Les 1
Why Even Set Goals?
The human being, the way we're designed, we're what's known as a Cybernetic Organism
which means we're kind of designed to go seeking things, we're designed to be forward moving, we actually have a purpose, we're born with something that makes us feel congruent when we're moving towards something.
Les 2
Two Foundational Principles
1. Choose. Don't Change. There's so many people going through life complaining about and trying to change their own circumstances. We've got no right to change anything, we do, however, have have every right to choose something new that we can then move towards.
2. The two ways that we can achieve goals. By Me (Achiever mode) vs. Through Me (Creator Mode).
Les 3
Organizing Principle #1: Do Not Set Goals You Know How To Achieve
If you have any idea how you achieve your goals, they're too small. The how is none of your business. If e're setting goals that we already know how to achieve, they're usually limited by possibility, and it's usually driven unconsciously by the fear of failure, which triggers the fear that we're not good enough.
Les 4
Organizing Principle #2: The Purpose of Setting a Goal is to see Who You Need to Become
The purpose of setting a goal is not to achieve the goal. It's to see who do you need to become as a person as a result of setting and achieving that goal. The essence of setting goals is to compel us to get out of our comfort zone. It's to become more of who we were born to be.
Les 5
Organizing Principle #3: Ethnocentric versus Egocentric.
Most people that set goals initially are setting egocentric goals. It's what do I want, or what do I not want? But ethnocentric goals means focusing on others or what you can contribute. Power moves to those in direct proportion to their willingness to serve.
Les 6
Organizing Principle #4: Align the Heart and the Mind
We have a thinking center and we have a feeling center, and two of them a lot of the time have different agendas.
Our mind will talk us in and out of anything. It works in language, reasoning, deduction, labels, metaphor, and assumption, and the mind is a very useful tool when it comes to that, but it's a very lousy leader.
Les 7
Three Things to Avoid when Setting Goals
The first thing to avoid is setting deadlines. Deadlines can be useful and we all know the power of deadlines when it comes to handing in a project for work or completing a school report, but life operates in a non-linear fashion. If you are congruent and your heart and mind is aligned, life will figure out the fastest path in the river to get you to where you're going.
The second thing to avoid is Universals: words like Every, and All. Setting universals is setting ourselves up
to fail. Give yourself some flexibility to be able to fit into the flexibility of life.
The third thing to avoid is Financial Goals. Money is a byproduct or a consequence of how much value we add. Instead of chasing Financial Goals, set goals related to productivity or creative output.
Les 8
Purpose
Purpose drives everything. Sit with these three things, and answer them honestly to shed light on your purpose:
1. Who Am I?
2. What do I stand for?
3. What do I want my life to be about?
Les 9
Vision
Vision is the bigger picture. This is the more in-depth. This is where we really start to add some substance to our life and the reason we are doing it now is because it follows our purpose. If we'd have just come up with a vision for our life, we wouldn't really know if it's in alignment with what it is that we stand for or who we are.
Les 10
Conclusion
It's important to set goals because the human being, the psyche, is like a bicycle. If it's not traveling towards something with purpose, it will lose its equilibrium and fall over. And that's not a bad thing. They're just warning signs to say that we're out of sync, if we're listening. It's that flag in the ground that when the hurricanes of life, that shape us into who we are, come and start blowing, we can cling on to it and we're not letting go.
