I wanted to talk about the idea of not being met.
And in this first track,
I'm just going to bring awareness to exactly what I mean by that.
So sometimes two people are having an interaction.
And they both.
Seem to think that they're on the same wavelength,
They're in the same interaction,
But they may actually have quite different expectations.
Different needs,
Different intentions.
Or different desires.
They're in the same conversation,
But they're not really on the same wavelength.
So the reason that this matters is if we don't recognize this mismatch as just a neutral mismatch,
We may start blaming ourselves for the interaction not happening the way we expected or the way we hoped.
And for those of us who are sensitive and very attuned to others.
It often feels like something didn't happen,
Something didn't meet,
Something didn't match.
And then we start sensing into the other person,
Trying to feel what they want,
What do they need?
How can we become easier to meet,
Essentially?
How can we make ourselves easier to meet?
That's the question that a lot of us unconsciously ask ourselves.
And that question isn't always bad.
Being able to meet people and be flexible in relationships is a skill.
Crossing over to someone else's side of the street can be quite beautiful.
We can.
Meet people where they are.
But sometimes when we cross over,
We start to lose ourselves.
And what I mean by losing ourselves,
Is.
Losing what's important to us and this can start to feel like confusion.
You may start doubting whether what you hear is true.
What you wanted and what matters to you,
Whether that's actually important.
You could start explaining more.
And I'm sharing these things so that you can So you can listen and see if maybe spot yourself here.
You might try to explain more.
You might clarify more.
You could soften yourself.
And basically what you're essentially doing energetically is Trying to make yourself easier to meet.
You're trying to match yourself to where someone else is.
And.
.
.
This can happen when someone literally doesn't show up.
It could happen in a conversation where the other person is physically there,
But they're They're just showing up differently than you are.
For example,
A lot of a lot of sensitive people are very earnest and vulnerable.
And looking for connection,
And sometimes the other person is focused on logistics,
Or they're just keeping things more surface level.
It's neither person is wrong.
There's just a mismatch there.
So the part that's the reason it's important to recognize the mismatch is that there can be an injury and that injury is if we start to tell ourselves a story about ourselves.
As a result of the mismatch because we're not aware of the mismatch.
That's where it can start to become harmful.
And sometimes we talk,
We tell ourselves.
Maybe I wanted too much.
Maybe my needs are too much.
I was expecting too much.
I was too earnest.
Maybe I wasn't clear enough.
And the bottom line of that can become,
Maybe I need to just become easier to meet,
To get my needs met.
So right now,
Like I said,
I'm not trying to blame the other person.
I'm not even trying to fix it.
I'm just bringing awareness to If you start to feel those feelings,
You might start asking,
Is this a situation where I'm not being met?
And I'm going to.
.
.
Record some other tracks and talk more about how this can feel in the body and also what we tend to do.
When this is happening?
And then how can we begin to come back to ourselves?
And.
.
.
Instead of turning this mismatch into a story about ourselves,
There's ways to work with it.
And remain a little bit more neutral.
