I Don't Wanna Be Disappointed - What To Do About Blocks & Obstacles

In this episode, Oron chats with Deb about the REAL reason we try so hard to avoid disappointment. They also explore the role of regret and how to let it go, and concludes with a deep dive into what signs from the universe really are and what to do when we hit blocks and obtacles. This is epsidoe 24 of A Clear Perspective Podcast.

Transcript

Welcome to A Clear Perspective,

The podcast that helps you remember who you really are,

What you really want,

And the easiest way to get it.

I'm Meida,

And I'm a direct voice channel for AURON,

Who give us straight talking,

Practical guidance to help us live joyful lives of abundance,

Ease,

And positive impact,

The way we were meant to.

In this episode,

AURON chat with Deb about the real reason we try so hard to avoid disappointment.

They also explore the role of regret and how to let it go.

AURON conclude with a deep dive into what signs from the universe really are,

And what we can do when we hit obstacles in trying to move towards the things that we want.

Here's AURON and Deb.

We are here and ready.

Hello,

AURON.

Thanks for having me again,

And I would like to first as well thank you for the first encounter.

It was very healing,

And it really changed a lot for me,

So immense gratitude for that.

We wish to interrupt before you go on to the next question,

Because there is something that is important,

But sometimes humans dismiss it quite quickly or don't appreciate it in a way that builds the energy of it,

So we wish to bring that to your attention.

We are amazing and powerful,

And we can direct energy and help your energy to move when you are open to it,

But we and Mater cannot heal you.

No one outside of you is capable of healing you.

What they can be is a supporting structure,

A comforting cocoon,

Or an impetus for a process that you do internally.

We acknowledge that we were of assistance in helping you facilitate your own healing,

But the primary point of that sentence,

The point that matters,

The point that we would draw your attention to is to facilitate your own healing.

That same gratitude that you just gave to us,

We wish to be a mirror of it so that you can access it for yourself,

Because you,

Dear one,

Did the healing.

Thank you for making this point.

It was said in the spirit that you were the impetus or the initiator that helped me start my process.

We understand and we love being the catalyst for that,

But it is also important in the reclaiming of your own power that each and every one of you is really deeply clear about you being the creator.

So we are a mirror of you for you,

And it's fun.

Thank you.

So the first time we spoke,

I was grieving because my dear cat died,

And I don't know if it's becoming a pattern,

Hope not.

Now we speak,

And a couple of weeks ago my friend passed suddenly,

And I think I've been dealing with grief and it's very different when it's a human and it's kind of unexpected.

But there are things I would like to bring up in regards to regrets,

Because we had plans to do some work together,

And when she invited me last year,

I said,

No,

I'm not ready.

And now obviously those things will never be.

So I do have regrets because I probably said no,

I'm already out of fear of growing and expansion and could you speak to regrets and saying no and then regretting it because people are not always here as we assume they will be.

People are not always here in the human form,

But they are always here for you and available in their energetic form.

So if you expand your consciousness,

You will be able to see and feel the presence of your friend.

And if you feel like they haven't gone anywhere,

And it may be that the form of the work that you do together is quite different to what you had envisaged when she was in the physical,

But it is also entirely possible for her to be a support for you as you go forward.

Her energy can be infused into what it is that you are doing going forward.

Your question was about the emotion of regret,

And there is never an emotion that you experience that is there for no reason.

You are never self-sabotaging,

You are never trying to limit yourself for no reason.

There are parts of you that are trying to keep you safe given whatever it is that they believe to be true.

They are attempting to guide you into what they consider is the best thing for you.

So the gold that lies in regret isn't in continuing to punish yourself for having made the wrong choice because the truth,

The deep energetic core truth is that there is no wrong choice.

There is no wrong choice,

There is no wrong choice.

Wrong choice assumes that there is one choice that you have to find and make.

The world does not work like that,

The universe does not work like that,

And opportunities come to you again and again and again and again,

Even though they may be in different forms.

There is no regret that your friend in spirit is now feeling for the decision that you make.

The gold available in regret is that you can now look back at that situation and in hindsight feel into what it was that you were feeling.

