Let It Move: A Practice For The Man Sitting With Anger

I'm so glad.

That you are here.

This is for you,

If you.

.

.

Of feeling some.

Difficult emotions today.

If this evening you have.

Something hot.

Sitting in your chest.

Something sharp.

Around the edges.

May be your feeling.

Resentment.

Anger.

Frustration.

Shame,

If any of those resonate.

Stick around.

Anger is one of.

Nice.

Misunderstood emotions.

For men.

We kind of.

.

.

Expect that you'll feel it.

But we don't.

Allow.

To express this easily.

You are told.

Not to lash out.

So be that guy.

Hold it in.

And so.

.

.

That's why you end up.

Swallowing it.

Gritting your teeth,

Trying so hard to stay calm.

When everything inside you just wants to be.

Break something.

Have you been there?

What happens.

Is that eventually that anger turns inwards.

And it becomes shame.

Silence.

Numbness.

And self-blame.

If your hands free.

I invite you to make it.

Right now.

And just.

.

.

Hold them tight.

Feel.

Attention.

A physical manifestation of how you're feeling on the inside.

And now slowly.

Notice how that feels.

You don't have to keep gripping everything so tight.

The truth is,

There's nothing wrong with the feeling.

Of anger.

But what can you do with it?

When it's there,

How can you release it safely?

Because it has to be released.

So that it doesn't eat you inside.

I've got some ideas for you.

You could move it by physically moving your body.

Movement helps the body to complete the cycle of stress,

So you can dump a pillow.

You can go to the gym.

You can hit the street.

Because that anger is living in your body.

So let it out.

You can try.

Naming it.

Say in your head or write down.

Peeing me off.

This is making me feel furious.

Express it in some way.

Somewhere that doesn't have to go to somebody else.

You get to express.

How you feeling?

To yourself.

And that doesn't make it less real.

And if you do feel like writing it down.

You can burn it.

I love doing this.

I write down how I'm feeling.

Especially those difficult emotions.

I burn them.

And it just feels like this release of letting go,

Of transmuting the energy.

If you have a safe space,

Somebody that you can talk to.

Then why not?

Tell them.

How you're feeling.

And realise if you do have a safe space and somebody you can speak to like that,

That you're incredibly lucky and that person deserves to be treated so well.

Having someone like that in your life is a gift.

And now I just want to say that You're not broken.

Feeling this.

Yes,

I know,

We've heard about it.

Anger management.

Trying to eliminate this emotion altogether,

But anger has a place.

It has a purpose.

It's okay to feel it.

Doesn't mean you're dangerous.

It doesn't mean y'all.

Too much.

Just for having this emotion.

Could be that you've just never been taught.

To do with it.

Never too late to learn.

So,

Let's take a breath together.

I invite you to breathe in through your nose,

Fully,

Fully in.

And we're going to do a long exhale through your mouth.

And again,

Breathe in.

And out.

It's okay if it feels like the anger hasn't abated.

Those breaths may help you to feel more grounded.

Don't necessarily hold the answer to releasing the anger you're feeling right now.

That's okay.

I want to remind you.

That you don't have to be soft.

All the time.

In order to be loved.

You don't have to be calm.

All the time.

In order to be loved.

The difficult feelings exist.

A dead man.

There's no denying it.

And let them move.

Name them.

Let them breathe.

And just how the ocean.

Has days where the sea is flat.

The loss.

Like a swimming pool.

And other days where the waves are roaring.

And tumultuous.

It feels like they're going to threaten to engulf you.

It doesn't change the value of the seed.

It doesn't change.

How we feel about the sea.

It doesn't change what the sea is.

That was an unexpected metaphor,

But one that seems relevant.

Especially because you're hearing.

The roaring ocean right now.

On this day when?

The clouds are a little bit stormy.

Maybe your clouds.

A little bit stormy tonight.

But hang on in there.

Find ways where you feel safe to express yourself.

Without causing you harm.

And just learn.

To morrow.

Is going to be.

A much calmer day.

So right now.

Tonight.

Even if nothing feels solved.

Nothing feels settled.

Can you let it be?

And know.

You're not alone in feeling this.

You don't have to bury it.

Or swallow it.

Or turn it inwards.

You don't deserve that.

You deserve so much more.

You made it through today.

That's enough.

Sleep well.

Good night.