Create A Supportive Self-Identity To Achieve Your Goals

If you're not reaching your soulful business goals, it may be down to your self-identity. In this talk I take you through 3 steps to create a "SUPER" self-identity who supports your Soul's desires, so you can easily fulfil your dreams in business (and life) in a fun, soul-aligned way! "You are not meant to stay the same... you are an evolution in motion"

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Is your self-identity blocking you reaching your business goals?

So we're going to do it in a few parts today.

First we're going to identify what is self-identity so that we're all on the same page.

Then we're going to look at why your self-identity,

Your identity that you occupy in the business space is important for your success.

And then we're going to look at how to change it so that it makes it way easier for you to succeed in your business and to reach your business goals.

So let us get started.

What is self-identity and why is this so important?

Let's start here.

Self-identity is really about who it is that you believe that you are.

Okay so not what other people believe but what you internally believe about who you are.

And this is made up with a few different things but mainly around what you believe about yourself,

What you believe about the world,

And therefore what it is that you think about yourself and the world and how you then act.

Okay so you can you see that train?

First we start with the belief and then we start with the thought and then we start and then it feeds into the action.

And so how your self-identity or how it is that you identify about yourself,

What you think about yourself,

What you believe about yourself will affect what you do in your business or how you will act in your business.

Okay so of course if say for example your self-identity is one like where you believe I'll never get success,

Well you're probably going to be thinking that right?

So you believe that then you think that and then the actions that you take kind of lead you to that well what's the point because I'm not going to succeed anyway.

Can you see how your self-identity starts to not manipulate,

It starts to impinge on the type of actions that you take in your business.

So your self-identity,

What it is that you believe about who you are and what you believe is about the world,

Affects the type of actions that you take in your business and therefore whether you are aligning yourself to succeeding or not.

Equally it's not just about the type of actions or whether you're doing the actions right and you'll know me I'm obsessed with energy and mindset and I believe that these are the foundations of really creating easy success in your business.

So if you want ease,

Stick around right.

So not only it's about it's not only about the type of actions that you're taking or whether you are taking action,

It's also about the energy behind that action right.

So I tend to work with entrepreneurs who are taking action right,

They're doing all the things that they're meant to be doing to creating a successful business.

However there is a part of their self-identity that believes,

Might believe for example that I'll never reach success,

I'm just not made out for it okay.

And so although they're taking the action that should bring them what it is that they want,

The energy behind that is a resonance that doesn't match with what they really want.

So they're doing the action but they don't really believe that it's going to help them and so it kind of doesn't right.

So it's not only about whether you are taking the action,

Whether your beliefs and thoughts impinge upon you taking the action or not,

It's also about the energy that is behind the action that you do take.

So if you have part of your self-identity has a belief running underneath it that believes that you're not the sort of person who succeeds or you're not the sort of person who is allowed to have success in a really easy way,

Then this affects not only you not doing action or taking incorrect action but also the energy behind the action which of course is felt by our soul clients.

So we've briefly discussed what self-identity means in terms of who you think you are right.

It's not about other people and what they think about you,

It's about what your internal thoughts are like,

I believe I am this sort of person,

I believe I am capable of doing this or not capable of doing this right.

The other part is what you believe about the world.

So part of your self-identity is about creating a story about your interaction with the outside world.

So again this isn't about the outside world acting upon you,

It's about how you go out and interact with the world.

So this part of self-identity is what do I believe about the world.

Now how this could potentially block you reaching your business goals is this.

For example,

If you have a part of your self-identity that believes about the world that it isn't safe to be visible online and you're an online entrepreneur,

You're an online business who wants to you know create change in the world and online is your platform,

It's kind of going to,

Can you see how this is going to block you from creating the success you want right?

You're either going to take action and it's going to feel energetically really gross because you're like it's not safe to be there or you're not going to take action because you're going to hide yeah or you're just you're just going to be really scared of that space.

So part of the self-identity,

The second part of the self-identity part is how we,

What we believe about the world outside and again this belief within us affects how we think and therefore how we act out in the world.

