A very big Aloha.
I'm Reverend Cindy Palos and today I'm going to talk about a subject that goes very,
Very deep for me and that I've explored a lot.
And as I've done my talks and courses,
I've found that many people have that same issue and that is the feeling of worthiness and the feeling that you really deserve the best in life and the feeling that you are loved.
I'm going to go over some of the reasons why you might feel that you're not worthy.
And I'm also going to share some of the messages and poems I've gotten about that over the years.
Knowing I was going to talk about this,
I just wrote a poem today and it goes like this.
There is a promise made by you and God.
There is a vision that was once given.
There is an amazing grace that comes in times of need that removes the veil and can heal your needs.
If you can just believe.
If you can just see the truth in your soul,
You are worthy to receive.
Stop and take a moment.
Let go of the ego's fear.
You are oh so precious.
When you accept why you are here.
Accept your true potential.
Don't let others shade your light.
Step up to the mountaintop and decide to make the best of your life.
There is a promise made to you from God.
There is a vision given so you can make the most of living.
So you can find your worthiness.
You can find that worthiness within yourself.
But the first step to doing that is exploring and accepting your true feelings.
Why you might feel unworthy.
And I was going over this and doing some research and deep thought on it and I came up with five reasons.
I'm sure there's more.
But five common reasons you might feel unworthy and I've gone through most of these.
One is abuse.
I have been sexually abused and I went through domestic violence.
And I have found that in abuse and an abusive relationship it's very,
Very common for the person in the relationship to emotionally and physically abuse you and make you feel unworthy because when they make you feel unworthy they have control over you.
They have the power over you because you think you need them.
Because they're continually convincing you and trying to put you down in time you begin to believe that you really aren't worthy.
That you don't deserve better treatment.
That they indeed tell you you're not worthy of love and you're lucky to have that other person.
That no one else will want you or treat you better.
It's a form of gaslighting and it happens all the time.
There's so much abuse in the world.
My gosh.
If you do the research for,
I think it's one out of four people have suffered an abusive relationship.
I think one out of five have had sexual abuse.
But we all crave the good that comes from being in a loving relationship.
But of course if we don't love ourselves then we are going to reject other people who love us.
And we may even want them to prove over and over and over again that they will love us no matter what.
And it can be a very toxic pattern to the point where if someone does love you,
You don't believe they really love you and you may even force them away.
And if you frequently find yourself inferior or feeling inferior,
Unworthy of love,
That you really need to stop and stop and look at that.
Here's another reason that people will feel inferior.
It often goes back to your childhood upbringing.
If you were in an unstable relationship,
The instability or lack of consistent love from the people who your parents or caregivers can really have a very deep,
Deep impact on you.
If you feel your parents or caregivers didn't love you,
Being able to feel that you were not worthy of love.
And this can happen very often in relationships.
Children are very,
Very sensitive.
And if the parents are divorced,
Then often that can cause that feeling.
If you have a parent die,
You can feel abandonment.
You can feel very much sensitive and concerned.
And if you have a dysfunctional relationship and a home life,
That can definitely make you feel that you can't also understand if your parents or caregivers were emotionally unavailable,
How.
You don't learn how you can be available for love,
How you can be worthy of love.
And that,
Of course,
Comes back again to healing the old wounds,
To finding forgiveness,
To finding understanding within yourself.
If you're feeling that worthless feeling,
You can also feel hopelessness or insignificance.
And you can feel depression and many other problems that can come up in your life.
Another cause of unworthiness,
I really believe,
Is social media.
It can be a terrible influence on someone who's very sensitive.
I did some research on this and it was shocking.
You know,
I looked at how many times teenagers look at their phone.
What would you think the average time a teenager looked at their phone?
The average time that a teenager checks their phone is about 46 times a day.
And many of them spend about a third of their day using media,
Instagram,
Facebook,
Online videos,
YouTube,
Twitter.
And that is influencing and impacting them.
What you see there are people who are always bragging about how great their lives are,
Getting wonderful pictures up.
