The Secret To Manifesting

Learn the three essential components to manifesting what we really desire. I speak with Integrative Wellness and Life Coach, Holistic EFT Practitioner, and Reiki Master, Cristen R. Grajeda, as she guides us on a transformative journey that began with her unsuccessfully "working too hard" to achieve her goals in life to the shifts she made which allowed her to co-create with the universe and start receiving her desires effortlessly.

Transcript

I want you to meet Kristen.

Kristen is a life coach.

She's an integrative wellness life coach.

She is a holistic EFT practitioner and a Reiki master.

And she has a story that unfolds in many layers and contains some incredible lessons that we could all do with when trying to receive what it is we're truly wanting in life.

Kristen's story begins with a conversation that we were having about a job that she wanted to receive.

It was a promotion and she did receive it.

And I congratulated her and was extremely happy for her.

But what surprised me and when I think about it really shouldn't have surprised me.

I think I should say what woke me up was after we chatted,

She sent me a message and she showed me a picture of her Google calendar.

And on her Google calendar,

She had written the start date for her new position.

And it was that day.

I knew that there was something really valuable about that.

And what seemed like a quick and simple message I wanted to dive into because I knew it was a reminder that I needed and that you might also.

So what can we learn about this divine appointment,

This date with destiny,

A moment on the calendar that she put weeks or months before the dream was realized?

Was she inviting the universe to fill in the details?

Or was she declaring that this was the day she was going to receive what she wanted?

How did she have so much faith?

I asked Kristen to talk about the significance behind putting a date on the calendar for what she wanted to receive.

I mean,

It almost feels illogical.

You ask for something and it's completely outside of your control whether you can receive it or not.

But yet you mark the date on the calendar for when it will appear.

And then it does?

I had to know more about this.

So listen in to the wonderfully wise words and incredible story that Kristen shares so generously with us today.

So there are so many facets to this little gem of a story.

I guess on the surface,

It just seems like a fun little story about manifestation.

But in all honesty,

It's a lot deeper than that.

And I'd like to share a little bit about what brought me to this point to be able to just do the little simple things that contribute to something much larger in my life.

So I had marked a date on my calendar,

Which I suppose is not really a big deal because I put everything on my calendar.

I color coded,

Just,

You know,

It helps me stay organized.

So that was a simple act,

Marking a date on my calendar.

And when I reflect back about the actual moment that I decided to put this particular thing on my calendar,

At the time I could honestly say it didn't feel like a big deal.

I just chose a date,

Plugged it in,

Saved,

Color coded it,

Done.

And I never really thought about that much doing that little thing after that.

But like I said,

There's like so many layers to this small action that I don't even think that I could possibly communicate everything that led up to this seemingly common task.

But I do want to share that this story is really about a very important and a very long life lesson that I had to learn over and over again.

And maybe this is something that just comes easily to some,

But I admit it did not come easily to me because the bigger picture here is this is about me finally being able to live my life from a place of surrender.

And this is huge for someone like me.

So to give you a little backstory here,

And I think this will help put some things in perspective.

My former self,

She thought she could control everything.

And actually,

She felt like she needed to control everything.

Since I could remember,

And it played out in so many ways that my life working harder,

Getting stronger,

Studying more,

Being better,

Just fight for it.

It was this real masculine dominant energy,

Me against the world type of mentality.

And the more I faced life from this mindset,

Which is all I knew,

It was as if I was met with more and more resistance.

It was like I was constantly swimming upstream,

Which fueled me to work harder and get stronger and study more.

It was like it was a vicious cycle.

And then as I became a young adult,

It literally felt that all things in my life that I valued,

Which made it very difficult,

Things like a loving marriage,

My health,

A rewarding career,

It was like they were just out of my reach,

No matter how hard I tried.

So what did I do?

The only thing I knew,

And I just tried harder.

And I tried until my whole world came crashing down in March 2010.