So we have two parts of to what is self-identity right.

One part is how you think about yourself,

What am I capable of,

Am I allowed to have this,

Am I the sort of person who creates success in my business,

Am I the sort of person who reaches my goals,

Am I the sort of person who reaches my goals easily yeah.

So we get to set the parameters of how it is that we create success in business and personally this is what I believe,

Success in your business,

In your soul led business gets to be so freaking easy,

So so so deliciously easy and fun okay and if it's not that something is not quite in alignment okay.

So part of the self-identity piece that may be blocking you from reaching your business goals is what you think about yourself,

Who you are,

What you're capable of,

What you are allowed and whether you're the sort of person who reaches your business goals or not and in what state is it easy or is it hard right.

The second part of your self-identity is how you personally think about relating with the rest of the world okay.

So is the world a safe place for you to show up and share your gifts,

Is the world out there receptive to what it is that you have to say,

Are there interested people out there for your body of work right.

So I'm throwing some questions out there for you to consider because this is kind of like this piece of self-identity right.

If I believe the world out there is a friendly place,

If I believe the world out there is interested in what I have to say,

If I believe the world out there has people out there who love what I do and really are ready to step into my work,

Guess what,

Energetically that draws our people into us.

However if we have a self-identity that has views about the outside world,

That it is not a safe place,

This is just examples right,

We're not going to cover all of the ideas that you could have,

But for example if we have a self-identity that doesn't believe that the world out there is safe,

That the world wants their body of work,

That there are people who are interested in your work,

Energetically you are repelling people from seeing your beautiful work,

Your beautiful offers,

Your life-changing transformative stuff.

So is your self-identity blocking you reaching your business goals?

So we've gone through the first part,

What is self-identity?

That was two parts,

One is what you believe about yourself and the second part is what you believe about the world.

Everything starts from you.

Now we're going to hop into the second part and it really is,

Well why is this important?

If you haven't heard that already,

Why is this important?

I'm going to make it really crystal clear.

It's important for you to have a self-identity that aligns with your goals,

So this is just so much easier and that you actually reach them.

Kind of simple right,

But sometimes we need to have things spelt out to us.

Working on your self-identity,

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What you believe about yourself and what you believe about the world,

Is important so that this whole business journey,

This whole entrepreneurial journey,

Can be super easy for you,

Super fluid and really enriching and fulfilling.

It doesn't have to be hard,

However what I see constantly with my clients,

With my audience members,

They're making it hard because of beliefs that are blocking them from doing what they need to do.

From beliefs that are stopping them or holding them back from what they really truly desire to do in the world.

From beliefs that are just causing stress and all of the action taking that we need to do as entrepreneurs.

So it is important,

Your self-identity is important to make this journey easier for you,

To make reaching your goals in business fun and easy.

And just for you to feel good right,

It's important to feel good,

It's really important to feel good,

Especially in this entrepreneurial journey that can be quite up and down right.

It is important that you have a self-identity that is fulfilling,

That gives you positive feedback loops,

Yeah.

Because what I know from this entrepreneurial journey for myself is that it is an up and down thing,

Yeah.

And if your self-identity gets very blown away from not succeeding because you're not going to succeed all the time or it's very dependent on you succeeding right now,

It can be really hard to stay in the game.

And part of the success equation is your ability to stay in the game,

Yeah.

Your longevity in the game.

And it's not only you actually being present,

It's also your energy staying in the game.

So your energy maintaining alignment with what it is that you want to achieve in your business over time,

Yeah.

It's important to work on your self-identity,

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What you think about yourself and who you believe you are and what you think about the world,

So that you can stay in the game,

So that you're able to reach your business goals and in a way that is really satisfying and fulfilling for you,

Yeah.

Because it doesn't have to be hard,

It does not have to be hard and it doesn't need to be a struggle.

So today we're talking about is your self-identity blocking you reaching your business goals?

We went through what is self-identity,

There are two parts to that.

We talked about why it's important,

Obviously,

To reach your business goals,

But also other things,

Yeah.

