If you have ever felt lost in loneliness,
Then you know how difficult it is to shake this feeling.
You can be completely alone and feel lonely,
Or you can be surrounded by people and still feel lonely.
This is simply a thought of separation that creates this feeling.
This can have a never-ending circling effect until you change your focus.
So I want you to find a very comfortable position,
Get comfortable and close your eyes.
Let's begin by acknowledging the person who needs you the most.
You will find this person when you look in the mirror.
Say to yourself now,
Thank you for this moment as an opportunity.
Give yourself now the time to breathe your very best.
For most of us,
We go entire days without even thinking about our breath.
Yet it's the very thing that's keeping us alive.
Your breath has been there for you since the beginning.
The breath never asks questions and it never judges you.
It simply does what it's required instantaneously.
Let's now honor our breath and all it's been doing for us with five significant and purposeful breaths.
One,
Fully inhale,
Expanding your belly and chest as much as you can,
Holding it for a moment and exhale,
Feeling a wave of relaxation sweep over you.
Two,
Inhale,
Filling your entire breathing system with fresh oxygen,
Hold it and exhale,
Noticing again that wave of relaxation gently sweeping over you.
Three,
Inhale very deeply so that you are brimming with air.
Taking a moment at the top to soaking in the life force we call oxygen.
And exhale,
Noticing your body relaxing in different areas without any effort from you.
Four,
Fully inhale the life force,
Beginning to feel these breaths purifying your entire body.
Exhaling now,
Not having to do anything at all,
Just notice how you are feeling.
And five,
Last one,
A full beautiful breath coming in,
Hold it,
Feeling the goodness of this simple task.
And exhale,
Allowing that wave of relaxation to sweep over again over you.
Just take note of how you're feeling in this very moment.
You now have an abundance of oxygen.
This is how we were truly created to feel.
Breathing deeply and fully is an expression of self compassion.
Let your breath be natural now and notice how abundance feels.
Good.
This is your new tool that you use when faced with feelings of negativity and loneliness.
Take five deep,
Purposeful and helpful breaths that allow you to relax.
These conscious and dedicated breaths even make it difficult for you to think negatively.
Next time you catch yourself feeling hopeless,
You must take these five healing breaths.
Mindfulness through meditation helps you become better acquainted with yourself and your emotions.
So presently you're just relaxing and you're feeling very safe and comfortable.
No one needs you right now.
This is your time that you have dedicated and nothing and no one is disturbing you.
You have nowhere to go and nothing you have to do right this very second.
You are completely safe and relaxed and are able to make great changes without much effort.
You are now being guided by your relaxation.
It's amazing how our feelings come and go like waves on the ocean shore.
We all know that there is absolutely nothing wrong with feeling relaxed.
So it is just the same as there's nothing wrong with feeling uncomfortable.
These are only sensations that you are experiencing.
Things that come and go,
Come and go.
Now gently bring into your awareness the feeling of loneliness and notice how and where any sensations of discomfort arises.
Be with this feeling as if you are with a friend who is very upset about something that's happened to them.
Be there for your discomfort as if you are consoling a dear friend who has tears in their eyes.
Join with your loneliness as if you are meeting up with someone you love because they called you and needed you.
Is the feeling of loneliness actually scary?
Or is it just like a friend who is experiencing a bad day and is calling out for someone to console them?
Your loneliness is calling out for you to console it,
Listen to it.
What does it have to say to you?
Be present and listen because you are the only one who can give solace to this feeling just as how your friend reached out to only you when they needed comfort.
You alleviate feelings of desolation by being there with them and never pushing them away.
Would you tell your troubled friend to go away when they called you upset and asking for your presence?
No.
Then you do not tell your loneliness to go away either.
Now allow any feelings of seclusion,
Discomfort or pain to just pass by like a rain cloud that has brought a heavy rain.
The cloud passes by and the sun peaks out beaming with light and warmth.
Then you console uncomfortable feelings and sit with them as a friend,
You are allowing a storm of upset to rain down,
Letting go and then continue in the wind,
Seeing the sun break through,
Drying up the waters with its warmth.
You're letting these uncomfortable feelings be seen,
Get witnessed,
Being heard.
You can clearly see a smile on your friend's face because you are always there for them.
The cure for loneliness is to change your focus as soon as you feel it arise.
Practicing these necessary techniques make for meaningful encounters with your inner self,
Allowing your loneliness to become your ally.
And when you're ready,
You can open your eyes and enjoy the rest of your day.
May you be happy,
May you be healthy,
May you be at peace.
