Anytime you have a negative feeling towards anyone,
You're living in an illusion.
There's something seriously wrong with you,
As you discovered.
You're not seeing reality.
Something inside of you has to change.
But what do we generally do when we have a negative feeling?
We're saying,
He is to blame,
She is to blame,
She's got to change.
Oh no,
No,
No,
No,
No.
The world's all right.
The one who has to change is you.
I feel threatened,
But I is never threatened.
It's only me that is threatened.
Now did you assume that I was saying that you wouldn't do anything?
I said you wouldn't have negative feelings,
As a result of which you'd be much more effective.
Because when the negative feelings come in,
You go blind.
Me steps into the picture,
And everything gets fouled up,
And frequently we had a problem on our hand before.
Now we have two problems.
You might assume that not having negative feelings of anger and resentment and hate would mean that you do nothing about the situation.
No,
No,
Oh no.
You're not affected emotionally,
But you are actionally,
If that makes any sense.
You spring into action.
You become very sensitive to things and people around you.
What kills the sensitivity is this.
What many people would call the conditioned self.
When you identify with me,
There's too much of you in it for you to see things objectively,
To see things detachedly.
And it's very important that when you swing into action,
You be able to see things detachedly.
But when negative emotions get in,
You can no longer do that.
It seems that there ought to be some kind of reaction to my friend's death.
Self pity?
What would you be grieving about?
Think about this everybody.
What are you grieving about?
What I'm saying is going to sound terrible.
Personal loss.
Feeling sorry for me?
You mean you're feeling sorry for other people who are feeling sorry for themselves?
Do we ever feel grief when we lose something that we have allowed to be free?
That we have never attempted to possess and we have never allowed ourselves to be attached to?
Meaning.
What does it mean to be attached?
Meaning.
I made my happiness depend on this thing or this person,
At least to some extent.
We're so accustomed to this that to hear the opposite sounds inhuman,
Doesn't it?
