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Setting Boundaries With Self-Love

by Premasudha Janet Hobbs

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With her signature humor and ability to put words to vague perceptions and feelings, together with her healing touch, Premasudha's work is life-changing. She has a truly great knack for assisting people out of the emotional prison of their ego/intellect into true freedom. This means that sometimes even serious diseases disappear too, as part of the emotional shift into a new more love-based understanding.

BoundariesSelf LoveHumorHealingLife ChangingEmotional PrisonEgoFreedomLovePersonal PowerNegative EnergyEmotional ResilienceInternal DialogueSelf CompassionSelf TranscendenceBoundary SettingEmotional ShiftsNegative Energy TransformationsDisease

Transcript

You know Disney Herons are kind of insipid and really they're kind of codependent.

They're not really great examples of a loving beneficent female.

Maybe we don't have too many examples around.

But I want to talk about if you're seeking to become embody love and compassion.

It doesn't mean to allow yourself to be treated badly at all.

I want to give an example of something that happened to me years ago that actually helped me see that I was beginning to take my own power.

I was in a crowded situation and I noticed an older man who was staring at me.

And he was staring at me with kind of malice for some reason.

And I looked at him and was quite shocked.

And when he saw the shock it actually shifted him more into bullying.

And it increased this random malice coming from this guy.

And as he did this he got bigger and bigger in his chair.

He was sitting with his wife.

He was an older guy sitting with his wife.

I don't know what life was like for her.

Anyway he was getting more and more puffed up.

And as I was sitting there going,

Wow this guy is intensely trying to hurt me.

So what I did was,

In kind of a neutral way,

I just decided that I had enough kind of darkness coming from people that last a lifetime.

And unearned.

You know it felt to me very unearned that this is happening.

So I just decided to send his garbage back.

I mean I just wasn't going to keep it.

I wasn't going to accept it.

So I just looked at him and I did this without any emotion,

Just straight like I'm giving your garbage back man.

I don't need this.

I just stared at him and I sent it all back.

And I had a lot of oomph behind this because it was a way that my back was against the wall and I'd had enough of this kind of aggression really to last my lifetime.

So I was like saying no.

It was a very deep no to this.

And that's part of what sent it back quite powerfully.

And as he was staring at me I could see him,

He looked shocked and he started to deflate and he got lower and lower in his chair and he broke my gaze.

And you know I returned to my conversation.

I mean I felt okay,

Neutral about it.

Like okay solve that.

Now you know in the case of a true spiritual master they wouldn't do that.

They wouldn't have to do that because they would know that whatever the fellow was sending to them would just return to that person inexorably.

Yeah.

But in my case I was just beginning to discover my personal power and that I didn't have to live under sort of a load of abuse.

And you know sure I stood up to this guy in the external but who I was really standing up to was my own internal negative dialogue.

So these people,

These events can happen to show us what we're running inside ourselves.

So as I got clearer and clearer this sort of thing happened less and less and now doesn't seem to happen.

So as I say I get you know life is good as you start to really awaken and emerge out of your ego.

You start seeing the loving things and this poor guy you know for whatever reason whatever his sad life had been or how he was caught in darkness himself that he was spewing like that.

But anyway he got it back and actually it's a good reason you see that's why we did spewing darkness is not safe we will get it back.

Okay bless your hearts.

Meet your Teacher

Premasudha Janet HobbsNorth Vancouver, BC, Canada

4.7 (27)

Recent Reviews

Lise

December 7, 2022

That’s a lesson in itself for me. If I were in your shoes, I surely would’ve engaged and escalated the issue just by addressing it. I’m seeing that now. Silence is golden sometimes. Wonder if others could feel the energy between you too. I pray his energy shifted after that for the better. Reminds me of how easy it is to blame others for our own issues. I have so much to learn. You dealt with yours right then and there. This is so powerful and I’m taking notes. 🙏🏾🌸🙏🏾❤️🤗♥️

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