And now I'm going to give you three steps of how you start to change your self-identity so that it supports you in reaching your business goals,

Rather than sitting there and being like,

You can't do this,

I told you you can't do it,

See,

Told you you can't do it.

We don't want that kind of self-identity,

We want that self-identity that supports us,

That makes us feel really good about ourselves and that continues to allow us to show up in a way that is energetically aligned,

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Joyful,

I.

E.

Easy,

I.

E.

Sure,

I.

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Certain,

That we're going to create what it is that we desire,

Yeah.

So how do we change our self-identity?

Three steps.

The first one is this,

You need to become aware of how you identify with yourself.

Kind of simple,

Right?

And I'm putting this as part of home play if you want feedback.

Home play hashtag home play is something that I offer for my free group,

The Soul Lead Business Revolution,

And you can drop a post hashtag home play with all of your insights to this question,

Yeah.

So number one is become aware.

Become aware of how you think about yourself,

How you think about the world outside.

This is part of your self-identity,

Okay.

So your self-identity is,

Also is,

As we said,

About how you think about yourself and how you relate with the world at large based upon what you think about the world,

Okay.

So everything starts from you.

So become aware of who you think you are,

Yeah.

Who you think you are in relation to business,

Who you think you are in relation to reaching your goals,

Yeah.

Who you think you are in relation to your audience,

To your people.

Those three things will really help you to get a full picture of your self-identity and from that start to be able to see whether your self-identity in the business realm is assisting you,

Supporting you,

Cheerleading you to success or not.

Now I wanted to just put a little caveat on this.

So we're talking about your self-identity in terms of business,

Okay.

Because we have multiple identities that exist in our lives,

Okay.

So let's quickly talk about this now that it's come up.

So we have multiple identities that we operate with in our lives depending on the context,

Okay.

And so your self-identity can change somewhat depending on what context you are in.

So this is why in terms of not reaching your goals in business,

You want to become aware of the self-identity that you have while you are operating in the business realm,

Okay.

Because for example,

If you're really good say at surfing,

I love surfing so I'm going to talk about surfing.

If you're really good at surfing,

You might have a different self-identity based on that.

You know,

I'm really capable of being in the waves,

I'm really confident,

I know my stuff,

I can get myself out of anything,

I can solve any problem.

That's how I feel when I'm surfing.

However,

When you hop into the business realm,

Maybe you're not as confident.

And so your self-identity,

Your set of beliefs about your capabilities,

About what you're able to do or not able to do,

Change.

So for example,

It might be like you change from being this really super confident person in one context and when you come into business it might change to,

I'm scared of being online.

It's a scary place out there in the online world,

I don't know how to relate,

I don't know how to speak,

I'm not the sort of person who reaches their goals easily because business is hard.

Yeah,

You see where I'm going with this.

So when you are going through these three steps to change your self-identity,

When you are doing this first one which is becoming aware,

Please narrow it down to you in the business context.

So if you're not reaching your goals in business and you want to change,

It might be because of your self-identity.

And so therefore become aware of how you think about yourself in terms of being a business owner,

Being the CEO,

Being an entrepreneur,

However it is that you want to label yourself in business.

In business,

Become aware of how you think of yourself and what you think about the world in a business context,

Okay,

And in relation to you reaching your goals.

So first we become aware and then from there when we have our list of things and we're kind of starting to see the big picture of our beliefs and therefore our thoughts and therefore the kind of actions we take or we do not take and the energy underlying all of that,

We get to ask ourselves is this supporting me reaching my goals in business or not?

And if it isn't,

This is the second step.

We get to change them,

Right,

Because just as we talked about before when we're in that little segue about identities being different in different contexts and you being able to occupy multiple identities in your life,

Well then we can change it,

Right,

Because we are flexible.

If I can be a confident surfer in this context,

That means I can be a confident business owner as well.

So one of the tricks and tips that I give to my clients often is this,

Take an example of when you have reached your goals,

Not in business,

Like go wider,

Anytime that you have reached your goals and understand who you were in that moment,

Okay.

So what kind of person were you in that moment or those moments leading up to you reaching that goal,

Okay.

