Elevate Your Life 3/5 - Reclaiming Your Power

In part three of this five part series Fabienne talks you through how to Elevate Your Life by reclaiming your power. Power is commonly misunderstood so Fabienne will be breaking down what personal power is, and isn’t. Fabienne will share with you all the typical pitfalls of where and how we lose our power and help you better understand how you can become empowered in a few easy steps.

Transcript

Welcome to this five-part series on how to elevate your life with me,

Fabienne Sandoval,

Founder of the Elevate Coaching Programme,

Award-winning author of 28th Age of Power,

And creator of the Insight Timer 10-day course Learning How to Love.

In order to elevate your life,

We work with a simple set of five principles that serve to rise you to your fullest potential and create a long-lasting transformation.

Today,

I will be talking about the third principle,

Power.

Power is commonly misunderstood,

So I'll be breaking down what personal power is and what it isn't.

I will share with you all the typical pitfalls of where and how we lose our power,

And I will provide some important exercises and information to help you better understand how you can become empowered in a few easy steps.

In my own personal journey,

I found that I had been at a loss with my personal power,

Giving it away to everyone and anyone,

Not realising that my power was exactly that,

Mine.

This principle in the Elevate Programme is very important,

As it is the preparation we require in order to step into our purpose and live a more authentic life.

So what do I mean when I say personal power?

There is a common misunderstanding when I say this word,

Because most people believe that power is competition,

Winning,

Ambition,

Arrogance,

Ego,

Authority,

Control,

Manipulation.

None of these qualities are what true power really is,

Though.

Think to a time when you met someone who made you feel empowered.

What were their qualities?

I think you would have found that individual embodied a number of these qualities that are of true power.

Strength,

Confidence,

Calmness,

Honesty,

Integrity,

Authenticity,

Presence,

Grace and kindness.

I think we can agree these are qualities we can all aspire to bring into our lives.

So when I am speaking about personal power,

Let us remember what true power is.

True power comes from a place of love.

So how do we lose our power?

Well,

We lose our power through working at jobs we hate,

Giving ourselves to relationships we feel stuck in,

And friends that drain us.

Does this sound familiar?

Let's take a closer look at some of the common ways we lose our power.

Relationships,

Especially romantic ones,

Are probably one of the easiest ways for us to lose our power.

Relationships created from the vibration of love will always make you feel good,

Uplifted,

As though your cup has been filled up.

This will be a mutual feeling for both individuals.

Relationships created out of the vibration of fear will only suck the life force energy from us.

They will make us feel exhausted,

Drained and negative.

It is up to us to reclaim our power.

We get to choose how we engage with others and how we spend our time.

It's important for us to work through any challenges in this space.

Romantic connections,

Work colleagues and family members can be tricky to navigate,

But there are ways we can evolve these relationships for the better.

Now take a moment to think.

What relationships are depleting me of energy and or making me feel powerless?

Alternatively,

What relationships are giving you energy and uplifting you?

We also can lose our power through the outward consumption of technology and information.

There are so many sources we must evaluate when it comes to maintaining alignment with our source,

Our internal power.

Many of the modern day privileges we have can actually become harmful to us if we do not use them with care.

For example,

Our electronics are one of the key ways we lose power without even realizing it.

Phones,

Laptops,

Computers,

IPads,

Whatever it is you own,

Make sure you take regular vacations from them.

They suck the life out of us and can make us feel depressed and anxious.

It's important that we understand their harmful effects so we can maintain our power.

I personally noticed an increase in my inner power after not using a phone whilst I was away traveling.

It wasn't until I returned home that I began to notice how much I was using my mobile phone.

It was like a space filler.

I felt as though I was becoming part of a zombie smartphone apocalypse.

I felt disconnected from the world when staring at my phone and the reliance on these devices for everything drove me crazy.

Even over dinner,

It was impossible for people to go through the whole mill without checking their phones or worse,

Answering them.

Quality time with loved ones is difficult to maintain when we receive these constant notifications.

