When We Feel We Are Being Reasonable...

With her signature humor and ability to put words to vague perceptions and feelings, together with her healing touch, Premasudha's work is life changing. She has a truly great knack of assisting people out of the emotional prison of their ego/intellect into true freedom. This means that sometimes even serious diseases disappear too, as part of the emotional shift into a new more love-based understanding.

Transcript

You know,

Sometimes when we feel we're being the most reasonable,

We're actually coming from our wounding and it just seems reasonable to us because we're carrying the wounding of it.

So,

If you say,

Like if a person was a little kid and he was discouraged a lot,

Not allowed to have his true energy,

His or her true energy,

Then what will seem reasonable to that person is kind of a repeat of that same energy and the mind will find explanations for it.

So,

For example,

I've got one.

I remember my dad once telling me that if I earned half the amount of money that he would pay for me to go to Hawaii,

He would pay the rest of it.

So,

Indeed,

An opportunity came up with friends of mine,

Good solid friends and her family who my parents knew they were going to Hawaii and invited me and so I said,

Look,

I've got half my fare saved up,

Can you pay the other half?

And he said no.

It was so unreasonable because we'd had this discussion before where he'd okayed it.

Now,

Years after,

I realized it was coming from his wounding.

It seemed very reasonable to him for me not to go.

It seemed reasonable because as a kid,

He wasn't allowed any freedom at all and the family kind of ignored the heart song.

So,

His heart song was Squashed.

So,

All he knew to do was squash mine and he thought he was being reasonable.

But it's not just him,

It's like I've done stuff with my own boys that when I look back on,

I go,

Oh my goodness.

So,

I just think it's important that we just keep a door open in our dealings with others to not be so sure that we're right and maybe to keep the door open to be able to look at ourselves.

Okay,

Bless your heart.

Takes a lot of courage.

It's quite humbling.

But we become better people and the whole world deans.

I feel,

You know,

People who are more thoughtful and noble maybe,

You know.

Okay,

Bless your heart.

Reviews

The rigidity of life gets to me sometimes. I’ve always been the person to question things. I want to do things differently but many people will reaffirm their own thoughts and fears pretty aggressively and with such certainty, but also admit in the same breath that they aren’t sure in many ways. I have to ignore them and do my own thing without announcing it because of backlash. It makes it hard to be outspoken because of ostracizing. But I beat to my own drum anyway just to see what works. If it doesn’t and I try a suggested way and that works, well isn’t it wonderful that it all worked out. Being lighter in my heart and with my words has been helpful in getting out what I need to say without all the emotion behind it. Emotion has gotten me into a lot of trouble in the past and has left me without clarity in some ways.
This life is fascinating. I’m enjoying it more now than in my youth.🤗❤️🤗🙏🏾🌸🙏🏾

Yeah... That is so huge to understand your dad for his conditioning years later...I can feel how I have experienced this inconsistency in words/actions on both ends where I received it and then unwittingly also did this to others, especially in my workplace... makes me feel horrible...Integrity is so important and often I think it’s been downplayed or even lost in some ways... perhaps due to conditioning and how our culture teaches that money matters more than people... going back to more ancient values & ways of being of humanity, like you suggest in your talks, may be some of the best medicine ❤️

Very true, thank you for bringing that into awareness🙏🏻🙏🏻🙏🏻