Regulate Safety

Safety isn’t something you force it’s something your system already knows how to recognise. This session gently explores where you feel at ease, and where you may be overriding yourself without realising. A quiet space to return to what actually feels safe, rather than what you’ve been told should be.

Transcript

Regulate safety. Safety isn't something you create, It's something you recognise. So as you find your way to a comfortable position, Maybe lying down on your back, Have a folded blanket underneath your head for support. You're just going to allow for the words to wash over you and take with you what resonates. Allow those thoughts to percolate and carry them into your day. So safety is one of those words that gets used quite a lot but is rarely understood. Most people think that safety is something that they have to build, Something they have to earn or something that comes from the outside of themselves. But your system doesn't work like that. Your body is constantly reading, Is this safe or is this not? The body is continuously in awareness of that phrase, Is this safe or is this not? Our instinct for survival is ever close, Is ever near. And that inbuilt instinct suddenly enlivens when the body puts itself in a position where it can be questioned. Is this safe or is this not? And not just in obvious ways but in subtle everyday moments, In conversations, In environments, In expectations placed on you, In the way you speak to yourself. And what's important to understand is that your body will register unsafety long before your mind tries to explain it. Your body will register unsafety long before your mind tries to explain it. As humans, We have a natural inbuilt system, Indicators that allow us to understand our own existence. To understand what is safe and what isn't. You will feel it, The inner knowing will alert you through the feeling and then your mind will try to explain it. So you might notice tension, Resistance, Withdrawal, Irritation, A quiet sense of, I don't want to be here. And often, More often than not, You may override it. You tell yourself, It's fine, I should be able to handle this. This isn't a big deal. But your system, It isn't responding to logic, It's responding to something much deeper and much more magical and much more natural than what you know. It's responding to truth in the moment. So safety is not something you force, It's something you recognize. Safety is not something you force, It's something you recognize. And when it's identified, You know that you no longer have to override yourself because you're connected, Deeply connected to the inner mechanisms that keep you sensitive enough to recognize if you are safe or if you are not. So when you begin to regulate, You're not trying to calm down artificially, You're learning to notice, Where am I actually at ease? Where am I bracing myself? Where am I performing safety instead of feeling it? You're learning to notice, Where am I actually at ease? You feel into the body, You notice, You identify and you hold that space in ease. Where am I bracing? You identify, You notice and release. Where am I performing safety instead of feeling it? And this is where things can shift. Because once you start recognizing where you don't feel safe, You can't unknow that information. That is information that instinctively and intuitively is embedded along the inner layers. You can't unknow that information. And that's not a problem. What that is, Is awareness. And that's what this is all about. How aware can we be in our safety? You don't need to force yourself into safety. You need to become honest about where it already exists and where it doesn't. Allow for easeful breaths. Let the message land. Take with you what worked for you today. And have a wonderful day.