Welcome to this class that's going to teach you more about the lover archetype.
The lover.
Peacemaker,
Companion,
Romantic.
At the touch of a lover,
Everyone becomes a poet.
Plato.
The lover archetype is motivated by connection with others and passion for life in general.
You put your heart and soul into relationships,
Activities or causes.
Your vitality for life and your unapologetic sensuality speak volumes,
And you're heart-led when deciding on jobs,
Activities,
Relationships and elements that adorn your surroundings.
The part of you that's a lover is motivated by the depths of your heart connection to others.
Lovers are drawn to careers,
Relationships,
Experiences and objects that bring personal enjoyment and aesthetic beauty.
Lovers pursue deep human connection and companionship and enjoy activities that get their pulse racing.
Lovers have a deep appreciation for life and those they encounter along the way,
And do so with great exuberance.
Lovers naturally and easily help others forge close connections and appreciation for each other.
Lovers are charismatic and others feel the magic of a lover's attention.
The lover in you tends to notice how people connect with each other,
How to create support among each other,
And how to make an environment and experience more pleasing and conducive to that support.
With their attention to all things beautiful and inspiring,
Lovers may overlook the significance of items or situations that are solely functional.
They may also disregard people and things that lack aesthetic or physical appeal.
Lovers are highly attuned to vulnerability as a means to attain intimacy and,
With experience,
They learn when and where it's appropriate for them to reveal their own vulnerability.
The underlying story of a lover's journey embodies the nurturing of relationships with others.
When faced with challenges,
The lover seeks to understand where the breakdown in the relationships occurred and how they can be repaired.
Eventually,
The lover learns to let go of the romanticized version of people and circumstances in favor of learning to accept imperfection and realness.
Activities and tasks fulfilling to a lover involves lots of collaboration.
When solving a problem,
A lover will endeavor to create an experience that elicits feelings of ecstasy at the most or feelings of being special at the least.
Lovers are the peacekeepers among colleagues and friends thanks to their well-attuned empathy.
A part of you that's the lover finds happiness when all the senses are engaged and stimulated because it affirms their appreciation for the gift of being alive.
Lovers see connection in all forms,
With other people,
With nature,
With the unknown universe.
First prize for a lover is to be passionately in love with someone who feels the same,
Although they'll lavish such passion in all things,
Including experiences,
Hobbies,
Careers,
Pets,
Beautiful landscapes,
And interiors,
As well as sentimental items.
As a leader,
The lover's passion can be contagious,
Igniting a willingness to excel in the workplace,
Fueled by enthusiasm.
Lover leaders build a culture of bonding and connection among their teams,
Creating a beautiful experience for all.
Coaching employees comes naturally to lovers because they ask the quality of questions that allow the individual to discover their own answers.
Camaraderie and friendship are natural outcomes in a team led by a lover.
Others often appreciate the enthusiasm and loving tendencies of a lover,
Although they may sometimes interpret the lover's behavior as overdramatic or vain.
Lovers may want to guard against overzealously pleasing others at the expense of their own sense of self.
Should a lover suffer a surprising need to pull away or intense anger,
They may already be out of balance in this regard.
If a relationship turns sour,
The lover will focus on all the faults of that person which seemed not to be a problem when the relationship was rosy.
Lovers fall in love quickly and when faced with the unpleasing realities of a personal situation,
They lose interest just as quickly.
Lovers would do well to be patient with their commitments,
To be sure ahead of time.
A lover fears loneliness.
Without this insight,
Lovers may quickly end up in relationships that are not ideal out of desperation and avoidance of facing their own emptiness.
The other alternative outcome to this fear is a self-perpetuated loneliness due to overt clinginess and dependence that drives people away.
Lovers could benefit from clarifying values about sexual expression and friendship,
Maintaining good boundaries,
Expressing sensuousness in all aspects of life even in the ordinary,
Making a long-term commitment to care about others and their well-being beyond infatuation,
Cultivating an independent sense of identity and self-esteem,
Keeping a sense of humor to avoid dramatizing difficulties,
And balancing the virtues of the lover with those of the explorer.
So let's take a look at the lover with explorer balance.
Just as the lover seeks to discover their other half in someone else,
They're balanced by the explorer's desire for individuality.
Acknowledging and honoring their own uniqueness empowers the lover to be fully present in their relationship rather than losing themselves to it.
My hope is that after watching this class you've got more clarity about the lover archetype.
Your assignment for this class is to share three ways in which you're going to start intentionally expressing your dominant archetype.
That could mean changing the way you dress or the jewelry you wear,
Or perhaps you're going to take up a new hobby that you've always wanted to do but you felt others wouldn't approve.
If it aligns with your archetype,
Start that hobby.
Or perhaps you're ready to make the commitment or to change your lifestyle to bring it more into alignment with who you inherently are.
I'd love to see a photo in the assignment section of whatever you choose as a representation of your expression of your archetype.
I'm excited to see how this awareness transforms your life.
