You Are Allowed To Change Your Mind On The Path

Sometimes we believe that if we are on a particular path, we would never be allowed to change our mind, because that would mean we are being fickle or impulsive or iffy. That is absolutely not the truth!

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So recently Liz and I,

And you'll hear a lot about Liz,

She's one of my really good friends,

And she's on the same kind of journey as me in finding our true passions,

Working with our true passions and passive income,

Etc.

So we have a lot of these conversations on FaceTime or Skype or text and a lot of these triggers something in me and I believe if it triggers something in me,

I believe it can help my readers and the people who watch this video.

So one of the things that we were discussing recently is fear of starting.

Now the problem with starting something,

One of the main problems I find is that as a commitment phobe I feel like if I start something that means I have to stick with it for the rest of my life.

It's obviously,

I haven't been told that by anyone,

A lot of the projects I work on aren't really even apparent to the public,

I do it on my own in my own spare time.

No one will ever see those projects,

No one will find out about it,

But it's just something that I think we've been told as children is that if you start something you have to end it.

If you start something you have to stick with it for the rest of your life.

If you start something you can't just give up halfway.

Now I'm not saying that you just give up every single time you start something.

Obviously some things you'll start and you'll realize,

Oh you know what I don't actually really like this,

I don't want to do this for the rest of my life or even for another time so you give up on it.

Some things you're giving it up because it's uncomfortable and that's something that you have to stick through because discomfort is actually growth.

Obviously different things have different connotations to different people so I'm not going to say this is applicable to everything but one of the things that Liz was having in her time was she wanted to start something with some artist that she was working with but she was worried that if she starts this then this is it.

She's in her thirties and that means she has to do this for the rest of her life which is maybe fifty years or more.

That is just not right.

People nowadays change their career every seven years.

People that have never tried snowboarding,

They start snowboarding in their sixties and they become really proficient at it.

They're people who are lawyers who quit all of their jobs,

All of their schooling and they become writers.

Nothing is forever.

Nothing is permanent.

Nothing is perfect.

So you will start off something and it will be perfect for you in that moment in time.

You're meant to do that in that particular moment in time.

That's what was meant to happen.

That is what you did and that is perfect in that moment in time.

A year later,

Two years later,

Ten years later you realize,

I'm a different person now.

I've learned,

I've grown,

I've changed.

I want to do something different.

I'm going to try something different.

It's the same thing that happens with relationships.

You start off a certain way.

You're looking in the same direction.

You're supposed to be together.

You are meant to be together.

You have the same goals,

The same aspirations.

You're compatible.

What happens is over time,

Some people grow together.

They still have the same goals and obviously they still stick together.

But other people,

They realize that I've grown apart from this person because I'm different and they're different.

We just are not looking in the same direction anymore.

We're not moving towards the same direction.

We're moving apart from each other and so then they leave each other.

It's the same thing with projects that you might start,

Things that you do.

Just because you spent ten years in school studying something doesn't mean that after five or six years of doing that,

You can't be like,

Alright,

I've done this.

I've tried it.

I did it while I was doing it.

But now it's time for me to move on to something different.

This thing where you tell yourself,

This is not the end.

I can do this.

I can do this for the next three or four years or whatever time frame it might be and then I can move to something different.

It kind of gives you a sense of relief.

As soon as I told Liz that you don't have to stick with this forever.

This is just what you're doing right now.

It was as if she just suddenly relaxed and realized,

Right,

This is not forever.

I can do this for as long as I wish,

As long as I want to do it,

As long as it feels good,

It feels right.

Then,

Man,

It doesn't feel good anymore.

If it doesn't feel right anymore,

If you realize you're not interested in it anymore,

Then you move on to something different.

This is the good thing about living in a world where you're so free to do whatever you wish that you don't need to focus on all of these other things.

You don't need to worry about what other people are thinking.

You don't need to worry about parents,

Society,

What they might say because nothing matters.

The only thing that matters is your own happiness.

If you're interested,

Do it.

If you're not,

Don't do it.

Change it.

Move to a different place.

Make off your relationship,

Whatever it might be that you're thinking of.

Everything is forever.

When I tell my coaching clients as well,

It kind of relaxes them because they realize,

Okay,

This is not the end all of be all.

I am not stuck with this forever.

If I don't like it,

I can do something else.

You're able to start with a sense of freedom where you have more flexibility.

You're not stuck to the specific item.

You're able to start a little bit easier.

You're less hard on yourself.

Starting from that relaxed place is so much better than starting from a place where you're scared and anxious and worried about the future.

Taking it one day at a time,

Taking it one minute at a time,

One hour at a time,

Whatever you wish.

I hope that something in this video triggers something in you and you're able to use any of these learnings to apply things in your own life.

If you do need any help with coaching or with your life goals in any way,

I'm obviously here on my website,

Themillenniallifecoach.

Com.

I'm always looking forward to hear from you.

Even if you're not interested in coaching,

If you just want to have a conversation,

Please message me.

I'm always,

Always willing to listen.

I'm always willing to talk to anyone.

So I'm signing off now.

I hope that you will stick around and listen to more of my videos in the future.

Thank you.