When most people think of freedom they think about things they want to be free from,
Free of.
I want to be free of the pain.
I want to be free of this constriction.
I want to be free of this imprisonment or this addictive reaction or this pattern from the past.
I want to be free and to get out of something that no longer serves me,
That I have outgrown or I have matured beyond.
Most people think of that and what's important is that is half of the equation.
Freedom from and freedom of this situation is half of the equation.
The other half of the equation is what you want to be free to be,
To think,
To feel,
To experience.
It's not enough just to want to push off of the past,
To push away from what you want to get rid of.
You also need to have a clear vision of where you want to be,
How will your life be different once you're free from the pain.
Can I imagine myself being free to feel the pleasure of daily living versus the pain and the struggle?
Without the vision of the future,
Without where you want to go,
Freedom is limited and people that get stuck constantly trying to fix the past,
Trying to fix the pain and it just becomes this endless spiral because they can't even imagine themselves free from it.
They can't see themselves being free from this debilitating pain or this destructive relationship or this imprisoning need for alcohol or drugs or food or sex or whatever the addictive reaction is.
Freedom from is easy to define because it's in your life and you feel the pain and you feel the imprisonment and it's easy to define that.
But most people are afraid to leap into the future where the fulfillment of that freedom exists.
What will be the fulfillment of healing that pain?
Can I imagine myself functioning day in,
Day out,
Enjoying the freedom that I've been trying to free myself to experience?
Can I open up to ground the future that has the freedom in place?
That's the part that's trickier.
That's the part that people go into self-doubt.
They go into a place of I don't know if I can believe it's possible for me.
It's important for you to shift that belief.
Own the possibility of being free and that takes more work than just I want to get rid of this bad habit or I want to stop this imprisoning relationship or I want to be free from the pain.
I need to be able to know what my reality will look like once that pain has ended.
I need to be able to dream of a loving relationship that no longer imprisons you or I need to be able to dream myself,
See myself,
Anchor myself in the future where I no longer am at sufferance to that addictive pattern and reaction from the past.
The freedom from needs to have a vision of the future in order for you to be able to truly be free.
That's the freedom from that leads to a freedom of a new state of being,
A new way of functioning and feeling and experiencing yourself is where the fulfillment lies.