Realize that quite possibly it was a fear and you can choose to be more mindful and conscious of your decisions going forward,

But nothing went wrong.

Nothing was wrong.

There was nothing that needs to be rectified.

There was nothing that should have happened that didn't.

As you allow yourself to let that go and get the gold,

Which is the learning to be conscious in your decision making process and really honest with yourself about your motivations for a yes or a no,

That is the gold.

You can let go of the regret.

You do not have to keep it alive or active in you as insurance to make sure that you don't make a mistake in the future.

Regret is a signpost of something that requires some attention.

It is a gift.

I will have to let that percolate further and examine the regret.

I guess the next question that kind of follows up on that is the fear of disappointment.

So regrets the past and the fear of disappointment in the future.

I don't know how you view the 2020 and now 2021,

But there is lots of uncertainty and what I'm sitting with is I would love to make goals or as humans we tend to make goals,

Especially around New Year's time and to work towards something.

And you touched about our need to feel safe.

And I know that there is this big part of that fear of disappointment that if I set that goal for something because I would like to start a study,

But I have no way of knowing whether I'll be able to do that.

I do feel called to do this kind of work to expand further and yet I don't know where I'll be in September.

And I'm really afraid to be disappointed that if I select,

Okay,

In September I'm starting this and it won't happen.

Again there is this fear of like,

So on the other hand,

Whiteboarder making plans and I don't know if I should be just drifting and making a positive visualization towards the goal.

There is a lot that we could say in response and we will begin here.

Part of the reason that you are very reluctant to open yourself up to disappointment,

Part of the reason that you are trying to avoid the feeling of disappointment is because deep down you are worried that you are not powerful enough or capable enough to achieve the things that you want and the fear is that if you don't achieve it,

That disappointment will be evidence of your lack of power.

You will prove to yourself that you are not in fact capable and so it is safer for you to not make goals because then you cannot prove to yourself your inability to achieve them.

Disappointment is just an emotion.

That cannot actually hurt you but it is when you attribute a meaning to that disappointment about what is and is not possible for you and about what you are and are not capable of that you then try and avoid it and therefore close doors of possibility for you.

We will share with you Mayida's journey with goal setting.

She used to be someone who set goals and then worked really hard to achieve them and as she has evolved in this work over the last few decades and has realized that when you try to push the universe,

All you get is push back.

She stopped setting goals.

She wanted to allow rather than trying to force things into being but we have been working with her and she has been working with this herself in that the aligned balance comes when you have focus,

Intention and desire.

You take aligned inspired action and you allow.

That is the trifecta of goal setting.

So initially when Mayida was rigid and pushing,

There was no space for allowing.

When she was in a space of deep allowing and not setting goals and allowing the universe to provide amazing things,

She was deeply in a state of allowing but not in a state of focused intention and focused intention builds the energy of amazing awesome things.

We remind you that you only want things because they are energetically aligned to you.

They are calling you because they are meant for you.

You can feel the resonance of them.

It is why you feel like you are being moved towards them.

When you can be clear and honest with yourself about what it is that you want without putting limits over the top of it,

Without making your desires smaller so that it feels safer,

When you can be really clear and honest with yourself about what it is that you want,

Create a playful focus.

Enjoy the deliciousness of,

You said visualization.

If that works for you and it feels good and it feels light and it feels like you're not trying to force the universe into a particular configuration,

If you can stay light with it,

That is a delicious space to be.

It is why you all daydream.

Disguising is energetic pre-creation.

It is delightful,

Delicious and it is powerful.

When you are attempting to force the universe into a configuration,

It creates restriction,

It creates rigidity and we only ever try to control when you don't really truly feel as though your needs will be met or the things will be achieved.

If you can combine your intention,

Your attention,

Your desire,

Your inspired action and your state of detachment and allowing,

This or something better,

This or something better,

This or something better,

So that space is there for something better,

For something else,

For something that is different than you expected but an energetic match to it,

That's when goal setting becomes a magic carpet that carries you forward to the things that you want.

You touched on it and I had another question about,

You mentioned alignment.

