Abandonment & Rejection: Lessons From Intimate Loss

Created for those who've experienced the extreme feelings of abandonment, rejection due to their partner leaving the relationship. Based on her experience and knowledge through Yoga and Vedic teachings, Lisa offers the listener perspective, clarity, insights, and reasons to forgive from discovering the precious jewels within this monumentous life event.

Transcript

Hi there and welcome.

My name is Lisa Carlyle and this meditation is dedicated to anyone who has experienced the reality of their partner walking away from their relationship.

Gently close your eyes,

Soften your lips,

Relax your forehead and drop your shoulders.

Allow your entire body to relax in this moment just as it is.

Surrender your bones,

Allow your muscles to melt.

Pay attention to your natural breath and bring a little more focus to the exhale.

Allow the exhale to deepen the relaxation.

Pay further attention to the space in between the breath,

The one after the inhale and the one after the exhale.

Allow your breath to float and wander throughout the body whilst innocently observing the effortless movement,

The pauses and the sensations.

Relax into the here and now.

You are safe here.

I invite you to gently remember the time when you realised your partner had left your life.

Take a deep breath in.

You are safe to have this memory.

You are here and this is now.

This circumstance may have occurred a day ago,

A week ago,

A year or more ago.

That moment when you faced the reality they were no longer with you.

This may have been sudden and unexpected.

You may have felt their energy pulling away.

Whatever the process was,

Your truth is important.

Allow yourself to slowly move back to the intense reality when you realise this person has gone.

You may remember your mind was racing,

Confused,

Working hard to solve this problem.

Every morsel of your body was and maybe still is missing them.

There was little understanding.

You may have lamented about all of the things you were going to do together,

All of the things you could have done differently,

All of the things you could have said.

You were feeling lost and vulnerable,

Perhaps scared and at times angry,

But mostly experiencing a sadness unlike you have ever felt before.

Your thoughts were consumed by them and perhaps still are.

Everything reminded you of them.

Songs,

An article,

A sunrise.

Your world changed yet nothing outside much changed.

So you mustered up the energy to face your job and your family.

But you often felt as if you were dragging around an empty shell out of obligation and responsibility when all you really wanted to do was curl up,

Put your arms around this person and press pause.

The feeling sorry for yourself started to comfort you in some strange way.

It was as if someone was listening and you were enjoying the sympathy and the compassion.

Take another deep breath into the heart space now.

You are brave,

Brave enough to move back to these feelings and sensations for your healing.

You are healing yourself with your gentle attention and affection.

Observe all the emotion that is now present as you unite with these memories.

Relax.

Everything is okay.

You are okay.

I know this as I've been there in my own way.

I too have felt the anguish of losing someone I wasn't ready to let go of.

I know it may not feel okay right now but I'm here to tell you this will get easier.

Nothing lasts forever and this too shall transform.

You are doing a beautiful job of allowing your intense emotions to flow.

These thoughts and emotions are simply like the clouds in the sky,

Waves on the ocean.

They come and they go.

They ebb and they flow.

Yes your heart may still feel broken but this crisis you were or still are facing is not one of disaster.

For every end brings new beginnings.

This is not blameworthy and you are more than enough.

The circumstance occurred because you were ready to grow.

You were ready to know your own strength.

You were ready to know yourself.

You were chosen.

Chosen to experience the immense power of your heart.

They didn't leave you because you weren't good enough or did something wrong.

The universe was and still is guiding you to realise your potential.

This was all meant to be.

You spent some wonderful times with this person and those memories will forever be yours.

Nature has simply moved this person aside on a physical level so that you could experience the unity and deep love for yourself.

You are ready to be your own hero.

This feeling of grief transforms the ego.

It magnifies the purity of love and connection.

All of the little things you used to worry about pale in comparison to this grief.

The beckoning in the heart is a feeling we often translate into pain.

This is simply your mind wishing for something you no longer have.

What if we simply witness the aliveness of the heart and its intensity during the process of discovery?

This person is on their own journey.

They are absolutely fine.

They love you as you love them.

This happens so that you know the power of you.

Pay attention.

It's conveying to you that you are everything.

You are establishing the most important relationship there is and that is the one with yourself.

