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Conscious Parenting Through Self-Knowledge & Unconditioning
4.7
15 jours de cours

Conscious Parenting Through Self-Knowledge & Unconditioning

Par Jan Moller

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Ce que vous apprendrez
This course is focused on how to improve the upbringing and education of children and adolescents through understanding our own social conditioning and how to free ourselves from our emotional burden of the past. This self-knowledge and awareness helps us create a more harmonious and balanced personality and thus, become not only better parents, but also better partners, educators, and leaders. Care and education are the foundations of parenthood. All parents face dilemmas and difficulties, and because of this, it is normal to feel that sometimes we fail. As the father of 4 children, Jan claims that the role of the parent is one of the most difficult and demanding roles in human life. The way that parents, educators, and significant others treat children has a profound impact on their abilities to create harmonious lives as adults, and thus on the quality of our society. Doesn't it seem strange to you that society does not require any preparation to assume this crucial role for the development of the individual? This course aims to share reflections and tools for the development of a more conscious parenting. The goal is to reduce the unconscious repetition of self-defeating and negative behavior patterns resulting from the harmful methods of the traditional socialization process. The modification of the same in the upbringing and in the educational system is essential in order to be able to guide our children in a way that helps them fulfill their potential and live happy lives. And happy people make a happy world.

Jan Moller

Lillehammer, Norway

Jan Moller, a Norwegian national, is a medical doctor, psychotherapist, senior management consultant, coach, keynote speaker, teacher, author, and musician. He has taught personal development, meditation, and mindfulness in companies, business schools and universities in Europe and South America for more than 35 years.

Leçon 1
Understanding The Conditioning - Part 1
In this first lesson you will learn about the theory of the "tripod brain" which is very useful for understanding the socialization process and how to face the challenges of modifying it. We will talk about the intelligence corresponding to each of the three brains, and about the important relationship that exists between emotional intelligence and self-esteem.
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Understanding The Conditioning - Part 2
The theory of the "tripod brain“ also indicates that we have three memories: the basic, emotional, and intellectual memory. Analyzing the emotional memory and its content gives us an important understanding of how early experiences impact our entire lives. In this lesson, it will be very clear to you how important it is to speak and act in a conscious manner when interacting with children.
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Understanding The Conditioning - Part 3
The emotional memory is a memory energetically charged, mostly by unexpressed anger, sadness, guilt, shame, and fear. It represents a source of imbalance and discomfort for all dimensions of life: physical, mental, emotional, social, and spiritual. The more charged, the less harmonious is our personality. In this session we look at these negative effects in more detail.
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Understanding The Conditioning - Part 4
The concepts of the conscious and subconscious explain why it is possible to live a lifetime without being aware of the emotional burden we carry from our childhood. Here, we will also share a concept about the possible existence of a spiritual intelligence and memory that is based on an interesting interpretation of the theory of reincarnation.
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Evidencing The Conditioning - Part 1
Our programming is strongly expressed in the different characters or roles that our personality assumes. Roles such as the invisible, the hero, the accuser, the indifferent, the victim, the rescuer, among others, are typical examples of how early conditioning influences us throughout life. In this lesson we will focus on the common roles of the “victim” and the “rescuer”.
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Evidencing The Conditioning - Part 2
In this lesson we analyze the dynamics that develop between the victim and the rescuer in different contexts. Their relationship may appear very loving, especially if they are a couple or family members, but this is an "illusion of harmony". They are all caught up in their respective sufferings with repetitive behaviors as if they were robots guided by an autopilot. They "love" each other, but the dependencies, excessive control, guilt, manipulation, and unhealthy jealousy reveal a lack of true love, which is absent because neither of them ever learned to love themselves.
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Freedom From Our Conditioning - Part 1
Did you know that there is nothing you have to do in life except one thing? To die. In this lesson we will share the first advice and practical tools to achieve freedom from the negative parts of our emotional memory. You will understand that while you keep saying a lot of "I have to", it is likely that you are stuck in the role of the victim - without knowing it.
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Freedom From Our Conditioning - Part 1
This lesson is dedicated to the exercise, “My zone of influence”. It is a very simple mental scheme, but very efficient that enables us to get out of the role of victim and to handle any source of pressure, that is, any change, annoyance, stress, or discomfort, without having to complain.
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Freedom From Our Conditioning - Part 3
Responsible selfishness is a topic discussed in one of my other courses, but it is so important that here, we will delve into some more "rights" that this attitude toward life provides us: the right to be my own judge, the right to not to give reasons or excuses to justify my behavior, and the right to define my own responsibility in the problems of others.
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Freedom From Our Conditioning - Part 4
In this lesson we discuss two more rights: the right to change your mind and the right not to worry about what others think of me. A famous fable by Aesop makes it clear that whatever you do, there will always be someone who gets upset, disagrees, or criticizes you. You have the right to free yourself from the straitjacket of continually worrying about other people's opinions.
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Freedom From Our Conditioning - Part 5
Learning to observe our interaction with others is important in order to break the automatic behaviors and stop acting like programmed robots. In this lesson you will learn where to focus your attention and what to ask yourself to identify opportunities for improvement in your way of being, especially in your role as a father or mother. You will also learn how to prevent your children from taking responsibility for your happiness. Another interesting topic in this lesson is that of the origin of “spoiled” or “problematic behaviors” of children.
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Freedom From Our Conditioning - Part 6
Here you will learn about different actions you can take to be a more conscious and constructive mother or father. What to do if there is no solution to relationship conflicts? What do I do with the guilt I feel? How to accept myself? You will learn more techniques to get out of the role of the victim and the rescuer.
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Freedom From Our Conditioning - Part 7
Recognizing that many self-defeating and limiting parenting behaviors are expressions of our own insecurities, the need arises to modify them. In this session we detail a technique using the concept of the “inner child”.
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Conscious Upbringing - Part 1
In this session we will talk about the importance of stress management as a mean to improve as parents. Additionally, you will learn the "anti-spoiling" technique and what to do to avoid the drama if the child does not want to eat. We will analyze the negative effect that perfectionism has in the home and what to do to stop being a perfectionist. We will consider examples of how to apply the “respectful firmness” - technique when setting limits for children.
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Conscious Upbringing - Part 2
When a child is brought up under the principles of conscious parenting, they develop the internal foundations for happiness: self-esteem, self-confidence, sense of responsibility, and independence. In this last session we will focus on two crucial issues: how to use the negotiation technique (especially with adolescents), and what it means to respect children.

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Laurie
July 18, 2023
I have a teenager who is about to graduate. I wasn't expecting some of the things the course taught me. This course adresses some of the shadows we've encountered in our lives, how they effect our parenting style, and how to work on ourselves to be more effective and loving parents. I especially found the last class beneficial to my own...
Kassy
March 11, 2023
I enjoyed every single minute of this. Thank you so much.
Beverly
December 12, 2021
I enjoyed this course as a great grandmother to a 4 year old boy that I keep 5 days a week for long hours. I’ve been using your suggestions along the way. I related well to day 14 and I plan on following your suggestions around meals. The struggle is real! Thank you for this wonderful course.

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