Namaste,
Family.
Welcome home to the Wake and Wellness Center here on Insight Timer with myself,
Jamie London-Wahlberg,
And.
.
.
Katie Jayne.
And we are here for another session of Getting Intimate with Intimacy.
Today,
We are diving into the power of intimacy with the mental body.
And if you are interested in mental intimacy and getting intimate with your mental body,
You are in the right place.
And we are going to really introduce this topic,
Dive even deeper,
And we are going to help you to integrate in this session with modalities that feel called to us to support you in deepening your intimacy as well.
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This is an interactive roundtable.
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Share your thoughts,
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And for the highest good of all.
I am Katie Jane Fitch,
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Especially those that have cult or religious trauma,
Because that's my lived experience of 28 years.
And I love talking about self-love,
Creativity,
And inner child healing.
And I am Jamie London-Wahlberg,
Leader of Love,
Burnout Recovery and Intimacy Expert,
USUI Holy Fire III Reiki Master Teacher,
Certified Sound Healer,
Galactic Channel,
And Psychic Medium.
And I am so excited to be here to support you,
As always,
In getting more deep with ourselves.
So let's get into it.
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So please remember to receive the Reiki throughout the session by saying,
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For my highest good and for the highest good of all.
So,
Katie James.
What is mental intimacy in your eyes?
From a self-love and personal growth perspective,
Mental intimacy is cultivating a loving relationship with your own mind.
Right,
And becoming curious about your thoughts rather than fighting them,
Listening to your inner wisdom.
Questioning limiting beliefs,
And creating a safe inner space where all of you is welcome.
Is an ongoing journey,
Right,
For each of us.
But it's been a really fascinating journey for me,
I know,
Especially this last decade,
In growing that inner awareness and connecting with my mental body.
Can you do that one more time?
Absolutely.
So from a self-love and personal growth perspective,
Mental intimacy means cultivating a loving relationship with your own mind.
It's becoming curious about your thoughts rather than fighting them,
Listening to your inner wisdom,
Questioning limiting beliefs,
And creating a safe inner space where all parts of you are welcome to speak.
I love that.
Really beautifully said.
I love that.
Yes,
For me.
Mental intimacy is simply knowing the depths of how you process and how you observe your thoughts flowing through.
Your connection of who you are as a soul embodied in the human experience through the mind.
And it's like this really big projector of everything that is actually happening in your lived experience.
And you have the opportunity to deepen that intimacy in order to help you process in a way that's authentic,
To respond the way that's authentic,
And to feel and embody humanity as your true self.
So that's what's coming up for me to share.
We both,
What I'm getting from this is we both have.
Essentially the same way of looking at the mental body,
Just different ways of expressing what that really means for us.
And I think that.
It's so nuanced.
Really?
Yeah.
Yes,
And I think that that shows the beauty of the mental body right because I was never going to say it exactly how you are going to say it,
Unless we were reading from a textbook definition and that's right part of why we don't look at the definition and share those in these sessions we really speak with what it means for each of us.
And it's just amazing how human brains function and how we observe and what we relate to one another.
It's all catalysts for,
We're all catalysts for each other and how we share information.
100%.
Yeah,
I love it.
Let's do a quick recap for those who were not here for the fiscal intimacy session that we had last week,
Which was amazing,
Just so that we were all on the same page because we are only doing one session for one topic at this current time so.
Our recap.
We talked about so much good stuff.
We spoke about the multifaceted physical intimacy.
We explored the body attunement through medical wellness,
Physical well-being,
Movement,
And non-sexual physical touch.
Our goal was to express to you that physical intimacy includes and is not limited to sexual intimacy and the physical touch that we associate with sexual intimacy.
Medical self-advocacy shared personal health battles,
Including Lyme's and Crohn's and fibromyalgia from my side,
And Katie-Jane shared some of hers as well,
And to highlight the power of listening to your body.
And how we listen to our body throughout our medical experiences and how that supported us and encouraged us to listen to our body,
Almost forced us to listen to our body.
Overcoming sensory challenges.
We discussed physical intimacy and consent hurdles,
Particularly regarding trauma recovery and individuals on the autism spectrum,
Because that is,
Again,
Part of our experience.
We discussed embodiment and identity,
Examined how reclaiming physical autonomy through specialized movement healing especially for transgender and non-binary individuals from my perspective.
And we spoke about identity in general and the wider perspective.
We touched upon body healing strategies.
We recommended personalized healing modalities,
Including somatic exercises,
Journaling,
Acupuncture,
And writing letters to parts of the body.
And then we discussed energetic realignment concluded with an integrative collective Oracle card reading that Katie Jane did and soothing Reiki chakra and sound healing.
That I have provided to support you in integrating.
All that we learned and to making intimacy with the physical body easier.
So that is our recap.
And.
Now we can get back to the mental body now that we are all on the same page.
So we've discussed what the mental body means for us.
Now,
Challenges with the mental body.
What challenges have you experienced in terms of your journey to creating intimacy with the mental body?
And what have you done to overcome that?
So nuanced.
Hmm.
Well,
We talked about so.
Course,
That intimacy starts within and there's not much more in than our brains are in our head,
Right?
And we refer to it as our mind.
Because that's how we can understand.
Our brain.
And For me,
I battled intensely in my younger years,
Teens and early 20s.
With my mental intimacy because I was being gaslit.
Constantly.
Which battled with my intuition and what my body and my soul were telling me of not belonging,
Right?
And I think once I got free of that environment,
I was able to look at it in a whole new light.
I have been wanting for instance,
Therapy is one way to stimulate our mental intimacy right,
Our mental body.
