Transforming Weakness Into Strength - Weekly Energy Boost

Weakness becomes strength when we acknowledge and embrace our vulnerabilities and limitations rather than trying to hide or deny them. By doing so, we tap into our natural power and resilience and use our weaknesses as a source of strength and growth. Learn how to embrace weakness, cultivate resilience, awaken compassion, and manifest the ability to navigate life's challenges with grace and ease in this week's episode. Original airdate: 1/23/23

Transcript

Good morning,

Everyone.

Good afternoon.

Good evening,

Wherever you are,

And welcome to this week's weekly energy boost.

My name is Ellie Sheva.

And I am here this glorious Monday morning with David and we are here to talk about transforming weakness into strength.

And we were discussing how we have a little we take a little umbrage with the word weakness.

And we're going to break down,

I'll be sure to break down what that means for me.

There's a reason that's pushing my buttons and let's discover it together on weekly energy boost.

Every week we aim to provide our listeners with most practical and powerful tools to navigate the coming seven days,

Providing a kind of spiritual weather forecast that shows you the tips and tricks and tools and wisdom.

And also through examples through stories and through practical iterations,

We give you the way to really make the most of the coming week.

We always share what's happening,

Because when you know what's happening,

You can do something about it.

And this is one of those weeks in which the universe has the tendency,

Let's say,

To propel us into a an exposed state or a vulnerable state.

We're also entering today,

The new moon of the month of Aquarius on the Qabbalistic calendar.

So today is an especially powerful day for setting goals,

For using your spiritual prowess in a way that maybe you don't normally making that effort,

Because it creates an imprint,

Creates a mold for you to fill through the entire month.

So we want to be extra cognizant of that as well.

But looking at the signature qualities of Aquarians,

They're not very vulnerable.

That's one way to say it.

They're not typically there.

They tend to come across as infallible,

Really untouchable,

Almost unrealistic,

Right?

What does?

Aquarians.

They have this sort of,

They're hovering in a reality just slightly above the rest of us where they really aren't touchable.

They're,

You know,

Nothing bothers them,

They're going to be okay.

And what the Qabbalists explain that one of the reasons for that is that they have a kind of icy exterior,

Most of them,

Not all of them,

But that icy exterior,

Like the rings of Saturn,

Which is the pattern that the planet that controls them,

They create a safe distance between them and other people,

Between them and vulnerability and vulnerable situations,

So that they don't have to expose their weakness.

And that's the energy of the month that we're coming into is,

What do we learn about Qabbalistic astrology is that if you want to do your work this month,

You do the opposite of the tendency.

So first of all,

If the tendency is to be cold and aloof and distant this month,

We want to make sure that we are being more connected,

Relating more to people,

Opening up,

Having an open heart,

Being more vulnerable.

And at the same time,

We have this weekly energy that's coming in that's telling us,

Listen,

If you want to fulfill your soul's mission,

If you want the fulfillment that you're destined for,

You have to break yourself down a little bit.

You have to humble yourself.

You have to be,

If you're not you in your day-to-day life,

If you have the masks or the personas,

The shells that you wear in different areas of your life,

You're not actually fulfilling your mission in the world.

You're not here to be fake.

You're not here to be an actress or an actor.

That may be your profession,

But that's not your purpose in being born and being put on the planet.

Our purpose is to reveal,

As we said last week,

The greatness of our soul.

But if you're pretending along the way,

Pretending to be strong,

Pretending to be untouchable,

Infallible,

If you're pretending,

And I think that this is a bit of the Aquarian issue,

Is that because they're pretending,

They're never really dealing.

And that's the danger with having that strong,

Stoic,

Nothing can touch me,

Untouchable front,

Is that you're never actually doing the real work.

So we want to make sure that as we come into this month and this week,

Everybody's aware of it.

There is a huge opportunity to make strides,

Deep progress in our spiritual journey this week,

But if we're not paying attention to it,

It'll seem like nothing is really going on.

As part Aquarius,

Listening to you,

And the icy rings of Saturn,

First time I've heard that.

Really?

Yeah.

