Welcome,
This is Katerina Caselli,
Ex-FBI turned therapist,
And today I want to give you a meditation around people-pleasing.
These meditations I craft are generally written in a poetry format.
Some aren't,
Some are,
But today specifically I wanted to use this format to really bust through people-pleasing.
I mean,
Think about it,
I spent a large portion of my early adult life in a job I did not like because I was afraid that they would think less of me for leaving this job.
And you might be thinking,
Who who were they?
Well,
I'm not sure who they were,
But at the time I was very convinced that they would think less of me.
That is why I now make it my mission to help others get through these hurdles like guilt,
Resentment,
Overwhelm,
So that we can all live our best lives.
So get comfortable in whatever way suits you best today.
Maybe that's sitting in a chair with your back upright and straight,
Or maybe it's laying down in a bed or on a mat.
Whatever feels good for you.
Close your eyes or you can lower your gaze towards the floor.
As always,
Comfort is really the priority.
It's not really about what position you are seated in or if your eyes are open or closed.
Now breathe in and exhale out as you continue to settle in to the space.
And let these words take on whatever meaning they need to take on in your life as it is right now.
And let's dive into this poem or these spoken words around people-pleasing.
Why is it that we cling to the what they need more than the what we need?
We sit in the muck of the things that other people want,
That other people seek,
That we abandon ourselves in the process.
We grasp so tightly at the but he or she wants so I must that we forget.
We forget that the surest way to being the light that we seek in the world is through being ourselves.
Why is it more painful,
Seemingly in the moment,
To choose what we think another wants rather than the burning that our soul wants?
We recklessly treat our bodies through foods other people want.
We recklessly treat our minds through opinions other people have.
We recklessly treat our souls through beliefs other people have.
That we become a canvas of other people's expectations rather than a beautiful tapestry of our own desires.
And eventually we all realize that for us to be whole is to let go of these lies to self and reclaim that which makes our soul whole,
Rejuvenized.
Because it is not in the eyes of others where we truly meet ourselves.
It is not in what they tell us to do that we truly thrive.
It is in our own hearts,
In our own eyes looking inward,
That we can seek the truth about who we are.
So less looking outward,
More looking inward.
Only there will this they disappear.
Only there will we thrive.
And in that space we rebuild.
We no longer cling.
We get out of the muck.
We stop grasping so tightly.
And wouldn't you know,
Life flows,
Becomes easier,
Becomes joyful even.
And it's only when we stop people pleasing.
Now,
Take another deep breath in and slowly exhale through your nose.
Let it all go.
And when you are ready,
You can open your eyes.
These words were short,
But I hope that you can see maybe how much effort we put into pleasing others and how ineffective it really is.
There is space to support and take opinion from others,
But it can't be the crux of our entire well-being.
So it might be helpful for you to journal on what came up for you through thinking about people pleasing today.
Journaling is just another way to solidify the words you hear and how they impact you.
Take some time today to really think about the ways that you use people pleasing in your life.
But don't dwell,
Beat yourself up for doing something that is truly so human.
All right.
Well,
Again,
This is Katerina and I really hope you have an amazing day.
And I will leave you with this today.
You're not the same you that you were yesterday.
And that's pretty cool.
So go out and make it your mission to impact other people positively today.
Have a great day.
