(Wk 10) Fear Part 4 Of 5 - Unleash Your Peace

Why should we replace walls with boundaries? On the fourth day of our discussion about Fear, we talk about one of the many damaging manifestations of fear: walls. We build walls around our hearts, our selves, our homes, our cities, and our countries because of fear. But what’s the alternative?

The alternative that we discuss is replacing all these walls with boundaries, which are rooted in love rather than fear. Walls keep people out, while boundaries show people where you stand in relation to them so they can know how to connect with you. Walls are built out of fear, boundaries are a natural byproduct of lov

Transcript

Hello and welcome back to Unleash Your Peace.

My name is Elly Shouja.

I am your host.

I am a positive mindset coach,

A personal transformation expert.

I'm a deliberate creator and your peace trainer.

And this podcast over here,

Unleash Your Peace,

Is your peace training.

Every single week,

We dive into a different aspect of the internal world.

We do that over the course of five episodes released Monday through Friday.

The episodes are super short,

Sweet,

Bite-sized.

They take you inside yourself where your lasting internal peace resides.

We unlock that peace.

We unleash it so that you can live your best life yet.

When we live from this place of joy and peace and connectedness to that internal,

Infinite,

Non-physical beingness of us,

We don't just incrementally improve the quality of our lives.

We exponentially innovate every aspect of our experiences on this physical plane.

We level up in a major way.

We become whole.

We become our potential selves,

That powerful creator that resides within us.

And we become uplifters in our communities,

In our families.

That trickles out into the world.

And next thing we know,

We're lifting up the world and we're leveling up as a human race.

That is my wish for you,

For myself,

For every person on this planet.

Now this week we're talking about fear,

Fear,

This thing that keeps us shackled to mediocrity,

To things that we are not,

To this world.

It keeps us away from what we are,

Which is this infinite beingness,

This infinite potential.

Literally everything that you can dream of,

You can be,

You can have,

You can do.

That is your nature.

That's why you're here.

You are a powerful creator.

You're here to create.

That is your purpose.

And what are you supposed to create?

It really doesn't matter as long as you feel satisfied,

You feel happy,

You feel joyful.

It can be anything from little figurines to skyscrapers.

It can be something revolutionary and it can be something beautiful that you keep in your apartment.

It doesn't matter if it makes you happy,

If you feel satisfied,

If you feel joy and happiness and you feel love in the process of it,

That is your purpose.

Our purpose always feels good.

Now fear on the other hand wants us to believe that we can't have what we want,

That things are lined up against us instead of for us,

That we are not worthy,

That we are mediocre,

That people are not going to like what we have to say and what we have to create and what we have to share.

And we are going to live these long lives of insignificance and we're going to grow old and we're going to not be remembered and we're going to die painful deaths.

And in the end,

Our existence here will have meant nothing.

That is what your ego will have you believe,

That is what fear will have you believe and nothing could be farther from the truth of what you are and why you are here.

Now today I want to talk about one specific manifestation of fear and that is the walls that we build around ourselves.

When we are living from a place of fear,

We are constantly and continuously building walls around ourselves.

We build walls around our hearts because we are afraid of love,

We're afraid of never finding love and we're afraid of losing love and we are afraid of love itself and so we build walls around our hearts.

We build walls around ourselves because we are afraid of criticism,

We're afraid of other people,

What they might think about us,

We're afraid of losing what we already have and we're afraid of not receiving the relationships that we desire,

That we long for.

We build walls around our homes because we are afraid someone's going to break in and they're going to steal everything we find valuable in our lives.

We are afraid of those outside,

Of the people walking around,

We're afraid of our neighbors,

We're afraid of strangers,

We're afraid of letting people into our homes because we don't know who they are.

And now we want to build walls around our countries because we are afraid of what is on the other side,

We're afraid of what might happen if these people on the other side break in,

Come into our country,

We're afraid of what happens if they take our jobs,

Take what is ours and not contribute in the right way,

Not speak our language,

Look different,

Believe different things and eat different foods.

We are afraid and so we build walls.

We build walls on the micro level because of fear and we build walls on the macro level because of fear.