Our phones have become the number one addiction of the 21st century.

So I invite you to learn how to disconnect.

When we are using our phones,

We rarely notice how much time is passing.

So it's really good to have a reality check and see how much time we're actually using them.

When I discovered how much I use my mobile phone,

It really drove home to me that I needed to clear up this habit.

How often do you use your mobile phone?

How many hours is that a day?

A week?

A year?

And what about after 10 years?

Entertainment can provide a positive addition to our daily lives.

However,

Again,

This is a place we need to ensure we're mindful of.

All things hold an energy,

A subtle vibration.

What kind of vibration does your entertainment give?

I personally do not own a television.

I removed it a few years back and I honestly have to say it was one of the best decisions I ever made.

I had little involvement with my television at that point in my journey anyway,

And I found it of no real educational value.

So I replaced the television with musical instruments and chose to create in my spare time or read instead of drowning my thoughts in front of the television.

Soon after the TV was removed,

The energy in my home became extremely tranquil and many visitors commented on its peaceful and calming effect.

When encountering the television at other people's homes,

I was shocked to see how much advertising was being forced upon us.

Most of the advertisements do not even make sense.

Whilst reading No More Secrets,

No More Lies by Patricia Corey,

I noted these observations on the subject of advertising.

Observe in full consciousness the overt messages that appear in advertisements and their actual relationship to the products being sold.

Study and recall your impressions.

How do they make you feel?

What is the underlying message?

How are you being persuaded or manipulated?

And on what levels of consciousness do you respond?

Considering I do not own a TV,

It will probably not surprise you when I say I have not watched,

Listened or read the news in over eight years.

The news is there to scare us and to make us feel fear and devastation.

It is strongly manipulated,

As well as not really showing us the true news that is occurring in the world.

I have never engaged with the news and felt like I'm left with a positive,

Upbeat feeling.

This is a primary source that takes our power away on a regular basis.

So I encourage you to minimize the amount of time that you spend watching,

Reading or listening to the news.

I personally found that I don't need it,

And those that do watch the news will keep you updated.

I promise.

How many times do people start a conversation by saying,

Can you believe that so and so happened?

And they're usually referring to the news.

How about a challenge for 30 days?

30 days to see how you feel without the constant stream of negativity from the news.

In my early 20s,

I used to enjoy listening to hardcore heavy metal and rock music.

I love this kind of music and I grew up on it.

However,

I noted the negative side effects it had on me.

It had the power to make me feel heavy with emotion and sadness.

This is not the desired feeling when we are looking to reclaim our power,

Expound our consciousness and grow to our fullest potential.

I realized that my choice of music required the same awareness that I applied to my food.

I chose to be a mindful consumer of all things that would have an impact on my consciousness.

Therefore,

I ask that you be aware and notice how you feel when listening to music.

Ensure that you're only allowing positive healing sounds into your life.

These sounds have a far greater impact than we understand.

Listen to the music of the greats,

Music that makes you feel full and alive with energy.

Your relationship with money can also dramatically affect your personal power.

Why?

Because if you are not living in a state of abundance in all ways,

Health,

Love,

Joy,

Wealth,

Etc.

Then you are operating from a place of lack.

It's important for us to tap into what kind of mindset we have surrounding money.

So we can be sure that it is in alignment with our potential to be limitless.

What is your relationship with money?

How does money make you feel?

Do you have enough of it or are you always seeking for more?

Reclaiming our power.

We can gain our power back by doing what we love instead of what we think we should do.

How many times have you had to attend an event where you just really didn't want to go?

Well,

Those days are over.

You are no longer operating from a place of should.

Every time you receive an invitation to do anything,

Unless you can answer it with a hell yes,

Then you won't be going.

Because let's face it,

Life is short.

And right now you're giving away your time,

Energy and money to things that you probably couldn't care less about.

It's time to become conscious of our power and where we give it away.

The guiding rules for reclaiming your power start with one,

There will be no should in your vocabulary as you are being of free will.

Two,

When accepting an invitation,

The answer must be hell yes or else you won't be going.