That's like the distance keeps space?

Don't get too close to the planet.

I love it because I relate to it.

Are you Aquarius on your father's side or your mother's side?

You're like,

I'm part Aquarius.

Well,

I'm Aquarius,

Yeah.

I'm Aquarius in the English,

In the solar calendar.

That's right.

And she was born in Lepirosa?

She is Pisces in the Kabbalistic calendar and Aquarius in the solar.

And people who,

When it comes to astrology,

You should do a chart reading.

You should do an astrological chart reading without a doubt.

If you haven't done one yet,

It's a game changer.

I've done one for myself yearly.

I did one to compare my chart to each of my children when they were born.

I did one with my wife before we got married.

You just get insight in how to communicate,

How to be,

What to expect,

What's the love language,

What's the tendencies.

It's very,

Very valuable.

Even if you're doing important negotiation where there's a lot on the line,

I would do a comparison chart reading.

And I think you can go on Kabbalah.

Com.

There's some kind of a link.

We'll put it on our on WeeklyEnergyBoost.

Com so you can ask.

So just that aside,

You think the way that the moon controls the waves of the ocean,

If the moon can affect the ocean,

Why can't the moon affect our emotions and our feelings and the water that's in our body,

Which is a majority made up of water.

So there's a stirring that happens with the moon and the various planets just on a scientific level.

So forget even about the spiritual level.

But that's not the topic we're talking about.

I wanted to talk about something practical that I do that is related to this topic because this week's energy also has to do with a process of when you leave one level to another level.

And often when you're going from one level to another level,

There has to be a transformation that occurs.

There has to be some kind of shift in your consciousness in order to hold the light of the next level.

And that shift often happens with pain.

Because what pain does is it forces us to surrender something old to allow something new in.

So pain forces us to surrender something old,

An old way of thinking,

An old way of acting,

Old behavior patterns,

Old way of escaping.

We're forced to let go of mediocrity to allow greatness in,

At least whatever is greatness of the next level.

And this is the week that the energy and the support of shifting from one level to another comes.

And it's important to have this support because without the support,

Which we tap into now for the whole year,

Without the support the process could take longer but also could be more painful.

And the practical thing I do is when I'm always asking the Creator,

Help me go to my next level with mercy and with wisdom.

Like reveal to me the way to do it that I don't have to be dragged to the next level.

And it works remarkably well because I've noticed when I am conscious of that and I ask for that,

Because all you got to do is ask out loud.

The way I do it is I speak out loud,

Not in my head.

It's more powerful.

Speak out loud.

You're by yourself to the Creator and say,

Help me.

Help me with my next level but help me with mercy.

Show me the messages so that I don't have to break my ego in a very painful,

Aquarious way,

Which Aquarius often have to go through tremendous falling in order to change.

Because like you said,

They don't let things in and so the pain has to be so great that it breaks even the icy rings,

As you say.

So this is the week that we get the antidote of the stubborn Aquarius energy.

And so what does that mean for each one of us?

For number one,

It always gets darker before the next level.

And why does that happen?

Because it needs to kill off,

The darkness needs to kill off our ego.

Because you can't bring the old ego into the new life.

That's one thing.

You can't go,

You got to let go of the old way of doing things in order to get into your next level.

Someone's being promoted from a manager to a director or a director to a VP or VP to a C-level.

And in each level,

You have to be responsible for more people,

Responsible for a bigger P&L,

Responsible for a bigger vision.

You can't bring the old style of doing stuff.

And I've seen this many times.

Often people graduate or they want to be promoted.

Everyone wants to be the boss,

Right?

But oftentimes you see that they're very good at one level,

They're a very good manager,

But when they become a director they fail.

Or they're a very good director,

But when they become a vice president they fail.

Because you're bringing the old way of doing stuff with you,

As opposed to truly waiting for the time where the Creator is elevating you because you've gotten to that consciousness already.

And you know,

All of us,

We just kind of want stuff right away without the process.

Now you can accelerate your process obviously by putting in the work,

But be careful of getting things too soon.

Because this is where the worst thing is to get something too soon.

