Affirmations For Abundance With Rebecca Whitman

Jenny Light interviews LA Success Coach, Rebecca Whitman, about her tips for an abundant, successful life. She shares affirmations to manifest abundance, attract your soul mate, cultivate a positive attitude towards failure, and the power of meditation.

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Hello,

I'm Jenny Light and today I'm in conversation with Rebecca Whitman as she shares her tips for abundance and how to attract your soulmate and manifest a real positive attitude to life.

This is Living Lightly with Jenny Light.

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Guided meditations and pranayamas.

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Welcome to today's session.

Enjoy.

Rebecca is a success mentor,

Author and life coach and she's helping women to go from burnt out to balanced,

Beautiful and abundant.

And I'm really interested,

Rebecca,

Is what brought you on this path in life?

That's a great question.

It actually started when I moved to LA to be a famous actress or marry someone famous.

And guess what?

Neither one happened.

So I believe that God really has to humble us sometimes.

So we're open to other paths.

And I started studying with some of the best spiritual teachers that ever lived.

People like Michael Beckwith,

Wayne Dyer,

Marianne Williamson,

Abraham Hicks.

And I was really sculpting my soul because I was forced to look inward because what I wanted on the outside was not happening.

And I had a great vibration.

Everything was working except this one little area of life,

Jenny,

And that was my romantic life.

I was married at the time and the marriage was just not going well.

And as the marriage was unraveling,

My father was dying in a nursing home.

So the two events happened simultaneously.

The last two and a half years of my father's life for the last two and a half years of my marriage.

In fact,

My dad,

His funeral was on a Wednesday and my divorce was finalized on a Friday of the same week.

And my dad's last conversation,

He said,

Rebecca,

Will you write something?

I care if it's a book,

An essay,

A magazine article,

Please write something because you have a very unique worldview.

And I had no idea what I was going to write,

But I believe that God,

The universe speaks through other people.

And I knew I would get the sign.

I was open.

So I was sitting in my financial planner's office in workout clothes and he was looking at my financial portfolio and my investments,

My real estate.

Everything was expanding.

And he says,

Every time you come in here,

You're in workout clothes.

I think you should teach other women how you do it,

How you're like just doing this,

Building your financial abundance part time and have time to work out every day.

And I said,

That's what I'm going to write about.

I'm going to write a book.

And in this book,

I divide life into seven pillars of abundance,

Spirituality,

Fitness,

Emotions,

Romantic,

Mental,

Social,

And financial.

And when all seven pillars of life are in alignment,

Then you can manifest whatever you want,

Whether that's the love of your life,

Perfect health,

Six or seven figures working part time.

And that's where my teaching started.

And now I'm happy to say that my love life is in order and it's incredible.

I'm actually getting married this year on 12,

21,

21 at 12,

21 PM.

Yes,

I like alignment a lot.

That area is now.

I'm so happy for you.

That sounds like everything's all falling into place.

You must be doing something right.

If all of these things are falling into place,

The universe is obviously guiding you in everything that you do.

Every step is being guided.

I too believe that we are guided.

When I was younger,

I used to listen to the messages that the universe was giving.

And I used to experience that something was presented to me three times before I would actually listen.

But what I learned was that in actual fact,

You can short circuit that.

And the first time the universe presents with you,

You just know you've got a feeling inside a gut feeling that this is right.

And just to act on it there and then.

To know it deliberately and allow the universe to give you bigger and bigger and bolder messages that something is out of kilter or that this path is the right one for you.

So I learned to not deliberate too long,

But just to take those paths.

Yeah,

I mean,

And you can also ask the universe for a really obvious line like,

God,

I need a neon sign.

I need a billboard.

Something.

Please let me know,

You know,

What is my next step in this scenario?

And then you can get a more obvious sign as well.

I quite often find that I'm guided to a book and open the book and it's just it's like just open at random open.

And then it's the words that jump out of the page are just the perfect thing.

You know what the thing that you need at that time.

I love that game.

Yeah,

I want to open it right now.

And it opened to these affirmations,

Which is perfect for the insight timer crowd because this is amazing.

I am reading or listening to something every day that inspires me.

I have five minutes a day to sit still and quiet my mind.