Understand the beliefs that were running,

Understand the thoughts that were running,

Understand the energy that was running and then transfer them over to you being a kick-ass business owner,

A kick-ass entrepreneur,

Yeah.

So this is the fun thing when we're working with identities or beliefs or the realm of the ego,

Is we really get to shift,

We get to shift these things really easily,

Yeah.

We get to change these things,

We are not set in stone,

Right.

So if you have not been reaching your business goals and you're like,

Oh my god,

This is just who I am,

It's not,

It's not true,

Take that with you,

It is not true and you get to change at every moment who it is that you are,

Changing how you're thinking,

Changing how you're acting,

Changing the energy behind your actions and eventually changing what you truly believe about yourself and about the world out there.

So how do we change it?

We change it!

Once we're aware that our self-identity in the business context isn't supporting us reaching our goals in a really easy and soulful way,

We get to change it,

It is that easy,

Okay.

So now you're going to become aware of where you are still playing out your old identity and decide to change it in a way,

And it could be as easy as making a list of your beliefs and thoughts and doing the opposite,

Yeah.

Choosing affirmations that are the opposite,

Choosing thought,

When you catch your thoughts going into the old identity,

Pulling them up into the preferred identity and what I like to call your super identity,

Pulling your thoughts back into the super identity that thinks and feels and believes in you being amazing at what you do in every single way as a business owner and as a coach,

Healer,

Facilitator,

Whatever label you give yourself,

Yeah.

So we become aware,

We change what we do not like because we're allowed to and we can and it's easy and then,

I shouldn't say it's easy,

It can be easy,

And then the third thing is we embody it,

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Act on it.

So there is one thing about changing your thoughts and your inner world,

Right,

And then there is the next step which is what I believe is one of the most courageous steps because this is when you go out and act upon the world in a different way and this can be very vulnerable for a lot of people because you're going to come out as a different person and for some people that's really,

For people who know you well,

This can be a little bit jarring because it changes the type of relationships that you have but if you're really,

Really like committed to reaching your business goals,

This is absolutely necessary.

So we go through the process of becoming aware of changing our thoughts,

Our beliefs,

And then we need to do the behavioral change,

Yeah,

We need to embody it,

We need to act upon those new thoughts and beliefs about ourself and as we do that loop more and more,

Yeah,

The three steps over and over again,

Our self-identity starts to change and what we believe about ourselves and who we are and how we relate to the world and what we believe about the world starts to change because it becomes more evidence-based,

Yeah,

We start to see evidence where,

Oh,

The old ideas about what I had about myself in the world,

They're not really applying anymore because you're starting to act upon new thoughts and new beliefs which give you new realities and then the more that we experience new realities,

The more that we start to build our self-identity in a way that supports us reaching our business goals.

So those three steps again are this,

Become aware of your self-identity,

Your beliefs,

Your thoughts,

Your actions,

Yeah.

Two,

If it doesn't align with you reaching your business goals,

Change it because you get to,

Yeah,

You're flexible,

You're not meant to stay the same,

You're evolving,

Amazing,

You're an amazing evolution in motion,

Yeah,

And then you get to embody it.

So this is,

The courageous part is to act upon these new thoughts and beliefs,

Yeah.

For those of you who would love to do home play in my free group,

The Soul Lead Business Revolution,

Hashtag home play,

Pop a different post up and start answering some of these questions,

Right.

You might want to explore this over the week and then let us know how you go.

So what part of your self-identity is blocking you,

Yeah.

What parts,

What beliefs about yourself and the world are not in alignment to your goals,

Ooh,

And what would you rather believe,

Be or do instead.

Then the last thing is act on it.

So in your home play,

Let us know how you're going to action this and we'll give you a little bit of accountability in the free group.

Ciao for now,

Bye.

Reviews

Clear, concise talk with many suggestions to get started immediately working on your self-identity. There are several steps. Each one has it's own merits and purpose. This talk had a wealth of information to get you started towards reaching your goals. I am quite shocked it doesn't have more stars. Definitely ☆☆☆☆☆!✨️💥💫