Welcome to the Hand Caress Meditation.
This is an opportunity to commune with your partner and awaken your sense of touch.
It's an adventure designed for your unique enjoyment and was developed to increase your body's capacity for pleasure.
To begin,
Create an intimate setting free from distractions.
Silence and put away your phones.
Find your way into a comfortable position,
Seated next to your partner,
Perhaps on a sofa or sitting upright in bed.
To fully experience this exercise,
Refrain from talking.
Now you will explore the language of touch and communicate love without words.
The essence of this experience is to pay attention to your own desire rather than your partner's.
Decide who will be the active partner and who will be the receiving partner to start.
The one who is active first will be the receiving next.
For the active partner,
Place the hand of the receiving partner into your hand,
The palm facing down.
For the receiving partner,
Close your eyes and allow your hand to be held.
Let it relax and soften in your partner's hand.
For the active partner,
With your free hand,
Use your fingertips to explore the hand you are holding.
With your touch,
Transmute warmth and fondness and trace your partner's hand,
Feeling the texture and temperature of their skin.
Outline every ridge and fold,
Resisting the pressure to please or perform.
Stay within your own sensations,
Your own curiosity,
And your own pleasure.
Whether receiving or active,
Tune into your desire and bring your attention to the point of contact where you are touching skin to skin.
Your flesh is the largest organ of the body.
Allow the point of contact and the sensations that it creates to ripple and flow through your bodies.
For the receiving partner,
Breathe in the experience.
Allow yourself to feel and let go,
Be held,
Be caressed.
If at one point you feel like you are touched enough,
Challenge yourself to stay in the process.
Come back to your breath,
Come back to the physical sensations of the body,
And relax even more deeply within this intimate exchange.
For the active partner,
Lighten your touch so you can feel the hair follicles on your partner's hand.
Each follicle is connected to a root,
A nerve,
And it is extremely sensitive.
Even the softest touch of the tip of a hair activates the nerve.
Stimulate this sensitivity.
Resist massaging the hand because the pressure might numb the skin.
Use long,
Slow,
Gentle strokes without moving the flesh.
This kind of touch magnifies sensual feelings.
If some touch is unpleasant without using words,
See if you can adjust the positioning of the hand or the body so it is more enjoyable.
For the active partner,
Trace the contour of your partner's hand as you breathe.
Feel each crevice,
Each bump,
Trace the fingernails and cuticles.
Are they smooth,
Dry,
Or rough?
Notice,
Sense,
Feel.
Slide your fingers in between your partner's fingers and move them up and down and up and down along your partner's inner fingers.
Now gently turn the hand over and reveal your partner's palm.
Glide your fingers along their palm.
Feel each line,
Each bend and mound.
Discover the texture and temperature of their skin.
Is it warm or cool?
Cultivate and be led by your pleasure.
Stay present to your own experience rather than your partner's reaction.
Let go of preconceived ideas and expectations.
Allow yourself to be in this moment.
For the receiving partner,
Follow the movement of your partner's fingers.
Keep your mind,
Heart,
And spirit focused on your own hand.
Melt into the experience.
The active partner,
You may choose to close your eyes.
This will free you from the noise of looking.
Notice how your sense of touch is heightened.
Both of you bring your attention to this mutual exchange.
You each are experiencing different sensations,
Yet both feeling and experiencing at the same time.
One touching,
The other touched.
Human touching human.
Life touched by life.
Widening your range of perception and honing the sense.
Refining this innate ability to gain deeper satisfaction.
Go slowly,
Breathe,
Enjoy.
Your sensual adventure is nearing to the end.
Soak up the remaining sensations.
Linger in the sense,
This dimension of touch for a moment more.
I invite you now to gently open your eyes.
Take a moment to thank each other for this intimate exploration.
Now is the time to share your impressions and feelings with your partner.
In a tactful manner,
Explain what you liked and what you did not care for.
This is not a critique,
But a learning moment.
Try and be specific.
Use descriptions like,
It was ticklish,
Comforting,
Hot,
Cold,
Silky,
Coarse.
When you are finished conversing,
Switch roles and replay the meditation from the beginning.