I am able to learn something from everyone who crosses my path.

Boom.

There it is.

I open to that and that's the affirmations for that chapter.

Yeah,

Every single person that you meet is mirroring some aspect of your story.

Is mirroring some aspect of yourself back to you.

All the people you meet in your life are mirroring some aspect of yourself.

Yeah,

Yeah,

I totally agree with that.

I have found that to be my own experience.

You have some amazing tips to share there,

Don't you,

On how to become successful and abundant.

Would you like to share even just one of those tips today?

Sure.

The first thing is to visualize what you want.

So a dream with a,

I mean,

A dream is a goal with a plan.

So you don't want to just have big dreams.

I know that we all have big dreams,

But we also want to have a plan on how to reach it.

And when we think of the whole entire dream,

It's way too overwhelming,

But we can just do the next step and the next step and the next step and the next step.

And before you know it,

You have a book written or you have a screenplay written or you have,

You know,

The house built that you've been dreaming of building.

So it's literally just you have the vision and then you break it down into little tasks that you can do every single day that aren't overwhelming.

Because I coach people to not be overwhelmed while they're creating their abundance.

Because what fun is that?

You're creating abundance,

But you're in a constant state of stress.

That's no way to go through life.

You want to be creating your abundance in a state of calm and in a state of happiness.

And then you're going to also create more abundance because your vibration is going to be a lot higher and it's going to be a lot easier to create abundance when you're not stressed out.

So all my teachings are to help people stay calm and happy as they're creating their abundance.

That sounds just absolutely wonderful.

It sounds perfect.

I have experienced those dreams myself and I know just how powerful that is.

That to visualize or dream something can bring it into being.

In fact,

I think every single one of my books has arrived not because I consciously dreamed it,

But this is a strange thing.

It would arrive out of the ether.

I mean,

Quite literally,

I could see it feel it was a 3D image,

3D object that arrived out of the ether in front of my eyes and turned around and I could turn the pages.

And I knew that was the next book.

I knew what was to be in the book.

It was a very strange way of downloading from the universe.

You channeled that?

Yeah.

You channeled the whole thing.

I really believe that all great art,

Whether it's writing,

Acting,

Singing,

Playing music,

The truly great art that just moves us to our soul,

It is channeled.

It is about just being open for the divine to express through you.

And that's a beautiful thing,

But we can't have an open channel if we're so in our thoughts and our head about not enoughness or,

Oh my God,

I can't get this done or I don't have enough time in the day.

If we're in that low vibration,

We're not going to have the open heart and the open mind to be a channel.

So that's why it's so important to meditate and to practice self-care and to do all seven pillars of abundance and have a 360 degree life.

A lot of people think I'll make a lot of money first and then I'll hire a meditation teacher and then I'll hire a personal trainer and then I'll be common in great shape.

So I'll go meet the love of my life and then we'll have fabulous dinners,

Parties,

And we'll socialize and they have it all out of order.

The number one thing is spirituality.

And that's why meditation is so important.

That is the foundation for creating all seven pillars of abundance and having a beautiful life.

Absolutely.

I mean,

Meditation has been the key in my life as a very young child.

I experienced expanded states of awareness and I had no way of expressing that at the time,

But there's this amazing quietness that comes into your being when you start to meditate and we start to move.

This is me speaking as a yoga teacher here,

But as we start to meditate,

We move into this deep quiet,

This expanded consciousness away from the everyday world into this expanded consciousness.

And then great things can happen when we become aligned in that way.

So,

I mean,

I think it's an ongoing journey of always keeping tapping into that quiet of meditation.

So you said that you liked the Insight Timer app.

So who are your favorite or what are your favorite meditations on Insight Timer?

Oh my God.

I like know them by picture.

I think Sarah Blandin is great.

Jonna and Michael Paracone,

They do Tibetan singing bowl meditations.

And I love,

I think his name is Kenneth Suarez,

Kenneth something.

He has really cool like tribal meditations with a nice drum beat in the background.

And those are some of my favorite teachers.

Good.

It sounds like you've dived quite deeply into using Insight Timer and it's wonderful teachers.

Wonderful teachers.

Yeah.

There's so many.

