Consideration is one of the highest expressions of love.
Just someone naturally considering you during their everyday decisions makes me feel more loved than anything else.
Being considered makes people feel valued,
Seen,
And cared for.
So for example,
If I'm inviting one of my friends over that I love for dinner and she doesn't like spicy food,
I'm going to consider that in my recipe and make sure that I don't use anything in the meal that would make her Not like it.
And it's not because I have to,
It's because I want to.
I want her to enjoy the meal because when she's happy,
I'm naturally happy.
And this is what I'm talking about when I say consideration.
And I've seen this happen when you love someone naturally and they love you back.
It doesn't feel like work.
In my experience,
When I've tried to get someone to consider me by force,
Anything they do after that doesn't actually come from their heart.
It comes from a place of feeling like they should and like they have to.
And I just don't feel like that's love.
I feel like that's pressure.
Now there is a big nuance here because we do also want to express how we want to be treated and tell our partners or friends what we like and dislike.
So there is a balance here.
But just in general,
I've noticed that when people love you,
They just naturally consider you in their everyday life.
So for anyone who's listening,
I hope that in your life you get to feel what it's like to be naturally considered in ways that make love feel simple and consistent and just easy in everyday life.
And I would love for you to tell me what you think the highest form of love is.
And yeah,
Share it in the comments.
Thanks for listening.