angry when you're projecting outward.

I should be able to eat.

I feel like crap.

And I shouldn't feel like crap when you're resisting reality and fighting against it and you're not conscious of what what's going on.

If you're sitting there and you go,

OK,

I'm hungry and that's why I'm feeling a little off.

So just relax.

Don't act on it.

You'll be able to eat soon.

Oh,

OK.

Then you can be more in control of your own experience.

Right.

It's about not dropping into that victim mentality.

And reframing things.

Taking responsibility for our lives and either accepting the situation.

Where accepting the situation as it is,

You know,

And just going,

Hey,

You know,

Sometimes we make mistakes in life.

It happens,

You know,

Some.

I'll just I'll just stay on the same example.

Say I'm talking with a client and I'm taking action and I'm sticking with one person like my schedule.

Right.

And then all of a sudden,

Don't you know that it's right at lunchtime and I get caught up in a conversation.

And even though I told myself before that phone call that I was going to stay on time,

I just I I got caught up in what I was doing and I didn't.

And here I am hungry again.

So if if I get if I get caught up,

You know,

Feeling hungry again.

Then I have to look at that and go,

OK,

Glenn,

What what happened?

You weren't going to allow yourself to do this.

Oh,

Yeah,

But you did.

Yes.

OK.

Judging myself and calling myself an idiot does not help.

We've got to get rid of the judgment and just learn from our past.

So I'll just look at that and go,

OK,

You were going to you were going to judge yourself for this.

You know,

You made a mistake.

You were going to end that phone call and you didn't.

OK,

Well,

You didn't.

So it's too late now,

Except the reality of the situation.

It just is.

And make the adjustment next time.

You know,

You have to take it a little bit more seriously because this time you said you were going to make the adjustment and you didn't.

So you fell short this time.

It's OK.

You know,

We've got to get rid of that judgment piece.

When there's you know,

There's a wonderful quote,

Like something like.

And I don't know who said it,

But something like.

If you're.

If you don't learn from history,

You're doomed to repeat it.

Wonderful quote.

Very true.

However,

What we do is we combine learning from our past with judging ourselves.

We're so conditioned that if we feel like if we beat ourselves up enough,

Then we'll change our behavior because that's how we're raised.

Everything's punishment based.

Jail is punishment based.

School is punishment based.

Parenting is punishment based.

You know,

And it was,

Of course,

Worse when we were kids starting to get away from that a little bit.

Some of the parenting is,

You know,

But it's so everything is punishment based.

So we think if we're doing something wrong,

We have to judge and punish ourselves and then we'll stop doing it wrong.

But they found scientifically that negative reinforcement does not change negative behavior.

Only positive reinforcement does that.

And yet we still do it to ourselves.

So we need to separate this punishment,

Punishing ourselves,

Judging ourselves,

Calling ourselves bad and learning from our mistakes.

Those are two different things we can learn from our mistakes without judging ourselves for them.

And just sit there and go,

I made a mistake.

So what do you know,

Somebody that doesn't?

I mean,

Really think about it as an adult.

If we make a mistake,

We feel like idiots.

Why?

Why would you feel like an idiot when you do something that everybody does consistently?

We all make mistakes.

We live in an imperfect world.

Screws fall out.

You know,

Thank you,

Breakfast Club,

For that quote.

We live in an imperfect world.

Screws fall out.

We live in an imperfect world.

We make mistakes.

It happens.

Who gives a crap?

Relax.

So we all make mistakes.

So stop judging ourselves for it.

And just be like,

OK,

I made a mistake.

Whatever.

We all make mistakes.

So that's not a big deal.

But what can I learn from this?

What can I learn from this?

You see,

There's one way is disempowering and one way is empowering.

I'm such an idiot.

I can't believe I made that mistake.

Completely disempowering.

No positive value or benefit whatsoever in that statement at all.

None.

Not only is it not beneficial,

It's literally detrimental because it hurts your self-esteem.

Ninety percent of the people I know,

Even the spiritual people,

Have room to grow in a self-love,

Including myself,

Have room to grow in a self-love and self-esteem area.

I mean,

There's areas.

I love myself probably more than most people.

But that doesn't mean that there isn't room.

That doesn't mean that like I never have doubts about myself or second guess myself or,

You know,

There's room for me to grow.

Most people beat the living crap out of themselves.

If anybody treated you the way you treat yourself,

You'd kick their ass.

Like we got to start treating ourselves better.

Drop the judgment and still learn.

I made a mistake.

It happens.

And then learn.

That's where that's empowering and you get become a better version of yourself.

Judgment you get become a worse version of yourself.

So let's see,

I'm going to touch on a couple.

