Let's Rise Above Blaming And Complaining

If we want to be free, we need to set ourselves free. We need to choose it. This means that we need to find a way to release and let go of the judgments, opinions, blaming, and complaining that the ego would have us invest so much time and energy into. Yes, the ego would have us believe that these are legitimate, that these are rational, and that holding on to them serves us. But they are not, and they do not.

I invite you to join me as we explore how to release and let go of that which no longer serves so that we may be free to be in ever-expanding peace, love, joy, harmony, wholeness, and abundance - regardless of external conditions and circumstances.

Transcript

Welcome to the path to freedom and this beautiful journey that we are on,

This beautiful adventure of setting ourselves free,

Of setting ourselves free to shine,

To soar,

To glow,

Of setting ourselves free to forever allow for greater and grander expressions of who and what we are,

Setting ourselves free to be never-expanding love and joy and peace and harmony and wholeness and beauty and abundance and creativity and intelligence and a whole lot more,

Setting ourselves free from limitations,

From lack,

From scarcity,

From fear,

Worry,

Doubt,

Complaining,

Victimhood,

The small and the limited stories and beliefs that we either are telling ourselves or that we have been told about who we are and what life is and what should and should not be and all of these judgments and opinions and points of view that may seem very normal in this human realm but that most of the time doesn't serve us one little bit because they're holding us stuck,

They're keeping us stuck in a small perspective,

In a small paradigm where peace does not exist,

I'm being accompanied by a fly here,

Where peace does not get to roam free,

Where peace,

Where love,

Where joy,

Where harmony may not be the order of our lives.

So and this is a beautiful prelude into the topic for today but before we get to the topic let me just say that my name is Daniel Roqueo and I am as always very grateful and honored that you are choosing to tune in,

That you're choosing to participate,

That you're choosing to join me on this beautiful adventure,

On this beautiful path.

So the topic for today,

It is about forgiveness,

It is about releasing and letting go of the negativity that we are holding on to,

It is,

Let me see if I can catch or remember the topic,

The topic is let's release our blaming and complaining,

Let's release our blaming and complaining,

That's our topic for today and as so often this is inspired by my own life and this is something that I need to remind myself of hence the birth of this topic.

So I was having a conversation just to give a brief background to why this topic has arisen and why this is the message for today.

So I was having a conversation with an individual a couple of days ago,

This is an individual that has been in my life for close to 20 years and over the years our relationship has been kind of bumpy,

Kind of rocky,

Sort of challenging,

There's been friction,

So there's a history here and over the years,

The last few years,

We have both done a tremendous amount of work on our own and together to bridge our differences and to allow for a beautiful and very loving relationship to evolve and emerge,

A very compassionate and understanding relationship.

We were having a conversation the other day and we're both moving through a challenging space,

So on my part there's been tremendous intensity in my life these last couple of months,

Tremendous expansion is happening,

A lot of changes are happening,

A lot of shifts are happening,

So I'm not as balanced as I normally am and I am falling behind a little bit on taking care of myself,

Of providing and attending to my needs,

Of giving myself the space,

The time to just be,

So once again I'm not as balanced as I normally am and kind of the same goes for the other individual and so we were having this conversation and they said something,

They made a comment,

We were having a discussion about something and they made a comment and that comment,

As it is with me,

I absolutely became aware of things stirring within me as I heard the comment but even more so with me,

The stirring it happens deep within and only the day after do I really become aware of the stirring,

So when I woke up yesterday I was waking up with a mind full of judgments and opinions and a whole lot of blame and victim stories as to what they should be and all of this because of this comment,

That comment brought me back to the friction that we used to have in our relationship which revolved around pretty much the same arguments,

I wanted life to be my way and they wanted their life to be their way and as we had a joint life those two pieces didn't always fit together,

They weren't always a perfect match and so we were having arguments and it was competition in our relationship and this comment brought me back to that and so here I am a couple of days later and still aware of the mind ruminating,

The mind complaining and conjuring up all these stories,

Well they should know how they are,

What right do they have to make this comment about me and they aren't perfect and all these kind of things,

All these stories and oh it's because of this that I am this way and it's because of that,

All these blame stories,

All these victim stories and the complaining and so much turbulence has been stirred up within me,

So much turbulence and it is a real challenge for me to not be attached to,

To not,

Yes to not be attached or actually the challenge is for me to break free from being attached,

To release the attachment,

To release the identification and so I'm needing to do a lot of breath work and I'm needing to really come back to the nowness this moment over and over and over again reminding myself that all is well,

That these are stories and beliefs that the ego is shoving in my face,

That the ego is trying to get me to believe because it serves the ego,

It serves the ego for me to be in a complaining mode,

It serves the ego for me to don the victim suit,

Pretending that they are to blame,

That they are responsible for my life,

For my wealth,

Not wealth,

For my well-being and wealth as well,

For my harmony,

For my peace,

For my joy,

That if only they were different,

I would be different and this is a lot of BS in the sense that it's not even close to being true,

It's not even close to being true but this is the work that we get to do along this path,

Setting ourselves free and setting others free to be who they are and where they are,

