(Wk 15) Range Part 3 Of 4 - Unleash Your Peace

Here's an easy way to explain expansion. On the third day of our discussion about Range Theory, we examine the effects of extending our range of our relationships.

Transcript

Hello and welcome back to Unleash Your Peace.

My name is Ellie Shouja.

I am your host.

I'm a Positive Mindset Coach,

A personal transformation expert,

A deliberate creator,

And I am your peace trainer.

This podcast over here,

Peace Unleashed,

Is your peace training.

Every single week,

We dive into a different aspect about the internal world,

And we do that over the course of five episodes published Monday through Friday.

The episodes are super short.

They're about 10 minutes each.

Their entire purpose is to take you inward for a few minutes first thing in the morning.

That way,

You can start your day right.

You can go inward,

And that is where your peace,

Your love,

Your creativity,

Your expansion,

Everything resides inside of you.

When you live from that place of joy and peace and connectedness to that non-physical part of you,

That infinite beingness of you that holds all of your potential,

You don't just incrementally improve the quality of your life.

You actually exponentially innovate every aspect of your experiences on this physical plane.

You become whole.

You become a powerful creator.

You live your best life,

And best of all,

You inspire everyone around you to do the same thing.

That's my wish for you,

For me,

For everybody that you and I come in contact with.

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This week on this podcast,

We're talking about a theory that I came up with a few years ago talking to a friend of mine,

And that is the range theory.

What is your range?

This theory has really put a lot of stuff into perspective for me.

I hope it's doing that for you as well as I'm sharing it.

The whole idea of that is that our experiences allow us to expand our range,

Our individual range.

The bigger our range is,

The more we are able to experience the world from a place of understanding,

From a place of acceptance.

When we do that,

We have more pleasant experiences in the world.

Now,

When we don't accept our own range,

What falls within us,

What is part of us,

We tend to create a lot of suffering for ourselves because we tend to create a lot of judgment towards ourselves.

We tend to create a lot of shame and guilt around the pieces of ourselves that we're not accepting,

Which we then externalize into judgment onto other people.

That's how we get all these stances that are separatists,

Those people,

This,

These people,

That.

That's where they come from.

That comes from you not accepting a piece of yourself and then turning that shame of not accepting yourself into judgment towards somebody else.

If you were to accept your full,

Beautiful range,

Whatever that is,

I guarantee you it is going to make you a more accepting person in the world.

What does your range consist of?

Can you accept it?

Can you see it as beautiful because it is part of what you are?

It's part of where you can relate to people because the bigger your range,

The more varied the experiences that you are able to experience within yourself and you can understand and have acceptance of within yourself,

You are going to connect with other people at a much,

Much deeper level.

That's essentially the range theory.

Now we've been kind of using Mariah Carey as an example,

As a metaphor to understand what this actually means.

Because other people's ranges usually fall within her range,

She can sing with anyone and have a really good time.

That's essentially what we want to do on an individual level.

We want to have our range be so large that whoever we come in contact with,

Their range falls within our range and therefore we are going to have a good time.

We're going to have full acceptance of them and they're going to have a really good time interacting with us.

Now what happens if we meet people out and about in the world whose range is not within ours?

It's so far outside of our hours that we have no understanding of where they actually are,

Who they are.

They just seem like they're from a different planet altogether.

The way they think,

The way they dress,

The way they live their lives,

The food they eat,

Everything is just outside of what you know.

It's completely outside of your range.

So what happens in that situation is very,

Very crucial because a lot of people in our world in this day and age,

What they'll do is they'll say,

Well,

I don't understand that person.

Therefore their way is somehow wrong.

Their way is not the right way to live.

I mean,

We've seen that with people coming and invading and taking over all of the Americas,

Right?

We had people coming and calling the native Americans savages because they did not understand their way of life.

They didn't understand their language.

They didn't understand,

You know,

How these people could live the way they did because their way of life was completely outside of the range of the Europeans who came here.

So what happens when you encounter these situations in your life,

When you go into a place,

Into a space,

Into a country,

Into a company,

Into a home of somebody and their way of life is completely outside of what you know and what you're comfortable with.

