Stop Fixing Yourself (You're OK)

The trouble with most people is they’re busy trying to fix things in themselves that they really don’t understand. Stop fixing yourself. Don’t interfere. Don’t fix anything. Simply watch. Observe. You're OK. These things in you just need to be understood. If you understand them, they will change and you would finally see that all is well, within you and around you. This practice is a simple way of discovering this.

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I first heard this wisdom while in the company of my now-departed mum. She was ahead of her time, as was Tony. Or, perhaps better stated: *outside* of time. The revolutionary brilliance of this teaching, simple though it is, took more than a while to sink in, and for me to try to make a practice of this shift in thought (“don’t try to FIX it; understand it”). It remains one of the pillars of what I regard as Tony’s gift to us all, and there’ll likely never be another like him.

Amazing! So grateful that Tony’s wisdom has been captured on here. Many thanks 🙏❤️💫

Things don’t need to be fixed, they need to be understood. I love this.🙏❤️

I love all of De Mello's talks! Thank you for having them on IT! 💙

I am so grateful I came across this particular post. I bought a book by Anthony....a while ago..I'm going to go back to it today. Over the last 3 wks I've been fixing THINGS..no water as tank needed repair, ph not working, call a technician......issues with communication during this stressful time with a relative...being an observer from the 'sky' will give me an alternative perspective. The journey one takes in this life needs to be that way so you are objective I think. Thank you!

Wow amazing how the mind can be trick. Realize what is reality and what is not.

I would love if you went more in depth on how to understand it.

Wow, that was some deep stuff and so good

Thank you for these fine words of wisdom. Namaste 🙏

Especially loved the last lines! If 'the change police' listened & understood, we would all be in a much better place! Thank you for this. 🙏☀️🐾

Nice reminder to wake up with! I wanted to here more! :)

Really insightful. I'm done fixing. I'm observing. Surrending to God

i like this. it’s true. it’s more important to understand than to try to fix. once you understand , it changes everything.

Enjoyed this perspective very much. It gave me a quick boost in mood. Thank you!

Key reframing quote for me: “I” is experiencing depression… thank you. Great reminder… we are not our thoughts and feelings.
Taking this into my day: dispassionate observer of self and surroundings

We try to fix thjngs we do not even understand. Wow.

This is a life changing.. thanks so much 💕💕💕 blessings to you

Thank you for sharing the beauty of Anthony de Mello here on insight 🙇‍♂️🙏❤️

Such a relief 2 hear truth spoken, freely, JOYfully! www.gratefulness.org, ahimsa

Great talk. Yes it is very helpful reframing from identifying as our emotions or diagnosis to seeing it from a detached point of view as clouds passing in the sky. No longer seeing ourselves as something that needs to be fixed. Seeing ourselves as constantly changing and our need is to understand the causes behind the changes. Once we can accurately observe and understand how our actions and inactions play a role in our lives. Then we begin to understand that we have more control by gripping less tightly to our experience and learning to let go and let ourselves be who we are in this moment and not become attached to our state of mind, body or emotion. Thank you for this talk. Very helpful