This is where forgiveness comes in,

This is where forgiveness comes in and forgiveness is not about making up and becoming friends and forgetting what they did or what they didn't do or anything like that,

Forgiveness is all about us releasing the negativity,

The resentment,

The animosity that we are experiencing,

The judgments that we are holding on to,

The thoughts as to what should and should not be that we are buying into so that we may be free,

So that we may be free to shine,

To soar,

To glow,

To forever allow for those greater and grander expressions of who and what we are to emerge,

For us to be in that ever-expanding realm of peace and love and joy and harmony,

Wholeness,

Regardless of what they did or did not do,

Regardless of what they're doing or not doing,

Regardless of any external conditions and circumstances,

I'm not saying that it is easy because it's not,

It's hard work,

The principles are simple,

Yes they are,

But it's not easy,

It's not easy to forget,

It's not easy to release the attachment to these because the ego is very convincing and it is very persuasive,

It just won't let up,

It just won't let up.

So in this now moment,

As is customary nowadays,

Let us first of all bring a smile to our face,

Regardless of whatever we are experiencing,

Regardless of whatever we feel like,

Let's bring a smile to our face and this is not frivolity,

This is not acting,

This is not playing,

This is us taking responsibility,

Taking our power back,

Standing in our own authority,

Allowing for healing to happen,

Allowing for healing tonic chemicals to be produced and distributed throughout the body.

So a smile,

And let us take a couple of deep conscious breaths,

Breathing in,

And releasing,

Breathing in,

And releasing,

Still allowing that smile to play across our face,

And this is how we break free from the attachment,

This is how we break free from the attachment,

By taking these couple deep and conscious breaths,

A space opens up,

A space that was always there but now we allow it to open up and now we allow ourselves to move into that space where we get to witness and observe.

So I invite you to repeat after me,

All is well,

Something wonderful is happening,

Everything is working for my highest good,

Perfect preparation and unfolding is always happening,

I am free,

I stand in my own authority,

I set myself free,

I set you free,

All is well between us.

And so this is the work that we get to do,

And for me there's an immediate release,

There's an immediate shift,

Because now,

Before we moved into the breath work,

I was still experiencing,

I was witnessing and observing these thought forms,

These emotions,

The anger,

The resentment,

The negativity,

The animosity,

A slight willingness to get back at them,

To strike back,

And now all there is,

Is peace,

And joy,

And gratitude,

And appreciation.

So once again,

This is simple,

It is simple,

And if this is not enough for us to break free,

We get to do it over and over again,

Until we are free,

But this is the work that we need to do,

We need to take back our minds,

Complaining doesn't serve us,

Holding on to blame stories and victimhood,

It doesn't serve us.

If we want to be free,

If we want to move along this path,

If we want to walk this path of freedom,

Or awakening,

Or enlightenment,

Or healing,

Or whatever we want to call it,

This is the work that we need to do.

Yes,

The surface mind is always going to have thoughts and opinions as to what should and should not be,

As to how others should be,

But we get to set them free,

Just as we're setting ourselves free.

We each have our own unique,

Perfect path,

We each have the work that we need to do,

The lessons that we need to learn,

And along this path,

One of the greatest lessons that we get to learn is to take self-responsibility,

And if we break that word responsibility,

If we break it down,

We become aware that that word is actually made up of two words.

It really means the ability to respond,

Not react,

Not give the egoic structures the power over us,

But the ability to respond,

To make conscious choices,

To make choices that are in alignment with what we wish to experience,

The good that we wish to have in our lives.

And me,

For one,

I want to experience peace,

And love,

And joy,

And harmony,

And wholeness.

So being attached to,

Being hijacked by,

Being held hostage by thoughtforms,

Judgments,

Opinions that completely plummet me into the lower vibrations of fear,

Worry,

Anger,

Sense of separation,

Sense of victimhood,

That is not in line with what I wish to experience.

And then we're being called to make choices,

To make conscious choices,

To break free from that,

Always to the best of our ability,

I mean,

If we cannot make it,

If we cannot do it,

We cannot do it,

And that's fine,

Because we're always doing it to the best of our ability.

But we want to do it to the best of our ability,

Meaning that when we become aware of being hijacked,

That's the time for us to go into work,

To go to work,

Releasing ourselves from that identification,

From that attachment.

That is the time for us to assume responsibility,

To take our power back,

To stand in our own authority,

To set ourselves free to set the other free,

Or whatever condition and circumstance.

But we need to raise ourselves above,

Beyond,

Blaming and complaining.

We need to do it.

The other is not going to do it,

They're not going to set us free,

Conditions are not going to set us free,

Circumstances are not going to set us free.

If we wait for the other to change,

Or for conditions and circumstances to change,

They may change,

But there's always going to be that next condition,

That next circumstance,

That next individual,

That triggers our buttons,

Tossing us into the emotional and mental turmoil and reaction.

So we're just going to continue to be mindless,

What's the word I used to use?

Mindless drones,

Something like that.

Just moving through the world,

Reacting to this,

To that,

To this condition,

To the next condition,

To the next condition,

To this individual,

To the next individual,

To the next individual.