Well,

I'm going to look over a couple of comments.

Yeah,

I have to push back on that all the time.

My son and I started walking at lunch and I just started in a new role at my job.

And I am literally onboarding and coaching people who have no idea what they're doing when they have an emergency.

They try to make it my emergency and make them schedule time with me.

And I have that walking time blocked off non-negotiable time.

Right.

We have to set boundaries like we can't be the victim of other people.

Oh,

You need to help me now.

Now this this is my time.

This is how I stay sane.

You know,

We have breaks at work.

You know,

Like I talk about this like lunchtime breaks,

Vacation time.

You know how many people don't honor that?

We need to honor that.

Like,

Do you think do you think companies get like schedule break times for their employees and lunch and stuff because they're nice people?

Like because they care about you?

No,

No,

They do it because they found that if they people don't have breaks,

Regular breaks and lunchtime,

Their production level goes down.

Why is their production level go down?

Because they're miserable,

Unhappy,

And it's not natural.

We're not robots.

We're not supposed to do that.

We're supposed to take breaks.

We're supposed to have downtime.

We're supposed to have little breaks throughout the day where we can disengage.

If we're going 90 miles an hour all day,

It's that momentum building up.

We just never stop.

We can't get off.

And then Linda,

This is,

I guess,

What I was talking about earlier.

It's me feeling like they judge me.

Yeah,

That's exactly what it is.

It's you feeling like they judge you.

And you have to become aware of it.

It's always you.

You know,

All work is self-work.

We think we,

You know,

We're so used to blaming other like life and external situations and other people for our unhappiness.

And we think we unconsciously we think that's right.

And we think we want to.

This is why everybody commiserates.

It's like a disease,

Man.

It's like,

You know,

Whenever I not whenever sometimes when I when I when I say something that's empowering to people,

They get offended because I don't I don't commiserate with their misery.

So like if somebody says,

Oh,

You know,

Something bad happened in the world and I'm upset over it and I go,

OK,

Well,

You know,

You can.

You know,

It's OK to be upset about something,

But don't act out of that anger energy.

You have to work through that anger and then act out of love.

And people like you're you're diminishing my feelings.

No,

I'm not.

People like people defend their right to be miserable with every frickin thing that they have.

No,

I you I'm denying my feelings.

Why are you denying your feelings?

I said because they skip right over the part that they that they just want me to kiss their ass because everybody else kisses their ass in life.

And I don't frickin kiss ass like so.

You know,

This is people get upset with me because I don't frickin hold their hands and commiserate with people and people like acting.

They're talking like a victim and they're talking in ways that are going to hurt their life or hurt other people's lives.

And I talk and I call them on it and then they go,

Well,

You're not honoring my feelings.

It's like,

Why would you say that?

I literally said,

If something upsets you,

That's OK.

It's natural.

You need to work through that.

So I honored it right there with that statement.

I honored your feelings.

I just didn't stay there.

I didn't say,

Yes,

You have the right to be upset and you should stay upset forever.

And you should be angry at the whole world and you should feel like a victim.

And it's not fair what happened.

And you should feel miserable forever.

And if you don't do that with people,

They get upset.

That's what people expect.

Everybody expects everybody to hold their hand when they're acting like a victim and go,

Yes,

You're a victim.

You poor thing.

It's not fair what you went through.

I will never do that.

I'm not doing that because it's disempowering and it's feeding the victim mentality going,

Yes,

You have no control over your life.

It's true.

You're a victim and you have no hope for happiness because whenever anything happens outside of yourself that you don't like,

You should feel horrible forever about it.

Why is that loving?

Why is that mistaken for loving?

That's ridiculous.

It's not loving.

It's unloving.

It's disempowering and it's unloving and I won't do it.

So if that's what I refuse,

I hate anything that disempowers people.

It just repels me.

So I'm not going to do it,

You know.

So I'm solution based.

So if you want to sit in your misery,

Then sit in your misery and please don't listen to my stuff because I'm not going to be really pleasant to listen to.

I'm solution based.

I'm empowerment based.

If you want to take control over your life and have control over your own happiness,

Peace and love,

Then I'm your guy.

If you want to feel like a victim and want somebody to stroke you,

Then I'm not your guy.

Yes.

Establish boundaries right away.

So it's all about empowerment,

Empowerment,

Empowerment.

Understanding that we,

So imagine,

And I'll end with this,

Imagine going through your life and every time you don't like the way you're feeling inside,

You shift the way you look at things.

You're never a victim of anything.

You have complete control over how you feel inside.

And what happens is your perspective shifts.

So like if you're upset all the time,

That's because you're looking at things from a victim mentality all the time.