Because you're talking and we have to have our mind working to speak.
And so looking,
Experiencing therapy,
Learning about therapy was kind of a beginning to me.
Deepening my my mental intimacy with myself So I mean therapy is one way I helped,
You know sort through the chaos.
That's that's what they're there for But it's just been a continuation of deepening Myself and finding different modalities and learning about different topics or personality tests like all of these things that gave me clarity and understanding to know how my actual brain is wired and how that works and how.
My astrology affects me,
For instance,
Me personally,
I have found learning about astrology like more deeply since about 2021 has really opened my eyes and made me feel a little less loco en la cabeza as they say that I experienced as a teenager like I really I thought I was.
Must have some mental problems.
But it was environmental.
And so.
Just utilizing these various and also for me personally having an array we I think we we've heard the term toolkit or tool belt pretty often right when we're talking about self care and healing modalities,
Among other things.
Grasping that concept and then expanding and finding different modalities.
Is a way to also continue to keep my mind engaged,
To expand my mind and my perspective.
And I think that's one of the values of really Cultivating this intimacy with oneself is that then you get to share it with others,
Vulnerably,
But intentionally.
When you're ready.
I think that's one of the joys,
And we're going to talk more about that,
But one of the joys of mental intimacy is being able then to share that with others and to have them mirror back to you or to be seen.
Thank you so much for sharing and I resonate so much with.
The.
Concerns about how whether your mental well-being is truly well.
And.
Therapy,
Lots and lots of therapy,
Different therapists has been hugely helpful.
And there's so many different ways to gain insight and yes,
The sharing,
Which we'll absolutely discuss so much more.
For me,
The challenges really have come into this theme of confusion.
I used to just feel so confused.
I'm confused about how I was feeling and what I was thinking and are other people thinking this way and are other people thinking about me and,
You know,
I was bullied a lot I didn't really understand why I was being bullied.
Uh,
You know,
Of course now in hindsight,
Knowing that I'm.
Oh you dhd and like You know,
I was always that.
Queer kid in a.
.
.
In a space that was not,
You know,
And I just really stuck out like a sore thumb.
You know,
I was that tomboy surrounded by,
You know.
Very feminized young girls.
I relate.
It brought me into a space where I was very anxious and depressed.
I also,
To a degree,
Because I was confused.
Didn't care like there was this part of me that.
Didn't care,
Not in a way.
That is un-Jamie in the sense that I was always very caring and nurturing,
Compassionate.
More like a freeing way.
Because I just didn't get it.
Things went over my head.
I don't know what your problem with me is,
But I really like these pants or whatever the case may be.
I just know that I felt.
Of the bird.
And there was a part of me that was okay with that and was confused as to why others were not okay with that,
Especially because my home.
I was allowed to be who I was.
And.
I would say that it creates a lot of depression and it creates a lot of anxiety,
As I said.
My processing overall.
Is very quick.
But when they started to start to do basic testing which was not autism testing basic testing around my IQ and all and all of these things we started to see that I had challenges with executive functioning and.
Ultimately,
They just slapped the label of executive functioning disorder and they proceeded to take me through my life this way.
And so things were kind of skated over.
When I started to go through my real health journey,
I realized that My processing quickly is part of my brilliance.
It's not.
A problem or a challenge.
It's just something that at times I'm like.
.
.
Light years past where the moment was.
And my heart is here and in a million other places where my brain is,
And everything is just trying to catch up.
And what I found really helps me to get over these challenges is to.
.
.
Be in community with people who get it,
People who appreciate me and see me as who I am.
I chose that transitioning was.
The choice for me within my processing and realizing of who my authentic self was,
I chose for me that getting autism testing was the right decision for me.
All of these things helped me to get to know how I think and therefore how I feel that much closer.
And it's made it possible for me to.
.
.
Have moments where I feel like I'm thriving.
We're going to talk more about deeper tips,
You know,
And tricks of it all later,
But really.
.
.
For me,
The biggest hurdle was feeling isolated and confused.
And so getting clarity.
And feeling supported.
And not alone.
That was.
The core in terms of what I thought I needed to overcome these challenges now in terms of like logistics on a practical level and things that I find challenging with processing.
Those are things I'm still looking for support around,
But that's where social workers come in.
And that's where executive functioning coaches come in and all of these different people that are here to support so that's That's a lot of what I've navigated.
And I'm curious as for those who are listening right now,
Little bubbles floating.
Floating around there.
What has your experience been with your mental body?
Do you feel in touch with your mental body?
How you process what your thoughts are?
And share with us any experiences that you feel called to,
Or feel free to ask any questions that you have about the mental body as well.
And in the meantime.
Katie,
Jane,
If you want to respond and also dive into the joys of the mental body as well.
Yeah,
It's just so powerful what you shared because We've had so many parallels as we already know,
But yeah,
Oh my goodness,
The experience of being and feeling other is,
Is pretty core.
To my experience as well.
I was definitely on the outside,
Stood out like a sore thumb as being very different than my peers.
And not having the freedom.
To explore that at home,
Not having the freedom to be fully expressed.
Not be told that I was too much,
Right?
Was pretty intense messaging for much of my life for formative years for sure.
The joys,
What I was just thinking of as you were finishing up there,
Talking about the joys of building intimacy with the mental body,
Is imagination.
And being able to share that with others.
Like it's so powerful,
Just the feeling of being seen,
Right?
Having a friend,
Like you said,
Community.
Huge healing happens in community.
And it's amazing to feel like somebody gets you,
Right?
