Nonviolent Communication Part 2: Needs-Based Speaking With Self And Others

‘Nonviolent Communication’ is the intention of seeing humanity in each other.

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Immerse yourself in the techniques and consciousness of connecting deeper within, and to others, with the mindful communication approach called ‘Nonviolent Communication’ (NVC).

This, course 2, will let you dive deeper and get to know how working with Needs leads to more understanding and compassion.

I call NVC 'mindful communication', because this approach offers a conscious and helpful way of relating to our thoughts, feelings and needs in a way that creates both meta-awareness and Metta--as in loving kindness, for yourself and for others.

NVC, at the surface, is a range of conversational techniques that are an expression of its deeper being: a compassionate nondual quality of awareness.

In these courses, you will get to taste this awareness and see it in action in several domains such as listening, dealing with anger, enemy images, judgment-free relating, and much more.

You'll get to practice the clarity that discerns strategies from needs, thoughts from feelings, demands from requests and observations from interpretations. And you'll see how this clarity can untangle and help dissolve our habitual split-second reactivities.

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Some notes:

> This course is part of a series of 6 courses on NVC, that can either be taken separately or in conjunction, although of course taking all 6 courses will give you a more complete picture of the material.

> The ‘totality’ of NVC is a rich and living bouquet of ever-evolving practices, topics and insights, and these courses are not meant to convey that totality (nor could they); rather, I share here my deepest insights, coolest learnings and most useful practical tips. I dearly hope you find benefit in it and enjoy the course(s)!

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Leçon 1: Everything We Do, We Do To Meet Needs

In this session we take a closer look at what needs actually are, by taking a brief tour through metaphysical, phenomenal and 'simply put' descriptions. Next, we observe how needs operate in us, and finally, we address the question what is behind all those needs? Lastly, there will be a contemplation to feel what connection to needs can do.

Leçon 2: Putting Sensitive Situations Under The Microscope: NVC's '4-Step Model'

What is the difference between needs and strategies? What discerns requests from demands? How can we see clearly what demarcates between observations and interpretations? Reflecting on these questions helps us to un-trigger and untangle ourselves when a vulnerable situation ignites reactivity.

Leçon 3: Jackals & Giraffes: Finding Our Way To Connection Beyond 'Tragic' Language-use

“Every criticism, judgment, diagnosis, and expression of anger is the tragic expression of an unmet need”, according to Marshall B. Rosenberg.

I completely agree. Using a situation from my own life, this session takes a closer look at what type of presence and language-behavior tends to create connection, and what typically prevents it--and why.

Reviews

There’s a lot of really good information in this course. A lot to take in. I found it very helpful and listen to it again. It’s one of those courses the more I listen to it the more I learn. 🌙⭐️🌙⭐️🌙

Another very clearly explained course , helping me become aware of my own communication style and recognizing the needs of those who I am relating with.
Thank you Hans

Thank you so much for these amazing courses. Onto the next one! 🙏🏻🙏🏻✨✨

Another very useful NVC course-I like how the courses are presented in chunks, with space in between to digest the material. Clearly employing the principles will be a lifetime pursuit but worthy of my efforts! Thank you!

Very good course. I intend to bookmark and listen again.