Faith just sees somebody outside.

Faith,

Come here.

So,

So yeah,

So it's if you're feeling,

If you don't like the way you feel and life upsets you,

It's because of your perspective.

And there isn't one perspective.

Everybody,

You know,

Everybody out there,

You can see it on the Facebook arguments and the political arguments.

Everybody thinks their way is right and the other way is wrong.

False.

There's many different ways to look at different things.

There's many different ways to look at different things.

You know what?

The Democrats aren't right.

And you know what?

The Republicans aren't right.

Nobody's right.

Nobody's right.

They're not even looking to try to be right.

They're not trying to solve any problems.

They're just looking to gain power.

That's all they're doing.

And that's what they do.

They just fight with power.

And then one side gets it and then the other side gets it and then the one side gets it and then the other side gets it.

And everybody else hops in the argument and they start arguing about stuff like it's actually important.

And it's not because none of it is solving anything.

Nothing's solved.

What have we solved in the last 40 years?

Nothing.

We have the same problems we did 40 years ago.

We have the complete ability to abolish poverty off the frickin' face of the planet.

We can feed everybody on the planet.

Are we?

No.

Why?

Because we're too busy arguing about stuff.

Who's right and who's wrong?

It's ridiculous.

There is no right.

There is no wrong.

And if you think you're in sole possession of it,

Don't listen to my stuff because it ain't true.

It's perspective.

Nothing is good or bad.

It's how we look at it.

It just is.

We've got to stop thinking we're in sole possession of the truth.

Nobody knows the truth.

I mean,

There's some eternal spiritual truths that I seem to resonate with.

And even those,

Even those,

Like even things that I believe down into my core that are spiritual truths that I've been gifted.

You know,

When I woke up spiritually 19 years ago to understand some of the mysteries of the universe that are eternal truths,

Even those I hold loosely.

You know,

I loved it when Oprah had her Super Soul Sunday TV series,

Like when it first started,

Like,

Oh,

My God,

It was 15,

At least 15 years ago,

20 years ago.

I don't know.

And she they were like four hours long and she used to show a movie and they had she had all these big name spiritual teachers and she used to ask them questions.

I believe it was at the end.

And one of the questions she often asked.

Was what do you know for sure?

And Oprah loves,

You know,

I love Oprah,

But like I used to do her her and Deepak's meditations all the time and half her meditation.

She'd be like,

The one thing I know for sure.

And I always used to think,

You don't know shit.

How do you know?

Because you're freaking Oprah.

You're just a person.

You don't know anything for sure.

Just like the rest of us.

But what I liked was she would ask people that and they'd be like,

Love is everything or God is wonderful or,

You know,

They would give the typical statements.

And that's cool.

You know,

It's their personal truth.

And I'm not saying that their their personal truth was wrong because it can be true to them.

Right.

And that's how I feel.

These the truths that I hang my hat on are true for me.

And I also understand that they can change in any time through my perspectives.

I might learn more and be like,

Oh,

My God,

I always thought that was true.

But actually,

It's not.

It's actually this way.

You know,

So I hold space for that possibility.

But what Deepak Chopra said is she said,

What do you know for sure?

And Deepak said nothing.

And and Oprah's reaction was just like,

Huh,

Like what you wanted the biggest spiritual teachers on the planet and you don't know anything for sure.

And he said,

No,

He's like,

I don't know anything.

My perspectives change over the years,

You know.

So what I thought was true 10 years ago is different now and it'll probably be different 10 years from now.

So technically,

I don't know anything to be true for sure.

This is you know,

This doesn't mean we can't live from it.

It's just we have to stop thinking.

And this is like spiritual,

Eternal truths we're talking about here.

But yet.

So so look at this for an example,

This that just cracked me up.

I just saw this example.

Deepak Chopra.

One of the most influential,

In-depth spiritual teachers of his generation,

Knows nothing for sure.

And his whole life is based around studying the eternal principles which never change.

And he still doesn't feel that he knows anything for sure.

But.

All these people in the United States think they know the truth about our government.

It's ridiculous.

Deepak Chopra doesn't know anything for sure about the eternal,

Never changing reality that is his whole life,

That he's gotten deep spiritual insights that,

By the way,

Have been backed up for thousands of years by prophets.

And sages for thousands of years.

Eternal truths.

And he still doesn't know anything for sure.

But you know what Biden is doing behind closed doors and if it's good or bad,

Or Trump or any other knucklehead in the freaking government,

You have no flippin idea what goes on back there.

You have no idea.

And you think you're in sole possession of the truth.

And if anybody says anything other than what you're saying,

You fight with them about it.

