Peace and blessings,
Everyone.
It's me,
Dr.
Sabrina,
Sister Sabrina,
Mama Sabrina,
And welcome back to Soul Speak,
Conversations for Your Healing Journey,
Where so many of you have entrusted me with the questions of your heart,
And I do my best once or twice a week to answer them from mine.
So today's question comes from M.
M.
,
And she writes,
Dear Dr.
Sabrina,
I've been working on myself for a long time.
How do I know,
Or when will I know,
That I am healed?
Oh,
Oh,
M.
M.
,
You're so sweet to ask this question,
But first I want you to know that healing,
M.
M.
,
Healing is a lifelong journey.
From the time that whatever the significant thing happened to you,
Until the last day that you were on this earth,
You will be hopefully working on yourself,
Striving to be better,
Striving to transcend the things that have happened to you that have caused you pain.
And a lot of people have a misunderstanding that the fact that healing is a lifelong journey means that you will forever be stuck,
And that's not true.
My tradition says that every time you experience an awareness,
A veil gets lifted off of you that's not coming back,
But you have a lifetime of awarenesses that need to come to you until they finally lift.
Each one of them will lift.
So if you've been working on yourself,
And have a therapist of your own,
And have a community,
And have a lifetime of laughter,
And love,
And connection,
And you're moving your body,
And you're eating right,
And you have a regular spiritual practice that includes gratitude and forgiveness and trust,
I assure you,
MM,
You are experiencing a healing.
And one of my teachers said,
How do you know that you've healed from a particular thing?
Is when you can't imagine engaging in the behaviors that did you harm.
And no one can imagine that you ever engage in those behaviors.
You see,
That's different from you can't imagine that someone did you harm.
That's not what I'm talking about.
You know that you are healing when you can't imagine doing or engaging in behaviors that harm your heart personally.
And then no one can imagine that you ever did.
So if you were engaging in smoking too much,
Or drinking too much,
Or having multiple sexual partners that you feel nothing for,
Removing yourself from the sacredness of intimacy,
If you've been harming yourself through cutting,
Through devaluing,
Through separating yourself from love,
And you recognize it,
And you shift it,
And you change it,
And you lift that veil of separation off of you,
MM,
That is healing.
And if you commit to a lifetime of healing,
I assure you,
MM,
The troubles that are going to come your way,
Because troubles are inevitable,
You will be able to move through them faster.
So I tell people,
It's more like this.
Your regressions start to look like this,
Instead of like this.
And they come along,
And you use the tools,
And you address them,
And you keep walking.
So my advice to you,
MM,
If you're doing all those things I named,
You are healing.
And you keep walking,
My friend.
And you keep reaching out.
And you keep looking in that mirror and falling in love with this unique human being that is you.
Thank you so much for your question.
I am so in awe of so many of you and what you have trusted me with.
Please,
Please send more.
In 2026,
We're going to have even more guests.
But you know what?
Whether it's five guests,
Two guests,
Or just me and you,
It's worth it.
And I appreciate you.
Peace and blessings.