Better to be slow at getting stuff than getting things too fast in many cases.

What does that mean?

How could you get something too fast?

Well,

We know that the Creator obliges our desire.

So if I say I want something,

Let's say there's a relationship that you want and you don't really care if it's right for you or not right,

You just want it.

You know,

You want something so bad,

Like a kid who wants something.

And if you ask enough,

The Creator will say,

Okay,

Well,

You know,

It's not the right time,

But you're almost like forcing my hand.

And so you receive it.

But then it destroys you.

There's a story of the great Kabbalist,

The RE,

Who was sitting with his students and they were asking to reveal a secret that they weren't ready to hear.

But there's a rule that if somebody asks their spiritual master over and over again,

The master has to share.

Even if the master feels it's not the right time or the student isn't ready to hear,

If you keep asking,

The master has to share.

So they kept asking and the master shared.

And it was the secret of the splitting of the sea,

Of the consciousness of splitting of the sea.

Anyways,

The students weren't ready to hear it.

And as a result,

There was a death that occurred because there's so much energy that was revealed,

But the vessel wasn't there to hold it.

So we have to be careful.

We have to ask ourselves,

Do I have the vessel to hold this?

And instead of trying to grab at the energy,

What you should focus on is the building of the vessel,

Building your certainty,

Putting in the hard work,

Overcoming your negativity,

Overcoming your fears.

This is what builds vessels.

This whole world is preoccupied not with building of the vessel.

They're preoccupied with how do I grab the energy fast as possible?

I want that trophy.

Give me the energy.

And then I realize they didn't put in the work.

I think in sports,

It's hard to bypass that process because you're not going to go on the court when you're not prepared.

You're not going to go into a boxing ring if you didn't train,

Right?

Just because you think,

I'll take a stab at that.

Let's get in the ring with the champ.

Yeah,

And if I win,

I get millions of dollars and I get a trophy and a lot of respect.

Let's see what happens,

Right?

You're not going to do that because you're not going to die.

But in relationships,

Yeah,

We'll see how that works and this works.

I'm going to try this and try that and give you my promotion.

So it's a lot of you get in the ring,

But then you get knocked out because you went into a weight class that you did not prepare and train for.

So the preparing and the training is a very important thing.

This is the week that supports us and protects us not to go to the next level too fast,

Too soon,

Which is very dangerous,

But also to help us get to the next level without the pain and suffering,

To give us the wisdom,

The consciousness of how to do that.

How's that connected to being vulnerable?

It almost sounds like you're saying getting in the ring without being prepared would be,

You'd be vulnerable,

You'd be exposing yourself.

Don't do that.

Make sure that you're rough and tough and ready to go through the battle.

And many of my students are listening right now saying,

That's the exact opposite of what you told me to do last week.

Sometimes I say just get in the ring,

Get knocked out and learn your lesson,

Right?

Don't you say that?

And it all depends on what your correction is.

Those who are just anxious to be done with stuff and to go to their next level,

You know,

Just anxious to get something new,

They need to hold back and wait for the Creator to take them there.

Then there's the people who just love going in the loop-de-loop,

That's why I call it the loop-de-loop,

Always in the loop-de-loop,

Talking about the same thing over and over again.

Analyze this,

Analyze that.

Let's talk about,

Let me ask 97 more opinions.

They don't move.

What they need to do is get in the ring with the champ,

See how hard the champ hits and then learn how to train to prepare for that.

Sometimes you don't,

You need to know how hard the champ hits and once you get hit,

You're like,

Okay,

That's how hard he hits.

Oh,

That's how good he is or she is.

Now let me go train for that.

But if you don't know,

You don't even know what to train for,

Right?

So there's,

It's both sides and it all has to do with what kind of person you are.

Most people that I know are the loop-de-loop people.

I would say it's a 90-10.

90% of people over analyze everything because that's their comfort zone and it's an excuse not to go to the next level.

It's an excuse not to fail or put themself in a position,

A vulnerable position of failing.

People don't want to feel like embarrassed or rejected.

It's to mitigate the risk.