Seriously,

Man.

Slow down and think about this stuff.

The stuff that upsets us is absurd.

It's just distraction.

Everybody is distracting,

Fighting,

Thinking that they're in sole possession of the truth,

And everybody else that doesn't think their way is a moron.

Like,

We have to understand,

Primarily,

Slow down,

Disconnect from the freaking political argument or whatever has got your panties in a freaking bunch.

Disconnect from that for a moment.

Come back down to reality for a second and go,

Okay,

Wait a minute.

Are there multiple ways,

Are there multiple ways of viewing the same situation?

Yes.

Always.

Yes.

Always.

I just gave you an example.

When I was sick.

Now,

I could view it as this sucks that I'm sick and I'm a victim and this is horrible.

Or I could look at it and go,

Wow,

It could have been worse.

Thank goodness that I actually have a treatment that I can take at home and I can feel better.

And I didn't end up in the hospital for six months or screw up my business or blah,

Blah,

Blah,

Blah,

Blah,

Blah,

Blah,

Blah.

I can look at it and not want one isn't true and the other one is false.

That's not the case.

That's not the case.

They both have truth to them.

It's just which one are you going to latch on to?

Well,

I latch on to whichever one makes me feel good.

That's what this podcast is about.

There are multiple perspectives on everything,

Everything.

We are individuals.

This is the whole point of society.

We are made to do so.

So now I'm really going to wrap it up with this.

We we need each other.

We need community.

We're supposed to have different perspectives.

We're supposed to think differently.

We're not supposed to agree.

And I don't understand why we think we're supposed to agree on everything.

We've never we're never going to agree on everything because there isn't one way to look at everything.

So we need each other.

If you take a person and put them on a deserted island and pick them up three years later,

They're a lunatic.

Why?

Because they're alone.

They're stuck in their head.

They have nobody to talk things out.

They don't have multiple perspectives.

We need each other as a society.

People think all we need is food,

Water and shelter.

No,

We need each other.

We will literally go crazy if we do not have other people in our lives.

Why?

It's because we're made that way.

That's a name.

We were made that way.

And it's not just for procreation of our species because we you know,

Like I mean,

We have a sexual drive for that.

And there's other things you can do that.

It's because we are better in community than we are when we're separate.

You know,

It's just the natures of law.

I mean,

The laws of nature.

So it's like like hyenas that hunt and packs and wolves and tigers.

And,

You know,

They they they're intelligent,

Man.

They use each other.

They're like you,

You know,

The lion,

You roar over here and it's going to scare all the deer and they're going to run into our direction.

And we'll be waiting over here like they do this stuff.

Why?

Because they're stronger together than they are alone.

They're more effective together than they are alone.

This is how we are as as people.

We are more effective together than we are alone.

Why?

Because we have different perspectives.

That's why if we all had the same perspective,

We wouldn't need each other.

We'd look if we agreed on everything.

We wouldn't need each other.

We wouldn't we wouldn't grow as a species.

We wouldn't expand.

We would be stuck in one way of thinking.

And we would only accomplish what that line of thinking could accomplish.

You know,

Einstein said you can't fix a problem with the consciousness that created it.

See,

This is why we need different perspectives,

Because we all not one person can figure out everything about life perfectly.

Right.

So that means they try and then they run into a problem.

They can't fix that problem because their consciousness created it.

That's how they got there.

So then they need the consciousness of somebody else come in.

What's that?

A different perspective.

A different perspective comes in.

They go,

Hey,

What if you look at it this way?

Oh,

My God,

That's genius.

I never thought of looking at it that way.

So then they look at it that way.

And then that's the solution to their problem.

Therefore,

These two people just work through a problem that one of them could not.

This is society.

This is the dynamics of how we are supposed to function.

And if we embrace our differences and understand that different perspectives are an asset,

If we use them as an asset,

Nothing is good or bad.

It just is.

So the fact that we have different perspectives is not good or bad.

It just is.

Just like everything else.

It's how we use it.

Right now,

We're using the fact that we have different perspectives to divide as a society.

So we are dividing as a society because we think that people that think different than us are wrong and bad and they should shut their frickin' mouths.

So we're not seeing it as an asset.

We're seeing it as a problem.

If we shift that perspective and go,

No,

Multiple perspectives are an enhancement to our society,

To our community,

And we can accomplish more by expanding our mindsets and looking at things from all possible angles and considering all possible angles to find the best solution and working towards that together as a group.

If we do that,

We're a successful community.

So if we see our individuality and our perspectives being different as an asset and we use that,

It turns into something good.

If we see it as a detriment and we fight with each other over it,

Then it's negative.

