Reconnecting With Positive Memories

Our mammalian brains can get hooked on trauma. The amygdala, or alarm center, gets overactive; the prefrontal cortex, our thinking center, stands down; and we get stuck in a negative thought loop that feels true. It isn't. The secret to more peace is to remember the good things about growing up. As we make room for positive memories to surface, our outlook becomes wiser, and we become balanced.

After all, you are pretty good - there must have been enough positive things happening in your childhood that you came out this way.

Transcript

This is for anyone who struggles with trauma, Especially anyone feeling that there's a mountain of stuff coming down the family line and that they find it hard to deal with. The point of this video is to talk about where our thinking comes from and also what we can do to come into a more peaceful and truer understanding. Okay, So the first thing is to look at what is producing our thinking. So in human beings, The mammalian brain gets hooked into trauma easily. So what happens is the amygdala gets overactive and the neofrontal cortex, Which is more our seat of our higher intelligence, Gets deactivated. So we get lost in emotions and the storyline. Okay. This is all of us. We all have this vulnerability. So one of the things you can do is to do something in the physical like, You know, Walk in nature, Have a bath, Have a full fridge. Go at a slower pace. All these things help. Butt. I want to talk about Remembering. And what we remember. Because there's a certain point on the healing journey where you start remembering the good things. And when this happens your perspective goes much higher, Much calmer, Much wiser. Okay? Even, You know, Think of the word remembering. It's like remembering, Reorganizing it. Yeah, So that life looks different. To us and that life looks better. I have a client who, You know, Had a. . . Had trouble with her dad, But then she remembered her dad reading stories to her. And just the remembering brought her to tears because she could feel how much he loved her. And as a result of this, She could see. The love he had for her during her childhood and that he has for her now. And this has helped get her out of this very small way of thinking, A very small. Victim-style thinking that promoted helplessness. And sadness. It helped to see the real picture. And if you think about it, You know, You may be in pain but You're pretty good. I mean. . . You're good. You know you must have enough good things to Be the way you are. It couldn't all have been terrible. Really? Make room, Ask that the good memories are brought to you. You can pray to the Creator even, And ask that you open up and remember the good things. And I'll tell you, When you do that, It will be like coming out of a dark room into broad daylight. Daylight with a sunny day. You will have. A more even and a more truer. Perspective, Because when we get caught in trauma, It isn't true. It isn't real. It's this overactive alarm center and a push-down center of reason and thinking. And be good. You know, Off. So I just wanted to spell this out because if we know this that it's just a human tendency. We can Take steps. You know, Towards more balance because you'll have a happier life. And if you've got kids, It'll be easier for them. Just that their parents are happier. Yeah. Right. And remember, There's always a lot of light wanting to come to us. But sometimes we have to drop. The trauma story. To receive the light. This is the rub, Yeah. To just let it loosen even, So more light can come in. Okay, Bless your hearts.