Why You Abandon Yourself When Life Gets Hard | SFTS Ep 12

When life gets uncomfortable, many of us don’t realise we quietly leave ourselves. In this reflection, I explore why protector parts step in, how self-criticism and numbing are learned survival strategies, and what it means to stay with ourselves instead. This episode is an invitation to turn inward with compassion and begin healing from the inside out.

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I've always struggled with self sabotage. It's as though I can do all the right things up to a point and then I lose it and look for a way to numb. The part of me that numbs is very creative. I've removed grass and alcohol, so it uses scrolling, work or chocolate. Even cleaning! This resonated with me. I do recognise when I do it, I've just never had any tools to help. Ive always resorted to shame and criticism. I feel exhausted just thinking about it! Thank you I will explore your guidance further but I know there's darkness at the heart of it and I'm afraid. Truth is though, I do know what happened to me (i was in denial and had lost memory until a few years ago) and I also know I am safe now, so I can go there and help my younger self process the experiences I couldn't then. Thank you for giving me the courage to keep moving towards peace. That's all I really want- peace. ❤️❤️

Thank you for this talk 🙏
I’m at a place in my life right now that I’m all of these things that I’ve tried so hard to overcome, accept, Love and just be with!
This touched me in a way that I needed some healing from myself again, again and again I will keep Loving those parts that I’ve locked away so deeply.
Blessings of gratitude🙏

Where do I begin…I know that I was hurt as a young child but I cannot pinpoint when, exactly…my older sister was complete perfection in my parents eyes, I was less than that. I have always felt it, from the very beginning. The protector that works the hardest is the critic, for sure…

How do I find that child, do I go all the way back to the beginning of my memories or do I focus on specific hurtful memories?

By the way, thank you, this is amazing ♥️

Tari made with IFS (Internal Family System) to sound so approachable. One of the best guided meditations/talks ever heard. Thank you Tari.