Dr. Jonice Webb

Fascinating… as a long term recovering alcoholic I see neglectful tendencies in my kids childhood that centered around my recovery and the time and emotional bandwidth it takes. I have never been drunk in front of my now adult children, but was always in active and involved recovery. Hmmm….

This message spoke to me because I’ve always felt I don’t want to cause trouble, I don’t matter, I’m an inconvenience, it’s ok I’ll just go take care of myself.

I had a combination of well meaning, authoritative, and self involved parents. They did the best they could. Their Caribbean culture did not make space for feelings, affection, or emotions. You were expected to do what you were told. There was never any discussion about the way you felt. This impacts my life in many ways now as an adult. There are times I cannot even identify the feeling or emotion I am having. Thank you for this information.

Fantastic overview. A decade since I began this quest & my goodness is there a whole other world available when one unlocks the circuit. Both pleasure & pain. But so glad that I was lead towards the journey. Shall take a listen to your other videos. Thank you 🙏

This was absolutely my upbringing. Thankfully I corrected this for my own kids. Since learning about CEN I’ve started to talk openly to my friends about authoritarian parents, one even admitting that if she wanted to cry as a child she had to go to her bedroom to do it. School was also a tough environment, teachers used canes back then - thankfully times have changed.

Always good and meaningful information! Thank you so much ❣️

Very eye opening commentary. This is exactly how I feel and what I have experienced for a long time but haven’t heard it expressed so perfectly.

This seems spot on with many aspects of myself that I’ve come to understand. I believe my childhood neglect happened very early. I am first born of two 14 months apart. First my father likely had ADHD and certainly was in his own head and thoughts a lot. Secondly he had boundary issues as a therapist taught me and I was just part of his background. An event later in life caused me to realize as part of his background he often looked right through and past me without acknowledgment. In addition I’ve experienced being “looked through” only to have someone not in the family right beside me acknowledged. My mother was much more nurturing and available. However she would get angry with my father for not being acknowledged or heard and would withdraw into silence. I took that silence on as I did something wrong and therefore I am responsible and something is wrong with me, for what I don’t know. I’ve always felt I’ll just be quiet and go away and take care of myself. Then my sister came along and I’m responsible for her. I could say more, it’s hard to unpack all the stuff from such an early age. This was a very helpful video. Thank You