For The Men Who Are Running On Empty Tonight

Hey!

You are here after a long air stay.

And that counts for something.

So,

What am I doing here?

Something new?

A little wind down?

A little.

.

.

Call off to end the day.

Something that.

You deserve.

Reminding you that you are important.

Encouraging you for all of the incredible things that you've done.

Kind of.

ASMR style.

But I don't claim to be an ASMRtist.

I do love listening to ASMR.

That is one of the things that has given me this idea.

I work with men.

Who may be.

Have been feeling rejected.

Undesirable,

Not good enough.

Hungry to be touched.

And I.

.

.

I just had this feeling.

I may be able to.

.

.

Offer some comfort in some way through this medium.

And it's not all mapped out.

I don't have a script or an exact idea of how this will go.

I know my intention.

I know my heart is here to help you know that you are important,

That you do deserve to be appreciated,

That you are seen.

And so let's take it from there.

So what do you have to do while I'm talking?

Nothing.

You are already just doing so much by being here.

By being you.

And you don't need to earn this moment of peace,

Of affirmation.

You don't need to earn anything at all.

So I intend to show up here.

Talking to you from my heart.

Often.

If you like this.

If it is something that feels good and supports you.

And I'm just going to be.

.

.

Getting on with my morning.

And hopefully encouraging you.

To settle down for the night.

Because it is often when we lay our head on the pillow.

That all of these thoughts kind of circle around and makes it hard to actually let go and fall asleep.

I've been there too.

Or maybe you've woken up in the night.

Hands.

Now those thoughts are just.

.

.

In your mind and you can't get it to settle.

It's okay.

You are not alone.

So I have a couple of notes that I wanted to just.

Say and share with you and just remind you that You are doing so well.

And I'm not here to try to fix you or make you feel better.

Just to help you check in.

Breathe.

And remember how awesome you actually are.

You truly are.

Even if you don't feel like you're measuring up.

In whatever way that is.

You are doing enough.

Is what I wanted to say.

Maybe it feels like some days nobody is noticing how much you hold,

How much expectation.

Is on your shoulders.

How much pressure,

Even unspoken,

Even pressure that you are putting on yourself.

It's almost like it is expected and you are just expected to carry it day after day after day with no outlet to show your emotion.

No one you can talk to no one you can be real with.

And in this world where.

It is confusing to be a man.

That I know I'm not a man.

But my heart is.

.

.

Kind of grappling and trying to understand the pressures that men face.

And I want you to know that.

I see you.

And I'm grateful.

And so many of us in this world are grateful.

For you,

Your masculine energy,

The way you uniquely show up in the world.

You give so much.

And it may be.

That you still feel kind of.

.

.

Invisible.

But you matter.

More than you can know.

Maybe you feel unwanted.

Untouched.

Is a very real thing that so many humans experience.

That touch hunger,

That wanting to be touched,

That craving to be touched and that rejection.

Because every time you reach out,

Maybe you're met with bristling and resistance and maybe you've tried so many things and it just makes you feel like.

.

.

Are you wrong to want to be touched?

Is this so unreasonable?

I'm telling you it's not unreasonable.

You're human.

So what can you do in this moment?

Besides,

Closing your eyes and knowing that you are validated.

If you feel like it.

Can relax Follow my instructions.

I invite you to put one hand.

On your chat right now.

Just rest it there.

While you breathe easily.

Feeling the weight of your hand and that connection of your hand to this chest.

Feeling the warm.

Of your own touch.

No rush.

No pressure.

Because you know your body doesn't care where that comfort comes from.

It's okay.

To be your own hand that soothes you.

So just give yourself that.

Allow yourself to just.

.

.

Be soothed.

And touched.

And held.

Allow yourself to believe what I'm telling you.

That you are worthy.

That you are important.

And that whatever happened today and yesterday and this week.

You are doing so well.

We need you.

So take a deeper breath with me now.

Now we need to inhale.

Fully.

And then inhale again And now exhale through your mouth.

Until there is nothing left.

That is called a physiological sigh.

There's science behind it.

So let's do it again.

You're going to do one deep inhale through your nose,

Slow and deep.

And then when you think you are full,

Full,

Full,

You're going to take one more inhale through your nose.

And then you're going to release every little last bit.

Oxygen through your mouth.

Are you ready?

Let's do it together.

Ready?

Inhale.

How does that feel?

It's like a little mini reset.

And you can do that as many times as you like.

Whenever you like.

It is a little tool that is always there for you that might be boosted by having your own hand on your body,

Wherever you need your hand on your body right now.

Now I want you to think about your jaw.

Is it tight?

Have you been clasping it all day?

Let it go slack.

Just let it loosen,

Relax your tongue.

Relax your shoulders.

And just focus on feeling the support that is beneath you.

If you're sitting down.

Then maybe it is the chair underneath you.

If you are lying down,

Feel the support underneath your back.

Let yourself soften into it.

Just let yourself be held the way you hold so many things together.

The next thing I wanted to say was.

Thank you.

This world doesn't always thank you.

It doesn't always thank men.

And not for the quiet work you do.

The emotional load that you carry.

So I want to say that to you tonight.

Thank you.

I see you.

You made it through today.

And that's all that matters.

So here's something to try next time you're feeling alone.

Feeling that ache.

Don't go numb.

Don't scroll it away.

Place your hand on your chest again.

Or Run your hands down your arms.

Touch yourself wherever feels good.

And know that you deserve touch.

And affection.

Even if you're the one giving it to yourself.

Why deny that of yourself?

So that's what I wanted to share with you today.

Who knows how this might evolve.

Who knows if this will land and resonate and even feel good.

Let me know.

Take a little bit of that weight off your shoulders so that you can relax.

And ease into sleep,

If you enjoyed it.

Come back again soon.

I'll be here.

Same vibe.

Same calmness.

Same appreciation and no pressure.

Just a space where you can come to exhale.

Good night.