Now you might turn around and say to me,

Ellie,

I understand this utopia that you have created in your mind.

You know,

Nobody should have walls around anything and we should just live and love peace and harmony all the time.

But the reality is we need to define these borders.

We need something that shows people where we stand.

And I say in response to that,

You don't need walls,

You need boundaries.

Boundaries are not walls.

Walls are built with fear and they are built to keep others out.

Boundaries are created out of love for myself first and out of love for the other people,

For people around me.

So what does that mean?

That means I can always extend love from where I am.

However,

If somebody is behaving in very hurtful ways and they are saying and doing things that are meant to harm or hurt me,

I can continue to love them.

I can continue to love myself and I can simultaneously know in my heart that unconditional love is not unconditional permission.

And I can say,

I love you,

My sister.

I love you,

My brother.

I'm not going to stand here in front of you where you can throw whatever you can find at me.

I am going to now go over here.

I am going to step out of this situation.

Doesn't change the fact that I have love in my heart only for you and I am not judging in any way.

All I'm doing is I'm acknowledging that in this moment you are,

This person is not connected to the source of love that they are.

And I am experiencing compassion for that disconnect.

I'm extremely sad and sorry that you are separated because I know that creates a lot of suffering for you.

And I hope that you find your way back to the light,

Back to your source of love.

And when that happens,

I will be over here waiting for you steadfastly in a place of love.

And so unconditional love is not unconditional permission.

I can create a boundary for myself with love without drawing walls,

Without building walls around where I stand right now.

Walls cannot be penetrated whether with love or with hate.

It doesn't matter what you throw at a wall.

It's going to get stuck on the other side of it.

However,

Boundaries are really interesting because they are made out of love.

They become these invisible shields around you and what they keep out is fear.

What they let in is love.

So when something comes towards you with the intention of love,

With the connectedness of love,

You can allow it to come in and become a part of what you are,

Part of your experience.

However,

When something is thrown at you with the intentionality of fear,

With the fuel of fear behind it,

That thing is kept out.

It is the shield that just keeps you protected.

And another thing that boundaries do is they show people where you stand in relation to them.

When you see yourself through the lens of love and you connect to yourself with love,

You cannot help but to create boundaries around you that show people where you stand.

That's what boundaries do.

They show people where you are at any given time so that they know how they can connect with you.

When you draw walls around yourself,

However,

You are hiding who you are.

You are hiding where you are from people.

They don't know where you are,

So they have to go to extreme measures to break through or another way they deal with you is they ignore you completely.

And that in and of itself strengthens the reason you built the walls in the first place.

So today I want to simply leave you with that,

That boundaries are not walls,

That walls are rooted in fear.

They are built out of fear.

So don't build walls around yourself.

And if you have walls around your heart,

Around yourself,

Around your home,

And you want walls around your country,

Really take a look at those underlying fears that you are feeding with these walls and see if you can soften them up and see if you can melt them away all the way.

And the way you do that is by connecting to your actual essence,

To your source of love.

When you connect to your beingness,

Which is made of love,

As we talked about last week,

You will not feel a need for having any walls at all.

You will never feel a need for having walls if you are connected to your true essence of love.

When you do that,

You naturally start defining the boundaries around yourself,

Which make it very safe for people to interact with you because they know exactly where you stand.

They can see you through this invisible shield and they know how to connect with you and you know how to connect with them.

So until tomorrow,

When we come back and we conclude this really incredibly fascinating topic of fear,

I hope you check out Instagram.

Com and you look into and read through some of those love notes that I share with you.

Those come directly from my heart.

They are meant to uplift and inspire you.

I hope that is what they do.

And if you want to work with me at any capacity,

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Go and check it out sooner rather than later because the number of those packages is limited.

And until tomorrow,

When we come back and conclude our dialogue about fear,

I wish you a peaceful day.

Reviews

I really like this topic. The idea of setting boarders not raising walls.
Nice ❤

Another powerful, clear & concise talk about fear and the walls we create. 👍 And YES, to Boundaries! So important to have, boundaries with an open heart! Not walls.
Thank you, really helpful talk 🙏✨☮💛