Let me see it from every angle.

Let me work out every possible outcome and so I don't take any risks.

And I agree with that and that's how it is.

And then there's the other people who are just trying to get the next level and bypass the process.

And these are people,

They get in trouble a lot because they're taking what is not theirs too soon.

Either it's theirs but it's too soon or it's not theirs and they're taking it when they shouldn't be.

But that's,

I think that you brought up without realizing it,

One of the most important prerequisites for not only transforming weakness to strength but really living a life where you're okay with being vulnerable is you got to know yourself.

It starts with really being honest with yourself about where you're at,

What you're doing,

What you need and if you don't know your tendencies,

Are you the analytical one or are you the one who just grabs and jumps,

It's gonna be really hard to do that work.

So in order to live,

I'm gonna say,

I'm gonna do it backwards,

Weakness we might associate with vulnerability.

Vulnerability means I am willing to be my authentic self at all costs.

That doesn't mean you say what you think without filtering it.

Sometimes people think well being unapologetically me means telling you like I see it and not worrying about how you think.

No,

It still means being sensitive and compassionate and kind but not doing anything that's out of alignment with you and your values and your truth.

And it's important to know your own story.

It's important to know your gifts and your garbage.

It's important to be real with who you're at and sometimes by the way that's the work that we do with students is we help them see who they are.

Sometimes people don't even know what they want,

Right?

They're just on a hamster wheel moving,

Thinking they're moving forward toward what they said someone told them that they should want.

Part of our work in with students one on one is helping them identify and recognize who are they really and what do they want really and then moving towards that.

But if you if you aren't clear on what kind of person you are and what's important to you and how you can operate you won't be able to identify your strengths or your weaknesses.

So it's kind of a moot point.

The easiest way to move from weakness to strength and I said I take umbrage to the word weakness because it already gives whatever you're talking about a negative spin.

If you're weak that's a negative thing but we're I think that's why I say we're I think we're really talking about being vulnerable.

That you know if you happen to know that you're a judgmental person this is my favorite example or a favorite illustration you know that you have the tendency to judge people.

When I say judge people I don't mean for what they're wearing or or how much money they have I mean on a deeper level like how dare they who do they think they are going into stories and movies about what's fair and what's right and all that stuff.