There's too many.

I like David G.

His meditations are really good too.

And Josh Gandalman.

I mean,

There's so many great ones on Insight Timer app.

It's incredible.

So in the world that we've just,

We're a storm of pandemic.

How has the pandemic affected you and the work that you do in the world,

If anything?

Yeah,

That's a great question.

So I was not really in the online space and I was working as,

And I still do this,

But I was put on furlough from my job as a children's acting school administrator.

So even though I did not become a famous actress,

I've had the joy of working with child actors and helping them break into Hollywood.

And I was put on furlough.

So I was looking,

How can I create my abundance online?

And I have stepped into the health and wellness arena.

I know we talked a couple of minutes about the,

Just reinventing my whole life to go from an in-person life to an online life.

Yeah.

I found it quite interesting myself,

The pandemic,

Because it's meant that we were freed up from our normal kind of everyday roles into becoming,

Well,

Personally,

I found the same to be more creative.

The ideas for me,

For how I would present what I do in the world were coming thick and fast.

And I had the time to write not one,

But two books.

Wow.

And my students teach the teaching with my students,

My meditation students,

And my Asna yoga students that became busier.

Yeah.

It's funny at the beginning of the pandemic,

I really enjoyed the slowdown and the stillness.

But then as I started to download more and more ideas about how to create abundance online,

It started to speed up again.

And so now the practice and why insight timer meditation is so important is now I feel like I'm going at the same pace working from home that I was working on the outside world.

So the meditation,

Yoga,

Journaling,

Prayer,

Reading from spiritual literature,

All these things are so important to incorporate in my day.

So I do stay calm and grounded and not get overwhelmed from everything that I've created in the online space.

Yeah.

I have a space carved out to make sure that nothing intrudes on that period of meditation so that whatever happens in the day,

The start of the day has this firmament in deep,

Expanded calm.

So I do agree that carving out that time and ring fencing it so that nothing intrudes on that,

That happens first before everything else.

It's deeply important.

I really want to get better at that because I'm so addicted.

I pick up the phone before I go into my morning practice and sometimes I'll get distracted by social media or emails.

And I really want to do what you're doing,

Creating firm boundaries around that time in the morning to create more of a sacred space.

So I make sure I get that meditation and that spiritual time in every single day.

So that's actually something that I'm working on cultivating is just making that space,

That time in the morning,

Very sacred and not allowing all the activity of technology to come in.

And it is a really,

It's a discipline for me because I really want to pick up my phone.

It's extremely addictive.

It's very alluding because you've got it literally at your fingertips to reach into the phone and tap into that whole network that you've got right there.

It's a discipline.

You're absolutely right.

It is a discipline.

But what I like to describe it as is that what you take in and that does,

That means like what you eat,

What you drink,

But it also means what you see with your eyes.

You're kind of ingesting what you're taking in from social media,

That what you're hearing,

What you're seeing is ingested.

And that what you take in,

If you think of your body as more than just your body,

But your whole energy field,

That is you are what you eat,

Then you are also what you ingest.

So then it becomes a static that you need to kind of expel before you can get a quiet and calm to meditate.

Absolutely.

So yeah,

If you're ingesting a lot of things that are distracting,

It's going to be even harder to get into the calm state.

But the irony is that Insight Timer is on my phone.

And that's what I meditate.

So it's like I have to,

I get to direct my attention just to go into the Insight Timer app and not all the other bings and dings that are coming from my phone.

I think there's a blog in that somewhere.

That's a really interesting point.

For sure.

So I wanted to ask you as well about your affirmation,

Your use of affirmation.

I mean,

I think that's incredibly powerful,

The use of affirmation.

Do you have a favorite one that you keep coming back to or one that you would like to share?

Sure.

I know that a lot of people are looking to manifest love in their lives.

And I have a beautiful affirmation for love.

And it is as follows.

I am magically and passionately in love with my soulmate.

And that one,

I really believe to help bring my,

Help bring my soulmate in.

And if it worked for me,

It can work for you.

So I will repeat it again.

I am magically and passionately in love with my soulmate.

That is just beautiful.

Is this even before you meet your soulmate,

You're using this affirmation?

Yeah,

That's how you call them in.

