Trust In Love: Preparing For Your Perfect Partner

The love you desire is already written in your story. This meditation invites you to stop chasing and start becoming. To begin embodying the authentic, healed, magnetic version of yourself that your person will recognize instantly. Trust in the timing of the universe, surrender the how, and remember: what's meant for you won't pass you by.

Music by Fred Westra, used with permission.

Transcript

I want to begin by welcoming you to this practice and honoring your time here today.

This meditation is a compassionate practice of surrender,

For trusting and believing that the love that you desire is already on its way to you.

This isn't always an easy practice,

And so I honor your willingness to sit with the uncertainty and to trust that what is meant for you will always find you.

Begin this practice today by finding a comfortable position where you can truly,

Truly relax.

Allow your body to settle in,

Knowing that for this time there is nowhere else that you need to be and nothing else that you need to do.

Taking a deep breath in,

And releasing it with a soft sigh,

Again breathing in possibility and breathing out any doubt or worry about when love will arrive.

Once more,

Breathing in trust and breathing out the need to make it happen,

Allowing your shoulders to drop away from your ears,

Feeling your jaw soften,

The belly,

The hands.

Just for now,

You can stop trying so hard,

Allowing yourself just to be.

For a moment now,

Acknowledge if you've been searching.

Maybe scrolling,

Hoping,

Wondering,

Waiting.

Maybe even feeling a little desperate or discouraged at times.

And if that's been true for you,

There is no shame in this.

The desire for love is one of the most human things about you.

But right now,

Just for these moments together,

What if you can let yourself stop searching?

Not because you're giving up,

But because what if the most magnetic thing you could do is to stop chasing and to start becoming?

Take a breath now and say silently,

I release the need to find them.

And with your next breath,

I trust that they're already finding their way to me.

And feel what happens in your body when you stop straining towards the future.

Maybe there's a softening,

A relief,

A sense of coming home to yourself.

And here's the beautiful truth.

Your person isn't looking for someone who's trying too hard or pretending to be ready.

They're looking for the most authentic,

Radiant,

Free version of you.

The you that exists when you're not performing,

Not shrinking,

Not second guessing yourself.

So let's call that version of you forward right now.

Imagine yourself six months from now,

Maybe a year from now,

Not when you finally meet them,

But when you've fallen so deeply in love with your own life that you've become irresistible.

Not because you're perfect,

But because you're real,

You're you.

Because you're taking up space,

Because you're laughing more,

You're resting more,

And you're pursuing what lights you up.

See yourself doing the things that make you feel alive.

Maybe you're creating something.

Maybe you're moving your body.

Maybe spending time with people who really cherish you and know you.

Finally taking that trip,

Learning that thing you've been curious about.

You're not sitting around and waiting for someone to complete your life.

You're building a life so full and so beautiful that when they arrive,

They are joining something that's already whole.

This version of you isn't trying to be worthy of love.

You already know that you are.

You've stopped shrinking yourself to fit into someone else's idea of desirable.

You're just you.

Unapologetically,

Messily,

Magnificently you.

Feel into that version of yourself.

They're not far away.

They're not someone you have to become.

This is you,

Just remembering who you've always been underneath the fear and the trying.

And now bring your attention to your heart center.

Maybe even placing one or both of your hands here if that feels good.

And imagine your heart as a light,

Warm,

Steady,

Glowing.

This is your love light and it's already on.

It's been on for your whole life.

You don't need to force it brighter or prove that it's there.

It just is.

This light isn't desperate or grasping.

It's not sending out energy that says,

Please pick me or I need you to feel complete.

Instead,

It's radiating a quiet confidence.

I am here.

I am ready.

I am whole.

And when you arrive,

It will be perfect.

Your person is carrying their own light.

And right now,

Even if you can't see them yet,

Even if they haven't walked into your life,

They are out there.

They're living their life.

They're becoming who they need to be,

Healing what they need to heal.

So they can meet you as an equal,

As a partner,

Not as a project.

Imagine that your two lights are already connected by an invisible thread.

They're being pulled toward each other by a force you don't have to manufacture.

Love itself is doing the work.

The universe in its perfect wisdom is orchestrating a meeting that you couldn't plan better if you tried.

So take a deep breath with me and say,

I trust in divine timing.

Not the timing that you wish for,

Not the timeline your friends or family think you should follow,

Not the schedule that would make you feel less anxious,

But divine timing,

Which means that it will happen at exactly the right moment when you're both truly ready.

Maybe it happens tomorrow.

Maybe it's six months from now.

Maybe it's in the most unexpected place in the most surprising way with someone who doesn't look like what you thought you wanted,

But feels like everything you've been missing.

I don't need to force this.

I don't need to manipulate or strategize or perform.

Breathe into that.

Feel the relief of not having to make it happen.

My only job is to keep becoming more myself,

To keep my heart open,

To keep showing up in my life with presence and joy.

The more that you do that,

The more irresistible you become.

And not in a shallow way,

But in a soul deep way.

You become someone who attracts love not by trying,

But by simply being.

There's nothing wrong with me.

I'm not behind.

I haven't missed my chance.

Let that land.

There's nothing wrong with me.

I'm not behind.

I haven't missed my chance.

The love I'm meant to experience is already written in my story.

It cannot miss me.

And now imagine your life is a beautiful home.

Walk through it in your mind.

And notice what needs clearing out to make space for this person.

Maybe it's an old story that says you're not lovable.

Maybe it's a pattern of choosing unavailable people.

Maybe it's the part of you that's still holding on to someone from the past.

Maybe it's the belief that you need to be different to be chosen.

One by one,

Imagine releasing all of these old stories,

Not with force,

But with gentleness.

Like opening windows and letting fresh air flow through.

Say silently to yourself,

I release what no longer serves my highest love.

And with your exhale,

Feel it leaving,

Making room,

Creating space for something new and true and deeply right.

Placing your hands on your heart again and feeling the warmth there.

With confidence and with hope and with quiet knowing,

Say these words to yourself.

I am worthy of extraordinary love.

I am becoming someone that I am proud to be.

My person is on their way to me.

When we meet,

We will recognize each other.

I trust the journey that's bringing us together.

I am already loved by the entire universe and that love is calling in my perfect match.

Feel these not as wishes,

But as truths.

As promises that the universe is keeping even now.

As you rest in this promise,

Begin to bring your awareness back into this room,

Into your body,

Into your breath,

To this moment right here and right now.

Feel into yourself,

Into your body.

You are not the same person who started this meditation.

Something in you has shifted.

Maybe it's subtle,

But it's real.

You've stopped chasing and you've started trusting.

You've stopped performing and you've started becoming.

As you rest in this realization,

Gently invite movement back into your body,

Moving fingers and toes,

Stretching gently if that feels good for you and taking a deep,

Grateful breath.

As you gently flutter open your eyes,

Carrying with you the thought that you don't need to look for them.

You don't need to worry about when or how or if.

Your only job,

Your beautiful,

Sacred job,

Is to live your life so fully,

So authentically that when they finally see you,

They can't help but think,

There you are,

I've been looking for you.

They are coming,

Trust in that.

Continue your becoming.

Stay open-hearted and know that love is already on its way.

Thank you for opening your heart.

Thank you for your trust.

Thank you for believing in love,

Even when it asks you to wait a little longer.

You are so loved and you are a person.

They are so lucky to find you.