Release The Fear Of Disappointing Others | EFT

Do you find yourself saying yes when you really want to say no, worrying about how others will react, or feeling responsible for keeping everyone happy? This EFT tapping practice helps you gently release the fear of disappointing others and reconnect with your own needs, boundaries, and self-trust. You’ll move from acknowledging the anxiety and people-pleasing impulse toward feeling safer with disagreement, disapproval, and other people’s emotions. Use this practice whenever you need a little extra support choosing yourself without guilt.
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Transcript

Hello, Everyone. Today we are going to work on the fear of disappointing other people. That feeling that says. Whatever they're upset with me. What if they think I'm selfish? What if they don't understand? What if they pull away? What if I let them down? And maybe you know intellectually that you don't have to make everybody happy. But your body quite hasn't gotten the memo yet. So today we're going to give that fear some space with some EFT tapping. You don't have to force yourself to stop caring about other people's feelings. We're simply going to help the nervous system learn. That someone else's disappointment. Doesn't mean that you have done something wrong. That you are no longer safe. Loved or worthy. So before we begin. Think of a recent situation. Were you afraid of disappointing someone? Don't choose your most overwhelming memory. Just something that feels manageable. Notice how intense that fear is right now from 0 to 10. We're going to tap the side of our head. Even though I'm afraid of disappointing other people. Even though I feel responsible for other people's feelings. Even though part of me believes I have to keep everybody happy. I acknowledge that this is what I am feeling now. And I'm open to giving myself a little more compassion. Even though disappointing someone really feels uncomfortable. I don't have to judge myself for that. Some part of me learned that keeping people happy was important. And I'm willing to understand that part of me instead of others. Even though I'm afraid that if I disappoint someone, Something bad will happen. Maybe they'll be angry. Maybe they'll reject me. Maybe they'll think I'm selfish. Maybe they'll stop loving me. I honor that fear. And wonder if I can begin to teach my body something new. Now just follow along. I'm afraid of disappointing people. I don't want anyone to be upset with me. I feel responsible for their feelings. I feel like I need to make it okay. I need them to understand my choices. I need them to be okay with me. And when they're disappointed. I immediately wonder if I've done something wrong. Now pause. What if I don't have to fix their disappointment? What if their feeling can belong to them? What if I can care without taking responsibility? What if I can listen without abandoning myself? What if someone can be disappointed? And I can still be a good person. What if someone can disagree with me? And I can still trust myself. Pause and take another breath. I'm allowed to have needs. Allowed to happen. I'm allowed to say no. I'm allowed to change my mind. I'm allowed to make choices that work for me. I can care about other people's feelings. Without being responsible. For managing them. I can tolerate someone else's disapproval. Maybe disappointing someone isn't the danger my body thinks it is. Maybe disagreement isn't abandonment. Maybe someone else's discomfort isn't an emergency. Maybe I don't have to rush to fix it. I can pause. I can breathe. I can listen. And I can choose what is right for me. Last round. Take another. I'm learning to trust myself. I can survive someone being disappointed in me. I can survive being misunderstood. I can survive someone disagreeing with me. I don't have to earn love. Through self-abandonment. I don't have to be easy to be worthy. I don't have to keep everybody happy to belong. One more breath. To check back in with that original situation. Notice what number you're at now. Maybe it's lower, Maybe it isn't. Either is okay. The goal is to force yourself to suddenly feel completely comfortable. Or practicing something different. I can feel the discomfort and stay with myself. Put your hand over your heart if you'd like and repeat after me. I can love people without managing their feelings. I can disappoint people. Without abandoning myself. I can be kind without betraying myself. I'm allowed to be a whole person. Take one final breath. You do not have to keep yourself smaller to keep the peace. You are allowed to take up space in your life.