What Is The Center Of Your Life: God Or Ego

Ektaji explains how one-pointed devotion offered to the Divine can guarantee that we are given what we need when we need it, and our desire to maintain that is also taken care of. To be in one-pointed devotion we have to be in the witnessing consciousness, then our actions happen by themselves without any attachment or aversion. We do not take any insults or compliments personally, we just reflect back what is offered to us, and stay as the witness.

Transcript

You understood the word Adanya with no other.

No other is equal to single-pointed.

Single-pointed devotion when you worship me.

Then what happens?

He says,

I take care of your yoga kshima.

What is yoga kshima?

What is yogic and what is shima?

That which you need to attain is yoga.

That which you need to maintain after attaining is shima.

Yeah,

You have two things in your head all the time.

I want this,

I want this,

I want this.

I get it.

After I get it,

Then what happens to me?

I don't want to lose this.

I don't want to lose this.

I don't want to lose this.

I have to maintain this.

I have to maintain this.

Andes,

You have two main desires,

Major thoughts behind everything.

Family,

Job,

Career,

Friendship,

Name,

Fame,

Art of living,

Relationships,

Wherever you can put this.

Correct?

Yeah.

So we are narrowing down our raavas and dveshas to that which I want to attain or that which I want to maintain.

That's it.

There are only two categories.

There is no third category only.

I want this,

I want this,

I want this and after I get this,

I don't want to lose it.

I don't want to lose it.

I want to maintain it.

Yoga and shima.

Got it?

So he's saying I will take care of both of these things.

So nice no?

Nothing to do.

But he has a condition.

Single pointed devotion.

Single pointed devotion.

What is single pointed devotion?

What do I do?

All the time being in the witnessing consciousness.

In the causal body.

In the purusha.

Not acting from the subtle body,

Not acting from the physical body.

Apparently I'm doing work at the physical level.

Correct?

Apparently I'm doing whatever in office at home,

Talking is also speaking is also at the physical level.

All my jobs are apparently at the physical level but really where am I situated?

Where am I established?

In the causal.

Yeah?

Then how will your actions be when you are acting from the centre and not from the periphery?

No attachment.

It doesn't matter.

It's happening.

Yeah.

Yes.

So then I don't get attached to any good thing that I do and I don't get attached to any bad thing also.

Not only I do,

What others do.

He did this,

She did this,

She didn't listen to me,

He didn't listen to me.

This is because of attachment.

Yes?

If this is coming up,

Am I really at the centre?

No.

I am totally at the periphery.

Yeah?

When I'm at the centre what will happen?

Even if he says something wrong,

She says something wrong.

Is it matter?

It's matter.

Yeah.

Somebody insulted Buddha.

Buddha didn't react and say anything.

The person felt bad and then asked Buddha,

What is this?

I kept insulting,

I kept saying bad things to you and why didn't you react?

So Buddha says,

If you give me a gift and I do not accept it,

Whose is it?

He said,

It's mine.

He said,

Exactly.

You get it?

Nobody can insult you.

Nobody.

Only if you give the power to somebody,

Then only somebody can insult you.

What does this mean?

Nobody can say bad?

No,

They'll say bad.

It doesn't touch me.

It bounces off me.

I am a mirror.

I reflect it back to them.

Yeah,

For that I have to become a mirror.

No?

Yeah.

I'm not ready to be a mirror.

Yeah.

I'm ready to be a big,

Dark bowl.

Come,

Come through,

Through.

Ah,

Ooh,

Ah,

Ooh,

Then finish.

Your drama is on.

Full life your drama is on.

Yeah?

It never ends.

That is what is raaga and duisha.

Yeah?

Are people going to stop insulting?

Are people going to stop saying things?

How much ever good you do?

People will talk.

Somebody or the other will talk.

This is your biggest pain point,

Right?

He said this to me and she said this to me.

People are going to talk.

Have you noticed,

Guruji is doing so much good for the entire world.

I don't know another person who is doing so much seva for the whole world.

And still people talk,

No?

You know,

Right?

Yeah.

It's on newspapers.

People are ready to attack.

How much ever good you do?

It's less than Guruji.

Right?