And unknowingly,
People compare themselves to those posts that get a million views,
Those people who are social influencers who can unfortunately influence people into thinking that they're not worthy of being that.
It's a very dangerous situation for not just teenagers,
Actually,
For everyone.
You know,
People who are doing that influencing don't realize they're having other people being influenced by what they're posting in a negative way.
It's very difficult to overcome the factors of the time and energy spent in social media.
And I also have a very deep one that I connect with another reason that you might feel unworthy.
And people who often feel unworthy are empaths.
I'm an empath and an empath can easily be overwhelmed by feeling everything more intensely.
You can easily sense how others feel,
And you can have a hard time handling it.
If you're in a relationship,
You probably,
If you're an empath,
Are trying to give and give and give.
And oftentimes the person you're in the relationship with does not give back.
And you can easily start to read or feel their feelings towards you,
And if they have negative feelings or say negative things towards you or put you down,
It can be devastating.
And if you indeed break up and then there's that ongoing negative energy afterwards,
It can be extremely difficult for empaths.
Empaths of course have to in time learn the boundaries and learn how to protect themselves from those influences in relationships because without realizing it,
They may try to not get into a relationship subconsciously because it's too intense.
Same thing happens for people who have been abused.
I've dealt with many people who have suffered abuse,
And I see oftentimes that people who are empaths or have been abused gain weight and actually try not to look appealing because they don't want to go through the hurt of another relationship.
So it's really important first and foremost to be able to love yourself.
You need to be able to love yourself without shame,
Without judgment,
Without fear.
You need to be able to receive love for yourself so you can be love and share love.
You know,
We are all beloved children of God.
And I believe that you are really worthy of the love and the understanding present in the light of that one truth.
In the light of that truth you understand you are one with the whole entire humanity.
You understand that you and everyone has that light and love within them,
And you are worthy of that energy from the one source of all.
You are essentially who you create yourself to be,
And when you believe that you are worthy,
When you believe that love there is wonderful and holy,
You have found the key.
That love that you have inside yourself is such an amazing powerful force.
You need to release the past and what may have happened long ago,
And you have to learn to love again and let that love fill your body,
Your mind and your soul,
And find that divine grace,
That grace that comes that brings you that feeling that you are worthy.
And when you find that love,
You allow yourself to be healed.
You allow yourself to feel the beauty of your soul.
Miracles are really possible when you find that wonderful energy.
You begin to behold the beauty that you are,
And it can change your life.
So you need to go to be able to find that place within where you see the power of yourself.
Because you know what,
C.
S.
Lewis said,
We are what we believe we are.
And if you believe you are loved and you are loving and you are lovable,
That will make a difference.
Really and truly that will make a huge difference.
And you can even ask yourself,
Do you feel loved?
Do you feel that you are loving?
Do you feel that you are lovable?
It's been used for years and I tell you something,
It works.
Because almost everyone in one of these factors may not feel that you are loved or that they are loving or that they are lovable.
And then you can find out what you need to enhance in your life to make yourself feel loved.
To make yourself realize that you are loving.
To make yourself realize you are lovable.
And the world is out there and you can actually get past the hard times and the dark times.
And when you've lost that connection to believing in yourself,
You can call upon the energies of the highest source of that unconditional love and find that guiding light.
And then you really start to believe that you do have the right to be loved.
You can call upon the spirits and you can call upon the power of you as a child of the universe and find that doorway to step into that will bring in the light of loving.
You are loved by God.
You are light divine.
You are that child of the universe.
Claim this truth and you will find,
Feel this love and be redeemed.
Forgive yourself for all you did and your deeds.
If you have faith,
You will be blessed.
You'll be touched by the grace.
You can look at yourself in the mirror and see your holy face.
Truly,
You do have a holy face.
Have you ever seen your holy face?
You should look into the mirror and you should,
When you look into the mirror,
Tell yourself how beautiful you are,
How special you are,
How loving you are.
And you can start to do that every night before you go to sleep.