This will ultimately set you free.

This circumstance has provided you with this opportunity.

You are already complete.

They were sent to you so that you could see the magnificence of who you are and how much you can handle.

They were and still are a true gift.

Thank them for allowing you to remember how it truly feels to connect so deeply to know the truth within the rawness of this experience.

Turn this pain into sensation.

Take time to appreciate all of your blessings.

Take small steps.

Make new plans.

Follow your dreams.

Your heart will show you the way.

Listen carefully.

My love,

You are becoming more courageous and wise with every breath.

The extreme love within you has no boundaries or limitations.

And this person's soul is asking you to move forward.

They are your biggest fan and are cheering you on from the sideline.

They ask you to forgive.

They ask you to trust.

As on their soul level they know that you are on your way towards opportunities you never thought possible.

This is your adventure.

This is your homecoming.

Now take a deep breath in.

Deep breath out.

You are grounded.

You are brave and you are strong.

Wear the feelings you have for this person as a badge of honor for how much they mean to you.

They were chosen for you to feel the glory of yourself and witness just how strong you are.

When you feel ready,

Perhaps you'd like to offer your wisdom through this experience to someone else.

This is part of your healing as well as theirs.

I offer you my love and admiration for all you've been through and are becoming.

You are truly magnificent who now knows the depth of your heart and the precious jewels within it.

From my heart to yours.

Namaste.

Reviews

This speaks directly to my soul. I'm struggling to get to acceptance but this meditation gives me a glimmer of hope that maybe this is all for a greater purpose. Thank you 🙏

Lisa spoke to the depth of my grief. As one who has suffered abandonment since my inception, meaningful relationships have been difficult to sustain. But I am learning that relationships may vary in length and I am shifting my perspective and looking to the value and gifts that are now comforting memories. Lisa’s gentle voice supported my ability to accept what is. I can now practice releasing what was with gratitude. 🙏🏽

Powerful, I will be using this meditation at least a handful more times. I believe this meditation will be helpful in shifting my perspective and feelings attached to this breakup. Thank you so much for this.

This meditation is one of the best I’ve experienced during my need to heal from a break up. I sobbed the first time I experienced the meditation, and the very next day, I listened again with more strength. Beautiful and clear. Music is just right. Thank you from the bottom of my heart for creating and sharing 🙏🏼 xx

Wow! That was absolutely beautiful and what a gentle way to identify and release every emotion

This really comforted me, which few things do at the moment. So thanks, will come back to it.

Wow. Im at a lost for words for how this meditation really spoke to me. I love that you didnt use common rhetoric or ckiche quotes. You offered several reframings of this painful experience. They truly helped.

Your words comforted me in the best way possible coming from someone outside of myself. Thank you!

One of the most beautiful and comforting meditations I have ever had the pleasure to do. Thank you

My goodness, you were speaking right to my heart and soul. A thousand thanks for making sense of a hurtful situation. ♥️

Really excellent. Just the right words and tone. 🙏🏼🙏🏼 in gratitude ✨

Very soothing thank you

I was skeptical at first, but this turned out to be a beautiful, powerful healing meditation. It's hard for me to cry, but this gently and lovingly encouraged and enabled me to purge some serious pain via tears I'd been holding in for weeks. I'm left feeling lighter and with calm anticipation regarding having this time to get to know myself. The recording quality is excellent. The Voice is not sing song, but sincere and grounded. The background music was very calming and not overpowering , and helped me to go deep following the meditation. Thankful to have found this and will listen to it again. Love to all those enduring heartbreak and on the path of self-discovery.

I cried the whole time in this one 😭 Thank you for reminding me I’m still worthy of love 💙🙏🏽

I cried for the first time. Thank you so much. 🙏❤️

That was helpful. Just taking the time to refeel and let go positively was nice.

Exactly what I needed in this time of heartbreak. Thank you.

It’s been very hard for me to release anger or the desire to feel wronged. I know this is the truth but I’m holding so tight. I am stepping into release. Thank you

Really beautiful guidance and meditation. Helpful for processing to let go, recognizing our own strength, and embracing that we are each on our own journey.

Thank you so much for your help. It makes me feel so much better after this amazing guided meditation. 🙏