From lust to trust,
A sacred teaching on sex and intimacy,
Here on Be With Melinda.
Welcome,
I'm Melinda and I invite you to take a breath with me.
Feel your body,
Let yourself arrive.
This teaching is for anyone who has loved,
Who has longed,
Who has questioned where the spark went and what it takes to build something sacred in its place.
You are not alone.
Let's explore together.
Let's speak truth.
The best sex of your life rarely happens at the beginning of a relationship.
Those early days,
They're full of spark,
Skin,
And chemistry.
We are pulled by instinct,
Imagination,
And novelty.
It's real,
But it's also fantasy.
And many of us spend years chasing that feeling.
We think we lost the magic,
But what we really lost was the tension,
The mystery,
The difference.
And yes,
We miss it,
Deeply,
Especially in long-term relationships,
Where things become practical,
Predictable,
Heavy with responsibility and routine.
You'll hear people say it gets better with time,
But let me be honest,
It doesn't always get better,
Not unless it's rebuilt.
Because what was once instinct must now become intentional.
You're not going to get that first-time feeling again,
But you can get something more real,
More sacred,
More deeply satisfying.
Early sex is imagined.
Later sex,
The kind that touches your soul,
Is built,
Over time,
With presence.
Not with performance,
Not with roles,
But with honesty,
With earned trust,
And held polarity.
The problem is,
Most couples never learn how to hold that difference.
They blend into sameness,
Into safety,
And somewhere in that safety,
The tension disappears.
Attention is not a problem,
It's a portal.
Polarity is not conflict,
It's a current.
When two people can hold their difference within the safety of trust,
Sex becomes something new.
Not driven by urgency,
But by magnetism.
Not because it's been a while,
But because I feel drawn to you again.
That's the kind of intimacy we're reclaiming.
That's the power of presence.
You can't go back,
But you can go deeper.
You can't recreate the newness,
But you can resurrect the pull.
You do that not by becoming someone else,
But by becoming more of who you are.
Alive.
Awake.
Honest.
Here.
And yes,
It takes both of you.
It takes intention.
It takes grace.
It takes sacred patience.
Because when sex is born not from lust,
But from trust,
It becomes something most people never experience.
Not because they can't,
But because they didn't know it was possible.
This is your invitation to let go of the fantasy and come home to the fire you can build inside the truth of who you both are.
From lust to trust.
From imagined to earned.
From soul to spark.
How do we overcome the distance,
The drift,
The dullness?
We begin here with intention and awareness.
Here are a few ways to rekindle the sacred flame.
Return to presence.
Not just being physically near each other,
But truly arriving.
Put down your devices.
Sit in silence.
Breathe together.
Let your eyes meet.
Intimacy begins when we show up with our full attention.
Reintroduce mystery.
Leave space.
Don't fill every silence.
Don't assume you know them entirely because you don't.
Ask a new question.
Wear something that makes you feel alive.
Let yourself be seen in a new way.
Reclaim polarity.
Honor your differences.
Don't dilute your essence to keep the peace.
Be your full self.
You're feminine.
You're masculine.
You're wild.
You're wise.
Let the contrast draw you back to each other.
Create sacred time.
Schedule time not just for sex,
But for connection.
Touch without expectation.
Breathe together without words.
Let your nervous systems reattune to safety and curiosity.
Speak honestly.
Say what you long for.
Say what you've missed.
Say what you don't know how to say,
But need to.
Truth arrives with closeness.
Stay curious.
Even if you've been together for decades,
There's still room in each other's hearts you haven't entered yet.
Knock gently.
Then listen.
This is not about forcing desire.
It's about creating space where desire is welcome to return.
Thank you for being here with me today.
May this reflection stir something sacred within you.
May you remember that presence,
Not performance,
Is what rekindles desire.
Until next time,
Be with yourself.
Be with love.
Be with truth.