My mom passed away eight weeks after her cancer diagnosis.

And during that time,

I learned so hard,

So fast that I could not control everything,

No matter how hard I tried.

And that truly rocked my world.

And just knowing was not enough.

I didn't even know where to begin.

I didn't even know how to try to live my life.

When you're in that place where the rug was just pulled out from underneath you and you're just falling into this bottomless pit.

And now as I reflect on my old self,

With love and without judgment,

It almost feels silly to think about how I truly believe that I had the capacity to dictate my life.

And it was so exhausting,

But I just didn't know another way.

Like I said,

Maybe this other way is so simple for others,

But I really had,

I just did not have the ability to wrap my head around how to do things differently than what I had been.

And then soon after that,

Everything broke.

My body,

My relationships,

My spirit,

I was an empty shell for a very long time.

But of course,

Even though it was broken,

I just knew I had to do something.

So if my first action was doing again,

My masculine energy,

What can I do?

I have to figure this out.

And then my journey began.

I read,

I studied,

I immersed myself in every single physical,

Mental,

Emotional,

Spiritual,

Metaphysical,

You name it,

Any topic I came across to just help foster my healing process.

And I was in a position that I really truly felt that I would get anything a try.

I just knew it couldn't hurt.

And I can give myself some credit that one thing I'm pretty good at is consistency.

When I put my mind to something,

I follow through.

And I really think that's just because I treat everything like a science experiment,

Especially when I'm doing things myself.

I track it for 30 days,

60 days,

90 days,

Just truly try to quantify everything that I'm doing and just study myself through processes.

And that's what I just started doing.

I just started doing the things.

Okay,

So to stay on course with this particular example of my calendar,

Which I started off with,

But just had to give you a little bit of insight.

And I promise I will circle back to the calendar.

But for a long time,

Everyone knows about law of attraction,

Law of vibration,

Manifestation.

And I really felt like I understood intellectually these things.

And I had heard by this time and I read tons of really cool stories about the experiences of others,

But I really wasn't sure how this was going to play out in my life.

So I just kind of started to make this conscious effort to practice.

And going back to my point of being consistent,

I just did the little things.

I did little things every day that were just going through the motions I felt like at the time.

But most of my energy had to be channeled into just breaking old habits of the old habit of always having to be in my head,

The need to be in control,

Of course,

And just knowing the what,

The when,

How,

And all the logic behind everything.

And that was a pretty big undertaking.

And really what it came down to is releasing attachment.

And this is really simple,

But it's not easy.

At least for me,

It wasn't.

But I just kept at it,

Releasing the need for control,

Releasing the attachment to a specific outcome,

The need to plan things accordingly,

Just releasing a lot of this old programming.

Okay,

So the calendar date.

That was part of a specific intention I had set.

I really decided at one point during this process that I'm going to release limiting beliefs I had around abundance.

And specifically,

I started to look at my resistance to money.

So my specific intention was to make a lot more money doing what I love.

I had to release some old limiting beliefs.

And I had done all the work.

I worked through all sorts of things.

And an opportunity presented itself,

An opportunity to make a lot more money doing what I love.

Great.

That in itself felt like a miracle.

So again,

I did my part to the best of my ability.

And then I decided to enter into my calendar,

My start date,

To just tell the universe that I'm ready.

This is it.

And again,

That's something my old self would have never been able to do.

I just let it go.

I truly let it go.

Entered into my calendar.

This is it.

Done.

And that went about my life for a couple months.

So my special formula,

Again,

Through repetition,

I identified it's really about releasing attachment to an outcome,

Which means either way,

I understand this for my greater good.

And so this is a process of surrendering,

Which like I mentioned before was a big deal for me.

And just trusting,

Trusting the unfolding of my life where again,

My old self was always asking why,

Why is this happening?

What should I do next?

How am I going to fill in the blank,

Make a lot more money doing what I love.