So if he is being attacked then why are you worried?

It doesn't matter.

Yeah?

It doesn't matter.

The problem is you are taking it personally.

It's got nothing to do with you.

If somebody is insulting you,

It's a reflection of that person,

Not you.

Are you getting this?

Yeah?

If somebody is disrespecting me,

Are they disrespecting me?

They are disrespecting themselves.

Yes.

Why?

Because I am like a mirror.

I just reflected back.

Be like that.

Yes.

Just a witness.

Not getting involved in the drama of this world.

Yeah.

Just because the other person doesn't walk the spiritual path.

Am I justified in giving up my spiritual path?

Not worth it boss.

What are you doing?

Don't do this to yourself.

Never ever.

Let them say what they want.

Give them the freedom.

You have complete freedom.

Do what you want.

I am a mirror.

And reflect back.

Yeah?

Slowly slowly they will stop because they will see it reflecting back on them.

When you react,

What happens?

When you react to their insults,

What happens?

They get more power from it.

Have you noticed?

Yes.

That's what they want.

They want you to react.

Have you noticed?

Even you do it.

Even your mind does that.

And you want to hurt somebody and that other person gets hurt,

There is an inner pleasure you get.

Have you noticed?

Yeah.

That is the very negative side of you.

Yeah.

It's the same with the other person.

So don't react because you're giving them that pleasure.

Yes.

So who's foolish in the whole thing if I react?

I become foolish right?

Yes.

So stop reacting.

They're getting it.

Every action do like that.

Being a witness.

Not getting pulled away into raga and duhesha.

I'm reacting only because I had a duhesha.

Why did she say these words to me?

Right?

That's it.

Recognise it.

I am not reacting to the words.

I am reacting to that sensation of duhesha within.

Relax,

Relax,

Relax.

Let go.

Drop.

Chill.

Whatever language works for your mind.

Chill.

Chill.

Yeah.

Stop reacting.

Be a mirror and reflect back onto them.

They will understand that they made a mistake sooner or later.

And it's not even about them.

If they don't understand this lifetime,

They'll understand next lifetime.

It's okay.

You have no responsibility to teach and train other people in the world.

Yeah.

Amooda says,

You change.

Amooda says,

I change.

What do you want to be?

Yes.

So stop thinking that they should change.

They should stop hurling insults at me or saying bad about me.

Drop.

It's okay.

Be okay with that also.

Can you be okay?

Yes.

That's how you work in this world.

With good and bad.

I just gave you one example.

Just one example that was so many different,

Different things happen.

You know in life,

Your best friend gets her first million dollar house and you don't have it.

What starts happening inside?

Oh she has it.

I don't have it.

He has it.

I don't have it.

Then jealousy starts.

Then competition starts.

Have you noticed?

Oh you don't have the million dollar house but I have diamonds.

Have you noticed what track your mind takes?

Something or the other it picks up.

Oh I don't have the million dollar house but you know what?

I have a Tesla.

It's released in the market.

I'm seeing it too early.

Oh it's very expensive.

Boss you have no idea.

So somewhere or the other you observe.

Have you made the center of your life ego or have you made the center of your life God?

Yeah if the center of your life is ego you are always going to try and protect this ego.

The center of your life is God.

You are going to start walking towards the Brahman.

You're getting it?

Brahma chari or that word itself means walking towards the Brahman.

It's not got anything to do with abstinence from sex.

Yeah when I start walking towards Brahman what automatically happens?

Word center suction.

All these lower things start dropping off.

Greed drops,

Lust drops.

So automatically celibacy happens.

That is why people got confused.

They started calling Brahma chari as celibacy.

It's not celibacy.

Yeah that's the wrong interpretation.

Brahma chari is walking towards God.

When the center,

The focus of your life is God you will start walking towards God.

If the focus of your life is your own ego you will never be walking towards God.

You'll be walking in the opposite direction.

Next homework.

What is the center of your life now?

Not what you want it to be.

Look at the mirror and see.

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Really cool perspective. Her accent was very heavy so I didn't understand some of the terms and things she said but what I understood definitely hit home. Thank you for the sharing of her knowledge!

Beautiful reminder, thank you dear Soul!

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