(Wk 7) Forgiveness Part 2 Of 5 - Unleash Your Peace

The only way to forgive.

In the second episode of our discussion about forgiveness, we talk about the only true way to forgive. By applying love and compassion to even the toughest situations, we can turn a sin into a mistake, and then transform that mistake into a wrongdoing that never happened. True forgiveness has taken place when we realize that there is nothing for us to forgive at all.

Transcript

Hello and welcome back to Unleash Your Peace.

My name is Elly Sowja.

I am your host.

I'm a positive mindset coach,

A personal transformation expert.

I am a deliberate creator and your peace trainer.

Now this podcast right here,

Unleash Your Peace,

Is a peace training of sorts because every single week we pick a different topic about the internal world and we dive into it through five consecutive episodes that I then release Monday through Friday.

And what happens when we look inward is so interesting.

We actually start shedding the weight of all of the unwanted pain we carry with us.

When we do that,

We find within ourselves lasting internal peace and we live our best lives yet.

When we live from this place of peace and joy and connectedness to the non-physical,

To the greater,

Grander,

Infinite part of ourselves,

We don't just incrementally improve the quality of our lives.

We actually exponentially innovate every aspect of our experiences on this physical plane.

We level up in a major way.

We become our whole beautiful selves.

We live really authentic lives and we essentially live our dreams.

And that is my wish for you to live your dream so that you can inspire those around you.

Now this week we have a huge,

Huge topic.

Mastering the subject of our topic today is at the core of your freedom.

This is how you free yourself of all pain.

And the topic is forgiveness.

Such a big,

Important thing in our lives.

And most people don't know how to forgive because most people don't actually know what forgiveness is and what is actually forgiveness.

What happens when you execute forgiveness and you forgive fully?

What happens is that that event that hurt you so badly,

That event that you interpreted as the end of the world,

As the thing that you cannot let go of,

That you cannot release,

The thing that you carry with you all this time,

The thing that justifies all of this self-pity and damage and hurt to yourself,

That event you are holding yourself hostage with,

That event that you are using as an excuse to imprison yourself,

To tie your own arms and legs up,

To tether yourself to your pain,

When you actually forgive fully,

That event dissolves.

It literally becomes nothing because that event,

That act turns from a sin into a mistake.

And everybody makes mistakes.

And from a mistake,

It's a tiny little hop for it to turn into a wrongdoing.

That never happened.

And therefore there is nothing to be forgiven.

And when you have that feeling about that event,

That there is nothing to be forgiven,

You have forgiven that event.

Now how do you do that?

Because some of you are thinking right now,

There is no way I can ever do this,

Execute this type of forgiveness fully about this thing that happened.

Now let's take that example from yesterday.

I punch you in the stomach.

I punch you in the stomach and you're hurt and you can create any story you want around that.

Somehow you deserved it,

That somehow I'm a complete bitch,

That I always do these things to you,

These things always happen to you and blah,

Blah,

Blah.

You can make up any story you want around that event.

It's an event that happened and it's now over.

You can choose to carry it with you,

But how do you put it down?

How do you not carry it with you in the future?

The way you release that event and let it go is by applying love and compassion.

You look at that event,

At that act through a lens of love and compassion and your inner dialogue literally changes from Ellie is such a bitch,

These things always happen to me,

I don't know why she hates me.

It changes to,

I wonder what is happening for Ellie that she feels like she has to do something that is so hurtful because I understand,

I know that somebody who is not hurting is not going to hurt someone else.

She must really be hurting very deeply to want to inflict this kind of pain on somebody else and I wonder what is happening for her.

Do you see how that changes your view,

Not only of me,

But also of yourself?

Now you're not thinking you are the victim of an act that I perpetrated upon you.

What you're thinking now is that I am hurting and that punch was actually an act,

A cry for help because I am hurting and I'm inflicting pain on you so you're able to see my act a little bit more clearly.

Now if you look at this act through that lens,

You might find stuff out about me that you didn't know before.

You might find out maybe that my father was abusive,

That I was beaten up,

That I'm dealing with a situation where I don't have any control over the situation,

I feel trapped and I'm turning that frustration that I have about my own life,

The pain that I'm carrying about my own life,

I am turning that into anger and then I'm focusing that anger upon you and I am turning it into an act of violence,

Of attack.

You're able to see the pain behind my act just by applying love and compassion.

Now how many situations in your life can you do this with and you can actually see the situation clearly instead of feeling attacked or unworthy or like a victim or some other thought that makes you feel shitty about yourself.

This is how we heal is through love and compassion because what love and compassion does,

It lets us see the situation differently.

It lets us see that act through a lens that is not self-deprecating and it's also not deprecating towards somebody else.

So we see the innocence in the act.

So now if you're able to see it that way,

You might realize that what I did to you was not a sin,

It was a mistake and my mistake was rooted in my own pain because every act is either an expression of love or it's a cry for love.

So my act was a cry for love and when you see that,

You realize that there was really no wrongdoing done.

There's no wrongdoing to be forgiven and in that moment,

Forgiveness has completely taken place because in that moment,

You are no longer turning this act into a story to carry and use for your own suffering.

You're just letting it go and when you let it go,

You free yourself of it.

Now I will leave you with that today because that is a huge,

Huge piece and I do urge you as you go throughout your day,

Really pay attention to where you can apply love and compassion to a situation to see it differently and see it through the eyes of your source because your source,

Your inner being always sees everything through love and compassion and when you do this,

When you apply love and compassion to a situation,

You're actually shifting your viewpoint from your human side,

From your human perspective into the perspective of your inner being.

You're actually widening your vision when you do this.

So see how often you can do this throughout the day and see how differently you'll interact with the world when you see it,

When you start seeing it from this perspective of hurt people will hurt people and nothing is about you.

It's not personal.

When somebody does something hurtful to you,

It's not personal.

It's not something they are doing to you.

They're expressing their own pain and it is a cry for help.

It's a cry for love and when you start seeing that in the world around you,

It really opens up the world.

It makes it so much easier to live within it and to be happy within it and to remain peaceful and grounded within it.

And I would love to hear your feedback.

I would love to hear what comes up for you throughout the day.

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Send me a message about that.

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While you're there,

Enjoy the love notes that I share with you.

Those are my love notes,

My messages of inspiration for you and the entire purpose of them is to uplift you and I hope they do.

So until tomorrow when we come back and dive a little bit deeper still,

I wish you a peaceful day.

Reviews

this was so helpful in making me understand the other person's reasons behind what they did making it easier for me to forgive them.