And when I followed the special formula about releasing attachment and surrendering and trusting,

I started to really understand the way my life was playing out was that something much bigger than me has the ability to answer those questions for me.

And that was really being able to live in this state of love instead of this constant state of fear,

Which is what my old self lived in,

Which was terrible.

With this new mindset,

I truly believe what is mine is mine.

I wholeheartedly trust the unfolding of my life.

And that includes all the hard lessons.

Just all is well.

So to wrap up my story,

I got a call on Monday and I accepted the offer.

And that Thursday was my start date,

Which was the exact same date I had put in my calendar two months prior.

And really the amazing part is that this is just one example.

Miracles like this have been happening to me every day to the point where I started to write them down to track them in my journal.

And that's really when the magic happens,

When you really can embody a new practice and you see how your life has changed.

But I remember,

I remember that for a long time,

This just seemed very conceptual,

Seemed like a really cool idea.

So I just really strongly want to convey just to try it if you haven't.

Just be open.

Just practice that formula,

Releasing,

Surrendering,

And trusting,

And however that looks for you.

Because in all honesty,

This shift was not at all easy for me.

I worked at it.

Every day I did the little things,

Not knowing the outcome or the what or the why and the how.

And I don't know if that statement sounds encouraging or discouraging.

And I do know that everyone's path is unique.

And I do know that abundance is our birthright.

So we just have to be open.

But once I had an experience of being the co-creator of a divine plan,

Everything changed.

Everything.

And I suppose I will just have to leave it at that.

But before I close out,

I just want to invite you over to an article I wrote on my blog where I expound upon this a little bit further.

It's called the three stages of personal growth.

And I identified,

Based on my experiences of this repetitive pattern,

Of how you move through truly taking on this new mindset.

My website is balancedbluebirdhealing.

Com.

And I just want to thank you all so much for listening my friends.

And a huge thank you to my soul sister Elizabeth for inviting me to share my story.

I hope you found some value in it.

Love and light to you all.

Thank you again.

Namaste.

Whoa,

Right.

How amazing was that story?

And one of the things that I really appreciate about that gift of a story is that I'm able to put myself in that story.

It's not something that's far reaching and inaccessible and only happens to a select number of us.

She walks us through a personal development journey where the end goal was her and her ability to receive the life that she desired and to cultivate the part of her that co-created life,

That surrendered to life,

That believed in life again.

She unfolded in to believing in her own self and believing that she was supported by something bigger than her.

And it's a lot easier to live that way.

I mean,

Her beautiful summary of this magical formula of release,

Surrender,

And trust really illuminates that release,

Release,

What are you really holding on to,

Right?

When we're releasing,

If we're releasing what we believe to be the control over the situation,

What we're truly releasing is the fear surrounding the situation,

Fear of wondering,

Is this going to work or is this not?

Have I done something right?

Have I done something wrong?

Releasing the stress surrounding the situation,

Releasing the heartache and wondering when is this coming?

When is this coming?

Looking at the clock and wondering if it's on your side.

This is where the anxiety creeps in.

This is where the overwhelm creeps in.

In fact,

It's just exhausting to hold all these things and it's not our job.

No one needs that.

So by releasing that weight,

We open up our arms and we surrender.

I have no idea what the timing is,

But I know it's divine and I know it's for my best.

I know it's for my greater good.

So I'm going to trust.

The energy of trust is so much lighter,

So much more receptive.

And it is the energy that allows for whatever it is you're seeking to find you.

I am so grateful to Kristin for sharing that journey with us.

I encourage you to read her article,

Her article on her blog at balancedbluebirdhealing.

Com.

In fact,

Just check out all of her offerings.

She has some very beautiful gifts on her website,

Including a monthly free Reiki group healing that's online.

And I believe that the next one is October 20th.

Thank you again so much for joining and listening in today to this incredible episode.

And I hope that it helps you on your journey because what you are seeking is also seeking you.

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