So you can be around someone that you judge and be brown-nosing being the nicest person being so sweet and caring if you're judging them on the inside energy doesn't lie right that's part of knowing being real with who you are being able to say you know what I really judge this person maybe I should work on it right not just covering it up not just pretending that you're pristine and clean and clear I mean it depends on the situation you know I'm not sure I would go to your boss and say listen I'm judging you for the decisions that you made I think you should have done it differently there's a there's a way and a time and a place to say something like that but really to know that if you manage to work on that judgment you're honest about it you admit that you have it and then you can work on it it becomes a strength because we learned in Kabbalah that light is only revealed through darkness right if you have an amazing day where nothing goes wrong or frustrates you or upsets you or you don't experience any bumps in the road you also didn't reveal very much light that day the real light is revealed through those moments where you struggle first and then overcome and then rise above and then find the proactive way to handle it but if you don't get a little bit reactive you can't get a little bit proactive and that's why being vulnerable is the first step to being strong you've got to be real about who you are and where you're at and the way to do that in a more holistic way is to find one or two people to be authentic with to be vulnerable around to let them see who you really are and that's one of the things I find a lot in relationships when I work with people I find that even in people that have been married 20 years they're not being their authentic self with their partner they're being who they're being the person that you know doesn't rock the boat or it's just easier this way if I'm not honest or direct or or upfront about how I feel or what I think or what I'm really doing and again they're wearing this mask and this costume that isn't in alignment or authentic to who they are and both people are miserable I actually remember it's not the case with this particular couple but I think I even shared this example once last year that I have I know somebody who she really wanted to ask her husband if it would be okay with her that if it would be okay with him that they didn't watch the news before they went to sleep at night David listening to this one so she she wanted to ask her husband you know if they could either watch something else or read a book or just do something a little bit less hostile right she felt that the news was like very upsetting to watch before you go to sleep but she didn't want to bother him and she didn't want to start something and she didn't want to you know like it's not that big of a deal I'd rather save my personal request for something that's a big deal and we talked about it and how she has nothing to risk and nothing to lose the worst case is he says no I like my news before I go to sleep we're gonna keep watching it which is exactly the state that she's in right now so what's the what's the risk so she did it and you know what he said to her I'm only watching the news because you're reading your book I didn't have anything else to do so I thought I just passed the time until you're ready to turn the lights off I'm totally let's what do you want to do let's do something else so that that desire to come off as I don't need anything or I'm okay or you know you're in charge or whatever you need or I'm not gonna I'm not gonna have any needs or wants unless they're really important or necessary what's that whole facade for and and by the way their relationship is a healthy loving I do think that they are authentically transparent and with each other like it's not it's not that kind of relationship but at the same time we have these shields that we put up to prevent us from conflict or whatever else it is when really it's fake and so are we and by not being our authentic selves we're actually causing ourselves to miss out on some sort of connection or love or growth and so part of the stepping into that being able to be vulnerable being able to be myself and not worry about the embarrassment or feeling bad or having needs or all those other things at the end of the day it can only lead to better than where we're at that's really the the bottom line of that road to vulnerability becoming a strength it's win-win and and yes you may have to be willing to be embarrassed or look silly or needy or selfish even but the risk is worth the reward as you were saying I was thinking about I mean I'm on a tenth year of marriage but I would say that probably the biggest missed opportunity I felt I had maybe the first five years was feeling that the spiritual thing to do was not talk less right about things that you're feeling and your challenge and actually only only in the latter half realizing how powerful it is as long as you're not a victim you're not taking a person you're not complaining to just share your desires and what you feel about stuff I don't regret it but I'm just saying looking back I'm like wow how much how different it could be and how much more you can glean out of the relationship by talking about it because I think especially I'm married to a Pisces as well it's like a Pisces fest all right it's just kind of you just kind of it's what do you want I don't know what do you know no no whatever you want I'm good I'm good what do you want as far as watch that but actually say you know I love this I don't like that but I'm fine with doing it right it's it's it's to be open and sharing for those who are listening and you're in a relationship doesn't matter what stage right it's it's we're probably only communicating 5% of what we should be and and I've learned that the best practical step to communication is to have boring nothing time where you just talk that's probably one one you know just sit and just start talking about whatever and then stuff comes out but two it's to have a third party involved right if it's if it's a therapist it's a Kabbalah teacher or somebody it's a you just sit you just talk about stuff and it's amazing what comes out when you what tumbles out of bed when you are when you are just in a talking mode and I think that's what brings more closeness in relationships so definitely the the Kabbalists talk about this idea of closing space that the space is a vacuum and if you're not filling it with light it's gonna be dark so that act of exposing yourself silly stuff even right your wants your needs your fears your doubts your your insecurities it sheds light on them and I don't I don't remember if I ever if I shared it on the podcast maybe I did a few maybe I did but I'll just use it as an example to David's point about having missed out on that maybe first few years of not sharing enough I had this one experience after I'd gotten divorced