Something we say all the time,
But to have that a solid,
Even,
You know,
Small handful of people that see you and that when you do share your hyper fixation and your info dumping,
And you're so excited,
Then they're there hyping you up and like,
Yeah,
I'm here for it.
Right.
And it could be actual,
Like,
I just learned this information about this real life thing,
Or it and be like,
Oh my goodness,
I have this fantasy,
I want to travel to all these countries and do these things,
And it's going to be amazing,
Right?
Whatever it may be.
And imagination is so powerful for tapping into self-love and creativity.
Because if you just spend that time with yourself thinking,
What if?
That's a great way to get creative juices rolling.
And what if you come up with something that comes out of your mouth and you're like,
Oh,
I really want to do that that sounds like a good idea right even just for yourself,
But then to have that bounce back and reflected positively from somebody else is such a powerful experience.
So I would say that that imagination and just be.
The ability to share with others,
Right?
Once you've discerned and figured out for yourself what the fantasy is or what this idea for a book is,
To be able to share that with somebody else.
Is one of the greatest joys for me.
I'm a yapper,
As they say.
Hi,
ADHD.
I like all the stuff you said about your brain being on fast forward.
Yes,
Me too.
I'm so gratefully proud of Imagination because I was not even thinking about going there today.
And it's so much a part of who I am.
My day-to-day,
Right?
There's such an interesting.
Dichotomy for me in terms of imagination and fantasy and channeling and receiving.
And.
The mental body is incredible I mean getting the joy of getting intimate with my mental body and making my mental body,
My best friend means that.
I have.
Healthier feeling thoughts.
I am able to explore different thoughts and theories.
Katie,
Jane,
And I are both sapiosexual.
We love having deep intellectual conversations and nerding out about literally anything.
It's part of how this podcast was born.
And.
It's so enjoyable,
Yes,
The sharing and the exchange of ideas and thoughts.
Which is really primal when you think about it,
Not just for humans.
I mean,
I guess Primal's a framework for humans,
But whatever you imagine Primal is for consciousness,
It's just like,
That's the core of everything,
Is the exchange of ideas,
Yeah,
Information.
I love you.
How?
I love the creativity.
I love the play.
How much it feels enjoyable to just allow my thoughts to flow.
I love that.
Being in prayer and just allowing for different prayers to be heard that I feel like are coming through and then to be able to provide them to those that I'm tapped into.
And all of this is like the freedom to be authentic.
Right?
Mental intimacy,
It allows us to express our weird theories,
Our evolving opinions.
And deep questions without fear of judgment as well as creativity.
Like we said.
Yes.
And mutual growth.
When we share back and forth,
Then we have that opportunity for mental growth.
People who talk about a subject or even a fantasy together tend to expand each other's consciousness,
Right?
And perspective,
Which is so valuable.
If you look at relationships as like our greatest teachers,
Right?
So you've got to build that mental intimacy to enable to.
To interact effectively with the emotional and physical and spiritual bodies.
Yes,
That authenticity piece is so key because,
Right,
If we're on an island of one and we're just with our own mental intimacy and our own mental body,
That's distressing.
It's challenging,
It's boring,
It may be engaging for a while,
But likely you're going to feel anxious.
You're going to be in fight or flight mode.
And the joy of the mental body is not fight or flight mode.
The joy of the body is when we feel and flow,
When we allow ourselves to get to know ourselves and to get to know consciousness.
And in our mind,
We can be as silly or serious or excited or sexy or whatever it is that we want to be.
And it's allowing us to be able to know how we want to be with others.
And so that's why that intimacy with the self is so paramount and why it's so fun.
And it gets that much more exciting with others.
And Richard,
Thank you for sharing.
Richard says,
Me and my girlfriend are sapiosexual too.
Yes.
For those who are not familiar,
Sapiosexuality is someone who is attracted to intellect,
Who enjoys and is excited by those who have intellect of different kinds and they just like to get to know your intellect.
That's something that's exciting to them.
So if you are someone that enjoys the mind and thoughts of others,
Then that may resonate with you.
Um,
So yeah there's there's so many joys to be found within the mental body,
And on that journey to building the mental intimacy with ourselves.
And so I wonder if you have any personal shares that you have that comes to mind for you Katie Jane in terms of expressing your journey with mental intimacy.
Perhaps take us even full circle.
Hmm.
Whale.
Sorting through timelines earlier what you said about.
Well,
Community,
Right?
And for me,
I said,
I really started diving into.
More spiritual aspects in 2020,
2021.
And I had an experience.
Uh.
.
.
Bare with me here.
So in 2020 I ended up with a herniated disc in my low back.
Not fun at all.
All because it was bulging to the right and therefore putting pressure pretty constantly on the bundle of nerves that runs my right leg.
So I had a lot of spasming from deep up in my glute area all the way down my leg.
There were periods of time I couldn't drive and it was just really brutal.
And the first,
The symptoms started,
I became aware of it in September of 2020,
Went through all the hoops to see a specialist,
See a surgeon.
Scans and things and then a few days before Christmas had the video follow up because it was COVID time.
To be told that I had this herniated disc,
That there was a surgery and that it was like easy.
Recovery and all this.
He just kind of breezed over the details and was not,
There was not very good bedside manner either.
So I did not feel supportive or trusted,
You know,
Him.
So I had to wait to get in to see a second opinion surgeon.
I had to wait four months.
Now,
By that time,
I was so frustrated when I walked in that door,
My mindset was.
I'm done,
Cut me open,
When are we doing the surgery?
Like,
I'm done with this.
But he happened to be a better doctor and a kinder human.