I wonder about,

You know,

There are certain things that I would like and there is some things appear as a sign and what we see as a sign that this feels right and I just wonder about,

You know,

The difference between seeing,

Interpreting something as a sign,

As a visual thinking or it's really aligned,

How to differentiate between the two.

You can interpret anything as a sign and there are ways of having signs be empowering and helpful and there are ways of having signs be disempowering.

If what you are interpreting universal signs to be is the universe,

The creator,

God,

Something bigger than me,

Something more powerful than me is telling me I should do this,

Which is how a lot of people interpret signs.

It is as though something outside of themselves is giving them the go ahead.

That is ultimately disempowering but if you understand that you actually are the universe and you are giving yourself signs,

You reclaim the ability to be the powerful one who gives and receives them.

There are signs everywhere because the universe is a carefully calibrated being.

Interpreting is a reflection and so everything that you look at can be interpreted as a sign.

There are two people standing next to each other looking at the exact same things in the exact same situation and one person may perceive what they see as a sign and the other person may not.

So it is a personal journey but we would encourage you to play with this.

You are the sign.

You are the sign.

Do not say,

If I'm supposed to do this,

I need someone outside of me to tell me yes.

That is a disempowered way of engaging with the universe.

If you trust your feeling,

If you see something and it feels like it lights you up inside of you,

If it gives you an experience and a feeling,

That's you being the reader of the sign,

You being the powerful one that is saying what is present and interpreting it within the boundary of yourself,

Within yourself.

That is how to play with signs.

There is nothing outside of you telling you,

You must do this,

You must not do this.

There is no right way.

There is no wrong way.

It is all a game.

It is all exploration.

It is all you uncovering how you work and learning to work with yourself in productive,

Playful,

Joyful,

Nourishing,

Self-encouraging ways.

The universe is your friend.

The universe is you.

It is not separate to you.

There is no one that you have to please in order to be granted access to the things that you want.

So how about what we perceive as obstacle,

For example,

Lack of finances or lockdowns now when we really can't go places?

Everything that occurs is in some way a mirror reflection of what is going on inside of you.

You can interpret it as an external restriction that is being enforced upon you,

But that is the same as saying signs as being the universe or something more powerful than you telling you what you can and can't do.

Within every situation,

You can find the feeling of freedom.

You can find the feeling of choosing.

You can find the feeling of self-empowerment and made it herself,

Had some difficulty with this initially when she was in that state of lockdown.

She realized that it wasn't working for her to use the word lockdown because it made her feel like she was in prison.

She began to call it her home retreat.

I'm on home retreat.

Sometimes I would really love to be able to cancel things and stay home in my pajamas and do the things that I want without any feeling of pressure to do anything else.

She then began to really deeply thoroughly enjoy her home retreat.

Within every circumstance,

When something happens,

If you feel powerless,

That is evidence that within you,

There are parts of you that feel powerless and it would behoove you to encourage them,

To work with them,

To uncover why you feel deeply powerless.

Everything is a reflection.

As you interpret it as good or bad,

You will have feelings that go along with that.

If what you are experiencing feels good to you,

The thing is a mirror reflection of what is going on inside of you that already feels good to you,

Great,

Enjoy it.

If what you are seeing is making you feel feelings that are less than good,

Less than what you wish for yourself,

They are always signs that there is something for you to look at,

To play with,

To heal,

To release,

To integrate so that you can feel empowered because you are.

You are.

You are who you ultimately always are.

You are not a small being at the effect of life,

But if you perceive yourself to be that,

That is what your experience will be.

That is an illusion.

You are infinitely powerful and capable of creating amazing things in your life and in your world.

As you feel disempowered,

You limit your ability to deeply enjoy the powerful conscious creation life that you planned for yourself.

When you see obstacles,

They are not being imposed upon you even though it looks like they are.

It may look like they are.

They are an opportunity for you to know,

To deeply know how you really feel,

What you really think,

What is really going on inside of you and how much power influence,

Not dominance,

But power of influence of self and your environment.

How much are you really deeply connected to the fact that you are divine,

Amazing,

Powerful?

