(Wk 9) Love Part 4 Of 5 - Unleash Your Peace

What to do if you can't find love?

On the fourth day of our conversation about this beautiful topic of Love, we dive into the not-so-pretty side of this topic as we venture into the land of heart breaks and divorces. In a world that increasingly values couplings rooted in love connections rather than convenience or practicalities, we are encountering a culture in which many find themselves forever in search of love, and never quite finding it. In today’s episode, we discuss the root cause of this epidemic, and we introduce an obvious solution that may be difficult to implement but can lead to magical results.

Transcript

Hello and welcome back to Unleash Your Peace.

My name is Ellie Shoja.

I am your host.

I am a positive mindset coach,

A personal transformation expert.

I'm a deliberate creator and I am your peace trainer.

And this podcast over here,

Unleash Your Peace,

Is your peace training.

Every single week,

We dive into a different aspect of the internal world and we do that through five episodes released Monday through Friday.

The reason we do this is because when we turn this lens inward,

We start going into that infinite internal space that is within us.

We start shedding all of this weight of the unwanted pain that we are carrying with us and we find lasting internal peace beneath all of that rubble.

And we live our best lives yet.

When we live from this place of joy and peace and connectedness to that infinite beingness of us,

We don't just incrementally improve the quality of our lives,

We actually exponentially innovate every aspect of our experiences on this physical plane.

We level up in a major way,

We become whole,

We become powerful creators and we become uplifters in our families and in our communities and that trickles out into the world.

And next thing you know,

We're leveling up as a society,

As a human race.

And that is my wish for all of us,

Quite frankly.

Now,

This week we have a really beautiful topic.

We're talking about love,

The nature of love.

Love is essentially what you are made of.

It's what that greater expanded part of you,

That infinite consciousness part of you is made of.

It's a substance of our being,

Of our soul,

Of our spirit.

When we connect with love in these bodies,

We actually connect with that intelligence that observed us and this universe into existence.

How powerful is that?

So no wonder that we achieve so many beautiful things and leaps in advancement whenever we are in this inspired state of being.

But what happens when we are heartbroken,

When we're going through a breakup?

Right now we live in a society where those days of these really long marriages are pretty much gone.

We have more than 50% divorce rate.

In addition to all the divorces,

There are so many people who don't get married and there are so many people who break up.

I myself am divorced once,

I am broken up many times and currently single and many of my girlfriends are in the same position.

And that is because we want to marry,

We want to couple with love.

We want a relationship that is fulfilling.

We want that mind,

Body,

Spirit connection with our partner and we want a true partnership with them that is based on mutual respect and love and compassion,

Admiration and just this desire to grow and evolve together.

Now yesterday we talked about unconditional love and we talked about how children are so connected to their true nature of unconditional love that they're able to offer that same love to us.

A child literally does not care how much money you make,

What you look like,

How old you are,

What the body shape you have is.

It does not care about any details because they see you as a perfect being and in the eyes of a child,

We are all perfect,

Made of perfection and returning to perfection.

It is only when we start separating from our true nature of love that we start seeing people with the flaws that we project onto them.

So we start having ideas about what they should look like,

What they should sound like,

What they should think about,

How they should think about those things and if they don't look or do or say or think what we deem to be intelligent or good or pious or noble or respectable,

Whatever we choose to put credence on,

We somehow see those people as less than.

We start differentiating between people around us so that love becomes less and less unconditional and it becomes more and more critical.

We can learn something really important in that little example.

Our capacity to receive love is dictated by the type of love that we're able to offer and our capacity to offer love is dictated directly by our idea of what we are.

If we think that we are unlovable,

If we think that we are imperfect,

If we think that we are unworthy of love,

If we think that we don't deserve love,

If we think that we have done too many wrong or bad or shameful things in order to justify love,

Then we're not going to be able to offer a pure love to someone else.

We're going to be critical in that love.

We're going to be holding back from what we offer and that offer that we give to the world is directly related to what we are able to then receive.

All love that we receive is love that is coming to us through our source.

It is reflected to us by the world.

And if you think back at your own childhood,

You can identify moments in which you felt so bad that you naturally started thinking that there's a problem with you.

All children internalize their parents' divorces,

For example,

I thought my parents' divorce was completely my fault for most of my life.

I felt so incredibly unlovable into my adulthood that I felt like I had to completely change myself every time I was in a relationship just to justify somebody caring about me.

I felt like if I was myself,

Somehow they would find out how unlovable I actually am and then they would leave me.

So as children,

When we are taught that our way is wrong and somehow we internalize the things that are going on around us,

We learn to pinch ourselves off from that source of love that we are.

Now all of that contrast ultimately is for our benefit.

So all of that contrast that I experienced in my childhood was for my benefit because it allowed me to expand so incredibly that I would not have been able to expand in this way had I remained in that state of complete love all the time my entire life.

So I'm not at all complaining.

As adults,

Once we wake up,

We have an opportunity to reestablish this connection with our source and remember that we are perfect,

That we are perfect love.

Basically develop and rebuild this relationship so that we can start offering this unconditional love to ourselves and to the world and we can start receiving it from the world.

And this is when,

By the way,

All of your dreams start coming true.

When you connect to that source that is you,

Your heart,

The love that flows through you,

The source of love that is your inner being,

Your consciousness,

Your greater expanded part,

When you connect with that,

Then you're able to offer that vibration into the world and guess what?

Your perfect partner,

The person who is just as healthily living from that place of love is going to find you.

You don't have to do anything for this person to come into your life.

And at the same token,

If you are not living from this place,

If you're living from a place of pain and separation and feeling guilt and shame and just feeling unworthy of love,

You don't want a partner right now.

You don't want anyone to come into your life right now until you no longer feel this way because law of attraction is going to ensure that you are going to find somebody who reflects this same vibration to you.

And that is just more heartache down the road.

Why deal with that?

Find the love within yourself and that is going to help you attract somebody who has found the love within themselves and you can build something truly beautiful on that foundation.

So I will leave you with this today and if you have any questions,

You're welcome to reach out to me through my website,

It's peaceunleashed.

Com and you can also find Peace Unleashed on Instagram for your daily love notes.

I send those love notes out every day with the hope that it brightens your day.

They bring you a little bit of inspiration and something uplifting to look forward to every single day.

And I have a really cool announcement as well.

I've put together a forgiveness workshop.

I've been working for the last few weeks on this since our forgiveness week.

I was actually working on a different workshop but I received so many wonderful questions and so much feedback on the forgiveness week that we had together that I had to shift gears and create this course first.

It's going to be available on the website within the next few days and I'm offering some really cool bonuses with that.

It'll be the first time I'm offering an online course.

So because of that,

I have some perks built into this course that probably will go away in the future but I want to make sure that everybody who signs up this time around gets all of the support they need to get all of their questions answered.

The course is going to start on October 20th and if you have any questions about it after you check out the page on it,

The informational page on it,

Do send me an email and I love getting in dialogue with you if you are considering it.

So until tomorrow when we come back and conclude this topic of love,

I wish you a peace-filled day.

Reviews

Excellent points, thanks Ellie 💜 x