And shared the risks much more clearly of what it entails when you cut through the sheath of your spinal cord,
Which is a lot.
It increases the likelihood by three to five times that in the next two to five years,
I could have a relapse.
Then you're talking spinal fusion.
He's like,
We don't want to do this in your 30s.
He said that several times.
So I'm like,
Okay,
And his recommendation was that they had a great.
Physical therapy.
On campus and maybe I should try traction therapy because it was one thing that I hadn't tried.
And so.
I was like,
Okay,
I don't understand what that is,
But I go,
I showed up to the physical therapy and I was blessed with this therapist who after the intake,
Said,
You know,
We might do traction therapy,
But I think I want to get you in the pool.
I am a Seattle Scorpio.
I was like,
Water.
I didn't know that was an option.
They had a huge full-size therapy pool.
So I was like,
Oh,
Okay,
That changes things,
Right?
This is something different,
Something unexpected.
And my mind started going through,
You know,
Those scenarios and the beginning of gratitude.
For that part of the journey.
And the second time I got in the pool,
It popped back in.
That's not a good feeling either because my muscles had been in dysfunction and spasm.
I knew that I was going to have to retrain them.
And that was the process of the pool therapy.
That was the entire point that I could retrain my muscles,
Not have to go through surgery.
So after that second time in the pool,
I remember talking to myself and to my body and saying,
Okay,
I'm going to shift my mindset.
I want to heal.
We are going to heal.
My body knows how to heal.
Now I have to show up and take the steps.
That are right here in front of me.
To facilitate that healing.
And when I shifted my mindset,
Even just to focusing on that and on that positive healing journey.
I was happier too.
I was proud of myself for showing up.
I got myself to every therapy appointment,
Right?
I advocated for some extra ones at the end,
Which I got,
And I'm really,
Really grateful.
Now,
You know,
For where I am and that I did not have surgery because that would have changed things in.
In other ways that were not positive.
That's one one personal example that's that stands out to me and have a time where I consciously shifted my mindset,
Even before I.
Found some of my other healing modalities.
Wow,
That's a powerful share.
And a journey that you took that's now strengthened.
Tap on.
And you now know exactly what it is that you need and I love that you stood up for yourself and you got that second opinion and you allowed yourself to hear your mental body and trust your intuition and bring the two together,
Which is when typically we have the most success as humans when we bring our intuition our heart and our mind all into synchronicity and alignment we find ourselves actually making the best choices for ourselves,
And you were able to observe and shift and You know,
Some people go through these journeys and they never get there.
So it's huge.
And you're showing that you can get there.
And you can't,
And that's because- Yeah,
And I can do hard things.
Yes,
You can.
You can do hard things.
Um.
.
.
I would say that I feel called to share some super recent example which is merge so Vaguely,
Very recently I have on the base level even,
Just had a lot going on.
Many of you know that I've had some of my big health stuff going on.
There's been other things going on.
And my mind's been really occupied.
I am a very good sleeper,
And I have not been sleeping my best,
And.
.
.
It's really shown me how much,
When I get to that point,
I know that my brain is kind of overworking.
I'm overthinking,
I'm exhausted,
And I feel energized mentally because I'm stimulated.
And so physically,
Even though I'm tired,
My mental body's like,
We're still having a party here.
And I've been looking to.
Slow down to ease my mind.
My usual things have not been fully cutting it because there is no one magic pillar button.
And so I do quite a few modalities and more has come up for me.
And so very recently I've had intuitively but others directly,
Invite me.
To participate in different experiences.
And so,
While I've been very up in the mental body,
It's been very stressful,
Very exhausting,
Anxiety provoking.
I've even had some moments where Um,
You know,
The old self-worth monster comes creeping in and telling me that,
You know,
I'm not doing enough for that.
Things are not going to work out.
I even found myself.
You know,
I'm a big believer in signs,
But there's also a balance right to be had and everything and so looking at every little thing as a sign as to positive or negative and following that and ignoring your intuition is not the way to go and I found myself.
Doubting and getting confused without clarity because there were all these different signs coming to me.
And I couldn't figure out what direction to go in.
So the first thing that I was reminded and encouraged was my rheumatologist said,
You should go into yoga.
And I was like,
I did a lot of yoga,
But I haven't really gotten back to yoga because yoga has,
Yes,
You can come in my lab.
Because you can't.
Has a lot of downward facing movements and things that change and irritate your vestibular,
Which is healthy except for when you have vestibular illnesses.
That's challenging.
So I had been avoiding it,
And I had actually created this huge fear around,
As you were saying,
Katie-Jane,
I can do hard things,
Around being able to do these things that I felt were challenging but were things that I also really enjoyed.
And.
I was like,
Okay,
Maybe I'll think about it.
And then I was having a picnic with a friend,
And suddenly,
Before I leave,
She says,
Oh,
Would you wanna come with me to this yoga class?
It's free,
And without even thinking about it.
I said yes.
Now,
What's amazing here is.
.
.
Something within me shifted mentally that allowed for the space for me to bypass the fear filter.
Which the mental body is capable of doing as much as the mental body processes fear,
Right?
It also can bypass the fear.
The mental body can compartmentalize.
And it just suddenly was like,
Yes.
And so my intuition was just like,
Yeah,
We got this.
Yes.
I typed it and I went and it was super challenging.
However,
I did much better than I thought,
And I had so many breakthroughs in there.
That reminded me of something I love.
So much that I'm so good at.
And it opened up this door of possibility for me that I could really lean into.
Professionally,
That excites me.