All of the things that you wish and crave to be,

You already are them.

When you hit an obstacle and it feels like a block,

It's a massive opportunity for you to see what's really there and to address it so that the block can dissolve and you can move forward to the next level awesome and the next level of awesome and the next level of awesome because that is what is intended for you and that is what you intended and it is what is more than possible for you.

More than possible.

It does not have to be hard.

It does not have to be hard.

It does not have to be hard.

It does not have to be hard.

It does not have to be hard.

But when you see obstacles as things outside of you blocking you,

That is going to feel hard.

But if you feel that it's hard,

If you feel that they're obstacles,

You can transform that by looking deep within and uncovering what it is that that circumstance is there to show you,

Work with it,

Love the part of you that has the feelings that you consider negative,

Find out what they need and give it to them.

And as you learn to be someone who is deeply there for you in that way,

Deeply accepting of self under all circumstances,

Deeply supportive of you,

Nourishing of you,

You will come to know yourself as someone whose needs are met,

Someone who is prioritized and someone who is deeply supported and loved because you are,

You are,

You are.

We love you.

We love you.

We love you.

Go well.

Did that go for ages?

No,

Not too long.

I think this was a shorter one.

It was intense.

They can be a little bit intense.

Yeah.

I felt it in my solar plexus today.

Oh,

Did you?

Reviews

Wow! I knew this all along! I didn't believe it was me!! So that leaves me at.. I am the answer. I've been looking for someone or something else to help me figure out what is wrong with me and why my life has turned out to be exactly what I didn't want.. a disappointment of nothing but regret, pain and sorrow but no one knew that not one single person knew that but they're starting to know now because the words are coming out of my mouth and they're all confused about why I'm talking like I am, now I know!!! that's no way to have lived a life but it was okay that everyone else was thriving but not I. Running, trying to escape my nightmare of my life for 58 long years and why I made all the mistakes I did. I was going to die and carry all this regret with me I've just been living to die when I've actually been just dying to live but didn't have it in me or more so I didn't deserve any better than what I was born into. for the first time ever I'm in debilitating fear.. something very powerful is trying to get my attention very powerful and it has scared me because I'm sure it was going to be bad but it's not it's what's been saving my life the whole time, the details in the horror are definitely not needed my brain has been shifted my heart remains the same. Since April the 28th of 2020 I've been consumed with a different kind of fear that has shaken me to my core and it wasn't the corona virus. I've been in the medical field all my life I believe in science. Something was trying to get my attention and still is..I am an extreme HSP / EMPATH and anybody that knows anything about that knows how very deep I can get. I thought it was just a curse and I've been trying to get rid of my whole life because everyone said it was bad and your different and you're weird and what's wrong with you.... my whole life and now I'm laughing right now!! I'm actually laughing instead of crying and I'm not mad not angry I don't feel jealous I don't feel sadness I don't feel any of that right this minute and I know it'll come back or maybe your brief second and that's okay.. it's going to sneak in but I have a weapon, it's me! I am my own answers! What a concept wow! Thank you for all that you do and all that everyone does here on INSIGHT TIMER I, and I have to emphasize I, was never going to stop searching for the help that I need. And I, I emphasize I, found the help I needed. To all the teachers, all the musicians ,all of the podcasts ,all of the talks, all of the sleep stories!!! thank you Michelle Sanctuary thank you Jacob Watson oh... I could go on and on thank you INSITE TIMER thank you from the beginning of the concept to what you have become today because what you have become today has saved my life and I could not be more grateful because for the First Time I can breathe and I feel what peace feels like. I knew it was going to be wonderful I've never had peace. I've never been happy I've never loved I've never trusted I have never felt anything but wild crazy fearful emotions and they were all there keeping me safe . Thank you divine universe wrapping your arms and saving a soul" I AM MY ANSWERS💫 I AM THE UNIVERSE ✨ I AM.. I AM.. IT'S ALL INSIDE ME ⚡☄️🌠 NAMASTE

Very empowering talk, and I liked the way "regrets" were reframed. That is a new, helpful way of seeing things.

Thank you so much so much