And you do a visualization of seeing you and your soulmate holding hands and walking on the beach or looking over a dinner table by candlelight and looking into each other's eyes or maybe sharing a dessert.

And you get into the senses and that's what helps it manifest,

The combination of,

It doesn't have to be imagined for a long time.

It doesn't have to be imagined for a long time.

It can be for 30 seconds.

It takes only a couple of seconds to do a montage of seeing you and your soulmate on the beach and you and your soulmate in the nice restaurant and you and your soulmate in the movie theater,

Whatever it is,

30 seconds.

Say the affirmation,

I am magically and passionately in love with my soulmate every day.

And then you have to leave the house.

You do have to leave your house.

Manifestations are powerful,

But it also helps if you actually leave the house.

So you can actually help the universe and run into your soulmate because I mean,

God is so powerful.

He can show up at your front door.

I have heard stories where women needed something repaired and their soulmate showed up at their front door,

But it's a lot easier if you leave the house.

For affirmation to work,

You affirm it strongly and you don't keep coming back and wondering if it's happening.

Bring yourself into doubt,

Which is just to let it go and then believe that the universe is bringing that toward you.

So I believe in that with the list.

So I tell my clients to write a list of all the qualities they want in their soulmate and then just to let it go.

But for me,

Affirmations,

I do them all the time.

I have so many for health and for financial abundance and social.

And I just say them all the time,

Like when I'm in the shower,

When I'm washing the dishes,

When I'm in line at the grocery store and it's amazing how they've come true.

Yeah.

I do believe in the power of,

I've experienced it myself,

The power of affirmation.

It can really bring you exactly what you need or what you think that you need anyway,

What you're asking for.

Exactly.

So yeah,

Sometimes we don't get what we need,

Right?

And that can be a blessing too,

Because I really believe that rejection is God's protection.

And sometimes the things that I thought I really wanted,

I didn't get.

And it's because the universe has something even better planned.

I totally believe that as well,

That as one door closes,

It leaves space for another door to open.

I mean,

I think our life path is full of magical possibilities at any moment in time.

And these are just affected by what we think and what we do and how we act allows the next thing to unfold.

But it might be a bit further down the line depending on what we are doing at any one time,

But it's allowing that to unfold.

I used to do this meditation with my students,

Which was to visualize that your path of life is this golden path.

That when you're sitting in meditation,

You're imagining this golden path.

And that even when you can't see that path,

Every step that you take is landing perfectly on your path in life.

And even if you make a mistake,

The path re-roots so that you are always on the perfect path in life.

That's beautiful.

Because mistakes are only,

I mean,

That's how we learn,

Isn't it?

I wonder if there's any mistakes,

How much is pre or dear to our day?

Does it where what is set out in stone for us for this life and how much is choice?

That's a deep,

Metaphysical question for Steve.

But I'm only throwing it out there rhetorically.

You can go deep because this is the Insight Timer app.

So I don't believe in mistakes.

Mistakes are the stepping stones of success.

And because we were graded in school,

If you got 100 percent of the answers right,

You get an A.

Is it the same in Scotland?

Are you graded A,

B,

C,

D?

Same thing.

And then you don't want to fail,

Right?

Because if you fail,

Oh my God,

You're going to be humiliated and you're not going to get to advance to the next grade in your education.

So we're also scared of failure.

But the only way to really be successful as an entrepreneur is to fail forward.

Because if you're so scared of taking any risk,

You're not going to advance your career and you're not going to learn.

You're going to play it safe.

And that's the people who are leading lives of quiet desperation.

And we don't want to live lives of quiet desperation.

We want to live beautiful,

Expansive life.

And a life like that,

You have to risk failure.

And it's not even a risk when you change your paradigm to think,

I love failure.

I love rejection because when I fail,

I fail forward.

When I get rejected,

I'm really going for something big.

And the people who have the most rejection in life,

I feel like they win because they're living a free life.

They're not scared of what people think of them.

They're just going for a beautiful life.

And if people judge them,

They judge them.

You know,

If you're going to fail,

Fail,

Fail spectacularly so that the universe can give you something else to replace it with,

It's even more spectacular.

Yeah.