And I enthusiastically was able to take that clarity.
And after class of which I was crying by the end of class,
Like I had some major release,
I got to open a door for myself because I was able to take inspired action with that clarity immediately.
So it was a huge shift.
And then on.
Sunday,
I participated in my first ever somatic dance healing experience.
And this came from me just opening up an app,
And there an advertisement was,
And usually I ignore all the advertisements,
But something really drew me to this person.
And they were moving,
And I was like,
Oh,
What is this?
And I opened it up and my whole soul being is like,
You need to go to this.
And I was like,
Okay,
I can,
I can do this.
It was,
You know,
$25.
I can do this.
I'm grateful.
I can do this.
Now,
I had zero expectations of this at all,
Other than the fact that I knew this is probably going to be more exercise than I realized.
And it was,
But it was so challenging.
It was like an hour of truly full movement.
And.
Doing it in a space which is my home where they're.
I'm in an apartment in a building where I know that there are people on all sides of me,
And I actually had my best friend roommate in the room.
Every part of me could have just shut down and closed myself off and made myself super small.
And my mental body was like,
Ooh,
We should be a little mindful of noise.
And ooh,
Like maybe we don't say every little thing we're thinking out loud.
And at a certain point I was just like,
Yeah,
Whatever.
And I just surrendered into the trance of the experience.
And I,
I forgot the mantra they had to say,
But they had to say out loud something along the lines of like,
I'm going to say yes to this experience.
I'm going to say yes to the surrender,
No matter what.
And I had my eyes closed for almost the entire experience.
And.
It was mind blowing.
It was actually extraordinary.
Not only because of the facilitation being extraordinary.
But I realized that somatics really has a spectrum,
Right?
I'm more familiar with somatic tracking and the parts of somatic that are about you connecting consciously with the body in real static states.
Or perceived static states,
Right?
Where always everything is constantly moving,
It's energy.
But this is thrashing around and dancing and moving and mantras and just really like everything about letting the mental body go.
And.
By the end of this class,
I had a huge smile on my face.
And I was just like.
.
.
So sore,
But I want to do this again.
And what I took from it is there's so much value.
N.
The journey of intimacy with your mental body and building that.
Including.
Not actually fixating and being in your mental body every second.
It does need a break.
Yep.
Actually allowing your mental body to just be.
And you just be.
To the degree that you don't care about any thoughts or any things that are happening.
It may be still happening because we can't shut off our brain,
Right?
Especially neurodivergent brains.
Can't shut that off.
Definitely slowed down.
It definitely started to say more positive things.
And it definitely just didn't matter.
I did it anyway.
So,
Know that if you are feeling trapped in your mental body,
Or you're feeling stagnant or stuck on your journey of intimacy with your mental body.
Think about these shares of what Katie,
Jane,
And myself have experienced.
Because maybe you know what it's like to overthink or to feel overstimulated or to feel exhausted or scared.
Or overwhelmed or whatever it is that's happening in your mental body and you just want it all to stop.
It's not going to stop.
So your best course of action is to become best friends with your mental body.
And generating that intimacy may have challenges that,
As we said,
You can overcome.
It also has really euphoric and really enjoyable experiences like that sharing and just letting it go.
That's so incredible what a powerful,
Powerful story and I think for sharing that because I've been wanting to know how that somatic dance experience was sounds like it was really really powerful and moving pun intended for you.
Also,
I'm so proud of you allowing that enthusiastic yes to yoga and going and doing that,
Like big props.
That's huge.
And I'm so excited for you.
For that whole experience that you just shared.
It sounds like you've got things moving,
Right?
That's just how to get your mental body moving in the positive directions that you want to continue to feed.
I also think that your share and also mine really pointed to something we haven't said yet out loud,
But the observer role,
Right?
Cultivating the role of the observer is one of the tools that both of us love.
And that's what we've both talked about,
Right?
And the role of the observer,
If you're not familiar,
Is cultivating that self-talk.
It's about giving yourself time to process your emotions,
Right?
So of course you can never disconnect from yourself or disconnect from your physical body,
But you can emotionally,
Mentally take a little step backwards,
Right?
Or just to step back.
If you're in a situation where you're triggered,
For instance,
About,
Anything.
And the role of the observer is to simply observe in that moment what is going on and to say,
Oh my goodness.
I'm really triggered right now.
I'm feeling.
Rage,
I'm feeling grief,
I'm feeling anger,
I'm feeling disappointment,
Whatever the case may be,
Right,
Because triggers are different,
But being able to have that conversation with yourself then you also get to ask your question,
And what am I going to do with this,
Right?
It's not going to stop,
Like Jamie said,
Until we name it and feel it,
And then decide what you want to do with it.
If you want to let it go,
If it's something else you need to follow up on more,
You know.
But cultivating the role of the observer has been so powerful for me in deepening that,
Even my self-love and intimacy journey and that aspect.
Yeah,
We need to give ourselves the chance to reframe,
Right?
And there's a reason that we're doing these sessions very intentionally in an order.
Because you see how getting physical and intimate with the physical body.
Allows you to also create freedom and connection in the mental body.
These bodies all connect as the wholeness of who we are.
And so it's important that we nurture each of them.
And the more that we get deeply intimate with them,
The more that we actually are able to strengthen the other bodies and get ourselves to be healthy and balanced.
So that way we are not burned out.
And so you started to talk about tips,
Katie Jane.
So let's,
Let's dive in.
Cause I know that we've,
We've mentioned so many.
Um,
So we've talked already about therapy.
We've already talked about somatic dancing.
We've already talked about journaling.
What else?