You can meditate in the morning.
And indeed,
There's a power that you can do to really find,
To really find that you can go into meditation and you can let the old ways go.
I mean,
Truly,
You can make a difference.
That baggage that you've been carrying really gets heavy and the shadows that you are carrying can really pull you down.
You have to focus and have faith and know that you can find a way to believe in yourself.
You can indeed make a difference and heal the old scars that life creates.
You can let go of those ancient blocks and find that you can indeed open your heart,
Let that light shine in and begin again.
Now just let's take a couple of breaths here.
Breathing in deeply,
Centering,
Centering,
Centering.
Find that anchor in your heart.
Breathe into that heart of hearts and call in the power of that unconditional love there within you from the source of all love.
Breathe in that unconditional love and allow it to heal anything that may have been there,
That may have caused pain and suffering.
Breathe in that power to feel you are worthy to be loved.
And now let that energy of that love heal any deep part that you may be feeling.
Is there any part you are storing in your body?
Do you feel any energy somewhere blocked that's keeping you from being loved?
Take a moment and feel and scan your body.
Do you feel any pain anywhere?
Do you feel any need to heal anywhere in your body?
Let's just send that part of you that needs that love and healing,
That energy to be strong and well right now,
To be bathed in light and love.
Breathe that in and allow yourself to be that love that you are.
Feel good.
Feel that you are loved.
How does that feel when you feel you are loved?
And now breathe in and feel that you are loving.
And see all the loving ways that you live in your life and bless yourself for all the love that you give.
And now breathe in and feel that you are lovable.
Feel all the times that the energy came and people appreciated you and loved you.
And you may have pushed that love away,
But now accept that love and receive that love and be that love.
And now let's go to that point in your soul.
And feel that energy from the one source of all unconditional love.
And allow it to totally,
Totally bring your body,
Your mind and your heart,
All the love that you need.
And find that that love is from God,
That God source that loves you for who you really are.
Can you feel that love?
Can you believe enough to accept the gift of the Holy Grace given to you?
Honor yourself.
And now take that image of you as a photograph from God,
Taken by God.
See yourself,
Envision yourself placing that upon your altar.
The highest part of your soul of who you really are.
Place that upon your altar and bow to your whole soul and the trueness of the love that you are on that altar.
You are that being of light and love.
You are becoming that being of light and love every day,
Every moment.
This moment of eternal now knows that who you are is on that altar,
Worthy to be loved.
Thank yourself for all the work you've done for being here and receiving this beautiful love that you are.
Thank you for accepting yourself and your beautiful body and your mind and your soul in this life.
And now feel the blessings that you have accepted.
Just feel them healing yourself and allowing yourself to be as beautiful as you are in the eyes of God.
And say,
Thank you God.
And so it is.
And now slowly come out of this time of meditation and thank yourself for allowing yourself to believe in who you really are.
I thank you for accepting the truth of who you are,
This beautiful being of light and love.
Never limit yourself,
Beloved.
Believe in yourself and accept that love of who you are.
God bless you always.
Love yourself for who you are.
Love your mind and your body and your soul.
Love yourself as God loves you.
And remember that any blocks placed thereby you can always be removed so that you can fulfill your life's true goals.
You have the power of unlimited love in you and it will give you the strength if you just believe.
You can accomplish whatever you choose.
You can be whatever you choose to be.
And if you just love yourself,
Beloved one,
And serve that love to see,
You can change your life with this love to bring joy to you and fulfill your destiny.
Receive the blessings that are waiting,
That are there in this very moment right here and now.
Love yourself,
Beloved one.
Love yourself and you'll see how this love will change your life,
This love will heal your mind.
This love is here right now.
Breathe it into your heart to find.
You can absorb it into each and every cell.
Let all that love that you need come to you so you can find out how you are perfect in your imperfection.
You are the best that you can be.
You are unique and one of a kind.
Believe this and you'll see and you can love yourself enough to know you can be who you want to be.
Release all the limitations.
This unconditional love will set you free.
