Welcome to this EFT tapping session on releasing regrets.
And regrets is something that we can carry often for a very long time,
Often many months or in some cases even years.
And it can sometimes feel like this really heavy burden that we carry,
Almost like some kind of punishment in a way.
And I'd like to share an analogy with you of an autumnal tree.
And we'll be kind of weaving this in through the tapping as well.
So when autumn comes,
The tree isn't trying to cling on to its old leaves.
It will let them go when the time and conditions are right.
So it just lets go of its leaves.
And today,
In a way,
We're doing something very similar with our own past.
So just be open to the idea that maybe you're here today because the time and conditions are right for you to let go to.
All right,
So we're going to take a moment to tune in before we start with the tapping.
So make sure you're sitting nice and comfortably.
You might like to close down your eyes or soften your gaze.
We're going to bring to mind where regret or self-blame shows up for you,
So that kind of specific situation.
So maybe it's a decision from years ago that you made or didn't make Maybe it's a recent conversation.
It could be a missed opportunity.
Or a choice that you keep replaying.
So just tune into that specific regret or situation that you're carrying today.
And just take a moment to notice how that feels.
So let's think about the body,
Maybe you're feeling some heaviness on the chest.
And not in your tummy.
Or a kind of weight on your shoulders.
And maybe some emotions are starting to come up too.
So on a scale of 0 to 10,
How heavy Intense or uncomfortable,
Does that regret feel for you right now?
So 10 is it feels really heavy,
Overwhelming and intense.
It's always on my mind.
And then zero would be it actually doesn't really bother me at all,
Like you just feel completely neutral about it.
So just notice where you sit on that scale of 0 to 10,
Knowing wherever your number is.
That's completely okay,
We're just noticing,
Giving it a little bit of space so that we can help that soften.
Then make a mental note of that number we'll check in again at the end all right.
Okay so we're going to start tapping now so tapping on the side of the hand you're repeating after me either in your mind or out loud and reminding yourself that by tapping along with me today you agree to take full responsibility for your own health and well-being.
So tapping softly.
Even though I'm carrying this heavy weight of regrets.
I choose to be gentle with myself today.
Even though I keep replaying what went wrong.
I'm open to releasing self-judgments.
Even though this regret feels so heavy and unresolved.
I acknowledge how hard I was trying with what I knew then and the person I was.
And I deeply and completely love and accept myself.
Or I'm learning too.
Moving now to the eyebrow points.
All this lingering regret.
Of the eye,
The things I wish had gone differently.
Under the eye,
Replaying old moments in my mind.
Under the nose,
All the words that were said.
All the words left unspoken.
Chin points,
Wishing I could go back and change things.
Wishing I had known better or made different choices.
Collarbone points,
Blaming myself for the choices I made or didn't make.
So just notice as we tap here how we put ourselves on trial.
We think we should have had complete foresight.
You might think you should have been able to navigate every situation really perfectly.
You might hold yourself to such high standards that you're not allowed to make mistakes.
Or wrong turns?
That if something ended painfully or didn't work out then it's all your fault and you're entirely to blame.
Just notice how heavy all that self-judgement feels.
It's a lot to carry.
You know,
It's like you're acting as your own judge and jury instead of.
.
.
Being a human being who's just learning.
Noticing.
Under the arm,
I notice how heavy this regret feels.
Top of the head and I worry that I can't undo it.
Or that I should have known better.
Okay back to the eyebrow points.
This old story that I have to keep punishing myself to make it right.
Side of the eye,
Wondering if there's a reason I'm holding on to this.
Under the eye,
I feel the weight of this regret in my body.
So as we tap here under the eye just noticing where you're physically holding on to this regret.
You can close your eyes or soften your gaze if that helps,
Just keep tapping under the eye.
Thinking about where you're holding on.
And commonly regret tends to manifest across the chest as a kind of heaviness.
Often in the throat,
A kind of tension or tightening in the throat around things that we didn't express or say.
Or in your stomach and not in your stomach,
Just noticing where that regret lives.
And then gently ask yourself Why has it felt so hard to let go of this?
Why's it felt so hard to let go of?
Just be open to maybe part of you holding on to this heaviness as a kind of self-punishment in a way.
If you stop feeling bad then it means that you didn't care or don't care.
Maybe keeping that regret alive and present is the only way to prove to yourself or actually to someone else that you're truly sorry.
And I know it can be quite hard to answer these questions.
And if the answers aren't clear yet,
That's okay.
Just trust that they'll come when the time is right.
For now though,
Let's take a breath here.
So breathing in through the nose,
Breathing to the area where regret lives the most.
And then release slowly.
Allow your body permission to begin to let that heavy burden go a little bit,
Just a little.
Well done and then eyes open back to tapping under the nose.
Comparing my real life to my imaginary life where I got it all right.
We do that a lot.
Tim points.
Acknowledging how hard I've been trying to make peace with this.
Collarbone points.
I'm wondering if there can be any hope or insights from this.
Under the arm.
I can see how part of me wants to make things right.
May it commence.
Top of the head,
Giving my mind and body.
Permission to express all of this.
Without self-judgements.
Okay before we move on to the next round,
Let's just take a breath here in through the nose.
And let go.
Well done.