I would like to invite you to take five or ten minutes today and find a quiet place to be still.

Once settled,

Journal on what things in your life empower you.

For example,

Practicing yoga,

Caring for your health,

Walking in nature,

Working on a passion project or meeting up with a positive friend.

Write down anything that makes you feel any of the loving power qualities I shared at the beginning of this talk.

This list will start to form your own personal power path.

And I want you to try to do at least one thing from the list each day to claim your power back.

Empowering vibrations.

Now we are conscious of where we need to apply our attention and how we can be susceptible to loss of power.

We can begin to focus on the loving vibrations that empower us to be better and grow each day.

Focus a little on each of these qualities each day and you will begin to encounter a shift.

I challenge you to choose one quality to focus on to bring forward your authentic self.

Love.

Love is absolute oneness.

Love is the epitome of who we really are.

First,

We must learn to love ourselves.

And once this practice is achieved,

Only then will we be ready to engage in a soul connection.

Self love is the foundation for understanding love and ultimately our power as individuals.

Practice love in all that you do.

Give and receive love.

See love in all that is.

Truth.

Speak your truth.

It's not often to see humans that are living in line with their truth,

But they are the most empowered of us.

Become one of them.

Speaking your truth is beyond powerful.

When we are honest and live in alignment with the voice inside,

Everything moves forward and success can be obtained because the soul is at work.

Follow your heart.

The intelligent mind can not always understand the interventions of the soul,

But it is here that our true purpose can be found.

Whatever steals your heart,

Do that.

When we operate from a place of I feel,

We know this is the heart at work.

When we use I think,

We are speaking from the mind.

Gratitude.

Express gratitude for the all that is.

We are extremely blessed to be alive and enjoy the wonders this world can provide us with.

Gratitude is a game changer and something that will change your life if you do it right.

When practicing this art,

Make sure you feel the energy flow of gratitude.

Kindness.

A little kindness does not go amiss.

There are opportunities for us to spread kindness every day.

A smile to the stranger in the street,

Picking up the rubbish that litters the floor of Mother Earth.

These are both good examples of the ways we can be kinder to the world.

It is important that we are also kind to ourselves.

When we are met with kindness and we operate from this place,

We can solve a number of problems.

We covered much information today and I may have even offered some information that would surprise you or you wouldn't necessarily view as disempowering.

I hope this plants a seed and you become mindful of what you are consuming on a daily basis.

I hope that you found this knowledge valuable in learning how to reclaim your power.

I will be back with part four of the video.

I hope that you found this knowledge valuable in learning how to reclaim your power.

I will be back with part four of this five part series where I share how to discover your life's purpose.

If you would like to learn more about my personal journey and how I transformed my life,

Then please log on to www.

Fabsthoughts.

Com to check out my book 28 The Age of Power or to discover more about my Elevate Coaching Program.

Thank you for listening.

Reviews

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This series is great. Thank you 🙏🏾 9/29/20

Great talk! I have found myself super depressed lately and when I get depressed I tend to eat the wrong foods and watch the wrong things, and just dive in deeper, I don't know why I do that but just recently I've made a decision to try to feel better by not participating in some of these things, I know it's just common sense really and I've known all this stuff forever I'm not a youngster by any stretch of the imagination...Anyway thanks for a great talk

I liked this packed episode a lot. I'll come back with my thoughts after a couple more listens!

Thank you. I'm working on speaking my truth . I'm not sure what it really means.
Blessings to you 💕

I am listening to each of your talks and this one in particular has very much resonated with me and I intend to actively work on regaining my self empowerment through implementing the ongoing positive changes as you have suggested. Thanks so much and I look forward to your next talk. Much Shanti to you 🧘🙂🙏💖✌️🍀

short analysis: we should be focusing on the relations, work and daily habits that eleviate us.
we should avoid those who do not eleviate us or rather diminishes our ability to love.
we should be saying "hell yay" or "no" to any opportunities we recieve. middle way is not the way, anyways.