If you are feeling totally out of control,
Maybe even doing a doom spiral,
This is a great way to stop.
And understand.
What am I choosing right now?
Am I choosing to be a judge?
Am I choosing to be a victim?
This is a powerful lesson I learned from Don Miguel Ruiz in that throughout the day,
We are constantly protecting our own hell with the judge and the victim.
The judge is telling us why something isn't good enough,
We should be further along by now,
Basically saying that what's happening right now is not okay and we're gonna judge that.
Whereas the victim is the,
Why is this happening to me?
This always happens to me.
I can never get ahead,
Right?
All those stories that are keeping you feeling like there's nothing that can happen good in that moment.
So.
When you can catch where are you speaking to yourself as a judge,
Where are you speaking to yourself as a victim,
You can start to forgive yourself.
Forgive yourself for talking to yourself that way.
And switch the story,
Change the story,
So that instead of judging yourself,
You're cheering yourself on.
Instead of being a victim,
You are a victor who is empowered to get whatever needs to be done to be in the next place.
You can be that underdog.
And so this is your invitation.
Notice,
Where in life am I judging myself?
Where in life am I choosing to be a victim?
And how can I forgive myself for those stories?
A new one that actually serves me.
So,
For example,
If you're telling yourself that this never works out for you,
Perhaps what's real that you can change that with is,
I'm figuring out how it's working out for me.
I'm so excited for what's coming next.
Something good is on its way and I'm figuring out in every moment.
If you're judging yourself nonstop,
Maybe it's something like,
I should be further along by now.
I can't believe I'm still in this spot.
That's the perfect time to soften,
Forgive yourself and say,
I am taking it one step at a time without judgment of pace.
I'm proud of myself for how far I've come and how committed I am to this journey.
So remember,
The way you talk to yourself is the way you live your life.
You attract more of what you are.
So notice,
Where are you protecting your health?
Where can you soften and forgive that judge and that victim?
And step into your power,
Really supporting yourself,
Cheering yourself on into a new possibility.
You got this,
My friend.