Okay,
Let's move into shifting this energy and creating space for a little bit more self-compassion.
So back to the eyebrow points.
Maybe I don't have to keep punishing myself for the past.
What if I don't have to carry this heaviness forever?
And just remember that tree again.
Remember that trees don't struggle or force themselves to drop old leaves.
They allow them to fall when the time and conditions are right.
So you don't have to force anything,
You don't have to force yourself to let go if it doesn't feel right.
It will happen naturally as your nervous system begins to feel safe enough to let go.
That might be today and it might not and that's okay.
Under the eye.
Could there be some value in this regret?
Could it help guide the choices I make today?
Under the nose.
Maybe I can begin to release the harsh judgements around my past.
In points?
And what if I don't have to rewrite the past to find peace here and now?
Collarbone points.
I'm open to offering myself a little love.
And understanding.
A little love and care,
I deserve that.
Under the arm,
Shedding the expectation that I should have been perfect.
Because no one is.
Top of the head,
Recognising that I did what I could with the capacity I had back then.
Okay,
Well done.
Back to the eyebrow.
We're going to do a lovely visualisation at the collarbone point here as well,
But tapping on the eyebrow for now.
I am worthy and deserving of peace.
Of the eye,
I release the need to keep replaying the past.
Instead choosing thoughts and actions that support my growth.
My healing.
You've chosen to be here today.
Under the eye,
It's okay to let some of this go now.
Under the nose choosing self-compassion instead of self-blame.
In point.
It's human to mess up and do things imperfectly.
That's how we grow.
Collarbone points,
Allowing any shifts or insights to unfold in their own time.
Okay so we're going to do the visualisation here so keep tapping on the collarbone.
If your arms feel heavy then you can just rest them in your lap if you prefer.
Wise clothes or soft gaze.
And imagine yourself right now in a calm,
Beautiful woodland.
And autumn or fall is all around you.
The air is crisp.
Really lovely fresh air,
The ground is lovely and soft.
And the trees are all these beautiful colours.
Ready to gently drop their leaves.
Maybe some are already shedding their leaves.
Maybe some are really still full.
Some almost bare.
Just take in all the details of this beautiful forest,
The quiet,
The stillness.
The gentle rhythm of nature letting go.
And now bring to mind again that past situation,
So maybe words or choices or what-ifs or shoulds that have felt so heavy.
Then looking down at the ground just choosing a leaf.
To represent this specific regret.
So beautiful fallen leaf,
Just choose a leaf and then imagine picking it up.
And then holding it gently in your hands.
So looking at the leaf,
Just notice its shape,
Its patterns.
Its texture,
Its weight.
And just like our regrets,
A single leaf can carry its own unique presentation and energies.
You know,
We all feel so differently depending on our capacity and our experiences and even our personalities,
And that's okay.
Just notice how long you've been carrying what that leaf represents.
How long has that regret sat inside of your heart and your soul?
How often have you played things over and over again in your mind?
All the shoulds and should-nots.
And then just visualise slowly and softly opening your hands outwards and letting that leaf just drift down to the earth beneath you.
So just watch as it rests gently on the ground,
Joining the natural cycle of release.
And take a breath here as you notice that,
Breathing in and then just sighing out or breathing out through the mouth.
Almost blowing away the leaf.
And just notice what shifts within you as you let go.
Maybe your shoulders drop a little.
Maybe there's a bit more spaciousness or expansiveness in the chest area.
Feeling light,
Free,
A bit more space to breathe.
Just remember you don't need to fix your past to be worthy of a sense of peace right now.
When we grow our wisdom in our lives,
It's never about navigating things perfectly.
It's just about offering yourself compassion as you learn and as you grow.
So we really feel into the warmth of your own resilience and your lovely kind heart sitting there deep in your centre.
Remember you are human and you're allowed to release what you can't change.
Beautiful,
Well done.
So opening the eyes.
Have a little stretch if you need to and then back to tapping under the arm.
I am safe,
Grounded and present in this moment.
Top of the head.
I welcome moving forward with a little more ease and self-compassion.
Lovely,
Well done.
So stop tapping there,
Close your eyes and take a breath in.
Hold for a moment right at the top of that breath.
And then exhale fully.
Let's check back in again with that specific regret or situation that we tuned into at the start so close your eyes if that helps Just notice how that feeling lands in your body as you bring that to mind again.
And on a scale of 0 to 10.
Where does the heaviness or intensity sit now?
Has it shifted?
Has it moved around?
Has it dissipated a little bit?
Just notice if your number has changed at all.
Knowing that wherever that number is it's okay.
And if you prefer to tune in more to feelings and energy rather than numbers,
Just notice what shifted within you.
Maybe you feel a sense of lightness in your body.
Maybe you feel that softening around the shoulders.
Just a feeling of being more kind of grounded and present in your own energy in your own body.
And space.
Just noticing.
Well done and then open your eyes.
Once again have a little stretch if you need to.
So thank you so much for bringing your beautiful open energy to this session today.
Remember that any time that kind of regret or self-blame starts to bubble up then just take a breath.
You can just tap on your collarbone and remind yourself that it's okay to let go of those old leaves.
All about the time and conditions,
Okay?
Have a really wonderful rest of your day and thanks so much for tapping along.
Take care.