There's always going to be something out there that can pull us,

That will pull us into reaction.

And as we begin to cultivate the way of life,

To cultivate the habits that fortify us staying in a high vibration,

That protect our consciousness,

So that we may sustain a high vibration,

So that we may sustain a high frequency,

So that we may sustain our consciousness being expanded.

So setting ourselves free is learning to be in the world,

Not of the world,

Is learning to build spiritual muscles,

Presence muscles,

Attention muscles,

Strong enough that the world does not touch us,

Move us.

It doesn't mean that we're moving indifferently through the world or through life.

It doesn't mean that we don't care about what happens to other individuals.

It doesn't mean that we lose or give up our compassion,

Our desire to be of service.

But it means that we do not give external powers,

There are no external powers,

External factors,

Permission to move us,

To touch us.

Kind of like the trees,

And I love this analogy,

The trees,

How they remain standing even in the midst of a raging storm,

Most of them at least,

Or a blizzard or a drought or floods or whatnot.

And the reason why they remain standing is because their roots run so deep.

So we want to have,

We want to emulate that,

We want to mimic that,

And we want to build our spiritual muscles,

Our presence muscles,

Allow them to grow so deep into the nowness of this moment that we will not be pulled into the egoic dramas.

As that beautiful statement goes,

Drama is optional.

Peace is a choice,

Love is a choice,

Harmony is a choice,

Freedom is a choice.

And we need to choose it,

No one else is going to choose it for us,

So we need to choose it.

Cool?

So let us once again have a moment of coming back to the nowness of this moment,

Allowing that smile to play across our face,

Taking a couple of deep and conscious breaths,

And I am having the fly buzzing around my ear,

Actually wanting to crawl into my ear.

So breathing in,

And releasing,

Breathing in,

And releasing,

And I invite you to say after me,

Still with a smile on your face,

In your eyes,

You have no power over me.

I stand in my own authority,

I set myself free,

I set you free.

All is well between us.

So this is the work that we get to do,

I mean,

These are not the only tools available to us,

But this is the work.

Whenever we become aware of being snatched,

Being hijacked,

Being snagged by the ego,

By thought forms of limitation,

Lack,

Scarcity,

Separation,

Judgments,

Opinions,

Our job is to come back to the nowness of this moment,

Our job is to become aware as these four stages of healing remind us.

First of all,

Become aware of the thought form,

The judgments,

The opinions,

Witness and observe them,

What are they saying,

Embrace and allow them,

Allow them to be what they are,

Not resisting them,

Not trying to get away from them,

Run away from them,

Not denying them,

And then making a conscious choice to move in a new direction,

To turn our attention towards something that is more in alignment with what we wish to experience.

And be very mindful of the ego,

Because the ego is going to serve us so many excuses as to why to hold on to the victimhood,

The blame stories,

The complaining,

And all of that.

I so love being on this path,

I'm not saying that it is easy,

I'm not saying that I'm loving it all the time,

As I was stewing in negativity on and off yesterday,

I didn't love that.

But I love these moments of coming back to freedom,

I love these moments of this growth spurt where I get to practice in a way that really sets me free.

And I know that 10 minutes from now,

Or 30 minutes from now,

Or 2 hours from now,

I'm going to be called to do this again,

And I'm not going to love it moving into it,

But now,

Hanging out in these high vibrations,

Hanging out in this high consciousness regardless of conditions and circumstances,

I mean nothing has changed outside of me,

But still I get to be in joy,

Still I get to be in peace,

Still I get to be in harmony,

Still I get to be in love,

Still I get to be in wholeness,

And I love that,

I love that.

So the intention for us,

Or actually the invitation for us,

Is to really set the intention,

Well actually to become aware of where we are,

So this is the invitation,

For us to invite into our awareness,

If there's anyone,

Or an external condition or circumstance,

That we are holding on to resentment towards,

That we are holding on to negativity towards,

That we are holding on to blaming,

Complaining,

Where we are taking on that victim,

Where we're playing the victim part,

Where we're saying it's their fault,

It's because of them,

They are to blame,

So to become aware,

To invite that condition,

That circumstance,

That individual,

Into our awareness,

And then do the inner work of releasing that negativity,

Of allowing for healing to well up from within us,

Joy to well up from within us,

Peace to well up from within us,

Regardless of what they did or didn't do,

Regardless of what that circus,

Or not circus,

Circumstance,

This fly is very persistent,

Regardless of what that circumstance or condition may be like,

And questions to ask are simply,

Where am I holding on to resentment,

Where am I holding on to blame,

Where am I saying that it is another's fault,

They are to blame,

Where am I holding on to being a victim,

So that is the,

Those are the questions to augment and support this invitation,

So thank you so so much as always for joining me,

For tuning in,

For participating,

Until we meet again,

I as always bless,

Bless,

Bless our days,

And I bless,

Bless,

Bless our ways,

In the full knowing that,

And I invite you to repeat after me,

In the full knowing that all is well,

That something wonderful is happening,

That everything is working for our highest good,

The perfect preparation and unfolding is always happening,

With much love and many blessings,

Namaste