where one of the teachers came up to me and said you know if you don't show us who you really are no one will ever love you and that was a really unwelcome constructive criticism at the time but but letting it in and and really seeing it for what it was taking it objectively and and you know I knew the person was only coming from love he had no no no agenda no need for me to behave this way or that but he was right back in the at that time I was very focused on you know reinventing myself and how do things look and feel and that whole journey and it was a lot of it was me managing my PR right now that I'm this is my new new new status how do I feel and how do I look and how do I sound and who's who's thinking about it or not thinking about it was it was a very confusing time but he actually really helped me what's the word almost come out of that it was so out of alignment from what I really wanted it took a jarring statement like that for to help me realize wow that's true I'm so busy trying on different things that I'm not really being me trying different you know I was I remember I was going to concerts and I was doing I really cool fun stuff like very adventurous and and sort of letting off some steam and and it was it was a great time but it was also not really me like I wasn't really thinking do I am I enjoying myself am I having am I having deep conversations with the people I know I'm just getting out I'm being out I'm going out I'm doing things and even though some of those things were all night studies with teachers of my colleagues and you know but it was a lot of actions and not really connecting with anybody on a meaningful level so it really helped me to see that I'm not a human doing I'm a human being and David's like eating popcorn while I'm talking he's not but that's how it sounds that really it was it part of our spiritual journey is to be genuine is to that that we always talk about expressing your unique soul if you're managing your image and how people think and see you you're not being your authentic self you can't reveal your unique light you're revealing the light you think they want you to reveal or need you to reveal or which light is useful right now which light is valued I'm gonna be I'm gonna show value so that I don't lose my standing or my position or my relationship but that's not who you are and do you do you want to keep maintaining that facade I think the answer is is no but we get so caught up in it that we forget so part of this quest to being the showing not only being but showing our authentic selves is also realizing that if you are not showing your authentic self the people who love you and applaud you and support you they're not supporting you they're supporting who you think who you think they want you to be which is not real and it's a very ego-crushing moment but it's also an important by the very I can see an Aquarian how hard that would be for an Aquarian to accept and to embody I also I'm not Aquarius but I have a lot of Aquarius in my chart and I have a lot of Aquarians in my house and I can see how how you know that the the avoidance of being humble or you know the desire to be okay to seem okay to to get by is very strong with them and with us I want to include myself in that picture and and how that that quest short changes you for real authentic connection with people and experiences and ultimately love and happiness before you take off your earphones say one more thing and then we'll close it just taking I just saw you grab them and I wanted you to know how else the signal there that it's over but I know it's just take away take away don't take things personally but when you go into your next level talk to the Creator and ask ask the light force to make it a smooth transition you're allowed that I think people just kind of think like time to suffer so let's suffer with grace you don't have to suffer with grace you don't just don't even have to suffer just ask the Creator to help you with that transition make sure you have more conversations with your lover that's really good advice by the way it's really I'm annoyed when I hear it but it's also some of the greatest advice I've ever gotten and I don't do it enough none of us do it none of us do it enough especially especially us spiritual people right we're too good to talk about our problems sometimes I feel my goodness I talk all day long can I just come home and be quiet yeah exactly like I don't want to talk about this anymore so yeah that's my takeaway that's my takeaway just keep it keep it practical yeah it's true too I'll share I read a I have something open on my computer it's one paragraph I promise we'll be done in one minute but it's stuck with stuck with me so I'm gonna share it with you guys it says here too often people go through life not doing the things they want because of how people will view them even strangers you are never gonna get adoration or acceptance from everyone nor should you strive for it from anyone other than yourself in the Creator sometimes people will judge you or misunderstand you and that's okay too it's going to happen know that every time you feel the sting of embarrassment your ego is being chipped away allowing for more blessings to come into your life and that for me as somebody who's put out there and puts themselves out there often it's always a thing I actually remember this is really the last promise last thing I'm gonna say that a few weeks ago I had I got a message from one of our listeners who was sharing that they heard something that we said a couple months ago on one of the episodes and it was so powerful and so profound and it sent them into like this positive spiral of appreciation for the wisdom of Kabbalah and what we do and the Kabbalah Center and this just everything and I responded saying that that particular thing that he shared that was so impactful for him I actually listen to every episode multiple times during the week I helps me sometimes I you know people say well what you said yesterday I completely forget about at the moment's out of my it's out of my mouth and it helps me I learn how to be better at what I do and I learned from David and all of our guests and everything so I do listen and I had listened to it I was like oh I can't believe I said that made me sound so like I don't know we just made me sound bad I can't believe I shared it and then of course I had the my higher self respond to that thought with you know if it helps one person it was worth it if one person benefits from me sharing that it was it doesn't matter how I looked or how I sounded and it was exactly that point that he said made him realize and understand and so it was just funny how the universe showed me that there was at least one person in my moment of vulnerability and sharing at least one person benefited so it was worth the the whole ordeal and as always have a fabulous week and we'll see you next time on the weekly energy boost