What you found yourself in in that situation is a beautiful opportunity because unlike our voice where we don't have a lot of control over where our range is,

We can't actually extend our range too much.

So your voice is something where it's very difficult to extend your range.

However,

On a personal level,

In our personal lives,

In our personalities,

In our beingness,

Our range,

We can extend on a daily basis.

In fact,

I would argue that the entire expansion of our experiences here is rooted in our ability to extend our range.

And how do we extend our range?

We do it in the same way that we did for ourselves.

What we did for ourselves to accept all of what we are in order to live our full range,

We do that with other people.

So we say,

I don't understand this individual's way of life right now,

But I would like to.

I would like to absorb their way of life into my range.

And the way I do that,

The way you do that is by first of all,

Accepting them,

Accepting that their way of life is not a wrong way.

You don't want to put any judgment on it.

The moment you put judgment on it,

You have separated yourself from them.

So by accepting them and being curious about them and being observant and seeing kind of like the underlying connection between you that you are both human,

That they do eat food that might be different food than yours,

But they do eat food.

They have families like you have families.

So you see the similarities and then wherever you are not similar,

You try to understand how they do it.

And you ask questions,

You kind of observe and absorb whatever there is into yourself.

It's like you're learning a new language.

And that actually is a really great example.

The example of learning a language is a really great example because what happens when you learn a new language,

You just extended your range for communication.

If you learn German,

For example,

Now when you go to Germany,

You can communicate with people on a deeper level than if you didn't speak any German.

Whatever language you learn,

You have extended your range for communication.

And if we approach getting to know people in this way,

Getting to know people and cultures and experiences that are outside of our immediate comfort zone,

If we approach that in this open way that I am learning a new way of communicating a new language,

I'm extending my personal range so that I can have more fun ultimately in this world.

Because the more I extend my range,

The more people I can connect with,

The more experiences I can have in this world,

The more fun I can have,

The more my life and possibilities open up.

So if you look at extending your range in that way,

And if you look at every interaction that makes you uncomfortable in that way,

That really changes the way we live our lives.

It has changed my way of living my life because if I am doing an activity that I have never done before,

It's a sport,

It's a dance,

It's a food,

It's a hike,

It's a person,

Whatever it is,

I've never done it before.

I have no frame of reference,

But I want to bring it into my range.

Now for those of you who are in the creative field,

Those writers,

Painters,

Sculptors,

People who create things,

Musicians,

Extending your range also has this other effect,

Which it makes your art more rich.

Designers,

Advertisers,

People who deal with communicating concepts and ideas,

If your range is broader,

It's larger,

You're going to be able to communicate on a deeper level because you're connecting with everyone around you on a deeper level.

You're not connecting with them on the level of what separates you.

You are looking for connectivity on the level of what actually unites you.

And the greater your range,

The more ways you can be united with everything around you,

The easier it becomes to connect with everyone and every experience and everything around you.

It actually turns life into this really rich tapestry of experiences where every experience becomes pleasurable rather than stress invoking or uncomfortable.

So I hope this theory,

This range theory is starting to make a little bit more sense to you.

If you have questions about it,

Do send them my way through Instagram by private messaging me on there,

Or you can send messages to me through my website,

Peaceonleash.

Com.

While you're on peaceonleash.

Com,

Check out on the front page,

There's a link.

You can sign up for the live online trainings that I am hosting next week.

I am doing two of them,

One on Wednesday,

One on Thursday,

The 14th and the 15th.

And their sole purpose is to help you forgive past trauma.

So pick the date that works best for you.

Be on that call.

I'm going to share a lot of invaluable information with you that I hope you can take right away and use to heal whatever wounds you have within you that are holding you back.

My wish for you,

It truly,

Truly,

Truly is for you to live your best life.

That is why I do this work.

And I hope that this is unlocking that possibility for you.

So until tomorrow,

When we come back and dive into a different aspect of this range theory,

I wish you a peaceful day.

Reviews

I find range theory both fascinating and challenging. I think it could also be confidence boosting. Thanks

Thank you Ellie, I'm enjoying this topic, the range idea is new to me but it makes a lot of sense 💜x