What is in your toolbox specifically for the mental body that you feel is powerful?
Affirmations.
Positive self-talk.
That's,
You know,
I don't always.
I could be better,
Let's say,
Or maybe it's just coming up.
So it's probably time for me to revisit.
One of the things that my fiance does that I love is writes with dry erase marker on the mirror,
Right?
Write yourself a little positive message that you'll see in the morning.
I mean,
He does it for me and I've done it for him,
But it goes both ways.
You can also write things for yourself.
If writing on the mirror is not for you,
A little sticky notes,
Maybe writing affirmations and stick it on the fridge or stick it on the bathroom door for when you're walking out,
You know,
Things like that,
Where you'll see like these just positive affirmations that,
And the brain likes repetition.
The brain does like repetition,
Right?
So whatever's comfortable for you.
I'm not one to tell you,
You need to do it three times or you need to do it 10 times.
Whatever works for you.
But if you are utilizing those little written reminders,
Do switch it up every couple of weeks,
Right?
Because our brain needs that stimulation.
For me,
To clear my head,
Getting out in nature.
We've talked about this before.
Um,
That's something that definitely helps quiet my overactive brain sometimes.
Um,
And if I can't get out into nature,
I believe that anytime you've,
If you've been somewhere on the planet,
You are familiar with that energy.
So for me,
It's getting really hot outside where I live.
And so if I just take that time to sit maybe with some meditation music and,
Um,
Just call on that energy or visualize like visually in inside my head go back there.
And that's another way to connect with nature and that music was the other one,
Not just frequency music,
But listening to music,
Depending on what my mood is,
Right,
And what you want to process or need to process in the moment,
You can,
Or if you want to shift.
I've used music for all of those things.
To help me cry more to help me sing and just be silly and get out of my head,
Or ones that feel like you know nourishing or.
To vent,
To get anger out of my body.
But then I also,
If I'm like,
Man,
I'm feeling kind of down or I'm feeling tired,
I need to put on a positive radio station on Pandora that's gonna help boost my mood.
And something that I know that I will sing along with,
Because singing is one of my stims,
Especially when I'm driving,
I like to just sing along to the music.
So my passengers get a free concert when I'm doing Lyft sometimes.
Sometimes I have people sing along.
Other times,
At the end of the ride,
Somebody has been completely silent the entire time,
And they're like,
Thank you for the awesome music today.
I needed that.
And I'm like,
Yes.
Those are some of the other tools that I use.
I love that.
Yes,
I,
Well as you know,
I love affirmations.
I do have the Waken course that I have for that deck and Affirmations have been huge.
I reprogram,
I have a little post-it on my mirror that I see a million times a day.
You know,
However you want to take them.
Journaling is always huge for me.
Channeling in information from my guides,
Right?
I know that I need to be clear mentally in order to hear clearly.
So that's part of a motivation for me to even just relax and open up and let go.
Meditation is a really big part of that.
My prayer-raking meditation time Every day is so important.
And I've actually I've I've lapsed on that a couple times this week and it's,
It's amazing how impactful that is.
And I always you know I always say that it's impactful because I know it's impactful but it's not until I.
Miss a day or two for whatever reason because you know life happens and or I try something else in my routine that I realize wow that's really impactful because the moment that we get externally quiet,
We're able to be internally loud.
And when we're internally loud,
That's when we're able to really have those conversations.
And sometimes I feel like I'm having conversations with multiple of myself.
Recently I was,
I was in a coaching session and I was encouraged to ask all of the Jamie's of all my timelines and all of my lifetimes to come to me and be like,
Okay,
This is what we're each working on.
So that way I could feel confident to let go and say,
Great,
Thank you for having that and having my back.
And this is my piece and what I'm going to focus on.
So that way I could get clear.
Human design,
Hugely helpful.
Keiji was talking about astrology,
Which is also really helpful for me.
What I would say though with processing,
Astrology is something I use on a day-to-day.
Knowing my human design and how that functions is a wider scope vision for me.
It gives me a framework and a structure to where I was like,
Oh,
Well,
Now I know why that feels good.
You know,
Frustrating or why this is resistant,
You know,
I'm a manifesting generator.
So anytime that I'm frustrated,
I'm out of alignment.
And we're not talking about.
You know,
The typical day-to-day frustrations or frustrations that just can come up,
You know,
Once or something happens,
Something that's consistently,
You know,
Eating at you.
It's incredibly valuable and allowed me to understand that world,
That part of me so much more.
And as well the music,
The sound.
Sound healing,
Right,
Is a huge part of how I've shifted the way that I think.
And.
I mean.
.
.
The list certainly goes on,
You know nature there's.
There's really few tools that can't support any of these bodies.
It's about how you utilize them.
So.
We encourage you to explore.
We encourage you to try things out.
We encourage you to say no.
We encourage you to say yes.
Um figure out what's best in the current situation,
Right?
If I'm traveling or I'm in the middle of nowhere well chances are I don't have all my sound healing instruments with me right but I do have my phone most likely and therefore I do have the insight timer app and that means that I can go on to mine or another profile another teacher and listen to.
Something that might help and soothe me.
We all have the tools that support us and all of us are here right now.
Because Insight Timer is a huge part of that.
And so,
You know,
Snaps to insight timer.
For allowing us.
This ability to connect and to get the support that we need.
Another thing that's just coming up for me real quick is.
Memory.
Right,
Our,
Our mind is what holds memories of course our body holds memory in different ways in talking about music.
Music,
Smell can be tied to memories.