You see?

Ooh,

I like that.

I like how that one wrapped up,

Man.

That's just all whoosh.

And it was some fresh material.

I haven't said some of that stuff before.

I loved how that flowed.

See,

This is how I work.

This is one of the reasons why it's enjoyable because this is like,

It's like,

Oh,

My God,

I feel so fired up and so much love in my heart right now.

It's wonderful.

It chokes me up that I get to feel this.

This is love coming through.

This is my version of truth coming through to help us as a society.

You know,

It's so we have to stop fighting one another and thinking that different perspectives is a problem and stop understanding their NASA.

And you can,

You know,

Macrocosm,

You can shrink it.

It's a truth.

So it should work in all situations all the time,

In my opinion.

So so,

You know,

I just explained it in the macrocosm.

This is the same thing in the microcosm.

It's the same thing in relationships.

You want to know why a lot of people get divorced is because,

You know,

When they get married,

You know,

Sometime,

Whatever.

A lot of times when people get married,

They're still new in the relationship and they haven't looked at the right things.

But whatever they're looking at their relationship and the other person through rose colored glasses.

And then over time,

They start like going,

Wait a minute,

They don't think like I think they don't think like I think.

And they start butting heads.

Right.

So so then all of a sudden,

What like,

You know,

When you're first dating in a honeymoon period,

Like,

Hey,

What do you want to eat?

I want Italian.

Oh,

We always have Italian.

You want to try Indian?

Oh,

My God.

Indian.

That sounds wonderful.

I never think of Indian.

Oh,

You're so sweet.

I love you so much.

Thank you for thinking of Indian.

Let's go have Indian and you go Indian.

It's delicious.

And you're like,

Oh,

My God,

This is the best food ever.

Thank you so much.

I love you so much.

And you go home and you make love.

And this is this beautiful,

Wonderful night.

Right.

And then seven years later,

You go,

Hey,

What do you want?

I want Italian.

Oh,

We always have Italian.

How about Indian?

Oh,

My God.

You're such a pain in my ass.

Why can't we just have Italian?

Everything's such a project for you.

That's perspective.

You used to value a different perspective.

Now you punish a different perspective.

You think it's a big pain in the ass.

You see,

It's just perspective.

You know,

If you go,

Well,

You know what?

That's cool.

You know,

I'm glad you brought up Indian because we haven't had it in a while.

And that's a good perspective to keep in mind.

I was just I just kind of automatically go to Italian all the time.

So thank you for bringing up Indian.

I don't feel like it tonight,

Though.

But I do want to do it soon because it is a good idea.

So do you want to do you want to do Italian tonight and maybe Indian next week?

Or is there something else that might be in the middle?

Maybe we could do Mexican.

How about Mexican?

Mexican.

That sounds great.

We haven't had that in forever.

And it's a little bit Italian and spicy,

Kind of like Indian.

Oh,

My God.

Yes,

That's perfect.

That's the happy medium.

I mean,

It might sound silly,

But I'm telling you,

Man,

If you view a different perspective as an asset in your relationship,

Your relationship,

It's going to enhance your relationship.

If you think that the fact that the other person doesn't always agree with you is a detriment,

Then it's going to become a detriment.

It's all about how you look at it.

Nothing is good or bad.

Maybe that should have been the title of this.

Nothing is good or bad.

All right.

Cool,

Cool.

Tammy.

Yes,

I'm so happy for you,

Tammy.

Congratulations on getting this new lease on life.

Yes.

It's time to figure out your new life.

Let me know if I can help.

I'm really pumped for you.

I mean,

I don't even remember when I first met you,

Tammy.

Like we were little kids.

I think your dad did my pool when I was in third grade or something,

If I remember right.

Awesome.

Awesome.

I'm so excited for you.

Tony.

Thank you for tuning in,

My friend.

Get your ass over to the D.

R.

Kevin.

Hey,

Man.

Thanks for tuning in.

Good to hear from you.

Yes.

Yeah.

You can get your butt over here,

Too.

And anybody can get their butt over here.

Just shoot me an email.

All right.

All right,

Everybody.

Thank you for tuning in.

It's been fun.

You guys all take care.

Oh,

And Tony.

Tony's wishing the best for Tammy,

Too.

Cool.

Oh,

I'm glad to hear that,

Linda.

I'm glad I helped.

All right.

So take care,

Everybody.

Thanks.

I'm going to wrap it up.

Where's my little closing?

There it is.

All right.

Peace.

Take care.

Love.

Reviews

Thanks again. You are so very helpful. Cheers.

Great, great talk! I have been giving my power away a lot. Listening to this was helpful, thanks!