And the tech business,

They say,

You know,

Break,

Be messy and break things like it's,

It's totally okay.

And that's how some of the greatest inventions happen is because people were being messy and breaking things and learning as they went.

It's such a positive experience speaking to you today,

Rebecca.

It's just amazing.

I think it's really nice to share our,

You know,

Our ideas and where we're coming from,

Especially in regards of affirmation and how we take our lives forward in a positive and increasingly more positive frame of mind.

I think it's a,

It's very uplifting.

It's,

It's been a great conversation.

I love that we're having the conversation from Los Angeles to Scotland via zoom.

Again,

The wonderful power of technology.

Right.

That's right.

So yeah,

It's all about having a fearless life,

Right?

What's the opposite of fear faith.

So if we had faith,

Like your golden path meditation,

That we're exactly where we're supposed to be,

That there are no mistakes,

Accidents,

Or coincidences that there's no such thing as failure because we're always learning how much more freedom could we have?

Well,

That's another metaphysical question because in yoga,

This life,

This physical realm is only the beginning.

The freedom that we could have,

I think is unbound.

It's moving into the realms of eternity,

Omnipresence,

Absolute splendor,

Bliss.

So yeah,

How much freedom could we have?

No,

That's a very interesting question.

There's no limit,

Right?

Because there's always different levels of expansion,

Growth and bliss.

And that's why I love meditation and yoga,

Because you keep going deeper and deeper and deeper into these outer realms of expansion and growth and,

And bliss.

And it's not to say that you don't feel your painful emotions because of course you do.

Of course we're human and we experience loss and grief,

But we don't get stuck.

Right?

So I had a client who lost a couple of dear loved ones and she got stuck in the grief for 20 years.

And I had to teach her,

It's okay to feel your feelings,

But just let them pass.

So I say,

Your soul is the sky.

It's always going to be there.

It's always going to be present.

And it can't be hurt,

Harmed or endangered by the human experience.

And your emotions are the weather.

So the weather,

Sometimes it's sunny,

Sometimes it's rainy,

Sometimes there's thunderstorms,

Sometimes it's a beautiful spring day,

But our soul is beyond the human emotions.

And that is,

That is the goal,

To get in touch with that.

Absolutely.

That's the path of yoga,

Is that path that exactly is to become in touch with the soul.

It's peeling away that which you are not,

To reveal that which you are.

So yes,

The body is not you,

The breath is not you,

The mind is not you.

Human emotions,

Those mixed up negative emotions,

That is not you.

Bit by bit peeling away that which you're not and revealing the beautiful wonder of that soul quality,

That soul that,

As you said,

Is untouched by any of the earthly experiences.

That is the path.

Yeah.

And so wherever we are coming from,

On whichever facet of the spiritual mountain,

Whichever path we happen to be traveling up,

We are all at steps and stairs.

Then we have this perception of being nearer to that wonder,

That beauty of the soul,

Or perhaps we're a bit further away and a bit mixed up in human emotions.

But we're all in that spiritual path,

Whether we have cognizance of that or not.

But I think it's wonderful you're leading people out of the doldrums that they're in,

Sort of stuck,

Frozen,

As if you were clinging onto a precipice by your fingernails and there's,

Do you go up,

Do you go down?

What do you do when you're in that frozen moment,

But you're as if you're throwing down a rope,

From the heavens throwing down a rope,

A lifeline to help them to ascend further?

Yeah,

That's a great way to explain it,

Because I really want to empower,

Especially women,

But all people to live their lives authentically so they can experience resilience,

Grit,

And grace.

I do want to empower them,

And I am throwing everyone a rope going,

Come this way,

This is your way to go.

It's been wonderful speaking to you today,

And I hope to speak to you again in the future.

Yeah,

It'll be nice to touch base later in the year.

It's been a nice sparking of ideas that's been going on,

Sharing consciousness.

I do appreciate that.

Yes,

It's been a lovely connection.

Thank you so much Jenny for having me on Insight Timer app.

Like I said,

It's been my favorite meditation app for years,

So this is a huge honor for me,

And I look forward to seeing you on my podcast next week.

That sounds brilliant.

Thanks very much Rebecca.

Have a wonderful day.