But what I'm thinking about specifically is is revisiting like childhood dreams or things you are proud of that you achieved so as as a writer,
For instance,
I over the last several years have experienced some writer's block in journaling and just beyond.
I know that I have a couple of books in me,
That's not my focus right now,
But I would like to get more consistent with my journaling.
And as I was going through a box the other day and trying to do some physical decluttering.
I came across my little collection of my high school stories and writing and creative projects that I love.
And I was sitting there going,
Oh my God,
My curse of handwriting was fabulous in sixth grade.
Because in fourth grade,
My teacher was a published sci-fi and fantasy author,
And he made us write everything in cursive.
Everything.
So I got very good at it right and in those school years,
I was pretty proud of my cursive handwriting.
But it's more so the ideas,
The stories,
Tapping into that place of childhood and childlike wonder and fantasy.
Again,
Circling back to imagination.
So there we are with that.
But it just revisiting those different versions of you.
I think that's what brought it back for me as you were talking about all the Jamies.
So being able to get that reminder of like,
Wow,
I did that and that was pretty cool and I'd like to do more of that.
And I get to do that because we have the choice.
Yes.
Yeah,
Absolutely.
I totally agree.
Getting into that memory bank and the things that just show up spontaneously.
They are often very meaningful,
Whether it's to remind you of your confidence,
Your creativity,
Or something to tap back into.
It's showing up for you.
And so I feel intuitively like this is for you to tap back in and also tapping in now.
We are going to dive in to our beautiful integration section.
Where Katie,
Jane,
And myself are going to help you to integrate not only what we've discussed today,
But Whatever you've got going on in that beautiful brain of yours.
Whatever.
Is mulling around whatever you're feeling challenged by,
Let's get it unstuck.
Let's allow our mental bodies to be exactly who they are.
Because it doesn't need another person to judge it.
Our mental body desires love and compassion and enthusiasm and collaboration.
And you have the opportunity to deepen intimacy with your mental body here today.
So we're going to start with a clarity soundback.
Specifically,
This is going to be to help you gain clarity and create that open space for that imagination and that fantasy that we were discussing.
And also just allowing you to slow down or also allow your mind to get working.
Maybe there's something that you feel like you've been stagnant and thinking about or processing that you want to be a little bit easier.
This is the time for that ease.
So I invite you to be seated or lay down.
I would not move any heavy machinery or anything if you can help it for the next 10 minutes as we have this experience together.
Slow,
Deep breath.
You can place your hand on your heart and your left hand on your sacral.
And take a slow,
Deep breath in through the nose.
And big exhale through the mouth.
And say out loud or in your mind whatever feels most comfortable.
Mental body.
I see you and I hear you.
I am with you.
And I invite you to share with me.
Anything I need to know.
I claim this clarity.
And so it is.
Continue to breathe.
Breathe slowly and deeply,
Stick with it.
Take another slow,
Deep breath.
In through the nose,
Deeply through the crown.
Home,
Two,
Three.
For a big exhale.
All the way down to the soles of your feet.
Take this moment to thank your mental body.
For cultivating.
And building this intimacy with you.
Knowing that you can do so anytime.
In many,
Many different ways.
At your own pace.
When you feel ready.
Gently open your eyes.
And welcome back.
I hope you're feeling clear.
And ready to receive.
Powerful oracle experience from K to G.
That was so beautiful.
You know I love those chimes.
And.
At first,
There was the clarity reminder about journaling that I most definitely need to get back into that even just a little bit a day.
And that's another thing is we can set we choose to set achievable goals right.
10 minutes of journaling is no big deal.
And I know from experience that when I can info dump onto paper,
I get more clarity in my mental body.
So a good reminder of that.
And then the times when you started the time.
I flashed back to a family trip to the ocean.
When I was younger at some point,
I didn't get an age,
But as a child or a teenager.
And we were in a shop that had chimes outside of the door.
So I was hearing the chimes,
I was hearing the ocean,
And I felt my mother's love.
And which is really meaningful.
In due to our,
You know,
The complexity of our relationship and where it is now,
But my healing journey,
And that just kept kind of reaffirming.
Um,
I continue to hear the chimes because she also loves wind chimes.
And.
.
.
Just that affirmation that she does love me she's doing her best like her love for me hasn't changed necessarily.
Even though I have my own feelings right about about that and how she expressed love and then,
When I opened my eyes before you.
The light flashed again.
So my dad was here also confirming that my mom loves me and that he loves me.
That was what they did.
Thank you for that.
I'm so grateful you felt all that love and I'd love to hear from everyone here.
It was for you as well,
But Katie Jane,
You have the floor.
It is your time.
Yes,
So I am going to pull some Oracle cards today from my Sacred Destiny deck,
Which has this beautiful ocean.
But it's upside down.
Oh,
Is it?
No,
The book.
It was just mirrored,
Maybe backwards.
I don't think it's upside down.
And this crystal that has been sitting with the deck is my rainbow moonstone,
Which I really love.
So I am going to shuffle the deck and draw some cards to see what message comes through about clarity and mental health.
Intimacy.
One at a time,
Please.
Oh,
Beautiful.
Okay,
Love that.
The very first card that popped out was happiness.
Mm-hmm.
We were talking about how finding this balance can bring happiness.
I can find the card.
And it is with beautiful dolphins at the ocean.
In the ocean,
Of course.
Traditionally,
Dot off ends.
Have been associated with happiness,
Joy,
Hope,
Enlightenment,
Illumination,
Truth,
Cheer,
And goodwill.
The sacred landscape of happiness wants you to know.
Click your heels and shout for joy.
The signs are with you.
