This is an exercise in which we're going to explore your boundaries.
We can think of boundaries as being a way to protect our energy.
So we're going to start off sitting in a comfortable position.
And you're going to move your arms out in front of you.
Palms facing outwards.
And you're going to imagine.
Feeling into.
An imaginary bubble.
Around your body.
What does this boundary bubble feel like today?
Does it feel stretchy?
Does it feel hard?
Does it feel fairly solid or does it feel porous?
And moving your hands.
All around the edges.
Of this bubble around you.
And this is the bubble protecting your energy.
Your boundary bubble.
And inside this bubble.
Is your worth?
Your personal power.
And your integrity.
And notice how all of those feel today.
Your worth.
Your personal power.
And your integrity.
We're going to test your boundary today.
In a way that can be really supportive.
And we're going to use three things.
To test your boundary bubble with.
We're going to use Work.
And we can consider that either work outside of the home.
Or work inside of the home.
We're going to test our boundary.
With a tricky person.
And we're going to test our boundary with.
Your child or your children.
So what we're going to do,
You can move your arms down now if they were still up.
And keeping this idea of the boundary bubble.
We're going to imagine creating a little tableau.
Of each of these things.
So we're going to start with work.
And this might be work outside of the home or domestic work inside the home.
And we're going to create a little tableau in your mind.
That sums up.
Work.
Almost like you're creating a little clipart item.
Or emoji that sums up.
Work.
And we're going to bring that tableau that you've created.
Right inside your boundary bubble,
Right up close next to your face and notice how your nervous system responds.
And quite likely it doesn't feel very good.
So we're going to ask work.
To back it up.
We're going to ask what.
To move out of our boundary bubble.
And you're going to move work to somewhere where your body and your nervous system are no longer responding to it.
No longer reacting.
So you can be aware of work.
Whilst also protecting your energy.
And next.
We're going to do the same thing.
With your tricky person.
So we're going to create an image in your mind's eye of your tricky person.
We're going to imagine bringing them right up into your boundary.
Right up close inside your boundary bubble,
Next to your face.
Notice how your nervous system responds.
And now we're going to protect your energy.
We're going to move this tricky person out.
We're going to move them to a place.
Where your body is no longer reacting to them.
You can be aware of them.
You don't need to be reactive towards them.
And finally we're going to do the same exercise.
With your child or with your children.
Now your children have an interesting relationship with your boundary.
In that when they were very small They lived inside your boundary bubble.
For small children.
Are very attached to their caregivers.
They were in your boundary bubble most of the time.
And the process of getting older.
Is your child developing their own boundary bubble?
And so we're going to Create two images now.
One is an image of your child perhaps doing something that you know is triggering to you.
So perhaps it's them having a big emotional blowout.
Or perhaps it's a behaviour that you find difficult.
We're going to create a little tableau.
Of that.
But then also we'll create a little image.
Of,
For want of a better term,
Your child's soul energy.
And we'll bring both of those in.
Your child's soul energy.
And this tableau of them.
And something that normally you react to.
And again,
We'll bring them right up close in your boundary.
And then you can decide.
Where you want to move these two.
Perhaps the soul energy stays inside your boundary.
Or perhaps it moves to the edge,
Wherever feels right.
And perhaps the other tableau.
Of the more tricky behavior.
Perhaps that moves somewhere.
A little further away where you can be aware of it.
You can tend to it.
You can act upon it.
But it's not inside your boundary bubble.
And then the final part of this visualisation.
Is to notice if there are any holes.
In your boundary bubble,
Anywhere where you might be leaking energy,
Leaking resource.
And with your hands,
Perhaps.
Taking them and patching up any holes,
Or maybe putting a protective layer.
Over your boundary,
Protecting your energy.
Knowing.
That you are in charge of your boundaries.
And your boundaries are an expression of your willingness.
And your capacity.
And inside your boundaries.
Inside your boundary bubble.
Is your worth?
The personal power.
And your integrity.
And knowing you can come back to this image.
Whenever you like.
