Lección 1
Our First Challenge In Setting Boundaries
Our first challenge is that we aren't clear about what our boundaries are. So every time we're asked to do something we don't want to do, or someone is treating us in a way that we're uncomfortable with we freeze because we don't know what to do - leading us to the most passive response possible - not speaking up. In this lesson, we discuss the importance of creating our Terms of Engagement - a document that helps us know ourselves: to know what our boundaries are, what we want our lives to look like and how we want to engage with others. When we know what our boundaries are we are more clear, confident, and decisive.
Lección 2
Addressing The Fear, Guilt, And Regret Of Boundaries
In this lesson, we look at the belief we have that if we don't set boundaries we are somehow avoiding suffering when the reality is we just go up into our thoughts pushing back and create more suffering. We are taking advice from our egos and we are getting bad advice. The solution is to get better advice - accessing the wisdom of our hearts to give us the confidence, clarity and courage to set a boundary because we know it's the right thing to do.
Lección 3
Creating The Life You Want
In this lesson, we start by getting a better sense of the life you want to live by taking a short quiz to determine whether you are an introvert, ambivert or extrovert. Then we'll do two more exercises to see how you want your life to feel and what values are important to you. These exercises help give you a better sense of the life you want to live, so we can then complete your Terms of Engagement, keeping these things in mind.
Lección 4
This Is A Practice
In this lesson, I offer some guidelines and language/different phrases that you might use to set boundaries. Finding language that works for you and practicing (in the mirror!) ahead of time can be very helpful in getting comfortable with setting boundaries. We also address signs of a toxic relationship, and how we can best address that. And to remember, above all, that this is a practice - sometimes it's 2 steps forward, 3 steps back. That's OK, just keep practicing. Remember this is about living the life you want to live.