Let your light shine.
A bounding good luck awaits you.
A gateway is opening for even more joy and happiness.
Your life is expanding.
Opportunities are emerging.
This is the time to go forward with glee.
Love deeply and fully.
Embrace life with open arms.
Goodness is flowing to you.
The only thing to be aware of is to monitor your expansion in a metered way.
Too fast can be overwhelming.
Love that we're talking about play.
Um.
.
.
The second card.
Is patient.
The crane.
Against the backdrop of a full moon,
It looks like.
But it's kind of foggy.
Oh yes,
There's the fog.
Dense fog,
Water represents our emotions,
Our feelings,
Our subconscious,
And our nocturnal dreams.
When the water becomes condensed as fog,
We can't see clearly.
Fog occurs when the air is cooled to the point at which it cannot hold all the water vapor it contains.
Thus,
It condenses water vapor where it is suspended in the air as fog.
We can't see what's ahead,
And things that look one way in the fog will look another way in the light.
However,
When you can't perceive what's on the horizon in life,
Your imagination can surge forward.
And your sixth sense can be ignited.
The sacred landscape of patience wants you to know.
In dense fog,
It's best to be quiet and still.
For now,
Don't go forward.
Wait.
It's hard to see what lies ahead,
And things may not be as they seem.
Things that seem one way may,
In fact,
Be completely different.
Be patient,
The truth will emerge.
If you can wait long enough,
Your dreams and inner yearnings can come to fruition.
Listen to your intuition and pay attention to those seemingly random thoughts.
And I love this as a last card in the reading,
Freedom.
A swallow.
Swallows,
The swallow flies free on wind currents and thermals in remarkable aerial movements.
Igniting the expression,
As free as a bird.
In many cultures,
Such as that of the ancient Egyptians,
The swallow was thought to carry souls to heaven.
Early sailors would tattoo themselves with an image of a swallow,
So if they drowned,
The swallow would carry their soul to the heavens.
In poor light,
A cliff swallow looks brownish gray.
However,
In good lighting,
It is a luminous metallic dark blue.
They traditionally make their nests on vertical cliffs,
Carefully crafting them out of mud.
Although they can nest solitarily,
They usually nest in colonies.
When one finds a cloud of insects,
It alerts the other members of the flock so that all can be nourished.
Even though they fly free,
Their community supports them.
The sacred landscape wants you to know.
Of freedom wants you to know.
Express yourself without hesitation.
Break free and let your spirit fly.
Make choices that increase your freedom.
Don't be tied down.
Laugh,
Dance,
Explore,
And go beyond predictable behavior.
Cast aside restrictions.
Be daring.
Find your wings,
And as you do,
You'll help others find theirs.
You are not here to be ordinary or live a mundane life.
You are here to step beyond limitations and self-imposed boundaries.
Do not be trapped by convention or the need to please others.
Choose life on your terms.
Don't accept rules that don't feel right.
You can be immensely free and yet still be part of a loving,
Supportive community.
I love that.
Touched on so many things that we already covered.
And I feel like this one about patience.
Is more like the physical world.
So of course,
Play,
Happiness,
Joy,
Always a good thing.
And if we can have patience when things don't look like they're moving forward,
If it's foggy,
Just means there's something going on under the surface.
And maintaining that joy and happiness is what builds freedom.
And freedom of expression for yourself,
Which is just what we were talking about today.
I love that part.
That resonates so much.
Thank you so much.
I.
Love.
I've been thinking so much about happiness recently.
I've been calling that and more.
For a while I wasn't calling in happiness anymore and I was focusing on joy.
I've realized that They are different energies.
There is a discernment.
Between joy and happiness and.
For me,
Happiness are.
.
.
These brief magical moments.
Where we are just having so much fun and being ourselves and in play.
I think that the key to that is being ourselves and being in play.
And when we're happy mentally,
Right,
We're in flow.
Our thoughts.
Flow easily and effortlessly,
We don't.
Have thoughts that are flooded with negativity.
Negative self-talk.
It's thoughts that are flowing with those positive affirmations we talked about or if there's something that comes up that's challenging.
It doesn't stick around and become.
Thought loop.
It becomes something that is thanked for the wisdom.
And it's released and it's let go.
And the freedom,
What really set out for me in that card is the swallow being in flight,
Like active flight,
Wings open.
And it reminded me that we cannot expect.
Intimacy to deepen with the mental body or anybody really,
But the mental body,
Especially without putting the effort in.
Without doing something,
You've got to take action.
To do something about it.
You've got to be willing to listen.
You've got to be willing to release any resistance to hearing the truth of the matter.
The truth of your heart.
Truth of your mind.
If you don't have action,
Then you're just going to be sitting there and letting it take over and take control.
And like any relationship dynamic in life,
That's not healthy and balanced.
So,
You know,
And the patients,
Well,
That's something I'm always called.
More,
More,
More patience.
And I definitely needed that reminder.
Today,
Especially.
Um,
You know,
Be patient with yourself.
The journey is that we've been sharing a little bit about our journeys today with all of you with deepening intimacy with the mental body,
But.
That's not the whole picture and.
It didn't come from overnight success.
It came from years and years and years of effort.
And finally,
Now I know how to say yes to things and to allow things to open up.
And it doesn't mean that challenges don't happen because we're continuing to evolve and expand.
And so we're going to be coming up against different things.
How does that resonate with you,
Katie Jean?
Yeah,
I totally agree.
And remember.
That intimacy,
Intimacy.
Sorry.
We will see you next time.
Namaste.
Be well.
We love you unconditionally.
