How to navigate difficult relationships.
Every relationship is a mirror reflecting back where we're at with our relationship with ourselves.
These relationships all reveal what we can do to heal,
Grow and evolve from our core woundings by first and foremost taking personal responsibility for them through self-awareness.
Other relationships mirror back our relationship with love and joy and others with our relationship with our self-worth and identity.
For instance,
My beloved Rob,
Who has such a big heart,
Is just so warm,
Sweet,
Affectionate,
Kind,
Generous and playful.
He always shows me how far I have come in my relationship with love by naturally mirroring back those beautiful qualities that I also have in me.
Being in a divine partnership with him is a constant reminder how far I have come in my journey in rising in love.
After a series of setbacks,
Heartache and disappointment with my past affairs with men,
It wasn't the men that were the problem,
It was me.
They were simply reflecting back my triggers and traumas in love that I have not worked through yet from my core relationship with my mother and father who were the foundations of showing me what a relationship in love look and feel like.
Then there's my relationship with my mother,
The most difficult relationship that I had to navigate because she is the person who loved and raised me but also the person I have learnt a lot of unhealthy beliefs and behaviours around my self-worth through our trauma bonding in a highly volatile and chaotic environment of domestic violence,
Threats and financial abuse.
Since being on the healing journey of trauma recovery for over a decade,
There's always layers of triggers and repressed emotions that I had to face and address within myself and still am.
The easy way out is to just cut all ties with my mum,
However the root cause of the pain is still there,
It's just a quick fix.
There's nothing that I can learn or gain from that other than to prevent myself from revisiting those panic attacks,
Suicidal ideations and just more pain.
When I was able to meet the trauma that was controlling my life with love and compassion,
The relationship with my mum was no longer difficult or painful anymore.
I was able to see her with fresh eyes,
Knowing she is who she is and she won't change but as soon as I showed up for myself and for her with softness and kindness,
She too then felt safe to show up with empathy and acceptance.
She mirrored back what I was worthy of receiving that I couldn't receive before because of my past traumas and a paradigm shift occurred.
She has shown me that I'm not a victim of my trauma anymore but instead a warrior who can show up for love and forgiveness instead.
As we go through all sorts of relationship challenges and struggles,
It's important to honour our feelings as the victim and give ourselves permission to release ourselves from our own suffering by moving through it,
Feeling into the full depths of it and meet ourselves with love,
Compassion,
Forgiveness and acceptance,
Rather than staying stuck in it by avoiding it,
Running away from it or suppressing it with quick fixes,
Addictions,
Binge eating,
Retail therapy and so forth.
When we're ready to let go of being attached to the victim story,
We can heal our inner victim and be a bigger person to show up for love.
When others cannot do that for themselves,
We must do that for ourselves and for all versions of ourselves to then bring that into our relationships with humanity.
When things get rough,
My partner and I always remind each other that we can turn ourselves to Source,
To God.
God can take care of the rest because everything happens for a reason.
It is the divine plan that we're meant to confront these difficulties so we can allow our trauma to be the best teacher in rising in love.
May this prayer support you in your healing journey with your loved ones and most importantly your relationship with yourself.
Place your hands over your heart,
Closing down your eyes and repeat after me.
Dear Mother,
Father,
God,
Source and my highest self,
Please guide me,
Please show me to bring forth your divine resolution into all of my relationships.
Please help me to soften my heart and call in compassion and forgiveness for myself and all versions of me,
Bringing this transmission into my relationships to dissolve all of the hurt and all of the pain.
I am willing to let go of control and surrender to your divine plan for me and for those around me.
Please show me miracles.
And as so above,
As it is so below,
And so it is,
It is done,
It is done,
It is done.
Give yourself a moment to feel into your beautiful heart,
Breathing in and out,
Breathing in and out,
Breathing in and out.
And you can return back home to your heart at any time,
Landing in kindness and softness for all versions of you who are looking to be seen,
Witnessed and heard,
But most importantly felt through your radiant heart,
Through Source.
May this prayer be your anchor through chaos and uncertainty in your relationships.
May this prayer be your daily practice in how you can show up for yourself with love and love for your loved ones too.
May these insights serve you the way they have served me too.
All of my love.
