Hey everyone and I.
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I want to give a talk today.
AN.
Children and the importance.
Of of allowing them.
To speak,
Speak the truth.
I feel that children are.
Our greatest teachers.
As well as being students.
We ourselves are.
Teachers and students.
A lot of families out there.
Few special parents.
Feel the need to.
Protect children by making decisions for them.
Speaking for them.
Tell them what to do,
What not to do.
And it's really a reflection of.
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.
The parents' own fears.
And bye.
Imparting those fears onto the child.
It suppresses their own voice.
That suppresses their own experience.
And I feel that we are We're at that point in time now where.
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.
Where it is time to change.
It's time to change and start to look more inward and why we are.
Controlling children.
Now we may feel that they're not capable of making decisions at that age for themselves.
But we don't give them the opportunity.
Then how do we know?
How do we know that the child is going to make it?
The best decision for them.
Regardless of the outcome.
And that's the fear of the parent really,
Isn't it?
It's the fear of the outcome.
Because maybe the outcome.
.
.
At one particular point.
Has been.
I was resulted in.
An experience that was.
.
.
Dramatic.
And if we learn as parents.
And I'm talking to you as.
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As a parent.
Of two children.
One age nine.
On age 14.
And they give me so much joy.
And so much happiness.
Yet at the same time they also generate a lot of.
Anxiety.
Within me because it reminds me of my experiences.
And so therefore it's not their experience,
It's my experience.
That I'm living through.
And I've learned that,
Or I'm learning that.
.
.
The more I.
.
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Understand myself,
The more I am able to let go with confidence.
And alone.
My children.
To make their own decision.
I may not agree with it.
I may not like it.
Like it,
It may not be my decision.
A spare decision.
I don't own them.
I don't own their life.
I don't.
And show their life.
It's learning for me.
The best way to for me to be the best version of myself.
Is to allow my children to be the best version of themselves.
And it's working as a partnership.
I feel that.
If we move as parents to working as a partnership with our children.
Then it moves a lot of stress within us,
That it removes that kind of need for perfection.
And removes that.
That need to be trained.
Fix people or save people or.
.
.
Or anything like that.
And you may be wondering why.
Why,
Why are you?
How would you know about this?
One of the reasons.
I'm aware of this.
Is that I have within my soul contracts.
A number in the physical karma.
Which is a 5-5.
And that's all about being persecuted for speaking your truth.
And now it's my gift now,
To speak my truth.
This is why I'm recording this and giving this talk.
Imagine.
What it would be like if my parents.
.
.
Were aware of what my physical karma was,
What my soul contract was.
Our young age.
Can you imagine that?
That full understanding of why I was here.
They could have worked with me.
They have a deeper understanding.
Of why it was important for my voice.
To be unequal.
To be heard,
To allow me to make decisions for my own.
I'll give you an example.
I am.
I had a choice.
Come to choose my subjects at school,
High school.
I wanted to take.
Physical education.
I was very sporty and loved everything to do with sport.
And in deep down I had a desire.
To be a teacher.
What's in there?
And it's only now realising that I had a great desire to teach children.
And that was my.
.
.
That was my choice at that time.
My parents.
.
.
Felt at that particular time.
And I've had to work through quite a lot of letting go of blame,
Resentment.
For that choice debate for me.
And there was a lot of heart I held on to.
For the decision that they made for me.
They decided that I.
.
.
I should do computing.
And.
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.
The outcome was.
.
.
I had an absolute disaster.
End that subject.
Was my worst scoring subject and what was then my standard grades.
I had no interest in it.
I was doing my best.
And everything I do.
And yet there was a mental block round about that.
And it wasn't really a mental block when I look back now,
It was an emotional block Because deep down I was.
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.
I was heartened.
I was hurting with a lot of built-up anger inside.
Now as I sit here.
I can understand why my parents wanted to do it.
Wanted me to do that.
They felt as if they were making the best decision from their point of view.
From seeing the world through their lens.
Rather than allowing me to see the world through my lens.
Regardless of the outcome.
They felt as if they could see.
Why it would be of benefit for me in the modern day world.
And remember this is going back to the mid to early 90s where computing and computers were really starting to take off.
And it's obviously become the future,
Right?
Does everything as computers.
And so in a sense they were right.
Absolutely,
For seeing that.
And I ended up in a job,
A very well paid job that.
.
.
Fun enough,
Use computers.
The deduction says.
I haven't said all that.
Having said all that.
War my truth was.
I wanted to explore.
A different path.
And it was the path.
That would have led me to,
Probably accelerated my.
.
.
My time here.
Accelerated my my time of understanding and doing what I wanted to do here.
Even at that kind of young age.
I started to look at things like.
.
.
Teaching and wanted to help others learn.
And I've never fulfilled that.
And that's something I'm going to change.
Now at this age of 45.
It's never too late.
Yes,
Never delete.
And the thing that comes to me is that.
.
.
The more understanding we have of each other.
And the Sokonscheid.
Is one way of doing that is having a deeper understanding.
The more understanding we have of each other,
The more we get to experience our own abundance.
Because we get to see exactly why.
We are here as parents.
And why our children are here.
And then we can work with them.
So we.
.
.
We are,
We are full of abundance.
Essentially.
When we a-a-a-a-are alive,
We just forget.
We just forget but through.
Past experiences.
Misunderstandings.
Family rituals,
Patterns,
Repeated,
Repeating over and over and over again.
You understand the phrase of that's not the way we do it in our family or family has always done this or things always happen to our family like this.
And it's almost,
You can hear it almost,
The change in energy in that voice.
It's like,
Okay,
I'm not meant to experience anything other than hardship.
Is that actually true though?
Or is that just something that has been.
.
.
Belt into families.
Centuries of suppression.
When it wasn't safe.
To be.
.
.
An individual.
Maybe it's time for us to remember that we are all individuals.
Our children are all individuals.
And it's time to reclaim our power.
Empower ourselves.
Of mentioned sole contract.
Has been a chill.
To understand that.
I'm.
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Maybe a lot of you out there won't.
And never heard of the term soul contract.
And it's,
Um.
.
.
That's something I'm going to explore in more talks.
And to give you a deeper understanding of understanding.
Of being able to.
See a sole contract and understand what that is,
Why their children are here,
Why you are here.
We can then start to.
Work with each other is equals.
And help each other work through our challenges that we've come here.
The greatest.
Spark of conflict is misunderstanding each other.
Or misunderstand ourselves.
I hope you've enjoyed this talk as much as I have and I look forward to speaking to you again.
Lots of love everybody.
Bye now.
