Forgiveness Is The Heart Of The Matter

In this talk, I explore my relationship with my parents and how forgiveness of the self was a huge factor in me moving through a lot of anger, resentment, bitterness and internal sadness I had as a child. By learning that forgiveness started within me, I was able to transform the narrative inside me that I was a victim of circumstances. I moved from self harm to self love by having the courage to be vulnerable with myself and let go the need to control my own internal state.

Transcript

Everyone. I wanted to share something from the heart. As I recognize that. And the first. 3M. Three talks that I've put up, I've posted, That I've talked about my parents a lot. And I really just wanted to emphasize. The difference in me now. Compared to when I was younger. So when younger I did have a lot of resentment and held in anger and I was an angry young man. Very angry. A lot of self-confidence issues. It was a lot of heart inside me, A lot of pain. And today is. I have done a lot of healing around about that. I've transformed a lot of that. It's about reputing it, Actually. It's transforming it. Healing sort of implies there's something to fix. And there's actually nothing for us to fix really. It's more of an awareness and understanding. Feeling of a lost love, Really. A feeling of abandonment that a lot of us feel. And self-trust. Self-worth even, And trust. All very powerful. All very powerful. The reason I wanted to do this talk was to is the importance of forgiveness. Extremely important. It's the heart of the Mother, Really. It's the forgiveness. And it's important to say that forgiveness is. . . Is something different than excusing. Of any pain that was caused. Or any actions that cause the pain. It's more of a, The forgiveness part is more of a release of me. A release for me because in many ways as a child I felt as if I was By hurting me, I was hurting my parents. And sure, They can see in some instances how I was struggling. The person that was mostly hurting was me, Though. By holding everything in, By holding onto the anger, And keeping that narrative going. I mean, That was almost like an empowerment in itself, That keeping that narrative going. That I was hard done to and there was a hard story and I was the victim. It was easy to keep that story going. And it was easy to bring that reasoning up every time something went against me. Well, It felt like life was against me. And really, It was just myself. I was against myself. It always comes back to the self. And I just wanted to give a short talk on forgiveness as a massive topic. It can be quite sensitive for a lot of people and I recognize that. And understand completely why that would be. Because there's a part of you that's maybe scared. To be vulnerable. To forgive is to be vulnerable. It can feel like you're giving away part of yourself. And in many ways that's true. But that's for another day. The truth is. . . When we allow ourselves to be vulnerable. That's when the wholeness comes back. That's when we start to feel the abundance inside us all. So my invitation to you is. . . Just to open a little bit to forgiveness. I promise you, Yes. Life is so much easier. Take care everybody. Speak again soon.