Hello ego.
I know there are so many people out there saying that we need to get rid of the ego.
That the ego is bad.
That there's something wrong.
That we have an ego.
Or perhaps even people misunderstand the ego.
They misunderstand you.
And I just want to say today we're going to talk about how awesome you are.
And how much we really appreciate all that you have done for us for our entire lives and for the lives of all the people that came before us.
You are amazing,
Truly amazing.
You have helped us to survive.
You have given us such creative strategies to keep us feeling safe and secure in the world.
You are so quick.
I wonder if you even sleep.
Always with one eye open watching out to make sure that we are safe and that we are okay in the world.
Protecting us.
Guarding our hearts.
Providing us with ways to show up so that we don't have to be vulnerable in situations that we're not ready to be vulnerable in.
You are so resourceful and so creative and I know that we would not be here now if it weren't for you.
And so I say thank you.
Thank you,
Thank you,
Thank you.
And I sometimes wonder if maybe you're a little tired.
I even wonder maybe you're even starting to see that you don't have to work quite as hard as you used to.
Maybe you're beginning to notice that as we get older we have more of an ability to take care of ourselves.
We don't feel as unsafe in the world.
We know how to use our yeses and our noes and we actually have a little bit more power over our lives than we did when we were little and we really needed you.
I can remember back to the times when we were so little and our parents and teachers and siblings and friends.
It felt like they had power over us and we needed you to help us to make sense of the world,
To get our needs met,
To stay safe,
To make sure that we were accepted and we fit in and that we weren't going to be ostracized or betrayed or abandoned or shamed or humiliated.
But maybe you're starting to see that we aren't as powerless anymore and I wonder if you'd be willing to rest a little more,
To not have to be quite as quick as you've always been.
Perhaps we can slow things down a little.
You see I appreciate you so much and sometimes we don't need some of those patterns that we've had to have in place before.
Maybe in some ways we're kind of hurting our relationships and ourselves because we're so quick to react or we react with fear in situations that maybe we don't feel as afraid of anymore.
Maybe we want to be more courageous and sometimes those old strategies and defense mechanisms that you so wisely put in place,
Maybe they are holding us back a little.
So we just wanted to know if maybe you'd be willing to just get into the back seat and be able to rest a little and to trust the wiser parts of us.
You know it might feel like you're always having to do it all alone but it turns out that inside of every human being there are other parts.
There are parts that are wise and who can make good decisions.
There are parts that have feelings that long to be felt and there are creative parts and funny parts and parts that no longer want to take life as seriously.
There are all kinds of other parts and I just wondered if maybe we could all work as a team and give many parts of voice because sometimes your voice is really loud and really fast and makes a lot of sense and I sometimes find myself believing you and doing what you say to do but sometimes in the long run it turns out that it was coming from a lot of fear and I know that's your job.
See that's the thing I know your job is to keep me safe in scary difficult situations situations that my survival may be threatened and I don't want you to stop doing that because I really appreciate that but I think we might have gotten to the point where we think everything is scary that we always have to defend ourselves and I'm just wondering if maybe you'd be willing to soften a little allow others to have a voice inside of us and maybe you can just rest maybe we can all check in with each other.
I just wonder if you're a little tired and you might want a little rest and I know that I would like to feel like I can sometimes make choices that don't come from fear.
I want you to be able to trust me too.
I'm growing into more of an adult woman and I really think that I can say what I need.
I think I can ask for what I need.
I think I can I think I can learn how to feel my feelings and face my fears instead of acting them out in the world you know and I think maybe I can start to say no more you know and I know sometimes it feels really scary when someone's disappointed in us or when somebody wishes we would do something else and then it's so easy for you to just come in and want to make it all better again and I totally get that but maybe we need to just have a little more tolerance for discomfort you know a little more courage a little more space and so I just wanted to know if you'd be willing to try that with me a little bit.
I wanted to know if you'd be willing to try to take a breath sometimes and not have to bring your solutions so fast to the table or even if you do that you're maybe become willing to pause and check out if there might be some other thing we could do.
You see you're so quick and you're so smart and so protective.
In fact it's amazing to me because you know there have been times when I felt like I was alone in the world but when I think about it you have always been there for me.
You have always always been there.
You are like the absolute best most protective caring amazing part of me and I don't want you to feel that I don't appreciate you because I really do and I also need us to be in this together all right.
So I wonder if right now maybe we can just hug like take a breath and let me just hold you and you hold me and you feel my gratitude but maybe we can also breathe and just calm ourselves a tiny bit more and trust trust that we're okay.
Trust that you can rely on me sometimes.
You don't have to be the only one manning the fortress.
You've been a warrior and I know I wouldn't be here right now the person that I am if it wasn't for you and I know that all of my ancestors wouldn't be here if it weren't for their egos.
So thank you.
Thank you so much.
I notice that you feel a little calmer.
I notice that you feel a little bit more like there's a possibility that you don't have to run the show anymore and I have a sense that you feel some relief from that.
I know I feel some relief from that.
I know sometimes you'll still jump up and have the first thing to say and I appreciate that but I hope you know that sometimes I might put my hand on my heart and remind you that we're okay and that we're going to try to do something a little different this time and that you might need to be a little brave and I'm going to have to be a little bit brave because I might feel afraid and you might notice that I feel afraid but just because I'm afraid doesn't mean we have to do something right away.
We don't always have to take action.
We can sometimes breathe.
We can sometimes feel.
We can sometimes cry.
So I'm with you.
You no longer have to do this whole thing by yourself.
We're in it together.
You've been waiting for someone to come to make it so that you don't have to do it all yourself.
It's like you've been my parent but I want you to know that I'm now going to step in.
I'm my parent.
I am your parent and that is why I want you to know I appreciate you so much and I really appreciate that you've waited so long and done this job for so long until I finally realized that I can actually take charge that I'm in charge of my life.
You know so I appreciate you and I love you and I'm so happy to have you right here by my side.
You and me doing life together as a team.
You no longer have to go at it all by yourself protecting me every single moment of every single day.
We're going to build trust together.
I look forward to you cultivating a sense that you can trust me and I thank you.
